Concerns about stretch marks -- do they matter to swinger males?

[wanttoplay 15]

Hi All,

New here We haven't had our first swinging experience yet but hope that changes soon!

Anyway, I know this has probably been brought up before but I really want your honest opinions.

 

I have stretch marks. A lot of them. On my tummy, hips and thighs

 

My hubby says they don't bother him one bit. But then I've heard some men are disgusted by them. Are they a turn off when you are swinging?!?

 

Thanks....

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

OK, so any man who is put off by stretch marks is one you will not need. Most men pay very little attention to stretch marks.

 

~Michael

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Very few people are going to care IMHO. Almost everyone has something about themselves they don't care for, and you definitely aren't the only one with stretch marks.

 

If it will make you feel more comfortable during playtime, I'd suggest dimming the lights a bit for a better atmosphere, and to help everyone conceal those self-described imperfections we all carry.

[Alura 2,774]

I kinda like stretch marks. They're fun! One can start at one end and lay kisses end-to-end on them to see how many kisses each one will hold. Then you can kisstrace another down the outside of her thigh and follow it around to the inside of her thigh and back north again. Then you can.......

 

Alura

[talltim123 69]

I have always considered stretch marks that resulted from a previous pregnancy as being a beauty mark and a tribute to a lady who has given birth to a child. For that reason scratch marks are to be revered as a sign of her motherhood. I would not be concerned about them but rather be proud of them. Men who do not appreciate them should be dismissed as persons who do not appreciate the real beauty of a woman who has been pregnant.

[LFM2 1,482]

I kinda like stretch marks. They're fun! One can start at one end and lay kisses end-to-end on them to see how many kisses each one will hold. Then you can kisstrace another down the outside of her thigh and follow it around to the inside of her thigh and back north again. Then you can.......

 

Alura

 

That gave me warm fuzzies...

[NCfuncouple98 367]

I for one really love them. I call them her "tiger print" When we first started dating that was one of her concerns. I thought i might share that with you just so you know there are people that love them.

[iceman7570 40]

To be turned off by them just doesn't add up to me, they are like a badge of HONOR showing a real woman. Personally I just consider them "speedbumps" for my tongue...........

[Swingercast 91]

Great responses that make me smile! Many of us have stretch marks or csec scars and found out that our men do not care, some turned on, and like someone mentioned above, if you run into someone who does have a problem with it, that is no one you would want to play with anyway!

 

Allie

[wanttoplay 15]

Thank you all for your replies and thoughts. I do feel a bit better now

[SsHubby 56]

My wife has been through 4 pregnancies and I can honestly say that I don't even notice them and I always encourage bikinis and all that on her because if a woman is attractive then she is still attractive with marks.

 

I am clumsy when I have worked on cars in the past and my hands has spots that look like Frankenstein. I agree with the soft light idea, but only because I like soft light. It just makes the scene more erotic.

[oc1234 435]

My wife and I have been nudists for over 30 years, so we have seen many thousands of naked men and women. What you learn as a nudist is that bodies come in all shapes and sizes and stretch marks are very common.

 

In fact, they are so common that you pretty much stop noticing them, and if you do notice them, they are not a turnoff. They are just a fact of life.

[FullSwing 79]

This entire post has made me so happy:D We have not had our first experience yet, and the stretch mark thing has been heavy on my mind. Now I'm ready to play!

[sweet_tna 680]

I kinda like stretch marks. They're fun! One can start at one end and lay kisses end-to-end on them to see how many kisses each one will hold. Then you can kisstrace another down the outside of her thigh and follow it around to the inside of her thigh and back north again. Then you can.......

 

Alura

 

Oh my . . . And I have ever so many . . .

 

As you can see, Wanttoplay, stretch marks aren't anything that are gonna' keep someone (worth your time) from playing with you. To my knowledge, no one's ever turned us down for that reason. What's important is that YOU are comfortable in your own skin.

 

Best of luck to ya'll,

 

=)

[AZCouple 99]

Media has too much control over our lives. What I mean is media bombards us daily with they conceive is the "perfect body" in ads, movies or whatever. Reality is, every woman that has had kids, will have stretch marks. The problem is that they start comparing themselves to models and actresses who either don't have kids or have the money and time to work out. Between that and the magazines using computer programs to erase anything not perfect, it's no wonder why women some question their bodies! If you ask me, confidence is just as big a turn on as body shape.

[liesto 17]

Just wanted to say I have never seen a ugly naked lady they are all beautiful in their own way.

[Chicup 41]

I must be a total pig because I don't find stretch marks attractive.

 

We all have things about our bodies which are suboptimal. I have such things, my wife does as well including stretch marks. I even have a couple of strech marks I found on my very inner thigh which must have been from when I was starting to get fat several years ago. I can't say I'm proud of those.

 

What it does come down to is being comfortable in your own skin flaws and all. Confidence and projecting sexuality is far more important in swinging than pure physical looks. I've seen it many times first hand where its not the prettiest girl who has the most fun at the swingers ball.

[Big Rock 173]

I have been accused of being "absolutist" and "judgmental". Well, this is one of those times. Any man who is put off by stretch-marks, or pubic hair, or saggy tits, is a wimp, pure and simple. Neither of my wives have stretch-marks, because neither of them have given birth, but I have had sex with several women who do have them, and it never mattered to me in the least.

 

It seemed to matter much more to them, because I've had two or three of these ladies actually apologize for having them, WTF? One woman would only have sex if all of the lights were out and we did it under the sheets. After a couple of sessions of "Rocky love", she forgot all about that stuff and positively bloomed. It was wonderful to see her come out of her shell. Her ex-husband had told her how disgusted he was with her marks, and damaged her self-image. Pussies like this don't deserve pussy.

[MN Tom 251]

I don't find them attractive per se, but to be honest I rarely notice them. Nobody has perfect skin.

 

My wife had 5 kids, she has some stretch marks. She also had an appendix removed, which caused a scar. Never heard of anyone complaining about them.

 

Heck I have some light stretch marks on my upper chest/arms from weightlifting. Don't think I've ever heard any gals comment on them before. Other guys in weig tlifting circles yeah, but it's more of a "war badge" than anything.