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Is anyone married to a 100% straight girl?

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All I need to do is talk about her doing anything with a woman, and I kill the mood. I have been married 7 years and never bring it up. She put it to me this way "How would you like me to start talking about you sucking a cock or something, would you like that?". Looking at it from that point of view and putting myself in her shoes I get it. She says she isn't, and I've never seen her even a little curious. Lesbian porn is a turn-off for her; once again, if she put on gay porn, how would I feel?

 

I'm totally in love with her and don't want to turn her off. Keep in mind I don't want her to do anything she doesn't want. If it ain't broke don't fix it.

 

Is anyone else in a marriage with a 100% straight girl?

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(waves hand) me me me! My wife is possibly the most heterosexual person I've ever met. She can and does appreciate the female form, and readily recognizes an attractive woman. But, she has zero...and I mean _zero_...interest in playing with other women. We've talked about it, and it's not that she's repulsed; she just doesn't have any attraction that way. She's has zero issue with people who are bi or homosexual. Doesn't matter one bit to her. She just isn't at all non-hetero herself.

 

If your wife isn't interested, then drop it. Forget about it. Be ecstatic for what you have. I certainly am.

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I'm very happy. Just wanted to know if anyone else knew of such a rare enomally.

 

I think it's pretty common :)

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Laura has no interest in women, never has.

 

She is good at picking them out for me though. :D

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We're talking to a couple now and they are both straight. No big deal. Girl/girl play isn't a requirement for us even though Mrs is bi. I laugh it off and say "Hey, at least this time I won't have to share the pussy with my wife!"

 

Appreciate what you've got: A wife who is into swinging. A lot of guys would kill to be in your shoes.

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It depend on what you call 100% straight. IMO being bi means that you are willing to go all the way with someone of the same sex and you are physically attracted to someone of the same sex. I the female half do consider myself to be straight. I have never looked at another woman and thought, "Damn she's fine or pretty, I would love to get into her panties", but I have been told by others that I am more bi curious because even though I will not go down on a girl or do anything that involves us girls touching our genitals against one another, I am willing to kiss, caress, suck the breast, and give a woman clit stimulation while she is being made love to by either her hubby or my fiance. This is usually done to get the guys in the mood when we are behind closed doors or a tease for who ever is watching when we are on the dance floor. Not the genital touching part though. I am also turned off by g/g porn. I guess it's because they do things that I am not willing to do.

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Maybe the same way a guy would be considered str8 could work for a woman too? Hmm? Or is that a whole new can of worm's . Not sure.

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I've asked my wife several times if she is attracted to women and she says no. She's told me a women going down on her wouldn't bother her but she has no interest in the pussy. I think there's more to it than what she's telling me :facelick: . I don't push her and if it happens it happens. She rated the bartender a 9.5 this evening and I offered to get her number :). I love sexual openness!

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I would say Natasha is 99.5% straight. She will occasionally nibble on a nipple or rub/massage another lady while myself and her husband are paying attention to that lady, but that's about the extent of it. Anything she does to another woman is purely for the men's benefit, and she doesn't do anything you might see as run-of-the-mill for a bisexual female (such as oral, petting, or kissing with a woman).

 

Boris

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Mrs. V. contends she is 100% straight. She still says she doesn't even think she could ever do any full swapping, but that isn't stopping us from doing soft swapping / group voyuerism, etc... I'm not the least bit concerned about the 'what ifs', as I think it's paramount to stay in each other's comfort zones if you care about each other.

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However is anyone else in a marriage with a 100% str8 girl ?

 

My husband is. lol!

