Am I a cuckold?

[smithp 15]

My partner and I have been swinging for quite a while now, playing mainly with couples but also at parties, clubs and gangbangs. As time goes on I have come to realise that most of my pleasure derives from watching my partner enjoy other men, either singly or in groups. She is very vocal, responsive and multi-orgasmic, and a real joy to watch.

 

We sometimes play bareback and my greatest pleasure is the moment when a man ejaculates inside her, especially if, as often happens, she orgasms at the same time. I like her to keep his semen in her to show me as soon as possible so that I can taste their mixed juices and give her further orgasms by sucking her. I also enjoy the "different" feel of her pussy around my cock when she has been with a man (or men) already, especially when she is full of cum.

 

My partner very much enjoys this play (she gets lots of men and lots of orgasms!) but she is uncomfortable with my role as she considers it too close to cuckoldry. I am never humiliated by her or her men (we choose carefully) so, although I am doing "cuckold things" (like eating sperm from her vagina) I do not feel anything wrong with it and I don't feel submissive. Nevertheless, she says the thought of me *being* a cuckold reduces her enjoyment.

 

Am I a cuckold? Should she be worried? How can I convince her that I enjoy all the things I've mentioned but I don't feel in any way compromised by the role I enjoy so much?

 

Thanks,

 

Peter

[it'sso 198]

Being a cuckold is the ONLY way I would ever consider felling the need to taste another man's cum. You may feel free to be whatever you wish just as long as it doesn't harm another.

[Guest ENCRYPTEDTX]

Is it so dire that you live life by a label?

 

Are you happy?

 

Is she happy?

 

Do you communicate and talk about things openly? Honestly?

 

I think happiness is waaaaaaay more important than a label.

 

Kyle

[slevin 1,374]

Is it so dire that you live life by a label?

 

Are you happy?

 

Is she happy?

 

Do you communicate and talk about things openly? Honestly?

 

I think happiness is waaaaaaay more important than a label.

 

Kyle

 

I think in this case it is important to read between the lines of what she is trying to say. Is she bringing this up because she likes when her husband is dominant, or in control, and she feels like perhaps this isn't in line with that? Is she worried that it might be humiliating to him? Perhaps she finds it humiliating for him? Or she worries that he doesn't truly enjoy it?

 

I don't know her so I can't say what is on her mind, but I do think it is important to look at her perspective on this. It's not just a simple matter of whether he is ok with what they are doing. Rather she needs to find a way to be ok with it.

[lustylearning 705]

Eh, but since you're looking for a label... Wouldn't this be more of a "hot wife" thing than classic cuckoldry, since it's not wife control/humiliation based? I'm not totally up on the terminology, just going by what I've heard.

[Cajun2Step 65]

Am I a cuckold? Should she be worried? How can I convince her that I enjoy all the things I've mentioned but I don't feel in any way compromised by the role I enjoy so much?

 

Thanks,

 

Peter

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What difference does it make if you are or are not cuckold? If you enjoy your role in the situation, you must do what ever it takes to make her comfortable. Talk to her. Take a role that is of less concern to her. If the queen isn't comfortable and happy, you are headed for problems in the future.

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Welcome to the Swingers Board, Peter

 

 

Are you a cuckold?

 

Nope, I think you just enjoy getting off, on everyone else getting off around you. Especially, your partner I can get caught up in the same as well.

 

I would be concerned about your wifes concerns though. They're valid, if some of the men/women belittle you, and your not catching the vibe.

 

Ask your wife what she perceives others think of you. Be prepared for the worst and hope for the best, but listen closely to what she says.

 

fun4ds

[Trace Ekies 186]

It seems to me that to be a cuck would require that you do as you are told...like it or not...

 

As LustyLearning said, these are hotwife activities.

 

I have trouble getting Mrs. Ekies to quit worrying about me in a MFM, MMFM and related scenarios...she's concerned that I'm being left out or feel like I should give her space to play...

 

It took some time for her to come to terms with the fact that I like to watch...and then join. It gives me pleasure to see her pleasured and I like to give her space to be the slut that she really wants to be.

 

After about 6 months she got over it and has really cut loose a couple of times...much to my pleasure...

 

You're back to the old "communication" line...talk will cull out the facts so that you both are comfortable and get what you're after.

 

Trace

 

PS...We'd love to see her in action...hehe.

[smithp 15]

Thanks, all of you, for your contributions!

 

I feel more assured that these are more hotwife activities than cuckold. As I said, I am not humiliated and I don't feel that I am controlled by my partner or the other men.

 

She does enjoy me eating her cum-filled pussy and often has strong orgasms as a result. She still does not understand why it is attractive to me to taste her and her man's sperm - the trouble is, I don't really know fully myself! It's not a submission thing, it's just the joy of seeing, smelling and tasting the results of the sexual activities that gave her such pleasure, feeling so proud that I have a partner who can give herself up to the enjoyment for both of us that can come from sex with another man, and gratitude for allowing me to be part of that.

