Are you a frequent swinger (weekly or more) ?

[AussieMinister 19]

Do you consider yourself a frequent swinger? Whilst the term 'frequent' is entirely subjective, it seems the consensus from reading other threads is that the average is for people to swing once of twice per month.

 

So, I've defined frequent as meaning at least once a week for some sort of swinger activity (either at home meets or venues, etc).

 

Have you consistenly been active in the lifestyle on a frequent basis? How often?

 

To what extent does your swinger activities affect time available for social activities? Is your social life largely swinger-oriented?

[strathmore 20]

Hmmmm, guess I have been 'average' by your definition; about 100 'encounters' over 6+ years since I reentered the scene. A bit more than once a month.

I view swinging as an interesting and exciting hobby. Have pretty vanilla social life otherwise.

[couplers 4,718]

One of the benefits of being poly is that hubby and I enjoy our repective other partner multiple times per week. Most of it is playng alone, however; although I participate much more with hubby and his gf (at least once per week) than hubby does with my bf and me (maybe once every other month). Once a week or so, hubby's gf and I are also together by ourselves as well.

 

 

What many here would consider the downside of poly is that the relationship among the four of us is closed, not by demand on anyone but by choice. So the answer to the question is that while I have sex with someone other than my husband just about every other day, I have only had sex with three men (and one woman) in my life.

[WhatisTruth 41]

In the short time that we have been swinging, it has been both. Lately, it has been crazy busy, and we have been active multiple times a week But beforehand, it wasn barely once a month.

[SexyRedmondCpl 128]

Haha Lord no! Wish we had that kind of time, but we just don't. We're more of an every other month couple.

[DigginIt 1,132]

We strive for once a month even though we try to go out every weekend.

 

Our once a week may sometimes be with our swinger friends but doesn't always mean play.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Can't say that I frequent much of anything by your standards (except the bathroom). If it wasn't for milk I probably wouldn't even frequent the grocery store.

[NaturistWife 16]

About 3 times a month. We both work, and we have a "date" night together on Wednesday or Thursday. Saturday nights we get together with friends for swing fun. But it's more than that - it's a chance to get out of the house, get together with friends, enjoy some fun chat before and after, get caught up on what they're doing, and so on. We're late 30's, been married almost 20 years, and have two great kids.

[Trazom 35]

No. I wish we had that activity. Sometimes we get together and it happens. Other times the feeling isn't there and we just all hang out.

[Crosswords 92]

Because of kids and other commitments, we have a goal of 1-2 times per month. So far we're at about once per month.

[Tina and Bob 236]

I go in streaks and know that Bob does as well. Bob travels 50% of the time, sometimes more, but then other times maybe one week a month but that is only Nov, Feb and Aug. I have a few male friends that entertain me as well as a few gf's and their hubby's. Often times it's just the women that play. Bob and I have made contacts away from home and in the territoritories he travels, so if he has time, and he usually finds time, he will entertain our friends in and out of the bedroom. He fortunately has a generous expense acct. If I had to guess overall average, it's like 4 times a month, maybe 5.

[mtneers 15]

We are still really new at this, but we are lucky to get to play once every 3 months. We live in a very small town and we'd have to travel quite a distance to acutally meet people, so we take it as it comes...

[sweet_tna 680]

With my hubby's current travel schedule, I'm lucky if I get to have sex with HIM once a week, let alone anyone else!

 

We usually manage to get out to some sort of lifestyle venue about twice a month, though we don't always get to play. Would we like to increase our frequency? Yes, but other aspects of our life (kids/family) always take priority.

 

=)

[DocWill 83]

We're at a steady average of about three play-dates a month.

 

We put our toes in the water about a year ago, but the last six months is where the average rests. All in all, it's been pretty sweet for the both of us... with the exception of two experiences.

 

We're still looking at going to our first real club later in Feb.

[LFM2 1,482]

We've never been marathon swingers; even when we were knew at this. We're lucky to get 6-7 times a year. We're happy with that. We have other things that take priority. Swinging is a hobby for us.

