How far will you drive to swing?

[danc694u 19]

I haven't found this question anywhere on the board. Maybe we missed it.

 

How many here are willing to drive long distances for a meeting? We get lots of online offers from people 100-250 miles away. We've had people offer to drive to us. But, we can't see the point in that either. Especially since we may not be willing/able to return the favor.

 

So far, every online arranged meet has been a flop, for one reason or another.

 

What distance do you consider too far? We've narrowed ours to a 60 mile radius. With exceptions for couples who live in Davids' hometown area. Which we visit twice a month.

[Stratecpl 19]

We have had guests from 100 miles away to over 2000 miles away, but we have had only one local single man who has shown up. He lives about 25 miles away. The locals are all "NO-SHOWS" while the distant folks usually arrive. Go figure....

 

Ron, Husband of Stratecpl

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We limit ourselves to about 60 miles as well. Although we have some really good swinger friends who live about 200 miles away and get a lot of offers/inquiries from the same area (Detroit). We don't follow up on those long distance ones for the same reasons as you David.. just don't see the point. If you can spend the time to travel that far we have some really good friends that we'd like to spend time with (as well as other non-swinger friends and family in the same area). The most recent couple we met lives probably about 60-90 miles away from us, but we met them in the middle in a city we both frequent often, so we figure that still has it's options without either of us having to drive the full distance very often.

[TNT 1,155]

We try and keep it to about 60 miles ourselves. We have traveled further, but only because one of the clubs we like to visit is 2 1/2 hours away and have met people there.

[PA_RACERS 17]

We limit our travels to about 60 to 90 miles. But hey if they want to come to us from far away more power to them. just yesterday we had an inquire from a couple that is 7 hours a way. We have more luck with people who live mor ethan 30 miles away. It's to easy to be blown off that close to home.

 

Marsha

[danc694u 19]

We've noted that many people are willing to travel long distances, we're just not one of them.

 

On the other hand. Many people won't attend a local get together. Case in point would be the N MS group that tried to arrange a get together this weekend. One couple showed, out of 275 listed members. We were invited, but could not attend due to holiday gatherings with family.

 

If this is any indication of how our local get together will turn out. As I told one couple today. I do intend to eat dinner, regardless of how many show up LOL.

[Alura 2,774]

Our partner couples have always been in Northeast Oklahoma. We do have some friends who were transferred away but come to visit us about once a year. We met them in another city one time. We have no rules on this and would travel a few hundred miles if we thought the folks would be worth it.

Alura

[SnittyKitty 16]

Hi David & Maggie - We live 120 miles to your southeast. That is about the extent of how far we'll travel. Because where we live, we don't have the luxury of a 60 mile radius. We're down near Columbus & Phenix City, and it's really hard to find couples here. We're lucky that we have some friends who swing that live spitting distance from us; under 30 miles, but their it! All other couples we have correspondent with are outside the 60 mile circle, including you & David, who I chat with from time to time.

 

We don't expect couples to meet us, but two have thus far and as far as 120 miles away. It was a good night! I also think it's about the character of the couple. If we tell you we're going to be there, unless there's some sort of emergency, were there. We don't go unless I have spoken to you by phone before we walk out the door. I give folks my cell number if something happens that neccessitates a change of plans. If their a dud, I just restrict their number!

 

Where I have family, or we visit regularly, we do include those cities in searching for couples, as far away as 300 miles, but only when we have other things to do other than meet them.

 

I get frustrated with couples who can't keep a schedule. I don't mean emergencies or a change in plan, but couples that just don't give a damn.

 

For some of us in Bible Belt USA, I'd kill to have the luxury of a 60 mile circle. And at the same time, I wouldn't have had the opportunity to chat and email your husband, who I think is a pretty funny individual.

[danc694u 19]

Originally posted by SnittyKitty:

We're down near Columbus & Phenix City, and it's really hard to find couples here.

 

Okay Snitty, here's your chance to work harder, not smarter LOL. You guys have a club right down the street :p Do we need to send you the address?

[Bubblicious 15]

What's the acceptable distance cpls. are willing do drive in the U.P. to mingle with the same people(cpls.)????? Where should central location be best fit for (all). that want to be (THERE)?

