Hickeys

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

This weekend we played with a couple we recently met. They've been swinging a few mos, we've been swinging about a year and a half. It was overall a good experience, we had fun with them and would probably play with them again. But there is something my husband and i have been talking about that I thought might be an interesting forum topic:

 

The other husband gave me two hickeys on my neck!

 

To me it's not that big of a deal, just something that happens. I'm not thrilled about it, but not mad. It's not that I'm an easy bruiser though; I've never had this happen with other swing partners. I'm inclined to believe it was unintentional.

 

My husband though is quite annoyed (not like punch the guy in the face annoyed, but annoyed). He's not jealous. He feels like it's rude to leave a mark (reminder) on a swing partner (I definitely see his point ) and that hickeys are always intentional. He's still ok with playing with this couple again but said we're telling them, "No more hickeys!" (which I agree with).

 

As a side note, this couple has listed in the rule section of their profile, "NO Hickeys!" I found this funny before playing with them, now I find it hilarious. I don't think you should have to give that as a rule. My husband says my thinking this should be an unspoken rule is proof that hickeys are rude and not acceptable in the lifestyle.

 

So my questions for the forum:

1. What's your experience with hickeys and swinging or how would you react if it happened to you or your partner?

2. Do you have this as a rule? Do we need to state no hickeys as a rule (our only rule is condoms and no means no)

3. If you have given hickeys was it intentional?

 

We have discussed this and are not stewing over it or debating, but I thought it would be interesting to see what others thought.

[Big Rock 173]

With my ladies, it's not so much THAT you give them, but WHERE you give them. Janie works in the public eye, so no hickeys where they are visible, but tons of them where they can be hidden. Bets doesn't care one way or the other, but LOVES them on her tits. Hickeys are always intentional. How do you involuntarily suck on someone's skin hard enough to leave a rosebud?

[cplnuswing 4,713]

Interesting question, thanks for posting.

 

Can't say hickeys have been involved in any of our experiences. How we would react would probably depend on how visible the location, but it probably wouldn't rise about the level of aggravation no matter what - wouldn't be happy about it, but not spittin' mad either. If it's something a partner just did without being asked or encouraged, then odds are we would find it aggravating enough that we wouldn't be interested in playing again though.

 

Don't have that for a rule because honestly have never thought about it. It's probably not something that we would specifically list even now that it has been brought up since we haven't had a problem and just assume it won't be a problem in almost all cases.

 

Yes on the intentional, although it hasn't been to a swing partner. Anytime I have done it, it wasn't with the express purpose of leaving a mark, but I knew there was a possibility it could.

[LFM2 1,482]

 

So my questions for the forum:

1. What's your experience with hickeys and swinging or how would you react if it happened to you or your partner?

2. Do you have this as a rule? Do we need to state no hickeys as a rule (our only rule is condoms and no means no)

3. If you have given hickeys was it intentional?

 

I don't think I've had a visible hickey since I was a senior in high school. I personally hate seeing them on someone else. I don't know why, but just do.

 

I don't mind hickeys as long as they're not visible to anyone else. I wouldn't even care if a playmate left a hickey, as long as nobody else can see it except Dave or me. While I don't leave marks, and we don't mind them, it's certainly not a rule. I know when someone is sucking on my skin. I can tell them no.

 

I've never given a hickey that wasn't intentional. I knew it was going to leave some sort of mark. It's easy to get them though. They feel so darn good going on, but takes days/weeks to come off.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

So my questions for the forum:

1. What's your experience with hickeys and swinging or how would you react if it happened to you or your partner?

Zero experience with them in swinging. I have not had one since high school, I don't think my wife has either. I was not wild about them back then, I certainly would not be wild about them now, particularly if they were somewhere visible.

On my wife? I guess it would depend on how she felt. I would not like it regardless if it was visible to the public, I doubt she would either. If she was okay with I guess I be"Eh, whatever."

