Why Do Singles Swing?

[ATAK 15]

It seems to me that there is already a term for it, even though I just found out about it recently myself (and I'm 36). If you swing and are not otherwise attached to someone then you're a single swinger. If you are in a relationship and have more than one sex partner, with your s/o's permission and knowledge then that would be a form of cuckoldry. Whether he gains pleasure from seeing you being taken by these other men or not, by his submitting to your sexual desires, he becomes a cuckold.

 

Do a generic search for cuckoldry on just about any search engine and it will pull up texts written on cuckolds and cuckoldry. polyamory, and infidelity.

 

My personal opinion is this; if you're having sex with more than just your partner, and your partner is not, whether you have his/her permission or not, you're cheating. If they know about it and choose not to have other partners, then I believe you should have enough respect for your partner not to do that to him/her. Otherwise it's all about you and none about them and one-sidedness like that will not last. It becomes a breeding ground for jealousy and one-upsmanship. If he is truly a cuckold and enjoys submitting to you and your partner(s), then that is another animal altogether and he also gains pleasure from the sex, even if he's not directly involved.

 

But opinions are like assholes, everyone has them and most of them stink.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

I would have to believe that most of the swingers that I know, consider themselves either attached or single. There isn't really an inbetween. If you don't have a ring but condider your boy/girlfriend to be a trusting partner and you swing without his/her knowledge you are simply cheating.

 

IT works the same if its a female or male in my book

[armympbabe 15]

yes, i guess each to our own where opinions are concerned. my s/o may not go to the clubs with me, but he does take part in private parties. he is more comfortable in that atmosphere and he always knows who i am with or not with. as long as we keep our lines of communication open, and trust each other and we both receive pleasure we're happy

[OhioCouple 41]

Originally posted by armympbabe

I am a single female swinger (although I am very attached to my soulmate and have his blessing) i first started swinging because during a very frank discussion with the love of my life, we talked about our real fantasies. his was to see me with another woman with the possibility of making it a threesome. my fantasy was to explore my bi curious side - threesome or not. Soooo, i got on the internet and found some swinger sites, clubs, materials, etc...

In my opinion you are not a single swinger. Not if you are very attached to your soulmate and he is the love of your life. That makes you a couple. Married or not. To mislead anyone about your cirucumstances (not saying that you have) would be deceptive.

I am a single female in the armed services - literally the only one in my particular platoon... and unfortunately at this moment am deployed - stateside-

Having some fairly good knowledge where deployment is concerned, I'll assume your significant other moved with you. Even though most deployments are not long in duration (at this time).

....he always knows who i am with or not with.

How do you do this? Do you pick up your cell and call him? "Hey sweetheart, I've just met this gorgeous couple at the club, their names are so and so and we are going to go play."

 

My personal opinion, if your signifcant other is not involved in meeting the people you are playing with, he doesn't know them.

I am a single female swinger (although I am very attached to my soulmate and have his blessing) i first started swinging because during a very frank discussion with the love of my life, we talked about our real fantasies. his was to see me with another woman with the possibility of making it a threesome. my fantasy was to explore my bi curious side - threesome or not. Soooo, i got on the internet and found some swinger sites, clubs, materials, etc... as I had more and more experiences, i was grateful that not only did i have the foresight to acknowledge who and what i am, what i want, but that i am honest enough to admit that i enjoy the experiences.

I only quoted part of your post here, but I would like to point out that after the first sentence which involved the term 'we' (talking about your soulmate) your entire post became a series of "I's". There were no more "he's or we's".

I also have another reason why I have continued swinging... I am a single female in the armed services - literally the only one in my particular platoon... I am a single female in the armed services - literally the only one in my particular platoon... and unfortunately at this moment am deployed - stateside- some of the males in my company see me as "relief" until they can see their other halves again -

Think about what you said here. How are you any different than the men in your platoon? Are you not seeking sex outside of your own relationship? What makes the difference whether you do it in a club or in the barracks? You all have significant others. What is to say that their reasons for seeking sex outside of their relationship aren't the same is yours? Are you not getting relief in addition to exploration? That is what they would be getting too.

