For Bareback-Only Couples/Males/Females

[AussieMinister 19]

This is a thread for bareback-only couples/males/females

 

I don't mean those who differentiate between long-terms FB's and casual partners. I'm talking here about people who NEVER use condoms, whether with a FB, stranger or a gang-bang.

 

Questions:

 

 

1/ How long have you been bareback-only?

2/ How did you come to this decision?

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged)

4/ Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)

5/ Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners?

6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues.

 

 

I will answer my own questions fullly later, however, but just to start the topic off, Sarah and I have been in the swingers lifestyle for the past 14 years and Sarah's been 100% bareback-only the entire time. No condoms for us!

 

 

NOTE: There is to be no judgemental moralising on this thread. I respect other's decisions to use condoms and your should respect my wife and I's decision not to do so.

[jessicat78 23]

No replies yet... LOL, we will be the brave ones...

 

1/ How long have you been bareback-only?

We both have been 90% bareback only for as long as we can remember. The reason for 90% is mainly for me (Lance) as I have not had a vasectomy yet, so must use condoms with women who are not fixed or not on birth control.

 

2/ How did you come to this decision?

It comes naturally (no pun intended).

 

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged)

Sex is incomplete without a sensual liquid exchange. It feels better mentally and physically.

 

4/ Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)

Nearly every couple or single we swing with have been open and inviting to bareback!

 

5/ Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners?

Not at all!

 

6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues.

Yes, we have been to many parties that are orgy style and bareback only! FUN!

 

:-) Lance & Jess

[Alura 2,774]

We were always bareback. Laura was on birth control pills. They'd proven extremely reliable. We only played with five couples, one at a time. They all had successful, long term marriages. One of our playcouples had both never had sex with anyone except each other. Not much chance of AIDS there, and we started "spouse swapping" before AIDS reared it's ugly head. The worst disease one could get in the early 80s in Oklahoma, was easily cured with one shot of penicillin.

 

Bareback extends a lot of fun possibilities that don't exist when condoms are used, I would think. It's pretty erotic to come deep in a woman's pussy, then slide, still semi-hard into your wife, who's hot pussy has just been similarly filled.

 

It's good to know the people with whom one has this kind of fun, pretty well...

 

Alura

[mde 4764 15]

When I was part of a couple, we always went bareback. We felt the risk are blown out of proportion and condoms certainly kill the pleasure.

[Lascivious L&L 866]

We are bareback only also. The reason is both physical and psychological. There is no comparing the sensation of bareback to wearing a condom. If you only have sex with your wife or life partner using condoms, then it would be more understandable to swing using condoms. But if you take a delicious, keen pleasure out of swinging, why swing? We simply wouldn't swing if it meant reducing the quality of sex.

 

Of course it means we are very picky in our partners and don't play all that much. For us it has never been a variety thing as much as a goal of wonderful sex. There is much two can't experience in sex that three or four can. Even in pure touch, four hand massage is something that two hand massage simply can't be. Two and three partner sex is a whole universe that one partner sex never gets to experience.

 

We haven't met much resistance to bareback sex because we make it clear that's our style. Some couples have turned us down in the email stage because of it.

[AussieMinister 19]

TO ANSWER MY OWN QUESTIONS

 

 

 

1/ How long have you been bareback-only? We have been married 14 years and my wife and I have been swingers the entire time. During that 14 years, we have been 100% bareback-only

 

2/ How did you come to this decision? Was a mutual decision by both of us, although Sarah was particularly insistent

 

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you (and your wife, etc) physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged?)?For us it is both physical and psychological.

 

4/ Do you find many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)We certainly find a much higher number of swinger couples are bareback-only that will openly admit it.

 

We have been to parties and venues where condoms are provided, but have on some occassions observed not a single one being used.

 

5/ Has it ever seriously limited the number of potential partners? No, in fact it has in our opinion increased interest in us.

 

 

6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues.Yes, we know of and have attended several bareback-only events/venues here in Australia.

 

We also are involved in organising regular bareback-only parties in Sydney, at a friend's house (they are also involved in the lifestyle). Condoms are not part of the acceptable 'dress code' at these events.

[willyoats 324]

I have been bareback only all of my life. I don't seem to be able to use them. They kill the pleasure and the erection. No woman in more than 20 years of swinging has ever asked me to use one.

 

My wife preferred condoms most of the time, but did bareback with men that we knew quite well.

 

The only time I remember condom use being a problem was the time that a particularly attractive woman and I agreed to find a room, but she would not go with me unless her husband could go with my wife. (She got lots of invitations; he did not, and she was "protecting" his ego.) My wife was also eager to go with the husband, but she insisted on a condom because she did not know him very well. He could not use one. They killed his erections, as condoms did for me, also. That killed it for all of us.

 

If she had not been so beautiful, I wouldn't have cared much. But I also knew that my wife's needs came first.

