How to ask my doctor for STD testing?
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By TricianMike
Michael and I continue to see a therapist both together and separately. Over the years we have both become more open to telling her what experiences and feelings we have with others and the reasons we enjoy others. I will never know what he tells her in his private sessions though I am very open in our joint meetings.
We have told her that we post some of our experiences on a swingers site, it’s more me posting, Michael doesn’t post anymore. She asked if I embellish my posts because many post on sites about fantasies more than realities. I think I post real feelings as best as I can but I know what she means that posting has an excitement factor like reliving an event. Others will post something they wished they did almost as if they did it.
Michael and I were very hesitant to open up to our therapist our alternative lifestyle thoughts when we first met her. I opened up first in my private meetings and then only in a broad way with no specific acts. I didn’t think she would understand what we were doing or how she would judge me. Therapy was to take away my odd feelings which ended up adding to my thinking my actions were odd. Once getting over my fears of opening up my deep thoughts it has freed up anxiety of enjoying.
I think I have a healthier outlook now that I have freed myself of worrying what others think and what a therapist thinks. Our joint sessions are now very freeing allowing me to express my feelings to Michael and understanding his feelings.
How open are others? Do others discuss true feelings to a partner? Are you honest to a therapist?
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By udsarge
So I've came across this on TIKTOK, and thought I'd ask in a broader way. Do you have a contingency plan for your adult toys (and I'm adding pictures, correspondences, and other documentary evidence) if you happen to pass away? What will happen to that kind of stuff when you go? Have you even thought about it, or would it even matter to you?
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By Trojan Defense
How would you feel about an online std risk assessment that quantifies sexual risk as the means of better managing it? My idea is for such an assessment that does so by summarizing results in terms of what I call an "x-factor" metric, which is the absolute maximum number of sex partners you may have, under a given set of conditions, before it is statistically inevitable that you have become infected.
So let's say the risk of you becoming infected is 1%, under a given set of conditions, and you have already had sex with 10 people under said conditions, then your "x-factor" would be 90. That is, the absolute maximum number of partners you could have based on the choices you have made, and continue to make, would be 90 before becoming infected would be statistically inevitable.
Using this "x-factor" metric you could more clearly see how certain choices impact your ability to swing safely, making trade-offs where needed as part of a safer sex strategy. Perhaps you don't care to use condoms, which would increase risk, but are willing to abstain from anal sex, which would decrease risk, or maybe you aren't willing to abstain from anal sex, but you insist all partners are tested first. Whatever the case is, you could then see how making one set of choices over another set affects your overall risk, thereby making yourself more able to effectively negotiate safer sex by knowing what is, and is not an acceptable risk, and why.
So back to my original question: How do you feel about online std risk assessments in general, and how do you feel about the idea for this one in particular? Would you use it?
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By foozballnow
Hi everyone. I have been reading the posts on here for some time. Lately I have seen a few people post about being "second man in" and "creampie" and such and I know that there are people with very strong views on STD's. I was curious about the numbers when I read an article about syphilis on Yahoo. These are the numbers I came up with. I must say it makes me think they do make it seem worse than it is. These statistics are from the CDC's website under the facts section if you wish to disagree with me. We use condoms but I was just amazed at the numbers here.
PID 1,000,000
Trichomoniasis 7,500,000
Syphilis 36,935
Chlamydia 1,100,000
Gonorrhea 358,366
Herpes 50,000,000
HIV/AIDS 1,300,000
Now the CDC does not differentiate between the types of Herpes virus so it is unclear if it is necessarily genital or not, as it can manifest in either form.
total infections 61,295,301
US population 304,000,000
This makes the infection rate of some form of STD in the US to 20%. Though if you really look at it, since all herpes infections are not necessarily genital herpes, if you take that out of the equation that brings total infections to 3.7%.
3% really does not seem like that much when you think about it. At least to me it doesn't. I'm not advocating anyone stop wearing condoms, I just thought numbers were a lot higher.
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