Smokers vs Non-Smokers

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We are non-smokers and really don't care for the smell or taste of smoke. Generally when we look at online profiles we rule people out if they smoke. But, that seems to rule an awful lot of people out! We state that we are looking for nonsmokers in our profile, but quite a few of the people who contact us are smokers.

 

If you're a non-smoker, have you played with smokers? How did it go? Did you specifically ask them not to smoke when they were around you?

 

If you're a smoker, do you play with non-smokers? Have non-smoking playmates asked you not to smoke? Do you contact people who are looking for nonsmokers?

[Playful1 434]

I am a non smoker. I've played with plenty of smokers. I hate smoke and the smell of it.

 

Here is the thing...

 

100% of the places I hsve played with them, have been non smoking (be they on premise club or house party), and so the smell was never an issue. At the house parties, i even accompanied some of them outside when they had a cigarette (outdoors i can handle if its just 2-3 folks with cigs). When they went back in, they had a mint and several swallows of a drink, and it was fine.

 

If someone smells of smoke though, i do actively avoid them. the smell is awful.

 

Thankfully 90% of the folks i play with are non smokers.

[Chicup 41]

I hate the smell and taste of smoke, but not as much as I enjoy sex.

 

Soooooo.... I make do.

[Playful1 434]

I think I like you Chicup, lol

[WildMiCouple 325]

Tam's a smoker and I'm a non-smoker.......so we go both ways But with all the clubs or socials non-smoking these days, it isn't really an issue. Although it seems we play more with smokers as Tammy will meet and chat with others(mostly women) while she is outside having her smoke. Next thing you know, she's back and introducing me to someone she just met Getting away from the loud music and sharing a smoke and conversation has it's benefits And this probably spills over to the vanilla crowd even more for us. I can't count the number of times she's gone outside to smoke in a restaurant or vanilla bar and brought back a couple of party girls.....and she's straight

[Dont.Stop 339]

Mrs. DontStop used to be a smoker. Even since she quit she is terribly sensitive to the smell of it. We don't like it and just as soon will look for nonsmokers. Having said that, we do have a couple that we bareback with that do smoke. Go figure.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

Although it seems we play more with smokers as Tammy will meet and chat with others(mostly women) while she is outside having her smoke.

 

I have met and gotten to know more people on the smoking patio than anywhere else at a social. It is easier to talk without the music and often several degree's cooler than a room full of people.

 

That said, it is a bad habit and I am trying to quit, but it is incredible tough, particularly around other smokers. Fortunately, it is my only habit, well, ecept sex, which I have no intentions of quitting.

[Tina and Bob 236]

Our preference is non-smokers, but have made exceptions. If your breath smells of smoking then I do not french kiss. Heavy smokers are definitely out for us.

[bbarnsworth 2,636]

We don't play with smokers, period. We have no objection to a given person making a choice to smoke. It's their lives, they're free to do as they please. Equally, we're free to choose not to play with those that smoke. My wife and I both find the scent unappealing. Even someone who isn't smoking while we're playing is going to have that scent. Yes, this does limit the population we can play with, especially here in Indiana which has the 7th highest smoking rate in the country, but that's ok with us. We're not interested in quantity, but quality of encounters. Smoking reduces the quality of the encounter (not saying it reduces the quality of the person!).

[kennyg 15]

It depends on how much they smoke. If they are occasional/social smokers, it can be managed with a toothbrush and/or mint. But if they are pack a day - the whole body stinks. I can't get a hardon with a girl if she doesn't smell right, strong reek of cigarettes is included. So no play with smokers for us.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

There ain't no such animal as an occasional smoker.

 

That having been said, JoAnn indulges me my accepting the idea of inviting women into our circle of acquaintances who smoke. She finds ways of walking big circles around them. I would crawl on my hands and knees over a mile of gravel just to sniff a ripe female through a screen door so why would I let the aroma of stale tobacco slow me. To her, the odor of tobacco make an man instantly repulsive.

[Alura 2,773]

I have to agree with JoAnn.

 

I remember a beautiful woman in Germany who smoked and used perfume. The stench of the two odors together was horrible.

[celtic239 297]

I don't smoke but my wife does. She recently tried to quit and even resorted to trying Chantix but it didn't work for her. I even tempted her with the bribe of getting her cosmetic surgery if she quit (no plastic surgeon would do that kind of operation with someone who hasn't quit for at least a month and stayed smoke free for a month afterwards) but it didn't work.