[bbarnsworth 2,637]

They killed his erections, as condoms did for me, also.

 

This isn't isolated. I've seen a number of men in the lifestyle who had difficulties maintaining an erection while wearing a condom.

[NealnAnji 30]

Even though we have not been strictly bareback only, we can see and particularly feel the difference between sex with your swing partner with, and, without a condom. There is no comparison between intercourse with your penis covered with a condom and intercourse without the condom interfering with the pleasure that bareback sex is capable of bringing. It is the feel of the female's vagina the warmth and moisture that the man's prnis gets to experience that makes bareback sexual intercourse so much more pleasurable.

[Guest bbc4barebackinm]

1-How long have you been bareback-only? I would say 70% of the time since I broke my virginity. I was in a LTR and we went bare for the length of the relationship

2- How did you come to this decision? Naturally, the difference in sensation is definitely like night and day. There is also something special about feeling her wetness on me.

3- Is the attraction of bareback to you physical: I would say for me it is both, like I said the feeling of her wetness on me

4- Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? Yes

5- Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners? I would like to think that I am a gentleman, if the lady says that I wear a condom then I will willing oblige her.

6- For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues. Yes, but everyone had to show some papers to prove. But for those that were still not comfortable condoms were available.

Personally, I love sex the natural way but I would also love my partner(s) to be comfortable and if it is condoms they request then its only fair for me to slip one on.

[JDApopka 54]

Ok I'll take a stab at this.

well our 1st mfm was in the early to mid 80's and it was with a friend and we never considered a condom because we knew he had only been with 2 girls and my wife had only been with me and at this pont we had been married about 8 years. On top of seeing her with another man I also had the desire to see what it would feel like after they had sex.

We have never been to a swingers club or event we have only done mfm 3 sums.

It does hamper finding playmates but we have been very fortunant to have made some good friends for regular encounters.

Right now e have a very nice single black friend that we try to have over at least once a month

[highlander 21]

This isn't isolated. I've seen a number of men in the lifestyle who had difficulties maintaining an erection while wearing a condom.

 

This is a very real issue with the old-fashioned male condoms. One work around are female condoms-but those are less available and a big more tricky to use.

 

Personally if I rate bareback a 10, and a male condom a 1, I rate a female condom a 7.

[swmnkdinthervr 52]

We have been with only a few exceptions bareback only, we don't seek out playmates that are strictly condoms only but have found ourselves in a scenario that required condoms and while that's not our preference we have complied. We are very careful about who we chose to meet/play with and prefer long term association/friendship over a one night stand.

 

1/ How long have you been bareback-only? We both have always been bareback even before exploring the lifestyle, both have been married before but she had her ex as her only previous lover, he had 2 other marriages and several lovers.

 

2/ How did you come to this decision? It was less a conscious decision than it was just a natural conclusion that we seemed to come to without discussion, we have since discussed this aspect and agree that we prefer bareback.

 

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged) To some degree "all of the above" fits. There is no sensation to compare with skin on skin and anything less is so much less satisfying, he does occasionally have trouble with a wilting erection largely due to the knowledge that the sensation will be hugely reduced and we simply like cum!!!

 

4/ Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)It has been our experience that almost all the contacts we've made are with people that prefer bareback and agree that the number is likely higher than admit it due in some part at least to a fear of not being accepted and even being ridiculed/shunned by their peers.

 

5/ Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners? To date we have had no more trouble finding bareback partners than we have finding any partner considering the number of fakes/posers and those not really serious about meeting.

 

6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues. We no longer attend clubs, the cliquish atmosphere and sometimes alcohol fueled "free for all" sexual approach don't fit our idea of intimate, sensual encounters. We have never been to a condom only/bareback only event, it has always been participants choice where we've attended.

[Wildthingplus 47]

Wife's perspective.

 

1. 10 Years.

2. I am allergic to Latex and do not enjoy condoms.

3. Physical, condoms do not feel good to me. The guys seem to really enjoy cumming inside. I don’t want cum anywhere else.

4. Probably 50/50

5. I check the guys carefully before letting them in. Usually the guys are ok. I have had as many as 20 guys in one night.

6. My husband and I always swing at clubs. We have been to gangbang events but not bareback only.

[dr_pepper 25]

I am glad to see the positive response here. I have never liked condoms and only used one once at my partners request. That is the only time the subject even came up. I love the feelings and intimate exchange that goes with it.

[o_fanzaco 15]

1/ How long have you been bareback-only?

Me and my girlfriend only had a few experiences (MFF) a year ago and it goes bareback . It was fantastic feel 2 pussies bareback on my cock.

2/ How did you come to this decision? We both feel uncomfortable using condom and we decided go bareback.

3/ Is the attraction of bareback to you physical (ie sensation) or psychological (ie do you view swinging as incomplete unless cum is exchanged)

Only physical. Latex is very uncomfortable.

