Swinger traits (good and bad) to watch for?
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By JustAskJulie
People sharing what questions they ask about potential playmates and sexual history has led to some very interesting thoughts and discussions. The one I found most interesting was the idea of "wild" people are not safe. Which of course led to the discussion of what constitutes being "wild". How many partners does it take for you to decide ok this person just has had too many partners for me to feel safe with them.
Are there other issues that constitute wild? At what point do you feel that you just can't trust your sexual health in the "hands" of this person or people?
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By HanAndLeia
A couple very close to us has contacted us via SLS. They probably live within 4 miles of us.
The man describes himself as a Cuckold and he wants me or me+Leia to come fuck his wife while he watches.
Is this safe? A few things come to mind
1. What if I can't perform with some perv staring at me while I'm working.
2. What if he's a weirdo and tries to axe-murder us.
#2 only exists because he's being very pushy. Here's a sample chat
Him: when can you come over, wife needs to fuck tonight
Me: we would want to meet for coffee first and see if we even click, then maybe setup a playdate. Why don't you send some face pics so we can see you?
Him: /sent pics
Me: /sent pics
Me: wow your wife is quite beautiful, I'll make sure to show to my wife when she gets home tonight, and if she's interested we'll email you for a good time to have a meet over coffee
Him: Where is your wife tonight?
Me: Why do you want to know where my wife is?
Him: When will she get home?
Me: (internally I'm kind of not liking his pushiness now and why he's prying so much into our personal lives)
Me: She'll get home when she gets home, why do you want to know?
Him: I just want to know if she agrees and likes my wife so she'll let you out
Me: Look, we won't be able to swing anytime soon, we need to meet in person first and see if we even like each other
Him: So what time will your wife be getting home?
So I'm honored and excited he wants me or me+leia to fuck his wife, but god damn why is he so impatient and pushy?
So that's why I have fear #2, he seems a little insane.
Thoughts?
Should Leia and I feed this guy? sounds like an easy lay, and his wife is gorgeous, (in pics at least).
Should I fear for our lives? We're complete strangers to each other, and he's acting a bit odd.
Thanks.
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By yawanna
What are warning signs for y'all that a swinger couple you've met or are talking to online might be unstable?
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By JustMrJ
So, my wife and I had our first meet and greet with couple set for this evening at a restaurant.
We will most likely be politely declining 'their' company in the future. But before that decision is 'final', I'd like to relay our story and question...
The first thing that struck me as odd, was that the guy showed up and when we asked about his wife/gf, he said she flew out to Beijing today or yesterday.
Would have been nice for him to have inform us of that BEFORE we had set the 'date' or even when I had called earlier in the day to let him know the reservations were set and would we be seeing them tonight. ('Yes' was the answer.)
Second this was originally, at most, a heavy petting date. Conversation was our main focus. It almost went beyond that... here's the way it went down.
We kind of clicked with him at first and my wife and I were feeling very comfortable with David during dinner. He was VERY focused on sex and the lifestyle, clubs, parties, etc. Not really surprising considering the reason for the meeting in the first place.
As the evening wore on he was flirting and generally playing and caressing my wife, which didn't bother me in the least. I was enjoying her getting excited by another man.
Later he suggested we go to our place to get to the heavy petting part if we were all willing. We made it clear that there was to be no intercourse by him. Might not even be any by me as I wasn't quite ready to 'perform' in front of others.
As we all began having fun, he seemed to want things a certain way and seemed less and less about pleasing my wife and doing just what she wanted. When it was about at it's hottest, he looked like he was getting ready to bareback my wife while I was working the top areas. I noticed and said 'we don't play there tonight' and he stopped saying he wouldn't and went back to licking and petting. (We purposely didn't bring condoms as my wife and I had agreed to this 'limit' earlier.)
More and more it became about what he wanted and soon we had to slow it down and wind down for the evening.
As I was cleaning up and taking care of nature, my wife tells me that she had asked about "Pat" his wife/gf and would we be meeting her next time. She had asked him this as she felt it was a bit unfair to me for it to be just him and me with her. He danced around it and mentioned coming back over himself, but not anything about "Pat".
I have a two seater and we had left it at the restaurant. When he was driving me back to my car, I (not knowing my wife asked) mentioned it would have been more comfortable for me and my wife if I had a playmate too as I didn't want the two of us guys on my wife all the time. He kind of avoided a direct answer about bringing "Pat" or another of his 'swinging partners', but did talk about bringing condoms 'next time' and me going first, then him on my wife.
Generally, as I thought more about it, I got the feeling he was a single male just looking to 'work' on some newbies. Maybe I'm wrong.
So I pose the question to all of you... have we been "had"?
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By Twilighttap
We’re lifetime members on SLS, find its a good place to find parties, clubs, social events. Meeting people? Hit or miss. A red flag for us is single guys immediately asking to see our private photo albums which says pushy photo collector (plus they ignore our lack of interest in singles guys). With that occurring all the time, it creates another red flag for us which is ‘couples’ either saying they want to see our albums or without any real conversation, opening one of their albums and then demanding we open ours tit for tat (and thats without knowing the content of ours). Anybody else see this as an issue?
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