 

2. Do you have this as a rule? Do we need to state no hickeys as a rule (our only rule is condoms and no means no)

No we don't have it, never figured we needed it. Doubt we will make one, just deal with it if it comes up.

 

3. If you have given hickeys was it intentional?

Yeah, it was intentional.

[ClosetSwinger 112]

I have not had one since high school.

 

If I got one from a swing partner I would only be annoyed if it was visible to others. Next timewe played I'd probably half serious half jokingly say "no hickeys".

 

I gave a couple recently, never had before in my life and it was NOT intentional. I was biting, kissing, sucking his neck but I wasnt doing it any harder than I normally do (at least at the time i didnt seem that way). He was fair skinned though so maybe that was why. They were small though and went away quickly.

[ALilOEverything 901]

I've only left one in my entire life and it was on a swing partner! He told me to suck harder (yeah, you can only imagine where) and I did but didn't think I was being that rough. He seriously had a hickey on the end of his dick and I didn't think it was pretty. It was before a party and he teased me the entire night. Never saw a guy more proud of a mark before. I felt horrible but for whatever reason he was pretty darn excited about it and hiss wife seemed quite amused too. I think I was the only one mortified. I suppose if it was in a more obvious place or if they were going to play with someone else that might it would have been different.

[WildMiCouple 325]

He seriously had a hickey on the end of his dick and I didn't think it was pretty.

ALilO, that is pretty funny I would have probably laughed and joked with you about it too.

 

Although I do really enjoy nibbling and sucking on the neck of my playmate as she enjoys her orgasm, I can't ever recall leaving a hickey. Tam's the type that bruises easily and she has had a few left on her. No big deal, we just told our girls that we got a little too amorous with each other last night

 

Funcoupledayton, I too find it strange that they would have a no hickey rule on their profile. I've never seen that before and then he leaves two on you For sure he knew what he was doing. And if I was your husband, I'd tell them they better change their profile to "We give hickeys". Kinda let them know it bothered you (your husband), but also joke about it. If you become friends, I could see it as something you always joke about.

 

Let us know how they react when you bring it up. Or just email them a pic that says "No hickey rule, eh?" Let them sweat it a bit

 

Brett

[MacNfries 123]

When I read this, I thought to myself, "You gotta be kidding me?" ... but, you're as serious as a heart attack.

 

Hickeys are childish ... I mean really really childish, and of course they're not accidental. This is a silly way an immature guy would leave his "kill" mark. I haven't thought about hickeys since I was in middle school ... think I was about 13 or so. I'm with your hubby ... that'd be really annoying to me as well.

 

If you continue playing with this couple, just before you pair off or whatever, just act like a school teacher (one that teaches 2nd or 3rd grade), shake your finger at him, and wickedly smile and say .. "no hickeys, ok? Seriously, no hickeys.OK?" I think if you treat him like a child for just a few seconds, maybe he'll get your message and life around him will continue, otherwise ... IDIOS'!

 

Or, a second thought ... tell him if he insist in marking you, you'll mark him ... leaving your teeth marks in something he considers very important to him. LOL ... hickeys ... my word!

[two4youinswva 3,068]

He seriously had a hickey on the end of his dick and I didn't think it was pretty.

 

So, are you the "golf ball through a garden hose" girl?

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

So, are you the "golf ball through a garden hose" girl?

 

Sound more like "chrome/trailer hitch" girl to me

[yngcouple116 15]

I am all for hickeys but not where others can see them I'm a teacher and would have a lot of explaining to do lol.

[Tina and Bob 236]

I am OK with them but not if I know I am going to a nudist resort before they fade. I don't like them on my neck for obvious reasons, but breasts and butt are fine with me.

[MN Tom 251]

Haven't given any or received any in years come to think of it.

 

Wouldnt really care if someone gave me some, I could easily explain it as being the wife. Course I am self employed, so I dont have anyone aside from kids to explain it to.

I wont give a hickey though, not unless a sober person asks directly for it, which hasnt happened yet.

 

Ive had lipstick marks too, but those come off before going home post party.