What to expect at a swinger hotel room party?

[naughty_kitten 56]

So we recently got an invite to a hotel party. At first we were excited, but now we're a little nervous as everyone we've talked has said that these things generally turn into giant orgies and people may or may not be respectful.

 

It's taking place in a two bedroom suite and it's supposed to be mostly young couples and single females (25-40). Just wondering what to expect from this? We're really interested in going to meet people, but also don't want to get in over our heads.

[exploringRM 305]

At a hotel party such as you describe, play would be happening, perhaps orgy style perhaps not. It depends on the people there. Do they know each other already? That would probably mean things would happen faster and perhaps more wilder. Is there a "social" hour before the party, either at the hotel bar or in the room?

 

Typically at a hotel party, people come to play, but that does not mean you have to if you are not comfortable. At all parties we've been to, no means no as well as safe play. And if there is a problem with someone you can always talk to the host(s).

[Dont.Stop 339]

This sounds more like a house party taking place in a hotel room. And with a hotel room being smaller than a house, you could probably expect a "doggy pile" to break out somewhere.

 

No still means no regardless. If you're in the pile it seems you are allowed to touch until/unless you are told otherwise. Unlike a couple who are playing together and you ask to join before you do anything with them.

 

The good thing about dipping your toes in the water is that you can pull back anytime. Decide your rules ahead of time and stick to them. If you find a couple you're interested in, let them know that you want just to couple swap. If they agree, take one of the bedrooms and lock the door. Now you're pile-proofed.

[MN Tom 251]

This depends greatly on the hosts of the party and how and why they plan it.

Then, it will depend on the crowd, if this is a regularly scheduled event, or if it's a one timer.

 

As far as giant orgies I havent heard nor seen those as being a forced participation. Considering they are on hotel property, they still have rules to follow, not to mention the fact that they are inviting newer attendees who havent been there before. An orgy may happen, it all depends on the attendees. These types of parties dont always turn into orgies. And if it does happen, it's optional to participate. If not, just walk out the door.

 

Usually what happens in a 2 room suite is one room is for socializing, the other room is for play. And when it first starts, both rooms will probably be social until someone "breaks the ice" and gets play started.

 

Another thing to expect is the attendance might not always be what you think it will be. It depends on what other party options are happening that night, the host, what the host is planning, and a whole bunch of other factors.

 

Just go with an open mind and have fun. And if you aren't, leave and go somewhere else.

[naughty_kitten 56]

Thanks for the replies everyone. It's making us more comfortable about going. Also another couple we know might join us too. Just got the room number so getting excited again. I'll try to post a trip report.

[naughty_kitten 56]

So Dont.Stop was right it was really more of a house party and really more like a get together as there were only 4 couples there. We all chatted for a bit and it was obvious Mrs host was really into me (Mr NK). The hosts had a swingers card game where players had to do various things of escalating sexual escapades. One of the couples left so it was just the 3 of us left and we all started making out. Unfortunately it was that time of the month for Mrs NK and the other girl (whom we brought) So we had to leave it at some kissing and light play.

 

At the end of the day it was a lot more timid than we thought it would be, so all the worrying was for naught.

[MN Tom 251]

The worrying wasn't for naught, now you probably are a lot more comfortable with what may happen at a party when the gals aren't being visited by the evil aunt.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

 

It's taking place in a two bedroom suite and it's supposed to be mostly young couples and single females (25-40). Just wondering what to expect from this? We're really interested in going to meet people, but also don't want to get in over our heads.

 

 

Probably a giant orgy of people piled up on the bed. Seriously, though. While I've seen this happen, most often people still split off into smaller groupings of couples or larger. Just remember the usual rules still apply of "no means no", you will find that the "ask before touching rule" probably doesn't apply so much.