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Wearing your wedding or engagement ring when swinging?

Is wearing your wedding or engagement ring required when swinging?  

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  1. 1. Is wearing your wedding or engagement ring required when swinging?

    • Always, it's a sign of commitment.
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    • Never, we know to whom we belong.
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    • In certain circumstances (playing alone, 1st meeting); explain.
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I searched the forum but haven't found anything on the topic, so let us know: is wearing your wedding or engagement ring mandatory when swinging, mandatory only in special circumstances such a playing alone or at the first meeting or swing session, or not an issue?

 

 

If wearing a ring is something you do, then explain whether it is a sign of commitment or done because it is a turn-on. Thanks.

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I can't imagine for the life of me why you'd take it off when swinging unless you were in fact hiding something. For those who remove their ring for work safety related issues it is understandable and they might forget to put it back on of course.

On a side note removing a ring you wear REGULARLY leaves a telltale mark on your finger when you take it off that can last many weeks. I have 2 very small rings listing my 4 childrens names and birth stone that fit together on my index finger that my kids bought me 15 years ago...................sadly I got bitten by some sort of bug on that finger and those rings had to be cut off due to extreme swelling...............that was 2 months ago and I've yet to have them fixed but clear as day there is a slight mark STILL wear those rings were worn for years.......an observant person would notice a mark like that on your wedding finger and question at least in their own mind what and why you were hiding.

 

Mrs Sav

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If wearing a ring is something you do, then explain whether it is a sign of commitment or done because it is a turn-on. Thanks.

 

I didn't answer in the poll. I suppose I could have answered it's a sign of commitment, but it's just something I've never thought about.

 

In almost 29 years of marriage, I've never taken my wedding band off...I've taken the diamond off if I'm doing something that might damage it or get it dirty, but never the band...I'm not sure it would even come off or why I would want to take it off. I like my rings, they've been on my finger for so long they've become a part of me, and they're something Ted gave me.

 

Although it's not something I get, Ted has told me at times it is a turn-on for him when he notices my rings flashing while my hand is wrapped around another man's cock.

 

 

Teresa

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I didn't answer in the poll. I suppose I could have answered it's a sign of commitment, but it's just something I've never thought about.

 

In almost 29 years of marriage, I've never taken my wedding band off...I've taken the diamond off if I'm doing something that might damage it or get it dirty, but never the band...I'm not sure it would even come off or why I would want to take it off. I like my rings, they've been on my finger for so long they've become a part of me, and they're something Ted gave me.

 

Teresa

 

I will say that it may be a safety thing, depending on the ring, one can receive a bad cut/scratch, and in the heat of the moment you never know where your hand may be. then I feel that taking it off at home. i know where it is. not lost in some ones bed or club.

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I am embarrassed to admit I never wear my ring. I gained weight after we were married, and did not get it re-sized. Since I have lost the weight, it has remained in the safe. I really don't like jewelry of any kind, I don't even wear a watch unless there is a damn good reason too, and there are not many of those.

 

My wife does not like to wear her wedding band without her diamond, it's too loose. But I prefer she not wear her diamond's when we play. It has been the source of some pretty serious nicks in the past and if she takes it off somewhere else, we are both afraid she may loose it.

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I'm completely with SAVANDWIN. I'm exceptionally grateful, happy, and proud to be married to my wife. I can't imagine ever taking my wedding band off for swinging purposes, nor can she hers. We do take them off for professional cleaning and inspection, and sometimes if we're doing something dicey that could damage them or cause them to be lost (I sometimes take mine off and store it when involved in water activities for example).

 

But for swinging? In short: HELL NO.

 

Also, we enjoy MFMs. In meeting&greeting 'single' males, a tell tale we look for is evidence of a missing wedding band.

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Let me preface this by saying I dont wear any jewelry, never really liked it, including a wedding band. One of the "funny" early moments in our marriage (actually before we were married obviously) was when I insisted on buying an ultra cheap (like $20) plain gold band for my ring, reasoning was I would only wear it the first week tops.

 

This was mentioned before we got engaged, much like many of our preferences were discussed. Didn't stop all feelings from being exposed at the time, but it helped.

