Does size matter to the guys?

[wiscpl 22]

I have a question for the guys here. When you are swinging with other couples does the size of the man your woman is with determine if you keep swinging with them?

 

Reason I ask this is we swung with a couple whom we seemed to get along great with. After our first encounter we learned from his wife that he had asked about my size. She said while he had me in the girth department I was a bit larger in length. (I'm only slightly longer than average) From then out he didn't seem interested in swinging with us which showed in our second and final encounter.

 

Ladies your opinions count as much as the mens. What do you think?

[BradAndJanet 70]

It doesn't make a difference to me, as long as J's happy with it.

 

-B (who assumes we're talking penis size here, )

[Roxysbayou 20]

Size does not matter to me either. As long as you know what to do with, who cares.

[jen 16]

The size of his heart counts.

 

For Bob123...the size of his wallet does not. The size of his attitude about his wallet does.

 

The size of his character counts.

The size of hs brain counts.

The size of his attention span counts.

The size of his sense of humor counts.

 

These things and many more do count. In no particular order.

 

Of course, all of these things count in or out of her favor as well.

 

Under assumptions of the size of a particular zone counting...whose counting?

[wiscpl 22]

I'm happy to see people are expanding this to more than the size of a tool (Insert "Tool time laugh here") Specifically I meant the size of his penis. Do you think this makes some guys jealeous?

[jen 16]

Anything can cause jealousy. In anyone. So yes. And I still have all three life lines

[Perseus 16]

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Originally posted by wiscpl

I'm happy to see people are expanding this to more than the size of a tool (Insert "Tool time laugh here") Specifically I meant the size of his penis. Do you think this makes some guys jealous?

 

Jealous or humiliated... Small minded (or small ego'd) either way... Especially in a swinging environment. Those feeling don't belong in the lifestyle IMHO...

[OhioCouple 41]

Size doesn't matter to me in the respect of either length or girth. I've got a pretty good grip going on down there.

 

What does matter is how they use it. I really can't take much over 6 inches without it becoming painful, especially when the guy is aggressive with it.

 

As for the jealousy issue. I think men are very sensitive about their penis size and tend to judge themselves against others. I've often wanted to be a fly on the wall in a men's restroom that had a row of 6 urinals, all in use, just to watch how they act. I can see it now....Staring straight ahead, never looking up down or around!

 

Funny story. We were in Martinique several years ago and walking through one of their city parks. Hubby had to go to the restroom and proceeded to go into the men's outdoor facility. Within in seconds he came flying out, grabbed me by the arm and led me to a wooded area so that I could cover for him as he urinated. Seems there was a fellow in there at the urinal next to him (there were only two) that couldn't keep from ogling his manhood. :rofl: So, I've actually had to take a grown man potty before!

[tinceltoes 15]

Size does matter to me. When my husband and I go out, we do the usual routine on visiting cpl. first then go from there on the next visit to a motel. I am a person who likes both oral and intercourse but lately with the past 3 men I only got oral because the men were too small to perform otherwise down below. I guess I was lucky to get that.

 

I always think after going through 3 men and their size I have a curse put on me so my self-esteem is down because I think I will get the same all the time. I can not just sit there while on the first visit have the male pull down his pants and show me what his package looks like. I do not like the idea of reading measurements online because numbers are deceiving. Just like a pic. Ug!

 

What is a swinger wife to do with this problem?

[turnuptheheat 98]

the past 3 men I only got oral because the men were too small to perform otherwise down below

 

Too small to perform?

I don't get it. By whose definition were they too small? What is too small to you?

Are we talking 6" but you required more or were they unable to raise a stubbie at all?

I hope you regain the self esteem, but wonder how their's is after being "too small" to get some?

[tinceltoes 15]

When you have men who are no bigger than 5 inches and girth size of a hotdog, I can not enjoy myself. As for how the men feel, I am not them so I can not tell you.

 

Thanks for your input.

[Chris&Amelia 253]

Well, I'm of average size and girth (or so I've been told), about 6 inches long. Most of the guys we've been with have been more or less my size... but I guess that's the definition of "average".