 

You say that the people at the clubs see you as someone with a brain and not merely as a convenience in one sentence and then say you look forward to meeting new people every week in the next. I'm definitely no rocket scientist, but I have found it very hard to get to know some one in a few hours, "see them for their brain" and then decide they are intelligent enough to play with. Make no mistake, you are a convenience, for couples. And before anyone slams me, when you most likely won't see or play with them again, that is all they have been, is a convenience, nothing more. The purposed was served, needs were met by all parties and everyone moves on.

 

As you are the only woman in your platoon and the men can't fulfill your bi-curiosity, it makes sense why you wouldn't want to play with them, but their motives are no different than yours.

[Guest anthonyds]

Why would a single want to swing? It strikes me as a way more relevant and appropriate question why a couple wants to. You 2 already get, on a regular basis if your communications are in order, what the core of swinging is about - sexual gratification. I am new to this granted, and may need some education - BUT - I don't think I'm buying some of what I hear about it being about attitude and sexiness and .... It's about good sex - gratifying, passionate, sharing, bell ringing sex, which if I'm a partner in a couple I'm gonna be getting from my better 1/2 or I'm out.

Well, if nothin else this will stir up some responses I imagine.

anthony;)

[JusMe 15]

Well,,,,,, I came to view all the answers.

Everything from every aspect has been sufficiently covered. I seriously don't have anything different to add.

As Flori_Dan said, I miss the lifestyle as a consenting couple and after that everything else is either a masquerade or just simply boring.

Threesomes are exciting but foursomes are more stimuilating. I guess it is that thing called balance that has an air of comaraderie between participants that makes having sex with another man's wife while he has sex with mine very stimulating and exciting.

Maybe for some, a partner that enjoys the involvement in the lifestyle is easy to come by, but for me it is rare to find. In my wanderings I find many women like sex with different partners but some how when it is mutually sanctioned it becomes a perversion to them.

Sooooo, not being able to find a woman that really enjoys my company and truly enjoys sharing with another couple I am in the position of looking for a couple that, for their own reasons, enjoy the invovlvement of another man with a respectful attitude and enjoys sexual pleasing as much as I enjoy being pleased.

I have been invited by a few couples for different reasons, medical and psycological, that turned out to be very satisfying relationships for all involved but that was not in the area I presently live in.

Like I said,,,,,,, it's not original and somewhat redundant but an honest account of why this single male swings.

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

Originally posted by anthonyds

Why would a single want to swing? It strikes me as a way more relevant and appropriate question why a couple wants to...

 

We are "social" animals that's why. Why do you think sports is one of the biggest industries in not only this country but the world? We like doing things together, being in groups. Sex is just another place to do things in groups, to socialize. As I stated in an earlier post, I had more sex than I could handle...at times I was even overwhelmed and took down my public profiles...but I joined a swinger group and have joined two more since that post because I enjoyed the first one so much. I love being with the people, the sex is such a small part of it....the best part but small nonetheless. The sex is more fun there too because it involves more than two people even if the others are just watching.

[JusMe 15]

Hi HoutxSweetBBW,

Well,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,, you made my point. Women are MORE than welcome to the couples gatherings. However, speaking from a decent looking and acting man's view. There is definitely a double standard very prevelant within the swingers community. The majority of couples will not even give the courtesy of answering an initiated communication by a single male even if their profile says they are looking for all interested parties. I have had two couples, supposedly in the Reno area, send me the BugBear virus and the Klez virus as a reply to my offer to chat.

What was the point of that?????? When I sent them a respectful note indicating their profile said they would accept communication from single males and would they please see my Picture and Profile and let me know if they were open to getting acquainted and chatting about common interests.

 

I personally have known several couple who had gotten burnt by females (disease and deceipt) but still gleefully accept a communication from all other women. Yet, they won't even consider a single male quoting how they have been burned by them.