 

My wife though loves to wear her ring, and the only times she takes it off are if she is going to be working with her hands (either at work or at home) or swimming/water stuff.

 

Aside from worry of losing it/damage, I dont see why people would take it off unless they are trying to hide it or possibly feel different with it off, sorta like wearing a costume.

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I didn't vote because the options really don't hit the mark for me.

 

I think a swinger's decision to wear their wedding rings is for the same reasons they decide to wear/or not wear them in general. No difference. So for me, the ring wearing - as it relates to swinging and a couple's commitment - is a thought that has never occurred to me.

 

I don't feel that the absence of a ring necessarily means someone is cheating and trying to hide that fact, but I don't think that is the intended focus of this thread. As others have said, rings can get in the way.

 

I work from my home office and never wear my rings, any of them. I don't like how water gets trapped behind them. I always wear my band when I go out because that's when I like a little jewelry and it feels good to put it on. So yes, I wear my wedding band when I swing. If I forgot to wear it it wouldn't ruin my day. A ring is a lovely emblem, it has memories attached, but it is what we mean to each other that has more importance for me than our rings.

 

When we swing, I have nearly had my wedding band slip off my finger, due to the lubrication that surrounds our hands when playing, so I am watchful, and some times I've decided to take it off and store it away rather than risk loosing it. I appreciate it when people who wear rings that could cut or injure decide to take them off when play begins.

 

LM

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I have to admit that wearing my rings while swinging, and seeing Mr. Fuse's rings, is a bit of a turn on. It sort of emphasizes the aspect of giving that goes along with swinging. I think it also might be nice for our partners, because it emphasizes that we're a stable, married couple.

 

However, in normal life I often don't wear them. I take them off at night or I get a bit of a bumpy skin problem. I take them off when I work out, and often don't put them back on. I can go for a week or longer without wearing my wedding rings. It doesn't make me any less married.

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The only reason I could think of to take off your rings, outside of physical reasons like irritation, would be because you were uneasy swinging and thought you were violating your marriage vows.

 

Being I don't feel that way I don't give it a thought.

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We went 22 years without wedding rings, and finally bought some nice silver ones this summer, mostly to wear while swinging. Me, anyway, because I am not a ring person and don't like wearing one. On the other hand, PB put his on the day we bought them and hasn't taken it off since. Wearing it other than swinging is a hit-or-miss thing; I'm not in the habit so it often gets left behind when I leave the house. He bought me a diamond ring for our 20th anniversary and I tried wearing that while playing, but I was afraid of scratching people, so the silver band is nice for that.

 

I guess for us it's partly about the commitment, and partly about the turn-on.

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Never really thought about it.

 

I never wear a wedding ring, in fact, even though we have been married just short of 25 years, I have never owned one. In my work you can't wear one and I know myself well enough to know that, if I had one that I didn't wear all of the time, I would just lose it anyway. Mrs. GT wears one though, never haven given it any thought about her wearing it, or not, in connection with swinging, she just always wears it.

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The only reason I could think of to take off your rings, outside of physical reasons like irritation, would be because you were uneasy swinging and thought you were violating your marriage vows.

 

This is what I thought too when I first read the post. We wrote all our own vows so we're good ;)

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I started this, so let me explain. We bought simple gold bands as wedding rings when we got married, but after a couple of months stopped wearing them. I don't wear any jewery because at some point during the day it annoys me. And I couldn't stand to wash my hands and not take off my ring because water got under there.

 

 

The only time I consciously put my ring back on was when I had my brief adventure (solo play) with Sam. I of course had hubby's permission, but I wanted to reinforce the proper context of our playing to Sam by wearing it while I was otherwise naked.

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OK, a little off subject but had to share this. It does have to do with taking a wedding ring off though.

 

I went through Army Jump School in 1966.

 

On the morning of our first jump we were all in the hanger and the Colonel told us all to take off any rings and watches.

 

Well, you could hear the grumbling begin...

 

Then the Colonel quieted the troops by adding that he couldn't make it mandatory for anyone to take off a wedding or religious ring but...

 

The lights dimmed and a projector in the rear of the room came on and showed a picture, on the screen above the Colonel, of a ring hung on a rivet of an airplane right by the door. And in the ring was a finger with a long tendon attached.