 

The average adult penis, according to the Kinsey Institute, measures just under six inches when erect. Most men -- about eighty-seven percent -- are between five and seven inches. Dr. Alfred Kinsey found that the largest reported penis was a bit more than nine inches erect.

 

Anyway... we haven't had any encounters with any "small" men of of yet, so we can't comment on that. But we can comment on guys with big penises.... Amelia doesn't like 'em. It hurts her during intercourse (especially if the guy wants to thrust hard or deeply), and in such circumstances, if she has intercourse with him at all, it'll only be with her on top. And large penises make her gag during oral sex... not pleasant at all.

[oriel 15]

The subject of size concerns becomes especially interesting when you consider two important facts.

 

1. Because of foreshortening and the angle of viewing, most men perceive their erect penis as being smaller than it is. This is especially so when compared with another man's, which they view at a more favorable angle.

 

2. There is greater disparity in the unerect sizes of men's penises than the erect sizes. I remember this was graphically illustrated on a TV program called the Good Sex Guide in Britain some years ago. They showed a 3x3 grid (so 9 in total) of flaccid penises of all shapes and sizes and (they couldn't actually show this) claimed that they were all +/- 1 inch of each other when erect.

 

Food for thought...

[Nymph an' Satyr 22]

Well I have 5". I also have 3 kids and a satisfied (by me) wife. So I suppose it's doing what it's supposed to do

[Brit_Pair 62]

Originally posted by OhioCouple

As for the jealousy issue. I think men are very sensitive about their penis size and tend to judge themselves against others. I've often wanted to be a fly on the wall in a men's restroom that had a row of 6 urinals, all in use, just to watch how they act. I can see it now....Staring straight ahead, never looking up down or around!

That's exactly the way it happens. But it's not because we're afraid we might see someone who has a bigger chunk of salami. It's because we're afraid of the reaction we might provoke if someone takes our ogling to mean that we'd like a slice.

[lynn3 15]

Originally posted by tinceltoes

Size does matter to me...... lately with the past 3 men I only got oral because the men were too small to perform otherwise down below. I guess I was lucky to get that.

 

This is a really strange statement to me...... Did you mean to say that the last 3 men were impotent ? Because to say that 3 men in a row were "too small to perform" has got to be a mix-up on words. Or maybe you just prefer a really large sized penis, and did not want these men to have intercourse with you......At any- rate, I found it to be a confusing statement and am trying to understand this.

[Misty&Todd 16]

I really dont think size matters to me, its more how they use it.

[TNT 1,155]

Size to me is really not an issue at all.

 

Unless the size is extremely big, and I'm talking about so large that it is physically impossible to have any kind of insertion (which I personally have never seen) it all feels good.

 

I have been with men who were extremely small as well as what would be considered as very, very well endowed and they have all felt wonderful.

 

After all...a finger feels damn good so why would a small penis feel any less good.

 

Teresa ....A woman who likes them all

[Guest everlast]

I don't put a whole lot of faith into studies and research and all that... you know one day coffee will cure cancer the next it causes it.

 

But for what its worth the last 'Scientific' study that I read on the subject concluded that because of the way the female genitalia (AKA pussy ) is 'designed', all the sensory nerve endings being within two inches into the Vagina, any perceived greater sence of pleasure from a larger penis is purely psychological.

 

As for us... why would you get jealous... I think I'd prefer to video tape:evil:

[lovers 25]

My wife denies that she's a size queen, but she is often disappointed if a guy is anything less than 5 inches or isn't thick. The last couple of guys she's been with haven't "measured up" in her opinion and she's come away from the encounters not having as much fun as she could have.

 

So to sum it up, I think it depends on the woman.

[Perseus 16]

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Originally posted by lovers

My wife denies that she's a size queen, but she is often disappointed if a guy is anything less than 5 inches or isn't thick. The last couple of guys she's been with haven't "measured up" in her opinion and she's come away from the encounters not having as much fun as she could have.