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(waves hand) me me me! My wife is possibly the most heterosexual person I've ever met. She can and does appreciate the female form, and readily recognizes an attractive woman. But, she has zero...and I mean _zero_...interest in playing with other women. We've talked about it, and it's not that she's repulsed; she just doesn't have any attraction that way. She's has zero issue with people who are bi or homosexual. Doesn't matter one bit to her. She just isn't at all non-hetero herself.
Are you married to my wife??? :)

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Both of us are straight and both of us do not get off on seeing girl on girl action. Don't know what it is, but I the male don't feel anything. My wife will not go down or play with a woman, but contact during fmf she doesn't mind. On the other hand, if she is occupied with performing oral or intercoarse she doesn't mind the extra stimulation from a woman on her breasts and clit. We just make sure the other couple understands this.

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There are plenty of straight women out there. My wife is *at best* bi playful, meaning she can enjoy a kiss or light contact from time to time, but neither seeks these out nor initiates. She has no desire for any contact "down there" with a female. Seen it, had a ton of gals try to persuade her for it, and she still has no desire.

 

With that said, she doesn't mind them at all, as long as they take no for an answer and arent pushy about it after.

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I think Mrs. YCC would be considered straight by most women in the lifestyle since she has no desire to go down on or receive oral from another woman. Kissing and touching is all well and good but she isn't all that keen on getting oral in the first place (much is my sadness). She's more in it for the male form and giving. ;)

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Yes, it's very common. I'm not one of them, though I didn't realize that until we started in the lifestyle.

 

=)

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Are you married to my wife??? :)

 

:lol:

 

Let me check the marriage certificate...No, I don't think so. Maybe your wife is my wife's long lost twin?

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I'm not straight, but I think it's more common than people want to admit. Unfortunately, I think too high a % of those listed as "bi-curious" are really 100% straight with husbands who just haven't "gotten it" like you have.

 

I've seen too many couples where it was obvious the woman had little interest in other girls and it was just the guy pushing her to do it for him.

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Sadly, add one more. Sadly because we see so many couples on SLS and if both are not marked st8, its a "Go to the next one." I think we miss out on meeting a lot of fun people.

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Straight doesn't begin to describe my wife. Straight-laced or Victorian might be better descriptors. I can't blame it all on her upbringing or some of the television that she watches. There are hormones and physical considerations too. But we can still make each other laugh.

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If mine got any straighter, her back would snap!

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Count my wife as straight also. I asked if she would like a girl or a boy lick her backside as we were in CG one time, she said a boy.

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I'm not straight, but I think it's more common than people want to admit. Unfortunately, I think too high a % of those listed as "bi-curious" are really 100% straight with husbands who just haven't "gotten it" like you have.

 

I've seen too many couples where it was obvious the woman had little interest in other girls and it was just the guy pushing her to do it for him.

 

I totally agree!

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I totally agree!

I agree as well, and it's really too bad that it happens. I hate seeing people who do things in the LS that they really don't want to do. That's not what it's supposed to be all about.

 

Would I love it if the Mrs were bi? Absolutely (and yes, she knows this)! But I'm certainly not going to try to pressure her to try to be something she's not. If she decides to experiment someday, awesome. If not, that's great too. All of this is for her just as much as it's for me.

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I would say Natasha is 99.5% straight. She will occasionally nibble on a nipple or rub/massage another lady while myself and her husband are paying attention to that lady, but that's about the extent of it. Anything she does to another woman is purely for the men's benefit, and she doesn't do anything you might see as run-of-the-mill for a bisexual female (such as oral, petting, or kissing with a woman).

 

Boris

 

Thats how I am! 99.5 % straight. When we are with another couple, a boobie touch might happen, but that is pretty much it. My hubby has never forced me either. He knows (after 20 yrs) lol) that I am straight and prefer men!

