Our first bad couple experience

[MrandMrsBangs 15]

So I met this guy at work, and although I was already married, I knew he wanted me and I kinda wanted him. After talking to him about several different topics and even talking with him and Mr. Bangs, we realized we would end up as great friends, no matter that he wanted me... he knew his limitations.

 

He found a girlfriend, and I guess they had conversations about trying to be in the lifestyle and called us. We decided to go to their house, since that would make them more comfortable. He started playing around with his girl until eventually he was banging her on the couch across from us. So, Mr. Bangs decided to do the same to me. The guy escorted his girl to us, and she started going down on me. I was sitting on the couch, Mr. Bangs got behind her, and the guy got in front of me for me to --- well, "sing into his mic". This is when everything went downhill.

 

The two guys are very disproportionate in "size". When Mr. Bangs entered the other girl, she let out a huge moan. As soon as she did, the guy got softer than overcooked pasta. He was mush. Everything came to a halt. He then decided to try to get Mr. Bangs out of the picture and still keep the action going with just me and them two. He tried to coach us into several scenarios that no one but him was happy with. They went back to the couch they started on, and all we kept hearing from her was "yes, you please me, too", "there's nothing wrong with your size", "I make the same noises when I have sex with you". We decided it wasn't worth it and left.

 

After that experience, we decided to tell other men BEFORE we start that there may be a size difference, and hope they're comfortable with it. Haven't had a problem with that since.

[Dont.Stop 339]

Shame shame. I'm happy for Mrs. when she gets more than I deliver. I have above average length but average girth. When she gets a "fat one", she definitely enjoys.

 

That's the point of swinging, is it not? To enjoy something you don't normally get? Hopefully his ego moves aside and he learns the lesson.

[MrandMrsBangs 15]

That's what we were thinking. Nothing changed, because later he tried to call and have me come over and have my husband just watch. When I told him he didn't want to party like that, he got pretty upset. Then he wanted both him and my husband to watch some lesbian action. That wasn't going to work, either.

 

That was the last time he talked to us about the lifestyle.

[exploringRM 305]

It's always funny that the people who have more restrictions in their level of play get sooo upset when people say no thanks due to their restrictions. They want others to respect their way to play but don't always do that in return!

[MN Tom 251]

Yeah, it happens.

 

Sometimes a partner gets jealous/worried for one reason or another, and when push comes to shove they cant handle the thought of their partner getting pleased by someone else.

[alexwaters 15]

Well just how big is Mr Bangs?

[10thBadger 25]

I think the problem with most men and I’m going to include myself is that if I was ever to swing and have my wife enjoy another man physically more than she would enjoy me, not only would I feel in adequate but at the same time hurt. I have read many times in this form that it’s just a physical activity and not love which I disagree but at the same time we’re not on that subject. It has a lot to do with ego because that is your life mate and someone that you want to know that you please better than anyone. It may not be realistic but at the same time it is in the mind. Because for myself I equate me please be my wife  physically and how she performs and react to me pleasing her not only physical but my love for her. If my wife was ever to make greater sounds and move differently and get so caught up in the moment and do things with other men that she would let me do in our own bedroom like I have read on here so many times women getting so excited and I think you’re a call it being in the moment . She would grant this total stranger total control but not let her husband do so or just the fact that she would enjoy another man more than her husband is something that most men have a huge problem with. It’s almost like the other comment someone made that I read  win a couple started to swing and the woman unleashed herself to the total stranger and some of you called it newness because this guy was doing the same thing that her husband was doing every time in the bedroom but not getting the same reaction that she get from a total stranger and then the woman trying to figure out why her husband was  hurt. Amazing, really you can’t figure out why your husband isn’t hurt? Are you that clueless. You got a climb in the walls with a total stranger and when you’re in the bedroom with me you are doing something calm and not climbing the walls. I think that would hurt anybody’s ego and the feeling that their woman is either faking it with me and really enjoying herself with other men. I know that would be a dealbreaker with me but like I said my wife is too jealous of Sharon me and I am too jealous of Sharon her and the one experience that we had at the club was not good even though we were not planning on doing anything anyway. We most likely never will and I only say most likely because never say never but I could probably say never and be 99% sure