 

One could argue it is simply a matter of personal preference and that is totally acceptable.

But please do not compare a single woman's experience with a single man's, because it is simply not a valid comparison.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

People like to fuck other people.

 

John

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

But please do not compare a single woman's experience with a single man's, because it is simply not a valid comparison. [/b]

 

I was in no way trying to compare my experience with yours. I was responding to the last remark about why couples swing. I know how hard it is out there for single males. I'm really thanful that I belong to a group that welcomes single men as well as single women. They even welcome married men who swing without their wives....let's not start that discussion again...I know that is just plain cheating. I don't know why women even bother to get on the internet if they are going to talk to you guys, send pics etc and then refuse to meet you. I've met a lot of really sweet guys and had some good times since I put up my first profile in 1995. I've only met two that I'd say were "crazies" and only one of them actually scared me. If women heard more of the good stories instead of the bad stuff you hear on the news maybe they'd be more open to meetings. At any rate they shouldn't be out there advertising for relationships if they aren't serious about it. Just my two cents worth too.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Originally posted by HouTxSweetBBW

But please do not compare a single woman's experience with a single man's, because it is simply not a valid comparison.

 

I've only met two that I'd say were "crazies" and only one of them actually scared me. [/b]

 

That is two too many. You really need to qualify better.

It only takes one.

 

John

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN

I've only met two that I'd say were "crazies" and only one of them actually scared me.

 

That is two too many. You really need to qualify better.

It only takes one.

 

John [/b]

 

Well both of them were men that after only one meeting wanted to "take control" and make me theirs. I'm a strong woman and I handled it. I'm not going to curl up and hybernate because their are a few wierd people out there. Both of them threatened my life and it was on IM that they did it. I reminded them that the major ISP's all cooperate with the police. I assured them I'd copied and saved the IM's and would not hesitate to send them to their ISP but also the police. I also made a back up of my system. A lot of people are not aware that IM's are usually saved in a cache file for at least a week or so, longer if you don't do a lot of IM's. I hid the back up disks so that even if my computer were stolen there would still be a record. These two incicidents were months apart but in the same year '97 Since then I've had no problems.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Originally posted by HouTxSweetBBW

That is two too many. You really need to qualify better.

It only takes one.

 

John

 

Well both of them were men that after only one meeting wanted to "take control" and make me theirs. I'm a strong woman and I handled it. I'm not going to curl up and hybernate because their are a few wierd people out there. Both of them threatened my life and it was on IM that they did it. I reminded them that the major ISP's all cooperate with the police. I assured them I'd copied and saved the IM's and would not hesitate to send them to their ISP but also the police. I also made a back up of my system. A lot of people are not aware that IM's are usually saved in a cache file for at least a week or so, longer if you don't do a lot of IM's. I hid the back up disks so that even if my computer were stolen there would still be a record. These two incicidents were months apart but in the same year '97 Since then I've had no problems.

[/b]

 

Oh jeezuz, I thought you met them......my mistake.

 

John

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN

Well both of them were men that after only one meeting wanted to "take control"

 

Oh jeezuz, I thought you met them......my mistake.

 

John

 

I did meet them, then they wanted to take control and the threats came via IM's. and with one telephone calls too.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Originally posted by HouTxSweetBBW

I did meet them, then they wanted to take control and the threats came via IM's. and with one telephone calls too.

 

Not so rare. Screening involves getting to know people a whole lot better than verifying adresses. I would never swing on a first date, nor give out my phone, addy etc. if I were a female for a hell of a long time.

 

John

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

I would never swing on a first date, nor give out my phone, addy etc. if I were a female for a hell of a long time.

 

John [/b]

 

I had a lot to learn when I first started, but I'm a lot smarter now.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

yeah and ill be damned if i can get anyone to swing on the first date.

[Soulfinger508 16]

If a chick wanted to swing on the first date, I say, "Why wait"? Hell, I would go for it.

