Danielle87 15 Posted October 20, 2011 Does anyone here live in a fairly rural area? We live in a very small town in a rural area and it's hard to find other like-minded couples. There are a couple larger cities about an hour and a half away, but it just makes the whole thing more difficult. Does anyone have any advice for rural couples looking to get into the lifestyle? Thanks! Quote Share this post Link to post
LFM2 1,482 Posted October 20, 2011 We live in a small community. You know the ones... everyone knows what you've been doing and if they don't... they just make it up. We choose to travel. We've been swinging since 2006 and have just had to travel to meet those who are like minded. This serves a couple of purposes. 1) it keeps things discreet. People in our community don't need to know we swing. 2) it keeps things good for us. We meet new people and it gives us a chance to get out and go. Quote Share this post Link to post
ALilOEverything 901 Posted October 20, 2011 We usually have to travel about 70 miles. Sometimes it's frustrating because we have to add all the driving time to our allotted time out but usually we accept it for what it is and be thankful we can find great people at all. Quote Share this post Link to post
doug39 80 Posted October 21, 2011 Danielle...what part of VA do you live in? I am from Cleveland Ohio and have been through Virginia so many times. It is a beautiful state. We vacationed in Willis Wharf, Virginia for a week, a few years back....awesome place. Quote Share this post Link to post
Danielle87 15 Posted October 21, 2011 Doug, we live about an hour and a half west of Richmond. Little town called Farmville (yep, the Facebook game is an actual place :p). Quote Share this post Link to post
exploringRM 305 Posted October 21, 2011 We don't live in a rural area more small town bedroom community, but not alot around us. We typically travel at least an hour for most swing related things. The clubs we like are that far and our friends that throw parties live at least an hour away. Quote Share this post Link to post
two4youinswva 3,068 Posted October 21, 2011 We are on the other end of the state, so we know what you mean. But, there are people out there if you look around. Do you have a profile on swinglifestyle.com? I did a quick search around your area, and it turned up a couple pages of profiles within 25 miles of Farmville. A lot of it will depend on your age as well. If you're younger and looking for the same, then the number of potentials on profile sites will drop as well. On the other hand, if you're younger you have the potential of tapping into the population at Longwood. I know Richmond is a little bit of a drive, but there is a longtime active off-premises club there; Virginia Friends. Might be a good weekend trip for the two of you. Shopping, Kings Dominion, and a little adult fun on Saturday night. Quote Share this post Link to post
Danielle87 15 Posted October 21, 2011 Thanks for the info, two4you! We do not have a SwingLifestyle profile. We'll have to look into setting one of those up. Thanks for the advice! He has a bit of a weird schedule, so that doesn't help. We do visit the Richmond area fairly frequently, though, so that's definitely an option. We are a younger couple (in our 20s), but I'm concerned about getting involved in the university crowd because of the indiscretion and drama that could ensue. Of course, those things are possible at any age, but I think we would generally prefer someone more mature for now as we are just starting out. Thanks for the information you gave me! This really helps a lot Quote Share this post Link to post
celtic239 297 Posted October 25, 2011 We live in a semi-rural area but there are a few people listed in our general area. However in order to keep our participation in the Lifestyle private we chose to travel to distant locations to play. Quote Share this post Link to post
bjersr 49 Posted October 27, 2011 Any advice? Get a car that gets good gas mileage LOL. Thats a poor attempt at humor. We live in a rural area also. All of our regular play friends live at least an hour away, some about 2. We have just got use to it. Like others have said sometime it's better not to play in your own backyard so to speak. It's not that we are against playing near where we live we just haven't met many couple near where we live that we are interested in. Quality of character and compatiblity in the couples we play with is more important that location. Keep looking you will find what you are looking for. Quote Share this post Link to post
Lascivious L&L 866 Posted October 31, 2011 We live in the other V state, the one way up north. An hour and a half travel time each way is not uncommon. In a town with under 1,000 population, we found one couple we became friends with and have met two other couples. The number to choose from amazed us, but so far we've only met these three. Burlington, the largest city in Vermont, is about an hour's drive. Montreal is an hour and a half. But customs is no longer merely a frustration. Purpose of visit? To fuck and suck. If you're at all selective in the people you want to swing with, it takes some time to find meetings and is always a scenic drive. That's just the way it is. Quote Share this post Link to post
TheRedHalf 81 Posted October 31, 2011 We live in the other V state, the one way up north. An hour and a half travel time each way is not uncommon. In a town with under 1,000 population, we found one couple we became friends with and have met two other couples. The number to choose from amazed us, but so far we've only met these three. We live in the southern half of Vermont and travel around 50-75 miles to attend gatherings and clubs. MANY more people in CT/MA and we like to keep play away from our small town area. We met a couple at our last party and driving that distance will be tough for dinner and fun but it's only gas . I think it's time to buy a smaller car though. Quote Share this post Link to post
Tobacouple 111 Posted October 31, 2011 We live in a small community in Northern Ontario. Fairly low population spread over a very large area. Makes for very few options or choices. Also, everyone locally knows everyone else. Because of this, we chose to travel. It also means we need to rely on the internet and get really good at screening, selecting and communicating with potential partners prior to traveling to meet up. We play a lot less probably then most because of this, but because of the extra effort, and expense of traveling, it means we're more careful in our choices which usually leads to great encounters when we do meet. We're usually willing to travel up to 500 km (300 miles) for the right partner. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
ncalfuncpl 20 Posted November 3, 2011 We as well live in a rural area, we drive between 60 and 80 miles to the nearest clubs. And we like the fact it makes it discrete. We make a weekend of it, found an inexpensive hotel near our favorite club, that is clean and comfortable. The last weekend we went, we ended up playing with a couple that lived not more than five miles from us, stayed at the same inexpensive hotel and had been doing it for years. Quote Share this post Link to post
GerdOEvert 51 Posted November 4, 2011 We live in a town of 38,000. There is a club fifty miles away which has a meet and greet once a month. Here there are lots of private parties, and surprise of surprises to me the BDSM group is also full of lifestyle couples. It takes a while to get invited to the Private Parties. And then you have to figure out what the bent is, so to speak. Perfect for us would be a three to five couple group where newcomers came to audition from time to time. All of the same educational and professional backgroud. Hard to form. Harder to find. The BDSM folks can be a little crazy. Otto & Eileen Walla Walla Quote Share this post Link to post