[OhioCouple 40]

I believe it is different for each couple/person. Travel time is very dependent upon willingness and the time available.

 

For us we would be willing to go the distance (meaning across the country if need be) for someone that we would like to get to know better. Of course we couldn't do that every weekend but with enough advance planning...we would be there. We do have some friends that live about 4 hours away. Generally we will either split the distance or one or the other of us will travel to the others city and spend the weekend.

 

I have noticed an overall trend that most will only travel about an hour or so at best. Generally those are the ones that live outside of a major city and have relatively few alternatives.

 

Lori

[naughty A 23]

anything over an hour more or less requires an overnight stay and so if you are trying to get to know them before anything sexual happens it limits your opportunities to get together for dinner etc.

 

We have friends that live about 3-4 hrs away too, but we met them/got to know them when we lived about an hour away. So now we feel comfortable staying over in each others houses.

 

It depends on how much driving you are comfortable with too. I know people who think nothing of driving 2-3 hrs for dinner or a dance and then turn around and drive home.

 

Naughty A.

[Handyman69 15]

As Lori said, if you live outside of a major city you'll have to be willing to drive farther. we keep our looking to about an hours drive. Does that mean we don't travel farther, no, but those that are over our zone were initiated by those that were willing to go farther. These relationships have developed to the point that we are comfortable to spend a night/week-end.

We look hard for couples that are closer to us as we are looking for friendships/couples that will get togrther at times just for dinner or cards. We do a lot of camping and we whould not hesitate to ask anyone we swing with to come along, as we whould not swing with a couple that we woudn't want to spend other time with.

 

John

[remox 16]

My experience is that few people will travel more than 2 hours to get to a club, but will go that far or farther for specific people. Generally, an hour or perhaps a little more is about right.

[Ashley 22]

I don't think you can generalize. My boyfriend and I love to travel and we go to clubs. We live in Phoenix and have been to clubs in LA, Las Vegas, and Amsterdam. Seattle and San Francisco are on the "to do" list as is the Lifestyle houseboat trip on Lake Mead. Part of the fun of going on a trip for us is seeing what the clubs in that area are like. We have met couples from Ohio, Idaho, Spain and Greece.... a lot depends on what you are open to.

[Flori_DAMAN 26]

Being in such demand I have had to restrict myself to an 18 hour flight time max.

 

John.

[Brit_Pair 62]

Originally posted by Flori_DAMAN

Being in such demand I have had to restrict myself to an 18 hour flight time max.

 

John.

John, you will be rewarded for your sacrifices.

[ciscosv 26]

I believe that a couple who is truly interested in another couple will not hesitate to travel longer distances if time and life were not an issue. We have actually done alot less lifestyle wise since we have moved. It helps when you don't have children. It does not help when you have a big family.

 

BTW: I loved a Munising trip I went on quite a few years ago.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I thought I would add a poll to this.

 

How far are you willing to drive to meet with other swingers and/or to visit a club?

[OhioCouple 40]

My answer isn't an option on the poll. We will travel whatever distance for the right people. We may not meet often, but if we feel they are compatible and we like them, it wouldn't be a burden to travel more than 1500 miles if necessary.

 

I say this because we have gotten to know quite a few people that live a realtively long distance away. While they may never become swing partner, they certainly are friends.

[Roxysbayou 20]

We live at least 70 miles from the nearest club and our favorite clib is about 120 miles away. We try to meet people within about a 200 miles. We don't mind driving a little to meet good people.

[oleretired1 15]

we put as our limt, up to 200 miles away but I think if we were going on a vacation to visit family on the east cost (1200 miles away), we would not rule out a possible meeting; we also live out in the middle of no where and find more people we are compatible with are further away

 

R of D&R

[bbcpl4cpl 17]

I'd have to say about a hour's drive away at the most - maybe hour and a half because with a babysitter we'd have to be available to come back quickly.

 

That said though, if it's the RIGHT couple, we'd probably travel further but less often...