 

So to sum it up, I think it depends on the woman.

 

Now that is an honest answer... I see these couples looking for 'well hung guys' and I shy away... I am better then average, but I am not huge... Maybe I shouldn't shy away from them... *shrug*

[Nymph an' Satyr 22]

Originally posted by Brit_Pair

It's because we're afraid of the reaction we might provoke if someone takes our ogling to mean that we'd like a slice.

 

Exactly!!! Here is male psychology 101 ladies!

[Ashley 22]

When we go to the clubs, L is always pointing out to me the guys with big cocks. I keep telling him that doesn't matter to me. I think it's because his former g/f was a size queen and so he just assumes all women must be. Actually my favorite cock is his and the only thing special about it is the man it's attached to.

[dayhiker 83]

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Originally posted by jen

The size of his heart counts.

 

 

jen, is that the size of the head on his shoulders or the size of the head on this dick? I know some like an extra large head on a guys dick!

[jen 16]

Wow Day,

 

Your very first Swingers Board post and you quoted me!

 

Should I feel flattered? No wait, don't answer that.

 

Squeeze!

[mopek 15]

I am re-posting what I wrote not long ago in another thread that was moved.

 

Well I agree with Azwildcat that some say it's not that important when it may be....

 

But I think Roxy nailed it when she said it's GIRTH not length that counts. It doesn't take much more than 4 inches to fully penetrate a vagina so that means that most guys are adequate in the length department. It's silly that they/we all want 10+inches when 6 are enough.

 

I believe that size(girth) may matter performance-wise. Having a thicker penis does 2 things to help performance. 1 - it stretches fills a woman more completely allowing for more area being stimulated and more easily creating an orgasmic plateau = she will cum faster. 2- Because of #1 ... the man will not have to thrust so much to bring the woman to orgasm which means he will last longer ....

 

That is my belief about size from a strictly performance standpoint. Using that variable ALONE , it does matter. But there are MANY other variables that have an effect on the whole outcome of a sexual encounter.

 

- Some women can't take bigger than average

- the man's attitude and character matter a lot more and vice-versa for women

- comfort

- cleanliness

etc....

 

just my 2 cents...

[BodyScape02 21]

Hmmmm, this is the male half of the profile here and I thought I would add my .02 cents. The size of the other male doesn't ever bother me. I can't say as I compare myself to them or really care.

 

She, on the other hand, does have an interest in larger sized males. She has been hoping to meet (or should I say, "meat!") a male of comparable size or larger than I. ((I don't think I'm that large, but have been measured by quite a few of my lady friends since I was 16 years old at 8". I have never measured it myself and really don't know why the women who have done so did measure me.))

 

In our search of partners to play with, we have met a few very kind, intelligent men with senses of humor. In the vast numbers of single males that can contact you, we've been lucky to meet the cool ones we have. The ONLY catch has been they have, one and all, miss-represented themselves in the area of size. We had one guy who's nude body shot was NOT him, one who was seemingly enormous (I have to admit, even I was impressed) but it turned out he was just a very tiny man with tiny hands and an average (i.e. ~ 5") cock. The 1st we invited home was a bit smaller but he went limp suddenly. Now, this is HER theory, it happened when she took both of us in hand and held them to either side of her face as she knelt in front of us. She said as soon as she did that he deflated...she thinks he may have been intimidated by me but I don't know...I think it was just too much too soon for him.

 

The 3 single males we've tried to play with all had problems in maintaining an erection to one degree or another. The result being that she thought at first it was her, which is silly because she is stunning. I still think it was just a combo of bad luck and the men being in an odd situation.

 

So, in answer: for the male here....no problem either way. For her: at least 7"....

[Bob123 15]

I have read alot of women on all types of places on the internet say that it is girth that matters and not length. So how do men measure up when it comes to girth? What is average? What is small what is above average? Do you like when they are perfectly round or ones that are kind of flat? What I mean is mine is like almost two inches wide and measured from the top and like one and a half inches wide measured from the side. Know what I mean? I don't know if I am explaining it right. Also do women like when it is bendy like a banana? I would think they would cause I would think it would make it feel wider than it is.