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

Originally posted by Soulfinger508

If a chick wanted to swing on the first date, I say, "Why wait"? Hell, I would go for it.

 

Oh, I can't lie. I have and do swing on a first date. I play that by ear. If I'm extremely comfortable with a guy and we just seem

to "click" then like you said...I go for it...and the one's that I've chosen to do that with have not let me down so far. Knock on wood, lol.

 

[belladonna 15]

Originally posted by OhioCouple

I did a search and also scanned through about 7 pages of topics and couldn't find where this question has been asked before.

 

Singles (both male and female), Why do you swing or what makes you want to try swinging solo? Were you in the lifestyle while in a prior commited relationship and continued afterwards?

 

What appeal does swinging bring to you? What is it that turns you on about swinging?

Personally speaking, I've never swang (swung?) before. Over the past 5 or more years I've faced a lot of rejection factors first with my ex husband then with my extended family. The appeal for me is human contact, pure and simple. I need to learn to trust people again, to learn to love again. I didn't want to have to put all my eggs in one basket (so to speak) and jump right into an exclusive relationship. Friendship is about all I can manage right now but I'd like them to be intimate friendships.

 

Does that make sense to anyone?

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

Friendship is about all I can manage right now but I'd like them to be intimate friendships.

 

Does that make sense to anyone? [/b]

 

I've been talking about that throughout this string. The friendships that are formed among a group of swingers is the

whole attraction for me too. I now have close friends that I'd probably never have had before I joined these groups. I had become pretty much a loner for many of the same reasons you stated. I'd been rejected by my spouse and a lover and my self esteem had taken a big blow. I had met quite a few men from the internet but never fooled myself into thinking they wanted anything more than sex. I enjoyed the sex but wanted more. I've found more with swingers. :p

[Sportsterguy 15]

I used to be in the lifestyle, in a past relationship-and I still (very very infrequently) participate in the swinger's weekends at a local nudist resort. Truth be told, I'm not especially interested in swinging at all. I just like this board, it's friendly.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Originally posted by Sportsterguy

I used to be in the lifestyle, in a past relationship-and I still (very very infrequently) participate in the swinger's weekends at a local nudist resort. Truth be told, I'm not especially interested in swinging at all. I just like this board, it's friendly.

 

From what I read I'm more celibant than catholic priests. That was a kind thing to say to this board and I concur.

 

John

[eddypasifa 16]

It could be that I am just addicted to sex. Granted I don't get sex all that often, but I do masturbate at least three times a day. I am always looking for new porn. I am always looking up sex related sites online. I also cannot stop looking at other women.

 

I have been trying to get into the lifestyle for a month already hoping that this is what I need to help with my sex drive, but there are no couples or groups that are willing to let me join in on a session. But I am still not discouraged because I keep finding new ways to get in.

 

But yes, my sex drive is getting out of control

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Originally posted by eddypasifa

It could be that I am just addicted to sex. Granted I don't get sex all that often, but I do masturbate at least three times a day. I am always looking for new porn. I am always looking up sex related sites online. I also cannot stop looking at other women.

 

I have been trying to get into the lifestyle for a month already hoping that this is what I need to help with my sex drive, but there are no couples or groups that are willing to let me join in on a session. But I am still not discouraged because I keep finding new ways to get in.

 

But yes, my sex drive is getting out of control

 

If you are married and screw your wife three times a day you are a good hubby. If you masturbate three times a day and dwell on sex (which is a prerequisite for masturbating 3 times a a day), you are an addict?

 

I dunthinkdo.

 

John

[HouTxSweetBBW 15]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN

If you are married and screw your wife three times a day you are a good hubby. If you masturbate three times a day and dwell on sex (which is a prerequisite for masturbating 3 times a a day), you are an addict?

 

I dunthinkdo.

 

John

 

I'd say you're only an addict if it interferes with your life.

