Accepting chats from others

[exploringRM 305]

Every so many days I receive a chat request on SLS from a profile I am not familiar with. I'll look at the profile and decide if I want to accept. If not I'll let it time out. Usually I decide based on 1)does the profile have pictures, 2) are they reasonably close in distance, and 3) is there a match based on profile information?

 

There are a few times where I have just accepted, but more times that not it is one of the following:

 

- A couples profile but the male is the only one who plays (with permission of course!)

 

- The male half of a couple that is interested in meeting, but wants to explore HIS bi-side (I am straight and listed that way)

 

- A couple (or 1/2) that wants to exchange pictures on Yahoo for a variety of lame reasons why they have no pics on the profile.

 

-Someone who chatted us up 2 months ago (forgetting that), and the chat goes almost word for word as the last time (usually revolving around what they want to do with my wife).

 

What's your experience. Do you get these chat requests? Do you accept them? Has it ever worked out where you meet?

[The Fuse 1,012]

I have SLS chat turned off. 'Nuff said.

[MN Tom 251]

I have Swing Lifestyle chat turned off. 'Nuff said.

 

Yeah we second that. We don't have ours off, all we do though is quick check their profile and after seeing that it's yet another single male from far away we decline.

[bbarnsworth 2,652]

I turned it off too. It was on for quite a while, but now it's off. NEVER has it worked out into even a meet and greet. Also, it's a synchronous form of communication. You have to pay attention to it to be respectful of the other party. So, it's very time consuming for what has turned out to be zero gain. So, no chatting for us.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I love to chat on SLS! If it's a couple I will almost always accept the chat. If it's a single guy it depends on the profile. A lot of times it's just being friendly and talking to people who are new to the lifestyle. Sometimes the chats go well and we meet up. That's been a mixed bag as it is for everyone.

 

I like to chat a bit because you learn a little about someone before meeting. I don't like it when the guy immediately offers to jack-off on cam. Just not my thing! I don't cam with anyone.

 

Sometimes I don't like it because it can get sexual much faster than if you were talking to someone in person. People have less inhibitions online, it seems (including me). I think sometimes it sets expectations of playing too high when you meet.

 

I have a couple playmates that I text or IM with and I really like that!

[exploringRM 305]

To clarify my original post, all of the chats I encounter are with couples (supposedly!)

[WhatisTruth 41]

Most of the time chats a flop. We have had enough success with it to warrant its continued effort...

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I don't turn it off but I rarely accept them. I do the same - look at the profile first and decide from there. I can remember one that I accepted from someone we didn't know and it turned out well. They were more hitting us on chat trying to get info about the club we were signed up to go to that night. We still see them occasionally and they are a really cool couple.