A better more emotionally accurate way of defining "Bi"

[rainbowskye 102]

If a woman defines herself as being bi simply because she only likes to kiss females then yes, in her mind she is.

 

I have yet to be misled by a female who has listed herself as bisexual in her personal profile. How someone defines themselves is just that their definition of who they are. It isn't my place to judge.

 

In addition , whether I am playing with someone who is bi or straight details happen before play so we are on the same page. It is NOT a sexuality thing, it is RESPECTING BOUNDARIES . Which is something that should happen regardless . I think we are confusing common courtesy and respecting a couple s or individuals boundaries and personal rules with sexuality here.

 

It should be common sense to know we as singers will never know every partner our playmates have been with same or opposite sex and we won't know the details. We just have to put our big boy and girl panties on and know we are taking a risk with each playmate we have. And i feel most if not all of us do that already.

[Lascivious L&L 866]

I think I've been explicitly blunt and honest on this board about my feelings toward male bi, and toward Chicup's feelings toward male bi, as well as the logic of risk. I understand well that you disagree with me, Chicup, probably that you dislike me, but to say you don't trust my words seems another error prone emotional reaction toward my attempts at being clear in how I disagree with you.

 

Of course there would never be anything sexual between our couples! Or any other bi couple that has read your words. That goes without saying! Mrs. Chicup is safe...and so are you.

 

Chicup, it's about your bi-phobic emotional efflorescence and that of so many other bi-phobes. It seems you have little idea of the volume of it, nor how dinning it can be to bi guys. After all your own exhaustive presence within bi male threads is testament to how much the bi label provokes negativity.

 

What is interesting is that Chicup finally agreed that risk is about sexual actions rather than labels. Then he immediately went back to risk by labels. He seems to want to push anal sex with males on myself and all bi males. Some do, some don't. I haven't. Some want to try it, some don't.

 

Anal sex with a man carries the same risk as anal sex with a woman, it depends on condom use, number of partners, and what actions the partners have enjoyed in the past. It is not determined by a label.

 

Rainbowskye, well said!