[teknurse 18]

Size has never mattered to me. I am usually only concerned with stamina and technique. I have never met a man too small but I have met some too large to enjoy.

 

Tinceltoes perhaps you might want to try some kegal exercises and that average sized man will feel alot larger or bring some large toys with you to assist in the experience.

[bear_n_bunny 43]

I think the thing that a lot of people do not take into account in this matter is the fact that women are just like men, in that they come in all shapes and sizes. That is, her cylinder size, just like the guy's piston size, can also vary widely (or wildly, as the case may be....

 

I have the archetypal "average" 6" cock, with "average" thickness. Even so, I have had very few complaints. And in my travels (and this covers the few women who have complained about my, um, shortcomings, along with quite a few others), I have learned that women for whom "size matters" are those who fall in the categories of "the only STD you can get from her is windburn", "you can drive the Sixth Fleet through her and not scrape paint", "better strap a 2x4 across your ass to keep from falling in", etc. So it is for this reason what whenever I see the ads calling for a stud who is packing the Dick of Death, I know it's because she has a bottomless pit for a twat that most of us mere mortals would just rattle around in like pebbles in a tin can.

 

Also, that business about "girth" is not necessarily always true. The last lifestyle party I attended had a new couple present who were just getting started. I ended up in the group bed with the woman and about a half dozen other people, including her husband. After initially partaking of her rather tasty pussy, I got her into the doggy position and proceeded to give her the high hard one. Talk about a hot fuck, she was it. She wanted it hard, fast and deep, pushing back into me as much as I was pushing into her, and she was howling at the moon the whole time, cumming like a machine gun. We hit our crescendo, both having mind-blowing and very noisy cums at the end, completing a most pleasurable interlude. We put on quite a show, as everyone else had stopped what they were doing and were just watching in amazement. I pull out and get rather shakily to my feet, and notice that the end of my condom is bloody. She gets up too and I tell her quietly that she may want to check herself as it looks like she was starting her period. She replied that, no, she had that taken care of years ago. I point to my bloody condom and say, "I wonder what caused that, then?" She then replies, in a voice that everyone could hear, that I was the first man to be that far inside her in seventeen years (turns out I was her first fuck as a swinger), and that it was fantastic, thank you very much, etc. I glanced over at her husband, who had been watching all this as well. He was laying there like a little toad, on his back, staring at me, with his maybe 4" cock pointing at the ceiling, and if looks could have killed, I would have been dead and buried on the spot. His tool was clearly thicker than mine, but it was also made clear that he had never made her cum like that in the seventeen years that they had been married, as I had with my thinner but longer implement.

 

Actually, I think it's not so much "girth" per se, but rather the ability to properly hit that G spot that's up inside there.

 

Just my two cent's worth...

[BodyScape02 21]

I have learned that women for whom "size matters" are those who fall in the categories of "the only STD you can get from her is windburn........ect

 

 

What a bunch of Bullsh*t!!! It sounds to me like you're being defensive over your own size and attacking your partners by blaming them for being too big.......

 

Granted, women do come in all shapes/sizes but there is no connection between their preference for the size of a man. It's a personal choice, not a physical one.

[wiscpl 22]

Looks like we got a little off the beaten path here. I'll refrase my sentence.

 

Guys, if the man next to you has a bigger one than yours are you going to let him be with your wife again?

[BodyScape02 21]

dear Bear and bunny.... Female half of Bodyscape02 here, and let me just say...What a load of "Penthouse forum" crap your post was.

 

You remind me of the Aesop's fable about the fox and the grapes. Insulting those of us who prefer a man not of your diminutive size. First you insult the women who would not prefer to play with you and then you create a particularly unbelievable scenario of you with another woman that ends in an insult to her husband that you have to point out ...is smaller than you.