If you can't live a "normal" life because it gets in the way then

you are definitely addicted. However if you can fit it into a normal lifestyle and no one else suffers from it, that is not an addiction. I wouldn't say you're very "well rounded" but that's another thing all together. There are many things in life that can bring you pleasure, like stimulating conversation.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Originally posted by HouTxSweetBBW

: There are many things in life that can bring you pleasure, like stimulating conversation.

 

I never masturbate without it!

 

John

[magnum 78]

Originally posted by OhioCouple

I did a search and also scanned through about 7 pages of topics and couldn't find where this question has been asked before.

 

Singles (both male and female), Why do you swing or what makes you want to try swinging solo? Were you in the lifestyle while in a prior commited relationship and continued afterwards?

 

What appeal does swinging bring to you? What is it that turns you on about swinging?

 

Well, for me, I feel into swinging just by chance. Once we got use to each other after several get togethers, I realized that I like the excitement of living a fantasy. I had wondered and thought about 3 somes for a long time, "my ideal 3 some would be FMF" I currnetly swing MFM. I am currently not seeing anyone else and it is easyer said than done to meet a lady that is into swinging and 3 somes. So in the mean time I am enjoying the life style as a single male and if I happen to meet a lady that is open to the life style, we'll cross that bridge when we get there.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

After a couple of decades of swinging its in my blood.

 

If I were single withou having swung before I would have difficulty with the lifestyle. Just because of the competition of jerks without knowledge that would make it so hard to say or do the right things. New single singles don't really know what to do.

 

They should be welcomed but directed in my honest opinion. If they can get through one experience they will learn. There are way too many single guys that think this is easy sex. It is so much easier to go get laid just by going to clubs or finding a hooker. I prefer to enjoy the sensuality of a couple when I'm haveing uncommited sex though.

 

SOme single guys don't get this point. SOme single gals don't either. DOnt know if that is even appropriate to this thread but its the way I think.

 

John

[travelman 15]

Wow, this subject has been debated a bit.. Well, here's my two cents.

 

I fell into the swinging lifestyle about a year ago. Seriously, I mentioned to a female hotel bartender that I was a road Dog. I meant that I travel a lot. She took it as, "Do you want to sleep with me in my hotel room?" The husband arrived later that week.

 

But back to the topic at hand. I'm fortunate that I met that couple/my friends in IN. They definitely guided me through a few encounters. Made me feel absolutely comfortable.

 

I have to agree that sex is a big part of the lifestyle but I can't understate that "swinging" is a Lifestyle. Sex is just one part. The people I know and the people on this site are some of the warmest and honest people I've had the pleasure of meeting.

 

Hopefully one day I will find that elusive swinging single female who would love to be my companion. I've been through 40 states and 13 countries..haven't found her yet...but i've only started looking in the past year and I'm 28..I'll find her or better yet she'll find me.

 

There's probably a lot more i can say but I don't want to get all preachy...Take care all. TM:cool:

[Sportsterguy 15]

I fell into the swinging lifestyle about a year ago. Seriously, I mentioned to a female hotel bartender that I was a road Dog. I meant that I travel a lot. She took it as, "Do you want to sleep with me in my hotel room?" The husband arrived later that week.

 

 

 

Dude, I am now going to tell every female bartender I meet that I'm a "Road Dog" lol

[Soulfinger508 16]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN

After a couple of decades of swinging its in my blood.

 

If I were single withou having swung before I would have difficulty with the lifestyle. Just because of the competition of jerks without knowledge that would make it so hard to say or do the right things. New single singles don't really know what to do.

 

They should be welcomed but directed in my honest opinion. If they can get through one experience they will learn. There are way too many single guys that think this is easy sex. It is so much easier to go get laid just by going to clubs or finding a hooker. I prefer to enjoy the sensuality of a couple when I'm haveing uncommited sex though.

 

SOme single guys don't get this point. SOme single gals don't either. DOnt know if that is even appropriate to this thread but its the way I think.

