Why swingers are such great people

[Chicup 41]

Swingers are very open minded and accepting, until you are doing something they don't approve of or like in which case they are no longer very open minded and spark long rants about them not being open minded and accepting on this forum.

[PB&J 1,086]

Swingers are very open minded and accepting, until you are doing something they don't approve of or like in which case they are no longer very open minded and spark long rants about them not being open minded and accepting on this forum.

 

Agreed. I've been flamed on another forum site because the way I swing is not quite the same as the way the majority of people on that site swing. In other words, they were swinging, I was a slut. While we have many wonderful swinging friends who ARE open-minded and accepting, and this site has many who are as well, there are lots and lots of swingers out there who have a very limited definition of what swinging is and don't hesitate to measure others by it.

[realcplub2 513]

We welcome people to be open about themselves, and in most cases, everyone in this lifestyle is accepting, except, when it comes to religon and politics.. But then thats the case in most cases anyway..

 

PB&J

 

LABELS are for CLOTHING AND MEDICINE and since this is a SEX oriented site, Who cares what you are wearing just get it OFF! ANd unless its VIAGRA, CIALIS, LAVETRA.. follow the dosing instructions.. and TELL EM MOVE ON..

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Swingers are very open minded and accepting, until you are doing something they don't approve of or like ..............

Yes....

 

................there are lots and lots of swingers out there who have a very limited definition of what swinging is and don't hesitate to measure others by it.

...and yes again.

 

We thought all swingers were super open-minded and accepting when we started. But, as the layers were pulled back, and conversations were extended into other areas, it became apparent that this wasn't true, at all.

 

It's been said that swingers look just like a PTA meeting. That's true also for for the way they act, IMHO.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Agreed. I've been flamed on another forum site because the way I swing is not quite the same as the way the majority of people on that site swing. In other words, they were swinging, I was a slut.

 

Sounds like a label applied by the jealous and the insecure at heart!

[bi4me2 93]

(him)

 

Don't know, we have met just as many jerks 'in the lifestyle' as we have in real life, especially men (including the male half of a few couples)

 

But when we do meet nice ones I will agree, they are open and honest and it adds a lot to the mix.

[Alura 2,774]

I like people who are different from mainstream society. Swingers and people in the pits at race tracks are. What groups of people can you add?

 

Alura

[two4youinswva 3,068]

I like people who are different from mainstream society.

Us too. They can be interesting on several levels.

Swingers and people in the pits at race tracks are. What groups of people can you add?

 

-Horse Owners. Can't put my finger on it, but they are just a little different from the mainstream.

-Our gay friends (most of them anyway). Not for the obvious difference. They just tend to have a different gear of "cool" that we enjoy being around.

 

I would say 15 or 20 years ago, I would have added Motorcycle Owners to the list. I don't think that fits anymore. Sorry gang, you've been mainstreamed in the last few years. "Mobile gentrification" as it were.

 

Good post Alura! I think it would make a great thread in its own right.

[Alura 2,774]

Thanks, Two4youinswva!

 

I have to agree totally with you on horse owners and motorcyclists. It's true that bikers have changed in recent years. With masses of Doctors, Lawyers, Merchants and Chiefs riding Harleys, the cross-section of the people in the sport has changed.

 

Not only do cowboys and cowgirls have a different outlook on life, they tend to be physically attractive. One seldom sees an overweight horseman or woman, especially among bronc busters and barrel racers.

 

Alura

[thosetwo76 15]

I really like this thread! Although I agree, we have met some swingers who are judgmental (which is hilarious to us!) and think everyone should swing the same way they do, we have also met a few really great people who think outside the box.

 

As for groups of people we like (the horse owners, bike riders, etc.) I guess I don't really make any assumptions based on what people like to do or look like. I really want to jump up and down and clap my hands when I meet someone who shocks my socks off by being a truly free thinker, non judgemental type person who truly desires to get to know people and learn new points of view.