 

I've never seen so many guys with their ring fingers in their mouths trying to get rings lubricated and off! True story!

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That sounds familiar. I was in mechanized infantry, and we were shown similar images. Images of rings getting caught in moving parts, particularly large caliber weapons systems. The rings would get hung on a moving part, get dragged forward and embed under the skin, as well as a few lost digits.

 

It actually happened to one of our mechanics, not sure what he got it caught on. One of the medics traveled with my squad, so I had a front row seat for his initial treatment. It was not pretty. They saved his finger, but there was a lot of damage and his ring had to be cut into multiple pieces to get it off. Before that, most of the men wore their rings. After that, the tell tale signs of white bands from missing rings was very noticeable.

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Dave has gone through four rings in our married life. He lost one and broke two. The fourth is titanium. Hopefully, his last.

 

I rarely take mine off. I have a plain gold band I wear at work so I don't scratch the babies and my diamond I wear when I'm not at work. I don't take them off and I see no reason why I should.

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Dave has gone through four rings in our married life. He lost one and broke two. The fourth is titanium. Hopefully, his last.

 

I rarely take mine off. I have a plain gold band I wear at work so I don't scratch the babies and my diamond I wear when I'm not at work. I don't take them off and I see no reason why I should.

 

WOW! He broke two rings!?!?! How did he manage that?

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It's the nature of his work. He's an outside guy. Always on a horse. Cowboyed for several years and lost the first one in a cow when we were calving. Never did find it after the calf was born. The two be broke just wore down so badly on the palm side that they finally broke. Never seen anything like it, either. They just snap in two.

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It's the nature of his work. He's an outside guy. Always on a horse. Cowboyed for several years and lost the first one in a cow when we were calving.

 

Reminds me of a song from my college days.

 

"I lost my highschool ring in you, sorority girl."

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I am not allowed to wear any jewelry at work, including a wedding band, due to safety regulations. I always wore my wedding ring when I went to parties though. Now that i'm technically single, and don't have a ring, I kinda miss that symbol of being committed and playing with her permission. Maybe we should get some commitment rings..............We have been together for 7 years.

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The two be broke just wore down so badly on the palm side that they finally broke. Never seen anything like it, either. They just snap in two.

 

I was going to suggest the reason was he was exposed to heavy doses of gamma radiation during an experiment, then later on, someone pissed him off, causing the ring to snap in half, along with his shirt, during his transformation.

 

But, your answer works too. :D

 

 

As to the original question. We fall into the group that has never thought about it. We wear our rings pretty much all the time without thought of removing them other than for safety reasons.

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Reminds me of a song from my college days.

 

"I lost my highschool ring in you, sorority girl."

 

Ahhhh crap... that is a horrible visual! :rolleyes:

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divenaked ditto here on being committed but no rings. I'm beginning to suspect that because we don't have rings to symbolize our committment that people often assume I'm a unicorn when MrGPH is not with me at events. Many goofy moments but I think the ring issues explains it. Perhaps I should start wearing some sort of ring to slow people down. When I was in the military, many of my girlfriends would wear fake engagement or wedding bands to keep the guys from bugging them when we went out.

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I am surprised by some of the comments. I would not think wearing or not wearing rings would be seen as some indicator to a couples commitment, or as some type of subterfuge, by other swingers.

 

It is rather ironic when you consider that most of society sees swinging as an indicator of the lack of commitment, and we all know that is not the case, well, not in most cases anyway. So why would a swinger see the presence of a ring and conclude a person is being more committed to their spouse than one who does not wear a ring?

 

Although I do not wear my ring I still put much value in its symbolism. In fact the main reason I did not have it re-sized is because it would have meant cutting the band. The unbroken circle was a large part of what the ring symbolizes to me. What I have considered was having BOTH rings smelted TOGETHER and reforged as two rings. The symbolism of the two being completely combined and each of us take part of both is a strong symbol.

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A thought for a 'signal' for testing the water with potential playmates!

 

OK, another long one but bear with me.

 

After our 30th anniversary I joked at work that I was retired from marriage. I figured that you can retire from almost any job after 30 years and I was going to retire from being married and just be living with my wife.

 

It was a fun joke and I enjoyed the responses from coworkers.