 

Tigress xx

[BradAndJanet 70]

Four hours is about our limit for driving, any further and we'll fly or do some combination of the two. Good people are good people and we love to travel. The only two things stopping us from more of it are time and money.

 

-B

[Dani&Drew 15]

We're right between Chicago and Detroit, like exactly halfway. We have no problems driving to either city, so I guess about 150 miles.

[Alura 2,774]

Fifteen years ago some non-swinging friends we'd met in Europe were living in Phoenix and we in Tulsa. Flying was the answer but neither couple could afford both tickets. We made the agreement that each couple would pay for one-half of the costs of the trip. They've moved all over the country since then and usually come here. (Everybody loves Tulsa.) If they drive, they keep their gas receipts for the trip and we give them cash when they get here. The wife spends the cash in the gift shops and clothing stores in Tulsa while shopping with Mrs. Alura, sometimes at Miss Jackson's.

 

We've continued this arrangement ever since and have added a few friends to the list. The situation has never happened with"playmates." We would consider it with playmates if we knew them well, although probably not for the first meeting. If each couple is willing to spend half the costs of a get-together, both win... and both really want to get together.

 

Alura

[Brit_Pair 62]

Drive 500 miles in any direction on this island, and there's a good chance you'll be checking out your car's abilities as a submersible before the end of the trip!

 

We went for the 120 miles option, which gives us a fair coverage, but that would never be a hard and fast figure. If the people seemed worth the effort, we'd make it - or split the distance with them.

[Weezie 16]

We have traveled up to almost 3 hours away to meet people. The farther away the harder it seems to be to meet frequently. After a while we seem to lose touch. We figure we live in a prime place though. On swinger sites we can scan out to northwest Florida all the way to the New Orleans area and meet people. These make for nice weekend or overnight trips. We also live in an area where people like to visit us (casinos, golf, beaches, etc...not the mention the sex).

[CLITFRIEND 15]

Generally I will travel within a hundred miles. I live in the New England section of the country---and if nothing else---this side of the country have some really gorgous Scenic area to drive through. I do however have a very special female friend who does not drive. She lives in PA.--I in RI. It is almost a 5 hour drive. But she is so special--she is definitly woth the effort.

[Vjklander 138]

We vend belly dance clothes at belly dance, ethnic, renaissance and fetish events all over. We have been from Boston to Atlanta to Chicago. So generally, we will contact people in the area we are going just to meet with, maybe play if its in the cards. This is particularly nice since we already have a hotel room lined up Hopefully, try to find a munch. Very often we also find friends amongst the other vendors. Since I drive 65 miles each way to work, driving isn't a big deal to me. Generally, we will drive anywhere to get together with friends we have already played with. For first meetings, I guess it would depend on the situation.

J

[naughty A 23]

I prefer to find new people within a one hour drive...

 

but having moved I have friends that used to be within this limit but are now 3-4 hrs away... for them... I would drive and they stay with us on occassion as well..

 

Before I found the club that I currently attend... I was travelling 2hrs once a month to attend a different club. I am VERY fond of this club. So at that time we were willing to meet people from up to 2hrs away...

 

just so much easier to get together with new people without uh ? "expectations" if they live closer.

[birdman3377 15]

due to the fact we live in rural ND and there is virtually nobody here, especially playmates, we have to drive if were gonna have any fun at all. last month we drove 400 miles to go to an off premise party and next month will be driving almost 600 miles to go to SwingStock. Now, is that dedicated or just plain stupid :lol

 

hoping to find some playmates somewhat nearer to us!!! SOON!!!

[alabamafuntonig 20]

I would prefer to stay somewhat local 30 miles is good anything more than that really cuts into friendship things like movies and going to the mall or Lowes.

[Misty&Todd 16]

the couple we played with was about 20 minuts away from us and we did drive about an hour an a half for a date once, the couple were talking with now is about 2 hrs away... i think for the right people it dosent matter. plus its a chance to get a day or so off work too.. lol

[EternallySingle 32]

I have and will travel to almost anywhere in the world to meet with a friend or friends, but they have to be TRUE friends, not just people I know. If its just for swinging or sex, 120 miles is it. I can't imagine putting that much effort into meeting someone I don't know, especially with all the things that can go wrong on the road, like getting a flat on the highway, running out of gas in an area not supported by your cell phone service, getting lost and ending up at Crystal Lake. There are exceptions, but not many.