 

Having said that, I just described myself pretty closely...lol. We seriously look like the average couple with three kids, two dogs and a house. We do all the "normal" family/kid/school stuff, but obviously we are swingers and we really just don't think of things in the same way others do. We are always, as we like to say, just a little off center. I truly enjoy meeting people who are not necessarily just like us, but who lean towards the odd, and feel free to live the life that makes them happy ( no matter what that is, unless it's illegal), and encourage others to do the same.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Regardless of the level of "open-mindedness" I find that swingers in general are just easier to be around (for me) because I don't have to watch what I say and I can be honest about who I am and what I do. I have to watch so much with most people I encounter, it's nice to just be me.

[VegasLee 1,486]

Chicup, Julie and a couple other posts are pretty much dead on here.

 

Swingers are easier to be around if you are a swinger. Like minded, not open minded is the truth of the matter.

Bring up politics, religion or gay people around swingers and you will see the same colors come out as you will see with anyone else.

They gossip and talk behind each others backs just like anyone else.

 

Swingers are people, just like anyone else. We just choose to live a different lifestyle or in some cases have a different hobby.

 

As Swingers we are no better or worse than anyone else in this world.

 

If you were into killing kittens you would find that those that did the same thing would be a lot easier to hang out with also.

 

Keep your eyes open. Don't try to paint a rosy picture just because you hang out with like minded people.

 

As others have pointed out, you can be pegged as not even "Swinging" right if you don't hang with the right group of "like minded Swingers."

[SwingerGirl 132]

Chicup, Julie and a couple other posts are pretty much dead on here.

 

Swingers are easier to be around if you are a swinger. Like minded, not open minded is the truth of the matter.

Bring up politics, religion or gay people around swingers and you will see the same colors come out as you will see with anyone else.

They gossip and talk behind each others backs just like anyone else.

 

Swingers are people, just like anyone else. We just choose to live a different lifestyle or in some cases have a different hobby.

 

As Swingers we are no better or worse than anyone else in this world.

 

If you were into killing kittens you would find that those that did the same thing would be a lot easier to hang out with also.

 

Keep your eyes open. Don't try to paint a rosy picture just because you hang out with like minded people.

 

As others have pointed out, you can be pegged as not even "Swinging" right if you don't hang with the right group of "like minded Swingers."

 

^This. When I was first thinking about swinging I had the same misconception that people who were involved in such an "alt lifestyle" would be non-judgmental in all aspects of life. However, this is not the case. Some swingers are racist, some are homophobic, some hate on singles, some hate on people that are more or less of a swinger than they are.... swinger are just normal people. There is nothing different about us than anyone else.

 

For example, I will shame myself a bit. Compared to some people have a very "weird" sex life, yet when I see documentaries on TV about "weird sex" I am just as judgmental as anyone else. Seeing someone dress like a baby to get their rocks off? Yeah, I think -freak-. I'm not proud of this, and I try every day to learn and accept more and more the things I don't understand.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Swingers, more than any other category of friends, are eager to introduce you to their own friends. They are category of friends who are ready and willing to share.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

It's the sharing without jealousy part of a person's personality. Swinger type people are more sociable and accepting compared to possessive, insecure people.

[cplnuswing 4,713]

I like people who are different from mainstream society.

 

Yeah, us too, for the reasons other have listed above. I'll be honest enough to admit there's a limit there though Maybe that's really the answer: it's not that swingers are these totally enlightened nonjudgmental people on any subject under the sun, it's that their limits taken as a whole are just wider, maybe just a little, maybe a lot compared to where most nonswingers are at. Of course, that's adjusted for the sex and monogamy category since otherwise the data would be pretty skewed from the start

[Shore2Please 612]

I don’t know if all swingers are great. There are good and bad in any group. Even in the small circle of people we have been with there are those I would never be with. The husband is less likely to walk away.