She likes a smoke and that's all there is to it. I'm pretty sure if someone doesn't find her attractive because she smokes then so be it. We joined the lifestyle to have fun but mostly be ourselves and won't change because someone else has standards that are different than ours.

[MN Tom 251]

For us it depends on how recently and how prominent the smell is.

 

Some people (guessing they are social smokers or more casual) seem to be able to mask the smell quite well, or only smoke where they aren't getting the smell all over themselves and their clothes.

 

We can handle being close to them.

 

 

Others (most likely heavy smokers) reek of the smell all the time and it seems to come out of their pores even. No way to get around that issue, and it's offputting for us. It ruins kissing for us and that doesnt bode well.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We are non-smokers and we do and have played with smokers, but we don't typically go out of our way to meet smokers. Pretty much all the couples we have played with who are smokers we've just met in one means or another and we just really enjoy them, they are considerate smokers, and when I think of them I don't even think of them as smokers... the funny thing is I'm almost always surprised when I see them smoking (even though I know they are smokers).

[Powerglide 235]

I'm an on-again, off-again smoker. (“It's easy to quit smoking. I've done it hundreds of times.” - Mark Twain) When I am smoking, I always make sure that I don't smoke on a day when we're going to play, I chew nicotene gum instead, and make sure that both I and my clothes are free of odor. If we're entertaining, I try to make sure that the whole house is Fabrezed to a ne'er thee well.

[angelkin 1,326]

I am a smoker and the Mr. isn't. I don't smoke in the house and only smoke about 1/2 pack a day when not drinking. I can and do refrain if we meet people who doesn't smoke. We find many in the lifestyle do - at least one out of a couple. I enjoy the atmosphere of the smoking areas at clubs, less crowded, more social, less noisy.

[eroticlens 45]

No smoking please!

[Gentleman44 15]

From the profiles on Swinglifestyle it appears that a disproportionately large number of swingers are smokers. Does anyone agree, and if so why do you think this is true.

[TheSwingerSet 205]

We don't see this at the parties we host, I would say less than a third are smokers. One thing that we find is funny, I'm a smoker and Leah is not so when looking at profiles one of the things we look for is couples where the woman is a smoker and the hubby isn't.

[celtic239 297]

My wife smokes but I don't. But I think that there is now a trend within the general population that is moving away from smoking and that may eventually lead to similar proportions within the swinging community.

[a_d_xxx 663]

Does smoking/non-smoking effect your choice in partners?

 

My wife would find a smoking playmate to be an extreme turn-off - it would stop things cold. It's not as important to me, but I would definitely prefer non-smoking.

 

Anyone else feel the same?

[Havasmoke 29]

Having an extreme smoking fetish, I would love to play with a couple where the woman smokes. I just think it is so hot to watch a woman smoke! Interesting how social mores change over time. This discussion never would have taken place 30 years ago. People seemed more tolerant and less judgemental then, even if they didn't like the smell of smoke!

[angelkin 1,326]

From the profiles on Swinglifestyle it appears that a disproportionately large number of swingers are smokers. Does anyone agree, and if so why do you think this is true.

 

I think you are right and if I had to guess based on my own experience alone, I'd say swingers are hedonists - pleasures of the flesh like smoking, drinking, eating and having sex all stimulate pleasure receptors in the brain.

 

In addition, smokers as well as swingers go against the social norm.

[PB&J 1,086]

I hate the smell of smoke, especially when I am having a migraine attack. It intensifies the headache and makes me physically ill. This is especially challenging since PB smokes, despite trying to quit a million times, and having watched his mother die of lung cancer after 50 years of smoking. Who knows how many people have passed on our profile when they see that one of us smokes, and I can't blame them. He can try as hard he he likes to hide the smell and taste, but after about 5 minutes of kissing it's back.

 

Obviously he doesn't smoke in the house. On the few occasions he's tried sneaking one, at the far end, behind closed doors and standing next to an open window, I've almost instantly smelled it and yelled at him to stop. Or if I'm not home when he's done so, even if it was just lighting it inside before stepping outside, I smell it as soon as I'm in the door.

 

It's not that it's the norm to slam smokers now, it's that those of us who are repelled by cigarette smoke feel empowered to say something about it instead of shutting up and suffering in silence. I keep trying to explain this to my husband as well.

[Powerglide 235]

Back in the Hays Office era, Hollywood exploited the smoking fetish, and surely contributed to it as well, by using smoking as a metaphor for fuckiing. When we know that Rick and Ilsa are screwing each other's brains out, all Casablanca show us is them smoking. I wonder if anyone ever developed a train festish after watching North by Northwest?