 

 

Let me say Band B that I prefer men of 7 inches or more because I love the challenge of eating them...and I adore the way they feel anally. That has nothing to do with the size of my "cylinder"!

 

What I am sick to death of is the lying about your size that goes on. It is understandable that a woman would be upset when she is expecting delivery of a luxury SUV and finds out at too late that you are delivering a 'mini cooper" it's not the make that is at issue.

 

I am polite up front about my preferences and have not enjoyed the two times I have suffered through a threesome because I was too polite to walk away when the issue became exposed ( ah hem) . They were not fun to be with and were in the threesome for what I consider their own pleasure. I guess it goes along with being a liar.

 

Notice I have not once insulted your size I just prefer what I prefer... I have an incredible lover and think his size is perfect...why would I want...Less. In integrity or size?

 

So go push your pencil somewhere else and let those of us who appreciate and can handle a thick candle ...enjoy the meal.

[BodyScape02 21]

Sorry for all the typo's in my post... I was quite irritated and trying to hide my typing from prying eyes... makes it a little difficult to do a spell check.

 

In so far a s the origional question posted ( which it appears we have strayed from)

 

Guys, if the man next to you has a bigger one than yours are you going to let him be with your wife again?

 

I find the term "let him" a bit interesting. WE as a couple are a colaboration. We decide as a couple and discuss everything. That comment sounds as if you decide for her( which I hope is not the case).

[MattMann 17]

You remind me of the Aesops fable about the fox and the grapes. Insulting those of us who prefer a man not of your diminutive size.

 

I hate to be a nitpicker, but that DID sound like you were insulting his (and the rest of us who are "only" average size) size. If average is diminutive, then is large just average now? Don't take my pointing this out as an attack or taking sides. I'm just bummed because I'm in the "under 7 inch" club of undesirables now (and I just missed it by an inch or less, darn the luck!)

 

As for the rest of the story, I can't speak to the veracity of it, but I find it hard to believe there was any blood drawn as the result of his length and/or thrusting.

 

And to answer the previous question, yes I wouldn't mind larger men having sex with my wife, in fact, I rather enjoy seeing it and her reaction just for my own mental notes about size, girth, techniques and the reactions they receive. I find these debates on size interesting and am glad to have honest opinions from the women about their preferences. I won't even pretend to be so secure that I don't even think about my size compared to others, I think about it a lot and I am sure most men do, but I also think that is natural and to be expected. Just my full 2 cents (isn't .02 just two tenths of a cent?)

[BodyScape02 21]

I hate to be a nitpicker, but that DID sound like you were insulting his (and the rest of us who are "only" average size) size. If average is diminutive, then is large just average now?

 

The male half here...she didn't mean that as a blanketing statement aimed at all men... She was directing the insult at the gentleman in she was responding to. I guess he really hit her button and rash things can be said when a woman feels insulted or a man for that matter.

[NinjaBabe 15]

To me, size does not matter. I am a plus sized woman and if the man can not perform for me there, there are other ways we could make each other pleased. I don't mind having the simple pleasures of love making. I please the man I am with the best way that I can. And if he pleases me the best way that he can then I have no complaints. But I have no problems with the size of a man's tool.

[wiscpl 22]

Bodyscape02 wrote

 

I find the term "let him" a bit interesting. WE as a couple are a colaboration. We decide as a couple and discuss everything. That comment sounds as if you decide for her( which I hope is not the case).

 

I don't know about your relationship but I know in ours we each decide who we swing with. If just one of us is not interested in one or both members of the couple we respectfully tell them we are not interested.

Example, If She has a great personallity but he seems like a jerk Mrs wicpl will say no way. I respect her choice, it's part of what makes us great together. (You can switch roles in this example if you wish.)

 

Now, I bet you are going to ask me if I would let my wife swing with another guy who was larger than me. H E doulble hockey sticks I would. Bring him on I say!