[Guest ENCRYPTEDTX]

I am going to answer this in a before after aspect.

 

Before as a single guy, I was attending fewer meet and greets, fewer house parties but had more partners.

 

As a couple, we attend meet and greets weekly and meet other lifestylers very very often. The occurrences of sex with others has decreased though.

 

 

So yes. Frequent swingers.

[cnd_couple 16]

My wife and I are in our early 50s and have been swinging for about maybe 5 years, we usually go to a club at least once to twice a month, we only swing at clubs but we have been talking about having the lifestyle at home one day.

[ALilOEverything 901]

I thought we were frequent but we average a couple times a month, mostly with repeat friends.

[willyoats 324]

When we were really into it, the frequency was about once a month at our local club for ten years. The exceptions were at conventions and similar events (about twice a year) where it was more or less nonstop for three days at a time.

 

Then menopause hit and she stopped altogether. I was then limited to about two or three times a years alone.

[TheSwingerSet 205]

We are just getting back into the swing of things, before our break it was 5 or 6 times a month and we would like to get back to that point in the future as well. Of the 5 or 6 it wasn't always play time but time doing vanilla things with our swinger friends.

 

K&L

[munchiesx2 15]

We try to limit our swinging activities to something like once a month on average, but of course, if the mood strikes us both at the same time, we jump on it. For us, swinging has such a powerful eroticism, a major jolt to our libido's, it would be exhausting to try to do it regularly. But, like with most couples, it's a matter of mutual desire, availability of partners, and/or do we really want to drive up to San Francisco to go clubbing......

[HappyCpl 89]

We visit our local club a couple of times a month, and will occasionally meet with other couples on the weekend outside the club, but not very often. Mrs. H says, and I agree, that this is more of a hobby to use than a lifestyle. We make time for "the other us", as we call them, on the weekends.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Lately, it's been more like quarterly (or less) for us, mostly due to a lot of health issues. Last spring we were going out just about weekly for a couple of months, that was going out - not actual encounters. i think we'd either have to lower our standards or go out nightly in order to actually swing once a week.

[km34 672]

We used to have a few couples/singles that we met with regularly so we would end up swinging weekly. Now, though, our schedules kind of suck so we go out about once a month, but rarely actually swing since we are enjoying each others' company so much. It kind of depends on what's going on how often we get out of the house together.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Anyone else swing once a week or more?

 

If so, how in the hell do you manage that?

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

We are a low-to-mid 50s couple who have been at this for about six months. For the last couple of months, we have been meeting up with other couples once or twice a week. Most of the time, we end up playing! It has been hectic, but a whole lot of fun!

 

I'd say there are three things that are helping us to maintain this active schedule. One is that we are "college empty-nesters", so it's just us two while the daughter is away at school- so we have the free time. Also, this pace started up after our hot experiences last fall at a lifestyle resort, where we decided that we really like swinging! Finally, the Mrs. has recently been undergoing hormone replacement therapy, including a small implanted testosterone pellet- so she is feeling great and her libido is very healthy!

 

We don't know how long we can keep up this active schedule, but we do know that this month will be busy. We are booked for another week at Desire next week, and we have a house party and a hotel party in our plans for the month. Hey, you only live once, and we are having all kinds of fun!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

We definitely don't swing weekly or more. When we first started, the first couple we swapped with seemed to swing frequently (weekly or more) and, for some reason, we thought we had to also so it was a bit frantic the first few months into our swinging journey. Eventually, we realized that most couples don't go out that often. And if they do, great for them but we couldn't keep up with family, work, and such. I can definitely see how such a schedule is much more doable when you're older, no kids in the house, and retired!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Gee, whiz. How did I miss this question the first time it came around?

 

Our swing encounters are frequent but not weekly. Semi-weekly maybe (I'd say bi-monthly but some people might read too much into my use of the prefix "bi").

 

As mentioned by the couple in MD, this is a sling-shot effect of those darned kids finally getting out of our house.