 

The only remaining concern is the "label" - her fear that these activities *might* be thought of as cuckoldry, and that some of the men might have a low opinion or or contempt for me. Strangely, she did not worry about what the men thought about me when I took her for an 11 man gangbang and watched her being fucked 30 or 40 times in 3 hours! Maybe the fear will fade in time. Guess we have to wait and see.

 

Thanks again.

 

Peter

[ClosetSwinger 112]

I also wouldnt call this cuck...more like "hot wife".

 

Labels suck and I don't think anyone should pigeon hole themselves. I was hung up for a while on if I was straight, bi, bi curious or whatever. I like boobs, I like kissing girls but I can totally do without that part......so I don't know what you call that. I don't care at this point....I just like what I like!

[SecretAsianMan 348]

I've always interpreted the "cuckold" husband as one who is doing this out of a need to be humiliated or "put in his place" by the wife... not in the open-sharing of his wife with others.

 

For example, if she were doing this while degrading you or your own performance (i.e., "Look at how sad & pathetic my husband is - just sitting there while this other guy fucks me... he doesn't deserve more than that & it's his role to eat your cum out of my pussy") ... THAT is what I feel is a classic-cuckold-role

 

Yes... you're on similar terrain -- but as long as you (and your wife) don't see it that way, I think y'all shouldn't worry about what anyone else may see or try to label y'all. (And I'm pretty sure that if a "bull" were to come along and try to disrespect you while doing your wife - he probably wouldn't be there for long, right?)

[richdon03 31]

It's not a submission thing, it's just the joy of seeing, smelling and tasting the results of the sexual activities that gave her such pleasure, feeling so proud that I have a partner who can give herself up to the enjoyment for both of us that can come from sex with another man, and gratitude for allowing me to be part of that.

 

I wouldn't get caught up on labels, either. I totally get that sentiment. Just work with her so that she wraps her head around it. This is not submission. This is guts.

[appliancesex 66]

I don't think its fair to tell the op that he is worried too much about labelling. He is reacting on his wife's interpretation of the situation. Personally it seems as though she has issues with the submissive aspect of eating out a freshly cummed pussy.

 

I agree with slevin here in that it is important to read between the lines:

 

I think in this case it is important to read between the lines of what she is trying to say. Is she bringing this up because she likes when her husband is dominant, or in control, and she feels like perhaps this isn't in line with that? Is she worried that it might be humiliating to him? Perhaps she finds it humiliating for him? Or she worries that he doesn't truly enjoy it

 

In my opinion I would have a frank conversation with her about her feelings about gay sex. Not that you are even remotely even bisexual! I'm not saying that. It's just that you're interests in eating her out directly after or fucking her after she is worn out could be construed as acts of homosexual behavior. Plenty of people worry that bisexuality coincides with sub behavior. Your interest in this seems totally heteroflexible but I can see where she might have some issues with it.

 

Like fun4 says, be prepared for honesty, but that's the best way to figure out where to go from here.

[Pleasure King 16]

My partner and I have been swinging for quite a while now, playing mainly with couples but also at parties, clubs and gangbangs. As time goes on I have come to realise that most of my pleasure derives from watching my partner enjoy other men, either singly or in groups. She is very vocal, responsive and multi-orgasmic, and a real joy to watch.

 

We sometimes play bareback and my greatest pleasure is the moment when a man ejaculates inside her, especially if, as often happens, she orgasms at the same time. I like her to keep his semen in her to show me as soon as possible so that I can taste their mixed juices and give her further orgasms by sucking her. I also enjoy the "different" feel of her pussy around my cock when she has been with a man (or men) already, especially when she is full of cum.

 

My partner very much enjoys this play (she gets lots of men and lots of orgasms!) but she is uncomfortable with my role as she considers it too close to cuckoldry. I am never humiliated by her or her men (we choose carefully) so, although I am doing "cuckold things" (like eating sperm from her vagina) I do not feel anything wrong with it and I don't feel submissive. Nevertheless, she says the thought of me *being* a cuckold reduces her enjoyment.

 

Am I a cuckold? Should she be worried? How can I convince her that I enjoy all the things I've mentioned but I don't feel in any way compromised by the role I enjoy so much?

 

Thanks,

 

Peter

 

No you're doing what many men do in clubs and at parties; watching other men with your woman. Even if you only watch and never join in there's a tremendous bonding experience that goes on during that time. My girlfriend loves it when I'm talking to her and looking in her eyes when a guy is fucking her. It feels like he and I are both inside her.

[realcplub2 513]

Thanks, all of you, for your contributions!