[ClosetSwinger 112]

I don't smoke, the hubby does.

 

I don't care one way or the other if the other couple smokes or not. As long as they are not stinky and blowing it in my face I'm fine. Everyone we have met that does smoke is usually super respectful about it.

[Powerglide 235]

For years I've been qutting and then falling off the wagon and then quitting and so on. But I never smoke around playmates. Nicotene gum solves a lot of problems.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

If you're a non-smoker, have you played with smokers? How did it go? Did you specifically ask them not to smoke when they were around you?

 

 

We're both non-smokers and we've played with a few smokers but the majority of playmates were non-smokers (to my knowledge). I think the powerfulness of the stench depends on how much they smoke and what type of cigarette they smoke. One time, I actually got used to kissing a smoker but that was a long time ago and I prefer a nice clean mouth now. Mr. Sun prefers non-smokers, too, but he's not too picky as long as he's having fun. We wouldn't ask someone to not smoke unless they wanted to do it in our car or home...which no one has done. I will say that since our city doesn't allow smoking insides public buildings, non-smokers tend to hang out inside while smokers go outside and form their group.

 

With that said, the cum of a smoker is not pleasant to me, which I was recently reminded of and I'll have to keep that in mind for future playmates.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Well, it's been nearly 2 years since I started this thread! Time flies.

 

In that time we have played with quite a few smokers. In fact, one of our favorite playmates is a smoker. That being said I really wish that wasn't the case! It does smell and I worry about peoples' health. Recently we played with someone and had a lot of fun, we found out soon after they quit smoking and we were so happy.

 

The playtime itself is really fine. It's the parties where everyone is smoking and the general hanging out times that are more the problem.

 

So, as of now, we prefer non-smokers, but if there is an attraction we don't really hesitate to play with smokers.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I'd say parties are when it bugs me most. Our local social has a separate smoking room and some people spend the whole night in there.

[CaptainFantasmo 15]

My husband and I are non-smokers. However, I do use an electronic cigarette. There is no smell or smoke or anything with this. I can use it in the same room with my children without any ill effects. The "smoke" is actually just water vapor, and what I inhale is the vapor with some flavoring and nicotine. I quit smoking a long time ago, but that urge to smoke never left me. With that said, we definitely prefer non-smokers, but it's not a deal breaker, as long as they don't reek of cigarettes. There's a big difference between a person who smokes inside the house all the time and a person who only smokes outdoors. It's that nasty stale cigarette smoke smell that we can't deal with.

[km34 672]

We are both non-smokers. We have played with smokers, and have no real problem with it. I sometimes have allergy issues when it comes to smoke so there are some nights where smokers are definite noes, but most times it isn't too bad.

[Mimigirl 23]

It depends on how much they smoke. I can taste it on the penis of a man that is a heavy smoker. I usually give the Mr. the sign and he politely let's them know we are done. If I can't taste it on their penis, and can't taste of too much on their mouth, then I am good. The Mr. nixed our last play partner from any future fun because he (the Mr.) could taste the smoke in my mouth after I finished. We now search for only non-smokers. I'm fine with that.

[Chicup 41]

I hate the smell and taste of smoke, but not as much as I enjoy sex.

 

Soooooo.... I make do.

 

We have backed off from this one a little. For me, she would have to be really my type for me to overlook smoking. As a life long non-smoker is just seems gross.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

We're both really sensitive to the smell that lingers around even light smokers and seeps out of heavy smokers, which makes it tough to feel much attraction. Theoretically, though, I'm not opposed but Mr. Doe is very much anti-smoker.

[losAmantes 318]

This is a non issue, if smoking is deal breaker, just say so.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I'm a non smoker who prefers non smokers. I can get past the smell but it's the taste when I'm kissing her that is not my favorite thing. I won't reject a smoker but my best experiences are with non smokers.

[cpleply 15]

We are both smokers and rude smokers piss US off. We get as far away from people as we can if we really need one. We are in the process of trying to cut back on the verge of quitting. We are able to go most of the night around non-smokers with out lighting up. We both carry breath spray and cologne/perfume just in case.

 

As the male half of this couple, I wish just as many people (women) cared as much about other odors that might be found lol

[Tobacouple 111]

We've been smoke free ourselves for 17 years. Both of us can't stand to be around smoke or in close contact with those that do. I really do believe us reformed smokers are the least tolerate. Smoking is a definite deal breaker for us.