[St. Augustine 20]

He says: You know, this is something I have thought about again recently. My girlfriend and I have talked about size and to her any larger than me would hurt, hell sometimes even I have done that when in one of the more penetrating positions. I think I would be more secure in myself if I was a little bigger. I don't know about the other males here (or anywhere else for that matter), but I think size means more to us from the standpoint of other men. One of the worst taunts I remember from back in school was to be called needledick and the like from your male peers. I think that is what makes size so important to us, the fact that we have been rideculed about it in the past. It's much easier to remember the bad memories than the good ones I suppose. Sexually I don't think it matters at all, for as has been stated here, the majority of the nerves in the vagina are located within the first two inches of the opening. Some of the best orgasms my girlfriend has is when I just use the top two inches or so of the tip. I realize that like every male however, each female is different. I have used this technique in the past though with phenomenal results each time. Personally I have always felt below average even though I'm told 6" is typical. Either way it goes I can't change it, so I don't worry about it that much. What got me thinking about it again was that infomercial about the pill that supposedly increases size up to 25%. I hate being an insomniac at times.

[M&B 21]

Hehe. I like that. Finally, a club that would have me that I would join!

 

I cannot answer the original question because our swinging status is "On Hold". I am not so sure that I could answer it truthfully, otherwise. "Letting". Seems kind of strong.

 

On the other hand, I can see Scape's point. She likes what she likes. If I am not in that club due to limitations, and remember, God don't make no junk, then, I can still respect her preferences.

 

You know, I have been told over the years by (some) women that guys prefer women with huge boobs. And yet, that is not who I married. Would I like to be with a woman/many women with humungous mammaries? Sure. The bigger the better, the more the merrier, etc, etc, etc. Do I cut out any possibility of pleasuring small breasted women? No. Hell, any port in a storm!

 

If ever I was told, afterwards, that I was, er, uh, inadequate, I would chalk that one up as a one-timer. Adios y vaya con Dios. At least I tried and at least you let me in. Ah, but that is the rub, isn't it. You DID let me in first.

 

So, in that case, should I say thank you or I am sorry?

[bear_n_bunny 43]

Well, based on the vituperative responses to my earlier post, made by individuals as sensitive to their "size" as they claim I am, I rest my case.

 

And just so you ladies know, what I posted was based on reality; the world as it is, not what you would like everyone else to think it is. I was straight up about my size, and my comments about women with large vaginas was based on hard (no pun intended) experience, not any "insecurities" on my part. As I said before, most of my 40-odd partners (from the first one, when I was fifteen, to date) I've had in my life had no complaints at all. Quite the contrary in fact. It was only a small number who did, and all of them had, big, loose pussies on them. And to me, it was not that I was "too small", it was that they were too big. Deal with it.

 

Example; when I was fifteen, I got laid for the first time. When I entered the girl, I recall thinking, in my naivete, that she must have been fucked a lot, because she was so loose. I remember when we were done, as she left the room, there was a little trail of blood drops on the floor. She said she had just started her period, and again, in my naivete, I believed her. This was an unplanned casual encounter, and the girl and I were never intimate again. Fast forward a few years to a local bar, where I ran into this same girl again. We had a nice conversation that evening, where I discovered that that had been her first time as well (talk about amateur night in Dixie..., hence the blood. She also made it clear that her preference was for guys with big cocks, such as her boyfriend who was playing pool across the room, since she was so big down there herself, a fact that I could definitely attest to. Neither of us took it anything being wrong with me, or her, for that matter. It was just a fact of her anatomy, and that was that.

 

And I've never read Penthouse, so I really don't know what was being referred to, and really don't care.

 

Oh, and the incident about the blood on the condom was quite true. If you had ever been with a woman who has gone without sex for an extended period of time (this excludes women who during their dry spell used a dildo regularly), or penetrated a woman deeper than she had been, either ever or for a long period of time, you would know this to be true.

