New to swinging and concerned with sexual safety?

[funstuff 16]

Hey guys,

 

We're new to this whole swinging thing and haven't gotten started yet. The one thing that really bugs me is safety! Obviously condoms for intercourse are a given.

 

I read an article the other day about how rampant mouth/throat cancer has become because of HPV transmitted through oral sex.

 

Oral sex with condoms is just about worse than no oral sex at all!

 

Don't know what to do... how do you all handle safety?!

 

Thanks!

[Alura 2,774]

There is no safety in multi-partner sex. There are ways to reduce the risk but it will never be gone.

 

Each must decide the amount of risk with which he is comfortable. If you're not comfortable, don't risk it.

 

Our strategy was to limit our playmates to those with little or no experience beyond their mates.

[Tina and Bob 236]

It's a matter of being selective with whom you play with. Random sex should always involve condoms, and quite frankly I don't go down on guys or women that have a high risk lifestyle.

[TheSwingerSet 205]

Been at this over 20 years and we have never had a std/sti, we also are careful about our partners.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

It's a risk you either choose to take or you don't. I can't say that I've ever encountered anyone within swinging that required a condom (or dental dam) for oral sex while swinging. I have to agree that would be worse than none at all (what's the point). Swinging includes lots of risks, many think of it like sky diving, there's a risk, there's just no waiver.

[sweet_tna 680]

Here's the thing. The only truly safe sex is masturbation. It's the only way you don't risk anyone getting pregnant, or exposing yourself to whatever disease your partner may be carrying. Yes, monogamy greatly reduces the risk. But swinging, is, of course, non-monogamous in nature.

 

Condoms are a good start, but they're not foolproof. So that leaves the question that only you and your significant other can answer: What risks are you willing to accept?

 

In my case, my hubby and I are both surgically sterile and use condoms for intercourse. Oral with any kind of barrier just isn't any fun for us. Therefore, we're wiling to take our

chances there.

 

Best of luck to ya'll.

[Playful1 434]

JustAskJulie said:

It's a risk you either choose to take or you don't. I can't say that I've ever encountered anyone within swinging that required a condom (or dental dam) for oral sex while swinging. I have to agree that would be worse than none at all (what's the point). Swinging includes lots of risks, many think of it like sky diving, there's a risk, there's just no waiver.

 

^^^^This, exactly.

 

This is a hobby that has its risks. Only you can decide if it is worth it to you. I always use condoms for intercourse, but I do not use them for oral.

[MN Tom 251]

^^^^This, exactly.

 

This is a hobby that has its risks. Only you can decide if it is worth it to you. I always use condoms for intercourse, but I do not use them for oral.

 

Same here. Honestly if we had to use the dental dam things for oral I think we would give up. If we were that worried about catching something, then we wouldn't play at all.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

Swinging includes lots of risks, many think of it like sky diving, there's a risk, there's just no waiver.

 

And if someone ask us to sign a waiver, then that is a good indication that they are too high risk for us

[pinkbutterfly11 16]

We just try and be selective about who we play with. I don't think there is anything you can do to eliminate the risk, and if you could, it would be no fun at all

[mde 4764 15]

If you are that worried about safety, you would be better off taking up checkers. There are risks involved in everything in life. Avoid people that lead a risky lifestyle i.e. drugs. They are your biggest risk. Also, you will find that condoms are not used by everyone for intercourse. Many say they do, but if you go to an on site club, you will find that very few use them.

[suburbanitemom 15]

We have not had our first LS experience yet (planned for Saturday) but safe sex is a priority for us! We are both clean and want to keep it that way in the LS. We were very up front with the male we are asking to join us and told him that he is required to wear a condom for all sexual contact. He was completely OK with this and said it was not a problem. I will have flavored condoms for giving him a BJ. Yes, oral sex with a condom is not optimal but to us it is not worth the risk to go without. Nothing is 100% but you can do everything in your power to be protected as possible. I just wanted you to know that there are people out there that use condoms/dental dams for oral.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I just wanted you to know that there are people out there that use condoms/dental dams for oral.

Yes, yes. Stay just as good as you are. I enjoy a woman give me oral sex while I wear a flavored condom just as much as without a condom. Happened again just this last week. After a relatively new sex partner whispered in my ear that she did not like the idea of semen, I suggested I would wear a rubber. It was an entirely new idea to her. She is happy to have a new game to play. And, without saying it at the time I introduced the idea to her, it is a safe practice.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

The only way to be completely safe is to not do it at all. Anyone who decides to swinging has decided to accept a certain level of risk. You can use condoms, you can use good judgement, and that's about it. In the end, you jump out of the plane and hope the parachute opens.