Is our swinger club fantasy possible to accomplish?

[husbwife0917 15]

We will be attending an on-premise club this weekend and would like to play out our soft-swing fantasy. We are hoping someone with some experience can tell us the best way to realize this fantasy or if it’s even possible to get others to participate in a fantasy that only involves anonymously touching and caressing my wife.

 

Here is the fantasy we are hoping to play out:

 

I take her into a cabana and close the drapes. Then, I blindfold her and tie her hands above her head. Next, I open the Cabana drapes and another couple (man and woman) or other couples come into the cabana and caress he body while I kiss her and whisper in her ear. We bring her to orgasm, and then I penetrate her while the couple continues to caress her body.

 

She does not want to kiss or be penetrated by any males other than me. Anything goes with the woman (or man). I do not wish to touch the other woman. Also, she would like the interaction to be anonymous, She does not want to meet the other couple in advance, so that leaves out meeting another couple and making arrangements.

 

To complicate matters, I am very heavy (5’9”, 240 lbs.), though my wife is beautiful and HWP. I am well-groomed, confident and carry myself well, but I am concerned that my size will discourage other couples from participating, though I have no intention of having physical contact with anyone besides my wife.

 

Any ideas? If we leave the doors open and people come in will they be expecting a full swing or can we set boundaries?

[fun4Ds 1,098]

Welcome to the Swingers Board, husbwife0917

 

I don't think it would be possible to bind your wife, open the door, and then begin negotiations. In fact, It might be difficult to get known friends to do this, although slightly less impossible. But, I think strangers (a couple) will be more interested in hooking up where they receive some sort of pleasure as well.

 

Is this a club with the cabana one you have visited previously ?

[T-Rex 148]

I agree with fun4Ds. How do you get the other club goers to get involved on the manner you wish?

 

Also, you are in Denver. Are you talking about a club like Scarlet Ranch? Some nights there can be a lot of people in the back with the cabanas. Many of them are dressed (which is a major distraction, as they are waiting for a show), and they are chatting, drinking, may not respond in the sensual way you wish. Mrs. Rex gets very uncomfortable in that environment, and she can see what is happening around her. If the club has a nudity requirement in the back, that might make it easier in your situation. But if there is no such requirement, which there isn't if you are talking about SR, it could get very uncomfortable for a bound and blindfolded person as it may sound like you are having sex in the middle of a sports bar. Now, some of the members here might think that is a lot of fun, which it might be, but will your wife feel that way?

[husbwife0917 15]

Thanks for the feedback. This is how it is in our fantasy, blindfolded, anonymous, etc. We figured it might be difficult to make this a reality because of the 2 way street thing.

[TheSwingerSet 205]

I think the only way to set this up and have it come out the way you wish is to set it up in advance. You don't have to tell your wife that you set it up, but by setting it up you will remove the issue of having it not go the way you wish.

 

I did something very simular for the mrs many years ago, for her birthday I contacted a few of our friends, and invited them to join us in a suite at a local hotel for some fun. I told them exactly what she wanted, I got the room in advance and gave a key to a close friend, I blindfolded L and put head phones on her, at the appointed time our friends came in and started caressing her, She was in heaven.

 

 

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[MN Tom 251]

I agree on setting it up in advance, at least the screening of couples or something.

 

We recently went to a house party that had cabanas of that sort lined up, there were a bunch of beds with sheets between them, and you could either leave the sheets closed or open them (as an invite for others to watch or join in).

 

If the person in the cabana was tied up and blindfolded, you would be a bit hard pressed to find someone to come into the room anonymously and feel confident that it was ok. Doable, but it would definitely scare off most folks (myself included). Not being arranged ahead of time would cause most people to look for a ton of affirmations on if this is ok and that sort of thing, and I imagine that would spoil the moment if they are constantly asking "is this ok, are you sure.."

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I agree with others that it's not likely to happen unless you do set it up in advance.

 

I participated in something very similar to this years ago. I met a guy in a class I was taking and we hit it off. He found out I was bi and told me his gf had a similar fantasy of being with a girl. I met him at their place and he had blindfolded her, I came in and of course it took her a few minutes to realize there was a second person there. It was a great time and turned out well for everyone. We all ended up becoming friends and even played as a foursome a couple of times.

 

If the club you are attending (and I realize this was posted prior to last weekend so you may have already gone) has a posted list of attendees, perhaps you can take a look at the list together and just get some discussion flowing on who she might be into. Then you can contact them and let them know her fantasy. Tell them what you hope to do and invite them to join you if they see you (and choose to). Then, it may happen, it may not but it will still be somewhat spontaneous (as you wish) and the other couple involved will know the "rules" before they jump in.

[slevin 1,374]

I agree with others that it's not likely to happen unless you do set it up in advance.

 

I participated in something very similar to this years ago. I met a guy in a class I was taking and we hit it off. He found out I was bi and told me his gf had a similar fantasy of being with a girl. I met him at their place and he had blindfolded her, I came in and of course it took her a few minutes to realize there was a second person there. It was a great time and turned out well for everyone. We all ended up becoming friends and even played as a foursome a couple of times.

 

If the club you are attending (and I realize this was posted prior to last weekend so you may have already gone) has a posted list of attendees, perhaps you can take a look at the list together and just get some discussion flowing on who she might be into. Then you can contact them and let them know her fantasy. Tell them what you hope to do and invite them to join you if they see you (and choose to). Then, it may happen, it may not but it will still be somewhat spontaneous (as you wish) and the other couple involved will know the "rules" before they jump in.

 

Absolutely agree, but I think it needs to be pointed out that trying to arrange this without his wifes knowledge is just asking for trouble. I know that isn't what you were suggesting Julie, but it had been mentioned in the thread, or at least it came across that way. I would only set up something like this as a surprise to my wife if she knew everyone that was involved and had already played with them. Also, only if I knew she wanted to play with them again. As a first time, either you go and just see what happens, or you plan ahead and at least setup the situation to allow it to happen (or not).

[husbwife0917 15]

Thanks to everyone for your feedback. An experienced swinging coulpe contacted us and offered to help us realize our fantasy. It went off exactly as planned. Both my wife and I loved every minute. My wife was in ecstasy the entire time and experienced female ejaculation for the first time ever.

 

Pre-planning was key, as many here had indicated. I met with the other couple in advance. I knew my wife would like them and she trusted me to make that decision.

 

All went well.