Swinging and nude beaches with single males around

[Robin1302 15]

Maybe because it is the climate we live in, here in northern Australia (i.e. tropical) but a good number of our swinging friends are naturists/nudists, as indeed we are.

 

The freedom of enjoying the outdoors sans clothing has certainly enhanced our swinging experience; we have met several couples and singles at our local (legal) free beach, sometimes engaging in activity right there at the beach or in the bush which backs our beach. Or we go home with our new friends.

 

The only problem is, like at so many nudist beaches, is the large number of men who seem to be voyeurs. They are not even nudists, but they are seen hiding behind trees clothed but with exposed genitals.

 

We have swung with guys we have met at the beach but only those who are nudists and whom we have approached. Only once have we accepted an offer from a single male who has approached us.

[ldenn2 15]

The only problem is, like at so many nudist beaches, is the large number of men who seem to be voyeurs, they are not even nudists, but they are seen hiding behind trees clothed but with exposed genitals.

 

Have you tried pointing at them and laughing out loud at them, drawing attention to them by anybody else around. I'll bet they will vacate the premises pronto.

[divenaked 325]

We hear so often, "Swingers don't make good nudists, and nudists don't make good swingers." We must be the exception, for we are avid nudists, and experienced swingers.

[SecretAsianMan 348]

Just like in any community ... there are probably "cross-overs" which indulge in swinging AND . Then there are those who indulge in what essentially amounts to "swinger-activities" - but don't refer to themselves as (*gasp*) swingers!

 

I know plenty of couples who aren't swingers who've brought back friends & indulged in "same-room sex" with their partners... others couples who regularly engage in threesomes... others who have "open marriages" where each of them has a boy-/girl-friend "on the side". Yet, if you asked them flat out - they wouldn't say they're "swingers"

 

Yes, some nudists are swingers (and some nudists are EXTREMELY offended to be associated for swingers) ... I'm one of those swingers who feels extremely comfortable in the nude and would probably live as a nudist if my home-environment were more "nude-friendly"

[Brian and Jo 344]

We are both nudists and swingers and have been for over 30 years. We have been members of nudist clubs where anything remotely sexual was frowned on. We have also been members of clubs where swinging was quite common. That is the situation at the resort in Florida where we spend the winter. A fairly high proportion of the friends we have met at this resort are sexually liberated and we often spend the day with them by the pool and later on we share their or our bed with them. It's an ideal situation for us!

[Trace Ekies 186]

We are not nudists per se...we like to be naked when we can but being naked at the house all of the time is not what we do or like.

 

We like to be naked at the beach, Desire, Caliente and even at home sometimes...but if we're laying around watching TV we prefer to be clothed...we also like to be dressed when eating...

 

We are swingers who like to be naked alot...we know MANY swingers who only like to be naked with the lights off or down very low while having sex...no recreational nudity.

 

Based on what I've read, "naturists" are about being natural and find nothing erotic about nudity..."nudists" seem to meet the same criteria. From there I find no term to describe us...how about "Swudists"?

 

We find that nudity, in both the "natural" as well as the "sexual" context, suits us well...we love the freedom of being naked outdoors and truly enjoying our "birthday" suits as well as the erotic nature of being naked with one another, friends and strangers.

 

Trace

[Cajun2Step 65]

We are both nudists and swingers and have been for over 30 years. We have been members of nudist clubs where anything remotely sexual was frowned on. We have also been members of clubs where swinging was quite common. That is the situation at the resort in Florida where we spend the winter. A fairly high proportion of the friends we have met at this resort are sexually liberated and we often spend the day with them by the pool and later on we share their or our bed with them. It's an ideal situation for us!

 

We also are nudists and swingers. We would love to find a club in South Texas for the winter where both activities were accepted.

 

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[petercooper 15]

Cajun2Step said:

We also are nudists and swingers. We would love to find a club in South Texas for the winter where both activities were accepted.

 

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you might try Live Oak resort...it is northwest of Houston...may not be south enough for you however...