[OhioCouple 40]

Originally posted by EternallySingle

..... getting lost and ending up at Crystal Lake.

LOL, I've got to know, Eternal..... What happens at Crystal Lake? Is like something out of a Stephen King novel?

[Perseus 16]

Originally posted by OhioCouple

LOL, I've got to know, Eternal..... What happens at Crystal Lake? Is like something out of a Stephen King novel?

 

I think Crystal Lake is where the kids were at in the first Friday the 13th. Yep, spooky (and twisted)..

 

Perseus

[PyrosNButterfly 15]

Hi. Me and my wife are new to the lifestyle and still looking for our first experience. We have registered at SLS and have had a few responses, though not exactly what we wanted.( we would like a bi-fem and keep getting responses from women that are married and dont swing alone)

 

Anyhow, me and the misses were talking about things and the subject of living distance came up. Where we live(northeast GA) It seems that people we want to meet are few and far inbetween. And time is precious to us cause we have kids and a busy life. I know this is kinda run-on,:rollseyes but with the situation we are in we just dont know how far away is too far away. And being the kind of people we are, we dont feel right expecting the other person(or maybe persons one day ) do all the traveling.

 

So we want your opinions on it. How far are you willing to travel for a meeting??

[WesternSwing 504]

Single bi-fem, huh? Good luck, and if you find her recommend us too!

 

I guess how far you are willing to travel will depend on how bad you want that single bi-fem. For us, there are enough couples with bi-fems to play with within an hour drive that we probably wouldn't go farther just to have sex with someone else.

 

Mr. WS

[PyrosNButterfly 15]

Yea I know there a rare commodity. Its actually more the wife that is prefering this than me. I mean dont get me wrong, 2 women and me is very facelick . But she really isnt interested in other men for the time being and just doesnt feel comfortable with the though of being with another man. But she is totally for me and her being with another woman. Go figure.

 

And to give you a idea of the area we live in, there probably isnt a city with more than 50,000 people within 1 hour. And thats pushing it. Most are more like 15,000. We live in BFE for sure. The area I live in was best known for at one time for having large concentrations of moonshine stills. So needless to say I think me and the wife are going to have problems finding people to have fun with.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

The answer to that question really depends on YOU. If you find someone you want to meet that you feel is worth driving the distance for then they are close enough. If you don't feel they are worth driving the distance for... then they are too far.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We drive to Nashville at least once a month anyway so we wouldn't have any problem meeting up with a couple from that area. Oddly, we'd not be as likely to drive even an hour in the oppposite direction to meet a couple.

[cocpl2007 170]

We do not let distance be a limiting factor. Although we have not, yet, traveled across country to meet people! The norm has been a hundred miles or so, but we do live out in the pucker-brush (actually way, way up in the Rockies) so that is to be expected.

[happycouple256 15]

not over 60 miles, just to far to drive.

[VegasLee 1,486]

The first time that we met Julie was in Montreal, Canada so I guess we go to the ends of the earth to meet someone so special.

 

Normally, we only go 7.2 miles to the club. I don't like to travel.

[tribbles 490]

We don't count miles but hours....avg is 30-60 minutes (one way) to where we often go, furtherest was 4 hours one way. That is rare although in good weather, 2 hours one way is acceptable for us.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

The first time that we met Julie was in Montreal, Canada so I guess we go to the ends of the earth to meet someone so special.

 

Normally, we only go 7.2 miles to the club. I don't like to travel.

 

As if you went to Montreal to meet me....lol. That was just a lucky coincidence.

[celtic239 297]

I voted for 200 miles because it would be for a long weekend with the Mrs and the fact that we probably lessen the chances of being 'outed'

[VegasLee 1,486]

As if you went to Montreal to meet me....lol. That was just a lucky coincidence.

 

 

It was lucky because it was Hockey Season!

[sweet_tna 680]

I'd say no more than 1.5 hours. No point in meeting great people if it's too inconvenient to get together.

 

=)