[Fours Company 169]

Neither of us are drinkers or smokers and while we don't care if others drink around us, we do have a no-smoker preference in our SLS profile. We have in the past been with couples who were smokers and they respected our desire and not smoked around us, even in their own house.

 

That being said, we are still sensitive enough to the lingering effects of smoke and having a relative who does, we know that it permeates everything around them even when they are not smoking as well as ourselves after a visit. So there is the matter of close contact and having known a woman before who was a heavy user, it was quite frankly like kissing an ashtray.

 

But we sometimes wonder if we are being too picky that and otherwise compatible couples are passing on our profile just because of it even if they were to respect are wishes and just not smoke around us.

 

Curious if other non-smokers limit themselves this way or are you willing to meet/play with smokers as long as they respect your wishes.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

If I can remember, when we first started swinging, we passed on smokers whenever we saw their profile marked as so. However, our first swap was at a party and the wife smoked. Mr. Sun didn't like the cigarette taste but we understood that if we opened ourselves to smokers, our possibilities increased. So far, the majority of our swaps have been with non-smokers, as far as we know or they were really good at covering up the smell and taste. But, within the year, we did meet a couple that smoked...this time, it was the husband that heavily smoked. Although he is great, I can't get over the taste especially when I perform oral on him. More than likely, we'll take them on an "as-is" situation and determine on each individual couple. If they are heavy smokers, we'll pass. If they are light smokers, then perhaps. lol, did any of that make sense??

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We also have a preference for non-smokers, but it's not a deal-breaker by any means. Some of our best friends and playmates have been smokers. Some of them we forget they are smokers until we catch them light up then it's like "I didn't know you were a smoker...oh wait yes I did." As long as people are respectful about it, we don't have a problem with it. Most of our smoker friends don't evens smoke in their OWN houses, which is part of why it's easy to not realize they smoke (they don't have that constant smell). That said, if someone smells like an ashtray, we'll take a pass. If they can't put their cigarette (real or electronic) down long enough to have a conversation, we'll pass.

[cpl36996 91]

Well thanks god for the new E-cigarette or vapor cigarette were there's not smell or taste my wife really appreciate it the new me, specially when I don't missed a conversation when I used to go and have a cigarette

[exploringRM 305]

From an online perspective it's pretty much a deal breaker. Don't like the smell, the taste and the need to leave to light up. Meeting st a club we don't ask so if they hide it, it may not be s deal breaker.

[asncpl 728]

We have preference for non-smokers but not a deal breaker if they hide it well and don't smell like a chimney. We usually meet people in person at private events so it's easier to gauge from talking to them and seeing if they need to step out to smoke every 10 minutes.

[angelkin 1,326]

As a smoker, we will often pass on a profile of those seeking non-smokers...but just as often, we are contacted by those people who later state it's not a big deal.

 

I am a very polite smoker and can go hours without a smoke. I don't smoke in my own house and wouldn't at another couple's home. I I am cognizant of the smell and taste - I carry a toothbrush to parties in an effort not to taste like an ashtray...unless I am playing with other smokers

 

So to answer the OP's question, don't let it be a deal breaker - you really might be missing out. If it's the only thing in the "no" column, why not take it on a case by case basis ?

[Chicup 41]

In a hot tub, nude with a nude woman, whos squirming on my lap, playing with my Mr. Happy, etc.

 

"I need a cigarette break."

 

 

I'm still not sure if she was blowing me off (at a rather odd time to) or serious.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

In a hot tub, nude with a nude woman, whos squirming on my lap, playing with my Mr. Happy, etc.

 

"I need a cigarette break."

 

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I'm still not sure if she was blowing me off (at a rather odd time to) or serious.

 

Did she come back? Because that would give your answer.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

Disclosure: I am a smoker - attempting to reform.........again. I am a polite smoker and will not smoke around no smokers, but as a smoker, I know if I go to the smoking pit I come back smelling of smoke, even if I don't smoke one myself.

 

Any preference you have should be a deal breaker if is something you cannot tolerate.

 

If you REALLY dislike smoking, smokers breath, smoke breaks etc. Then make it a deal breaker. I personally would prefer someone that had a serious issue with smoking not trying to tolerate it. It can just zaps the fun out of things if I feel like some is tolerating it.

 

If on the other hand it is a preference, you prefer non-smokers but polite smokers are okay, then run with it. It will open up your options a bit more, though there seem to be less of us smokers all the time. I think if I every manage to quit I will go with non-smoking preference because I have quit in the past but being around smokers it is just to easy to light up when offered (I really like smoking, believe it or not). So it may be better for me to avoid it altogether if I ever get there.