Unicorns

[TheSwingerSet 205]

Are they really unicorns anymore, whenever I look at some of the sites I see more and more single bi females. Has it gotten to the point where being a bi female is accepted enough that they are able to express themselves and honestly look for what they want?

 

A little back story that led me to seeing this trend.

 

We took a two year break from hosting events (life just got in the way) and we cut way back on our own play time as well. Well we hosted our first event in March 2011 and we could not believe the number of SBiF that asked for info on the party. And most of them came too Since then we have had 4 or 5 want to play with us. We have always been lucky when searching out the unicorn but this is way beyond what we ever experienced before.

 

Comments?

[slevin 1,374]

Based on what we have seen, the majority of single bi girls on the various sites in our area are fake. There are some that are real, but they are still the rarity. There seems to always be a few at the club we've been to. I still think that 3 or 4 single bi girls at a club with 75+ couples, most of whom are looking for unicorns, is still a unicorn

[two4youinswva 3,068]

You know, now that you mention it, in the last few months, I have noticed a lot more of the "newest members" in our area on S.L.S. have been single bi females. Since we don't actively pursue single bi females, I couldn't tell you how real or serious they are about the lifestyle. At first glance, their profiles generally look legitimate enough though.

[Coupleerotic22 1,419]

At a couple parties I noticed unicorn "herds". They seem to come together in herds of 2-3 and leave together. I can't say I have noticed them spending much time with anyone but other unicorns.

 

Perhaps they are becoming more common to see, but are more interested in other unicorns than couples, or even males. Now that I write that, I guess I would wonder if some of them are even bi. So would they really be unicorns?

[BigNikki 44]

Big Nikki here.

 

Before husband John and I met, I never went swinging. Too bad, really, I would have made a great Unicorn -- voracious appetite, and confident enough to not need wing (wo)men. But it was not to be.

 

-- Big Nikki

[MN Tom 251]

Well, we havent been around long enough to really chart a difference, but there are quite a few single Bi Females around where we are. Much more common than single straight females, although there are some of those around too.

 

To be honest I believe they congregate. One site in particular has quite a few of them on it, and most of them are looking for play quite often.

 

The difference (from what Ive seen) is that a lot of them aren't looking for couple play with unknown couples from the outset. So the couples that come into the scene expecting to find the single bi female will say "there arent any!" when in fact there are, it's just that a good percentage of them prefer to play with other singles first and want more of a comfort level before they hit it up with couples.

[TheSwingerSet 205]

 

The difference (from what Ive seen) is that a lot of them aren't looking for couple play with unknown couples from the outset. So the couples that come into the scene expecting to find the single bi female will say "there arent any!" when in fact there are, it's just that a good percentage of them prefer to play with other singles first and want more of a comfort level before they hit it up with couples.

 

See this is where we have seen a big difference, The ones who we have met and played with are looking for the safety a couple provides, plus it gives them the best of two worlds, they get a female for bi play and a male for straight sex and combinations of both.

[MN Tom 251]

Swingerset, that might be more aptly put than I did.

 

Maybe I failed to describe it properly

 

What Im seeing is the new bi females aren't very responsive to the couples who seemingly pounce on them the second they sign up. What they are responsive to is meeting the couple (at an event or whatever) and then playing.

 

The key to it is the approach. We dont even look for SF's to play with as a couple (mrs tom is straight), yet we've been approached several times. Yes, we talk with them (for friendly fun and also for single play for me), but it's usually not until an event comes up.

I would agree that most have told us they prefer couples over singles, but the overriding factor is the approach. Aggressive couples turn them off much more than they turn off SM's.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

. . . What they are responsive to is meeting the couple (at an event or whatever) and then playing.

This is so true. There are some women I regularly see at one particular monthly house party and I have innocently asked, "What's your SLS address?" I get, "pffft, who needs SLS?"

[keven 15]

Unicorns?

[Alura 2,775]

Unicorns?

 

Unicorns are single bi-sexual women, Keven. They're called this because they are as rare as unicorns.

 

Alura

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We've never actively looked for unicorns, but have met two at a local club. Until recently we only listed "looking for couples" on our profile. One had seen our online profile and knew we'd be at the club so she approached us.

 

We've never tried contacting a unicorn online, but have noticed there seem to be many new ones on sls. Some though are very young and some have tag lines that are a little creepy like, "stolen kisses are the sweetest" or sound selfish like, "make my every fantasy come true"

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

We've never actively looked for unicorns, but have met two at a local club. Until recently we only listed "looking for couples" on our profile. One had seen our online profile and knew we'd be at the club so she approached us.

 

We've never tried contacting a unicorn online, but have noticed there seem to be many new ones on Swing Lifestyle. Some though are very young and some have tag lines that are a little creepy like, "stolen kisses are the sweetest" or sound selfish like, "make my every fantasy come true"

 

This matches our experience on all essential points. You don't find unicorns; they find you.

[lotsoffun201 175]

Can't say for sure....but I have noticed quite a few of the supposed single biF's are really PFP in disguise (pay for play). This is particularly true on AFF.

[Dont.Stop 339]

Seems like all the unicorns (but one) we've seen on SLS are free accounts, so getting a response is pretty tough (I think free accounts can only send 5 emails a day). We've not given up hope, but we've stopped hunting. If we find one, we find one.

[Chicup 42]

One thing I have noticed is an increase in over 40 divorced single females on SLS. I'd guess they are real because their photos tend to be anything but glamor shots.

 

Otherwise it seems the usual single female "too good to be true" types we've always seen.

[BigNikki 44]

Big Nikki here.

One thing I have noticed is an increase in over 40 divorced single females

 

Women over 40 are my specialty, so I keep my eyes open for them. And whether women, men, or couples I really appreciate an honest photo.

 

I've noticed that many here on the board have real, honest pictures. (Not us, I'm afraid, although we do rather look like the picture we use, only with somewhat plainer clothes.)

 

-- Big Nikki

[BigNikki 44]

Big Nikki here again.

One thing I have noticed is an increase in over 40 divorced single females

 

That makes so much sense. You'd had some life, you're mature, with divorce you have to invent a new life for yourself -- so you give swinging a try.

 

And because you're now in that part of life where you're just more real and wouldn't fake yourself with a glamorous photo.

 

-- Big Nikki