4/ Do you find many that many swingers couples are bareback-only? (We find the real number is much higher than those who will openly admit it)

We dont have experienced couples yet. But we would like to do. And it must be bareback. Any candidate couple?

5/ Has it ever seriously limited your number of potential partners? No

6/ For those who go to swingers parties/clubs (as Sarah and I do), have you ever been to any which are specifically bareback-only events/venues. We dont attend clubs.

[petty43 15]

When I was part of a couple, we always went bareback. We felt the risk are blown out of proportion and condoms certainly kill the pleasure.

 

yes i agree to that condoms kill the pleasure and we like the feel its better without a condom on then with a condom on

[o_fanzaco 15]

Me and my girlfriend would like to make contact with bareback couples like us.

[grybear 16]

I never did bareback 'till I had my visectomy at age 35 - from then on it has been bareback - mostly because I know I am clean and I a have ask quite up front if it would be safe if I did not use a condom - only twice in 30 yrs has a lady sugested I use one.

[Learning 160]

From a sociological perspective and for my own curiosity...what's the age range in this response? Aussie, I don't want to disrespect the thread but I've been wondering this for ages. My undergrad minor was human sexology...so I'm curious. You don't have to answer but I've been dying to ask.

[Talis 15]

I've had a vasectomy so I'm not worried about the baby part. The feeling is much better going bareback. Plus, I want to see my lady with a creampie and be the second one in. What a turn on.

[sextoyfancy 15]

Guys,so bravely!

[mde 4764 15]

It's not a matter of being brave. It is a matter of being informed and realizing the risk are minimal. It is also about wanting to get the most out of the experience.

[Guest silverlover]

I was 52 when we first started swinging with our best friends. The other wife was 54 so we threw cation to the wind and had a ball. My wife had her tubes tied years before so there were no worries on our part, in fact it was just plain awesome. We did this for three years every weekend.......... ah !! what memories

[sextoyfancy 15]

yeah,so bravely!

[PTTimeDC 120]

Talis, especially if she gets a long-term boyfriend like my wife does; I love knowing I'm coming home to a hot creampie!

[Talis 15]

We've been going to Club Sesso in Portland. It's awesome! We are trying out their Gang Bang night next.

[rohancid 15]

I know it's been a couple years since this thread's been active but I only just found it so here goes. I would love to do bareback but condom usage is prevalent at every club and event I've been to. I would like to know how I could possibly get in touch with swingers in my area who are willing to go bareback with a single guy. Can anyone offer some suggestions?

[PTTimeDC 120]

Rohancid,

to tell you the truth, the best way to do this is to establish a relationship with single guys. Find guys that she is comfortable with, that is of utmost importance, and take your time with them. We have found that long term relationships with a few single guys usually results in everyone being comfortable with bareback. I would never, never do this at a club or a house event. there are simply too many people, too much potential for problems, too many dishonest people, for this to be feasible for us. Plus, for something this intimate, it is usually hotter, we have found, to have it done with a familiar guy in the comfort of our home or hotel. Hope this helps.

[AR1547 131]

If one of us for some reason has a gut feeling that a person could be risky, we don't do anything with them, with or without a condom.

 

Then there are things where you can calculate the risk to be way too high based on what you know. Here's a real example of that. Sometimes at a club we see black men who aren't African Americans, they are immigrants recently arrived from Africa. We will never have sex with anyone we've seen, or have heard of, playing with those men. Do you know what the HIV rate is in much of Africa? Look it up if you don't. Call me a racist all you want for that if you are so inclined.

[gsu22 187]

Loved reading the responses to this question. When I've been with couples, it's been a group decision among the 3 of us. I'm picky, they're picky, etc...which to be honest has lead to a 50/50 split when it comes to condom use. I'm d/d free, tested regularly and do NOT take crazy chances. 98% of the couples I've played with share this mind set.

 

Being with just a Man is completely different. I've always used condoms for the obvious risks. I'm even more picky when it comes to potential bi or gay partners. Trust factors have been very high after months of playing before I'll go bareback. I'd say I've bare backed 4 men, maybe 3. We both made sure we were completely honest with one another but once that decision to go bareback was made, damn, what a difference!!! It sounds lazy but it's so much easier to not have to fumble for that rubber when one of us is ready to penetrate. Sex wise for me, there's nothing better than lubing up, and barebacking...indescribable feeling.

[yorktownvaguy 76]

Having swung mostly with older couples who were past their reproductive years ... I've done bareback most of the time. It's amazing the eagerness of the male to jump in after you cum deep in their women. Kind of exciting to watch for me and I am sure for them as well.

[wingsonabris 19]

Being that we are both fixed, we always do bareback. The only risk for us is std, and we have a really simple way to find out. Ask each member, separately.

[rohancid 15]

Hello, does anyone know how to find bareback orgy parties where I live?