 

And as for the "what if the other guy has a bigger one than you, will you let him be with your wife again" question, that is entirely up to her. If we click with the couple, and he does right by her, it's no skin off my teeth. I've had it happen, in fact. Watched my swing partner get plowed by a guy who had a much bigger cock than I did. Except when the party was over, *I* was the one she gladly came home with... And another thing is (and here is another unpleasant truth I'm sure some of you won't like..., I've lost count of the women who have told me over the years that most guys packing that Dick of Death are lousy lays. Most seem to think all they have to do is just show up, and the women will melt into little puddles of orgiastic ecstasy at the sight of their magnificent member.

 

Unfortunately, when it comes time to get down to the rat killin', as it were, most of them just ram it home with no finesse, no technique, no class. And boys, I'm just going by what I've been told by one hell of a lot of women over the years, both in and out of swinging. (And watched, for that matter, such as the aforementioned guy who plowed my swing partner. He just climbed up between her legs, shoved it in, and whamwhamwham. Needless to say, I heard later about how underwhelmed and unimpressed she had been with his performance, and she was a woman with a pretty good sized vagina on her to boot.) To be sure, these ladies all seemed to have the smaller, tighter fixtures, and hence were faced with the same sort of mismatch I referred to earlier, except in reverse.

 

The moral to the story is that people do indeed come in all shapes and sizes, and when it comes to genitalia, these same variations apply just as much to women as it does to men, whether some on the distaff side want to admit it or not.

 

I'll say no more about this, as my point has been made, and those of you with your knickers in a knot over it can go back to squealing in outrage to your heart's content...

[St. Augustine 20]

She Says: Size to me isn't important. I keep telling my other half that I have no problem with his size. We have talked about it and as he stated in his post above, I really feel that if the man was too long it would be very painful for me. I don't have a lot of depthness in that area and if the man was longer than the average it would hurt too much. My man and I have tried different positions and we have learned that he can not go the full length as it hits up against spots and hurts. As for thicker around I am not sure what that would feel like for me as my man fills me and makes me feel wonderful.

 

Why men are so concerned about size has always disturbed me. Size isn't all that important. Even if the woman you are with is, what I've seen labeled, as large.. what you do with it and how you use it makes the size unimportant.

 

I was married for 18 years to a man who is smaller than average. Not only short but very slender. I spent all those years with a man who was not average, but didn't know what to do with it either. His idea of sex was to wham, bam, thank you mam, roll over and go to sleep leaving me with an emptiness and sometimes crying. For years I thought I was frigid. Needless to say, sex for me, was not fun or enjoyable.

 

After my exhusband and I separated I met my other half. I had my first orgasm when we had intercourse for the first time. He is average and he is enough for me. He knows what he is doing and has great stamina. I always have multiple orgasms when we make love. Great experience for me.

 

For me, ability is what is important. I would hope that my other half would believe me when I say I don't wish him to be bigger. I love you buddy.

[M&B 21]

St. Augustine. That was so sweet. Wow.

[lovers 25]

"As for the rest of the story, I can't speak to the veracity of it, but I find it hard to believe there was any blood drawn as the result of his length and/or thrusting. "

 

I can say that from personal experience, it does happen. We were with a couple once and Ken (my husband who is over 8" long) had that happen to him. The woman's husband had a really thick 4 or 5 inch dick and he mentioned that it sometimes happens when she is with well endowed men. I've also had that happen to me with a guy who was 10".

 

If you haven't had it happen to you, consider yourself lucky. It took me a week to get over it, and a week without sex makes me really cranky.

[teknurse 18]

I get to be a member of a club! The under 7" club! Honestly tho, that was my biggest fear when we started swinging, running into a couple who's female half was only interested in flagpole fucking. The first guy that my wife had intercourse with besides me in 13 years had one of the biggest damn dicks I've ever seen. It's not that it was all that long, but as big around as nothing I'd ever seen on a guy, porno films et al. To foreshorten this lengthy tale, he wasn't all that great according to my wife, it was just something she wanted to try. She asked me if she could, I gave my willing consent, and I'm the richer for it. I held her hand while she did it too. It kind of annihilated my worst fear about swinging the first time out. We're going to the same club in again this weekend for our anniversary, anyone interested?