 

Well, a few months later my wife and I were at dinner with friends and I, after a few after dinner drinks, blurted this revelation out to my buddy. My wife and his wife overheard and I thought I was in deep shit!

 

But, my wife smiled and said she was flattered that, even though I was no longer married, I still wanted to live with her as best friends. And, she said she'd like a friendship ring. OK, leave it to a lady to find any excuse for more jewelry! LOL!

 

Well, I immediately searched for 'friendship rings' and found out about the Irish Claddagh and ordered one for her and one for me. And, they're great conversation starters when we meet new couples.

 

Now the legend is lengthy but the meaning is easy. If you wear it on your right hand with the heart pointing out it means you're single and available. Wearing it on the right hand with the heart in means you're in a relationship.

 

Wearing it on the left with the heart in means you're taken, or married and wearing it out generally means (and there are different opinions on this one) that you're taken or married but you still look around.

 

So, the point I just thought of because of this thread, it's a safe way to test waters or to advertise without the vanilla world finding out and 'outing' us.

 

If you meet a person or couple you're interested in but not sure if you should ask or say anything committal you could use the rings.

 

Tell them about the meaning and then, one or both of you, turn them around and see if they notice and say something. This might just be a perfect conversation starter. And, if you do both wear them 'out' in public and someone notices they won't know that you didn't just, accidentally or without knowing, put them on wrong. But, it would sure open it up for those folks to ask if you're swingers. Much better than some swinger's symbol, don't you think?

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I didn't vote either because my none of them really fit. Whether or not I have a ring on doesn't have anything to do with swinging.

 

I've probably only had the ring off a couple of times since we've been married, but it's because I don't even think anything about it one way or another. I have had one incident of minor injury because of it, but still wear it just out of convention and habit more than anything else.

 

I wouldn't have the slightest inclination to check to see if someone I met in a swinging or any other situation had a ring on or not. I don't even notice what the Mrs. has on her fingers - much to her chagrin, she could have none for months, or one on every finger, and I still wouldn't notice. She loves jewelry though, and I find it aggravating, so there's your explanation.

 

Taking the liberty to answer for her, I would say she would notice what ring someone was wearing, although I don't think it's something she actually looks for.

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In our household it is always mandatory. I'm with earlier posters who said they couldn't imagine why you wouldn't wear it while swinging unless you were trying to hide something. I would think that whatever your general policy is about wearing of the rings would carry over into swinging (ie. I know some couples for whom wearing the rings isn't a big deal because one or both can't wear them while working, or whatever other reason) so they may or may not remember to put them on when they go out.

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Interesting question. It originally came up with us when I walked into a hotel room my wife had shared with her "boytoy" . Her rings were in the bathroom on the counter.

 

It kind of hit me "wrong" but as she says she always takes them off when she goes to bed and I guess this was no exception.

 

We talked about whether it was right or wrong but could never come to any decision. Myself I wouldn't take them off just because I was swinging.

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:male:

 

I've lost 65lbs over the last year, but am still 100lbs away from my target weight. I haven't had my wedding ring re-sized because I'm still losing, so I wear it on a long satin cord around my neck. It gets in the way while playing and could be a choking hazard in certain positions. I wear it while socializing so that people see it and know that I'm married, but take it off while undressing for play.

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I searched the forum but haven't found anything on the topic, so let us know: is wearing your wedding or engagement ring mandatory when swinging, mandatory only in special circumstances such a playing alone or at the first meeting or swing session, or not an issue?

 

 

If wearing a ring is something you do, then explain whether it is a sign of commitment or done because it is a turn-on. Thanks.

 

Haven't read anything else here just jumped right to the answer...

We both always wear our wedding rings, I never remove mine ever, she does when baking certain yummy things in the kitchen, I once had to remove my ring last year for a surgical procedure and coming home I felt naked in a bad way, and twice when I split it in half while at work and it was being repaired.

Our wedding rings are part of us and part of our commitment to each other, that may seem weird but they are a very symbolic part of our love and trust in each other, I guess in someway we use them to show others that our hearts belong to each other but the other bits are up for grabs lol

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I always have my wedding band on. I don't see why I need to take it off since everyone I play with know I am married. I actually feel strange without it.

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