 

John

 

 

The swingers party I went to I came across a guy that said the same exact thing. He was saying that single males ruin the whole experience and set things backwards. He also said that the single males should use their money and go get a hooker. I don't know what spurned him to make this remark outloud, but to say that single males corner the market on being jerks is narrow. It would be like if I was to make a blanket statement on couples based on a negative experience. We all want respect and to have a good time, so why close the door shut and paint people with the same brush? I know at these parties its more couple-based, but at the same time I'm saying that there should be more openmindedness because we are all individuals.

[travelman 15]

Originally posted by Sportsterguy

I fell into the swinging lifestyle about a year ago. Seriously, I mentioned to a female hotel bartender that I was a road Dog. I meant that I travel a lot. She took it as, "Do you want to sleep with me in my hotel room?" The husband arrived later that week.

 

 

 

Dude, I am now going to tell every female bartender I meet that I'm a "Road Dog" lol

 

On a funny side note: During my first year, my friends nicknamed me "Road Dog" for the amount of time i was spending on the road.

 

During that year I did a job at a factory site in NC. The receptionist, a very attractive young lady, and I flirted with each other for the first couple of days. On wed. she asked some question in which i replied "I'm a Road dog"....

 

I swear she was ready to slap me. She didn't say a word to me the rest of the week. That was the first and the last time, up to the bartender in IN I met last year, that I used that term.

 

So now i'm wonder...How do most people perceive the term

"Road Dog" I think I may ask that question under the general discussion topics. Take care sportserguy:cool:

[nikki 15]

Well this is my first post in this forum and I thought that answering this question is as good a place to start. well I have been in the lifestyle since 2000 and I have been single the whole time. I have had many sexual partners and made many many friends. I started swinging to find out what i wanted sexually and where i could discover what i wanted sexually.

 

I had just left a rather bad and long relationship with a very abusive guy. In that time i discovered alot of things that i enjoyed but never had the chance to try. I found out about swinging and thought what better place to explore and find new friends.

 

I have done alot of things sexually and am still learning and with all the people that i meet i am sure to find things i like and dislike in the lifestyle and oh yeah don't forget the sex part. I was a big horndog and needed release

 

There were alot of reasons i started swinging and this is just a touch on them.

[magnum 78]

Originally posted by Sportsterguy

I fell into the swinging lifestyle about a year ago. Seriously, I mentioned to a female hotel bartender that I was a road Dog. I meant that I travel a lot. She took it as, "Do you want to sleep with me in my hotel room?" The husband arrived later that week.

 

 

 

Dude, I am now going to tell every female bartender I meet that I'm a "Road Dog" lol

 

Wow, sounds like you got really lucky on that one. So did her husband join you two? Or did you have a one on one session first and later hooked up with both of them?

[jusfun2003 15]

I got interested in swinging by the thought of having another man joing me in giving total pleasure to my wife. The thought of this totally turned me on, unfourntutly Im on the road now. So I wanted to explore the MFM experence. I figured this would be safe for fun times with no string atached and not have to worry about any long term relationship. I had the pleasure of being asked by a couple to join them, and we all had a good time with no string attached. Great fun and no wories. All must play by the rules though (very important)

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Originally posted by jusfun2003

I got interested in swinging by the thought of having another man joing me in giving total pleasure to my wife. The thought of this totally turned me on, unfourntutly Im on the road now. So I wanted to explore the MFM experence. I figured this would be safe for fun times with no string atached and not have to worry about any long term relationship. I had the pleasure of being asked by a couple to join them, and we all had a good time with no string attached. Great fun and no wories. All must play by the rules though (very important)

 

I just wonder how many got into it for that reason. Poll time? I see so many couples looking for bi-females. I personally had fantasies of threeways with bi-females, but the MMF turned me on much more. Not that I wanted to get bi with the guy. That was something I did indulge in many times just cuz my partner liked to watch it though. Interesting and I really wonder how many guys actually get into if for that exact reason.

 

I have tried to figure out why it turns me on so much and have come to this conclusion. TO watch the love of my life get fucked by another guy is so very erotic because it is like the greatest pleasure of tabooland I could give her. To give her a sex toy and wonder what she is fantasizing about just didn't do it for me.