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Getting hung up on "LABELS" in the lifestyle leads to misconception. There isn;t a class for " I love men but adore women occasionally" I'm voting for a category called Bi Playful....I like women BUT and thats a HUGE BUT I never consider the possibilities between her and I before we play. I do not seek out Bi or straight couples. I seek couples that appear to be a good match between us. I don't walk down the street and ever think "boy I'd like to do her" I never size a women up based on what I PREFER in a women and frankly don't give a rats ass if she an I ever interact sexually. That being said Mr Sav couldn't careless if I am Bi ,Bi friendly, Bi Playful or completely straight. His fantasy date doesn't necessarily include us girls going to town. As a matter of fact we NEVER seek or play with couples who state that as their primary interest.Labels are foolish and misleading but on sites such as this you pick a "label" deemed on what SEEMS appropriate. It's been said if you won't go down on a women you're still curious, if you've had more than one encounter your Bi, if you prefer men and women equally your Bi, if you and your partner only allow girl girl shes isn't Bi shes a lesbian ......seriously a confusing mess until you talk to each person as an individual. I've read so many "rules" on this terminology and frankly I am still confused. I am not longer curious...I enjoy playing with women occasionally But could not and would not ever consider a relationship with a female, would not and have no interest in strictly girl girl play and I do not share equal preference for women and men.......I LOVE men, the shape, feel and smell of them. I adore women and when the mood is right thoroughly enjoy all aspects of our play but still require, want and need a man. I've flipflopped between my status as Bi and Bi curious never quite sure what Label is appropriate. It is all based on the interrupter and without reading our profile the reader is left clueless and sometimes scared"Oh my god shes Bi and will attack me". My suggestion to those STRAIGHT people is to thoroughly read profiles, looks at photos provided, look for clues that this couples promary interest is girl/girl and ask questions of people you might be interested and IGNORE the label provided. You'd be pleasantly surprised to learn that 70 % of our play with other couples involved no girl /girl for many reasons but all our experiences have left us and them happy ( we assume)

One of my sons is GAY, he's had sex with women so should if he was on this site should he be listed as Bi ....hell no he's gay pure and simple. My point is that people need to be very careful about labeling others, until you ask questions you will never know their true status or the reason behind the posted status. Worse than the difficulties I struggle with is the whole aspect of men and their status. What a stigma they carry for being so bold as to list Bi or curious. Mr Sav is straight no shadow of a doubt and no curiosities but as the mother of a gay son I completely sympathize with the labeling , judging and discomfort of other people. What I do know is that sexuality isn't contagious, people aren't going to force their preference on you if you're straight and noone is going to make you play bi if your preference is otherwise....as a matter of fact if your profile is clearly written the subject won't even come up.

 

Frankly for anyone one of you who claims your wife is 100% straight but doesn't mind what a women DOES TO HER I'd re-evalutate that label. A 100% straight women isn't 100% sraight if she willing takes sexual pleasure from a woman but refuses to give in return that label is" selfish "!!!!!. For instance if you as the male had no issues with some guy fondling you and sucking your cock who you still consider that "straight behavior" just because you chose to not return the pleasure????? Don't think so. If you part take in 3somes with a 3rd male partner and have ANY contact without pause or concern how do you label that without others thinking your gay? My godness your penises were touching !!!! I read a post on another sight on 3 way postions and one gentleman posted he loved to go down on his wife while another was having sex with her......yup you got it ...backlash that he MUST be gay because some other mans Balls might be brushing his forehead at the same time.

We define ourselves how we are comfortable letting see us when in fact they are grey areas we ourselves can not define. Labels are deceiving and although we all (lets hope) try to post with honesty our actions are misinterupted by many.

 

Just some food for thought.

Until we have more options to "define " ourselves publicly on our profiles to others I'll be flipflopping my status between BI and Bi curious and will continue to hope they're provide a label called Bi Playful.

I am Bi Playful, I adore woman occasionally but will always want and desire a man. I can do wothout a womens touch but never without a mans.

 

 

 

Mrs Sav

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Oh you forgot a label. That "selfish" person you were talking about is called Bi-Receptive. LOL And I would probably fall into that category. It has not happened and may never but the thought of going down on a woman doesn't sound enticing to me at all but the thought of a woman going down on me doesn't repulse me. I don't care what I am labeled this is how i feel.

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