[Fundamental Law 2,882]

divenaked said:

We hear so often, "Swingers don't make good nudists, and nudists don't make good swingers." We must be the exception, for we are avid nudists, and experienced swingers.

 

Perhaps it's not so much an exception as it is a partition. We prefer nude beaches and clothing optional resorts for the comfort and the freedom to totally relax. When we do LS things--house parties, theme nights on cruises, and so on--we like to 'dress up'. Nude time and LS time need not overlap unless everyone chooses. The default is to keep that time separate unless intentional--like LS friends in the hot tub.

[cplnuswing 4,712]

Our experience with this is limited to one long weekend spent at a clothing optional Lifestyle resort, so small sample size here. Since it was a Lifestyle resort, and clearly advertised as such, then that overlap decision was more or less made for you. But, having said that, I will say there seemed to be some natural separation...in the afternoon around the pool it was nudism time, at the evening socials it was a swinging time with a more sexual vibe. There were exceptions to that though, some sexual activity did take place in the afternoon around the pool, but it was limited, and was more of a playful, flirty thing. More than enough to get you kicked out of a strictly nudist venue I'm sure, but for swingers, not even enough to draw much attention really. Most people seemed to save up their swinging for when it was swingtime.

[Guest]

We went on a nude cruise and were surprised how many of the nudists were not swingers and how few swingers were actually on the cruise. Definitely two distinct groups.

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

When we were at Desire (a clothing-optional, lifestyle-friendly resort near Cancun), we enjoyed being naked most all of the time. But even at a swinger-friendly resort, we learned that there are times and places for "nudist naked" (where there is no sexual ogling, extreme flirting, or arousal), and "sexy naked" (with the possibility for all the respectful and consensual touching, kissing, groping, fondling, stroking, etc. that the parties "desire"). We learned to behave appropriately in those two kinds of naked settings, and were thus well equipped to visit an AANR- approved nudist resort last summer. It turns out hat there are plenty of SwingersBoard here, but they keep all the sexy stuff behind closed doors.

[nudeway 42]

My wife and I had our first swinging experience at a nudist resort.

[Fundamental Law 2,882]

This is a more general reflection on the dichotomy between the two alternative lifestyles, nudism and "the LS". Nudists opine that the naked state is more normal than he textiled state. Indeed, at a typical AANR endorsed resort, you'll see activities indistinguishable from those you might see at a church social or a bar-b-q fundraiser except that the participants happen to be naked. Lifestylers tend to see nudity as a penultimate state before sex. Dressing up with the intention of removing clothes purely for sex is part of the ritual.

 

This raises the question, of course, is how the two communities ever come to overlap. The most likely explanation lies in candor and values. In candid moments, just about everyone will agree that no one bathes with a bathing suit, there is no particular benefit to swimming with a swimsuit with the exception of competitions, and when the ambient temperature is more than about 72 degrees the sole purpose of textiles is protection, not comfort. In candid moments, just about everyone will agree that they like recreational sex and have fantasies that include (but need not be limtied to) voyeurism, exhibitionism, variety, etc. The nudists act on one kind of candor, the LS another, all within the context of personal and marital and family values.

 

The transitions that overlap the two probably are as varied as those making the transition. Perhaps common is the experience of seeing (by accident or more commonly by design) displays of affection by a committed couple while they are naked. (Think about how you saw your parents. ) The nudists don't like this because it "sexualizes" nudity, the lifestylers don't quite know what to do with this because it is not exactly "swinging" with someone outside the marital unit, yet both groups yearn at some level to have that loving relationship with their partner and the confidence to show it. So what precisely is your reaction going to be when you are dining (nude) with another nudist couple, sitting around having drinks after dinner and the other couple starts touching and caressing each other? Is this "unprivate private" behavior that you look away from or rather that you decide to emulate? This was the question that we confronted some years back.

[GoldCoCouple 4,064]

Not all swingers are nudist and not all nudists are swingers...but there is a small subset who are both.