 

I feel more assured that these are more hotwife activities than cuckold. As I said, I am not humiliated and I don't feel that I am controlled by my partner or the other men.

 

She does enjoy me eating her cum-filled pussy and often has strong orgasms as a result. She still does not understand why it is attractive to me to taste her and her man's sperm - the trouble is, I don't really know fully myself! It's not a submission thing, it's just the joy of seeing, smelling and tasting the results of the sexual activities that gave her such pleasure, feeling so proud that I have a partner who can give herself up to the enjoyment for both of us that can come from sex with another man, and gratitude for allowing me to be part of that.

 

The only remaining concern is the "label" - her fear that these activities *might* be thought of as cuckoldry, and that some of the men might have a low opinion or or contempt for me. Strangely, she did not worry about what the men thought about me when I took her for an 11 man gangbang and watched her being fucked 30 or 40 times in 3 hours! Maybe the fear will fade in time. Guess we have to wait and see.

 

Thanks again.

 

Peter

 

Peter, since you are searching for a term to define the activities..

 

Look up Creampie rather than cuckold

 

More importantly, its time to have a frank conversation with your lovely, about the pleasures you enjoy.. There is nothing wrong with it, so long as you both are enjoying what you are doing. As far as those you choose to participate in your pleasures, again, if they have any thoughts about what you are doing and worry about the definitions, then they really need to thank you and move along..

 

Best of luck to you both..

[starryeyes 23]

Communication... it's not just a word, it's a must as far as we are concerned. I am a wife and consider myself to be hot, ergo I am a Hotwife!!

 

I believe if it makes you both happy and it's not hurting anyone... go for it!!

[willyoats 324]

Interesting comment from Smithp that reads, in part, "...gratitude for allowing me to be part of that." IF (and that is uncertain in this context) the wife is getting her main source of contentment and satisfaction in her sexual relationships from her husband even though she is screwing a lot of other guys, the partnership is working as it should. I wonder why she is worrying about how she thinks her husband MIGHT BE feeling when it seems pretty clear that he is not feeling cuckolded.

 

It reminds me a bit of how I feel many times when I enter my wife for the n-thousandth time: No matter how many other guys she screws, I am the one she prefers. That makes me feel privileged and really warm. If smithp's wife really prefers him to all others, that's the key to a good relationship. She may never know what drives him to eat other guys' cum. So what? I also like to go into my wife after one or two other guys have cum in her. Who cares why? So what?

[Hellsgate 15]

I'd love to be in your situation.

 

But my fantasies are broadly different from everyone else here as my fantasy involves pregnancy-risk and lactation/breast-play, too. So again, as everyone else said, enjoy as long as it does harm to none.

[asncpl 729]

We enjoy the same type of play and Mr. A likes to get off the same way you do, but what's in a label, really? We do have cuckold roleplay, but my feeling is if everyone gets off and have a good time, then it's not a problem. I do understand why your wife may be concerned, and I think it's important to talk to her. I don't think you are a cuckold because there is no humiliation involved, for whatever it's worth.

[naughtyus74 16]

Even if that defines you as a cuckold, so what. If it is what you like then the term "cuckold" is really irrelevant. Isn't it? As long as you are being safe you have nothing to worry about. Just enjoy yourselves.

[wfsl48 15]

Cuckolding has the implication of husband humiliation of some type, usually attacks on his "manliness" and possibly some type of sissification.

 

Just enjoying licking your wife after she's been fucked is more hotwifing than cuckolding.

 

I would even say that husband humiliation in some role-playing game such as a "robbery" where the wife is fucked by one of the players when the hubby is powerless wouldn't be considered classic cuckolding because it's not directed at his machismo, but rather just a situation where he's temporarily helpless.

 

Self described cuckolds generally are in situations where the wife, the lover, or both are making verbal attacks of some type on the hubby's manhood in a general sense, whether for "real" or in games.

[cb1982 15]

Hi all,

 

I think I can provide some perspective as one of the studs a hotwife would be having sex with, while the husband laps up the juices. I've been sexually involved with a couple for nearly 11 months now.

 

We are doing pretty much the exact thing that has been described. The husband likes for me to come over and fuck his wife bareback and dump my load in her pussy. Often he will eat her out afterwards. I have spoke to him about this and he says that he enjoys seeing his wife fucked and loves the taste of her pussy after she has had sex, not necessarily the taste of another man's cum.

 

Sometimes, him and his wife will be in 69 position and I will come up behind the wife and have sex with her while he is underneath licking her clit. He likes view and the taste of her juices dripping into his mouth while she is having sex. Many times, I have slipped out of pussy and into his mouth (obviously accidental). I do not consider him a cuckold. I consider him very in tune with what he wants sexually and what he enjoys.

 

From a superficial level, this appears like cuckolding, but if you dig deeper it is not. I think it is important to make that clear to the partners and your wife.