[Guest everlast]

Bear and Bunny brought up an interesting point I think, although I have no scientific knowledge as to why a woman feels 'looser' (for the lack of a better term). I certainly don't know if that's just the way they are or if it is cause they've had a lot of sex.

 

It seems like a double standard, or as if it's a certain taboo in the world where it's a very normal conversation to talk about a mans penis size but there's never a mention of how tight a woman is.

 

I'm sure lots of woman like a nice 9 incher... but it's not much fun for guys when it feels like there having sex with a bucket of water...

 

just a thought.

[BodyScape02 21]

It seems I have started a new club without intending to! The more the better... I must say one thing you all kind of missed my point.

 

It is not so much the size that is an issue for me, as we have been with couples were the men were in the under seven club and had a grand time.

 

It is the issue of misrepresentation.

 

A man who is of average length but a great kisser/ lover is a pleasure to be with. For me it was more an issue of expecting the diversion of playing with a certain toy and being sent photos that represented this…then being lied to in more than one way. One was a horrible kisser to boot and was just wailing away when he got his chance using the hand on one of my breasts to put his whole body weight on. I admit to being spoiled (by my lover) and to shamelessly preferring to remain so.

 

Now that I think about it the two distasteful experiences were with single men. Perhaps that has something to do with it? But then again that is another thread to be posted (lol). Either way I think we have all gotten off the track of the original thread.

 

The gentleman was concerned he did something wrong by being larger than the couples husband, and wanted to know if size was an issue for some men (or women) when it came to choosing who to swing with. I think we all have to realize that the only relationship that really means anything is the one with our partners. The rest is just “play” transient and temporary. Her husband may well have felt threatened or you may have been too big for the wife to comfortably handle (anal or otherwise). It is their issue. Relax and have fun.

 

All of this is like a party with lots of toys to choose from and lots of people to dance with and all of us are looking for whatever it is we are hungry for at the moment. We all have preferences and those preferences change constantly. I don’t let it get my panties in a twist if someone doesn’t want to play with me. I may be too big, too small, too brunette or too tall. Then again…I may be just right! And when its right…its fun! I don’t make a big deal out of being rejected because I don’t fit others current preferences…

[alabamafuntonig 20]

How did I miss this thread! Well frankly I am usually relieved when I meet someone that is my size. If they are larger I’m just usually impressed. Everyone knows size is a psychological issue affecting a mans ego. (Unless they are extremely endowed 10+) us men always want to be the biggest on the block. Some men just realize they are not and that bruises their tiny little macho fantasy they conjure up at an early age of them being the only one who can please a women .

[M&B 21]

"All of this is like a party with lots of toys to choose from and lots of people to dance with and all of us are looking for whatever it is we are hungry for at the moment. We all have preferences and those preferences change constantly. I don’t let it get my panties in a twist if someone doesn’t want to play with me. I may be too big, too small, too brunette or too tall. Then again…I may be just right! And when its right…its fun! I don’t make a big deal out of being rejected because I don’t fit others current preferences…"

 

That is the best way of saying it I have read yet.. It's fun!

 

Individual preferences are very personal and very individual, not to be too redundant. No one has a right to tell another that their own personal preference is wrong. Personal preferences are ALWAYS right.

 

And hey, if Mrs BodyScape02 wants to occasionally stray onto my side of the tracks and play with an Under 7 Club member, it just might be my pleasure to welcome her.

[BodyScape02 21]

And hey, if Mrs BodyScape02 wants to occasionally stray onto my side of the tracks and play with an Under 7 Club member, it just might be my pleasure to welcome her.

 

A great kisser is always appreciated.

 

Just to allow everyone to laugh at all this I will share my favorite joke(s). The first part I heard somewhere, the second and third...I made up. It puts it all in perspective though. PS give me credit if you use these anywhere …

 

With affection ,

~Cat of Bodyscape02

 

 

*Three words for very very small?

~Is it in?

 

 

*One word for very large?

~OUCH!

 

* Three words for just purffect?

~Oh ...my...GOD...(repeated over and over and over)