 

John

[Leeds3 15]

This reply might be a little long winded so forgive me.

 

I guess i started swinging around 8 years ago, although at the time i did not realise that what I was getting into was called "swinging". I was 19 and at my then girlfriend's Bday party. We had just gotten together the week before and being horny teenagers we spent that week f*cking constantly. Well after the party died down and most people had left she whispered to me that she wanted me to do something for her since it was her bday. Naturally I was assuming that she wanted to have sex ... well i was partially right. Long story short... we went upstairs to find her two best girlfriends already waiting for us.

 

Now like I said - at the time - I didn't realise that what i was getting into was "swinging" but I did make the mental jump that you can have sex simply because it is fun and it feels good! (duh!) Since then I have played in the lifestyle off and on depending on what else is going on in my life. Perhaps more important for me now a days is that I realise how much I love to meet new people and that despite the phrase "it's all pink on the inside", its just so much fun getting to know new people and unwrapping them!

 

So that's why I swing...

[Soulfinger508 16]

Originally posted by Leeds3

This reply might be a little long winded so forgive me.

 

I guess i started swinging around 8 years ago, although at the time i did not realise that what I was getting into was called "swinging". I was 19 and at my then girlfriend's Bday party. We had just gotten together the week before and being horny teenagers we spent that week f*cking constantly. Well after the party died down and most people had left she whispered to me that she wanted me to do something for her since it was her bday. Naturally I was assuming that she wanted to have sex ... well i was partially right. Long story short... we went upstairs to find her two best girlfriends already waiting for us.

 

Now like I said - at the time - I didn't realise that what i was getting into was "swinging" but I did make the mental jump that you can have sex simply because it is fun and it feels good! (duh!) Since then I have played in the lifestyle off and on depending on what else is going on in my life. Perhaps more important for me now a days is that I realise how much I love to meet new people and that despite the phrase "it's all pink on the inside", its just so much fun getting to know new people and unwrapping them!

 

So that's why I swing...

 

 

Some guys have all the luck. Women like that are a rare find. When you do find one. it's good to hold onto her like a gold coin and try not to lose it.

[Sexygirltina 15]

I became interested in swinging becuase of the freedom that it represented. I wasn't interested in finding mister right but I didn't want to remain celibate either. I needed an environment where I could explore my sexuality and not have any strings attached. The lifestyle presented that opportunity.

[awider2000 15]

Id like to take a stab at this..

For me I began this because I seem to have a higher than normal sex drive for one . And traditional relationships dont really allow for this type of sex. Also the thought of threesomes makes me crazy lol . I think porn is a definate factor at least to get the idea rolling as in group sex, Gang Bang and DP . Also I enjoy being with people and to me this is a good way to enjoy them.

I realise this may be scattered but hey lol,

Mike

[magnum 78]

Originally posted by awider2000

Id like to take a stab at this..

For me I began this because I seem to have a higher than normal sex drive for one . And traditional relationships dont really allow for this type of sex. Also the thought of threesomes makes me crazy lol . I think porn is a definate factor at least to get the idea rolling as in group sex, Gang Bang and DP . Also I enjoy being with people and to me this is a good way to enjoy them.

I realise this may be scattered but hey lol,

Mike

 

I got into swinging by chance, a friend of mine asked me to join he and his wife. It really freaked me out at first, the thought of being with someone's wife let alone a friends wife. I too had fantasy's of 3 somes gang bangs etc. and I really enjoy sex and I was not in a relationship "still am not" and I thought what the hell, you only live once and this was a way to experienc a fantasy and to have good sex and a good time.

 

As it turns out, I have been swinging for about 2 years now and am having a great time.

 

I would still like to meet a woman that I can have a committed relationship with, she does not nessecarily have to be into swinging although it would be nice.

 

In the mean time I am having a great time and actually hoping to travel to a swing club to experience another "level" of my fantasy's.

 

Peace and happy holiday's

 

Magnum