Tonight was first party

[cctc 15]

So the wife and I went to our first party tonight we were both very nervous about going. We go there and realized that everyone was atl east ten years older than we were I am 41 and she is 35 she was also the best looking woman there and I was the second best looking guy. Small party about 26 people. We stood in the corner for a couple of minutes drinking our drinks and both said do you want to leave. I said lets stay until 930 and see what happens. So we stay and have a good time meet a bunch of nice people none that we really click with. There was one super hot guy that made his rounds to every woman to see if they wanted to play. Otherwise it was a slow night. We were approched by a nice couple but the wife was not sure if this couple was the right ones to do it with. Of course she was aiming for the hot guy but that left me with nothing not that this would be a problem however it was supposed to be for both of us. We ended up leaving around 11:30 and many people were sad to see us go one because we were newbies and two because we were in the in the top of the good looking and the youngest ones there. Let me just say this we are not ugly, we are not skinny we could both lose some weight so I do not think that we are both hot we are normal. The other people were just that bad. We came away from the party a little disapointed but it was only one party we will try a different one next time.

My question to you all how do you pick a party to go to and are they all hit or miss?

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

We had the same experience with the first party we attended. Everyone was much older and most were much bigger. We tried different clubs and parties and eventually met couples who were a good match for us. On some websites you can look at the profiles of people who are attending events. That can help to see the demographics of the partygoers.

 

I would decide before going to the party whether you are ok with your wife playing with single guys and stick to your plan. From your post it sounds like if the hot single had actively pursued her she would have played and you might not have liked that. It's better to make a plan ahead that you are ok with playing separate at parties or not. (and you never know, it might be a hot single female you like next time)

 

Keep having fun!

[exploringRM 305]

Unless you know the attendees ahead of time, it's always hit or miss Our first few parties were similar.

 

At parties we typically play separately, just makes it easier getting with people, though it took several months of swinging before we did the separate thing. Most parties we attend do not include single guys.

[Dont.Stop 339]

Ditto here. Before I think of venturing off alone with someone I'll check with Mrs and see if she's comfortable with the crowd and potential partners. Usually she will disappear before I will and when we're done we'll find each other and discuss.

 

We recently went to a party where it was a very hot crowd, but a very young one. There was another couple our age who we figured were feeling the same way. Within 5 minutes of us stepping out to the pool area they pounced. We played together and had a blast.

[cctc 15]

I was ok with her to play with single guy up to a point I would of just picked one of the willing other participants that wanted to have sex with me. However single guy turned me off with his attitude I talked to the misses and she said the same thing to me. She was ok up to a point until he turned on the player act and when he broke out his phone to show his conquests and told her that he was married with three kids and his wife thinks he is at a buddies house she was done with him. We both could of played with other we just did not feel that connection. I know its just sex however you have to be a little turned on dont you? We are not ready to play alone in separate room yet I am sure it will come to that point.

@ Fundayton I checked the RSVP list I knew that we were going to be probably in the younger side however alot of people did not update their profiles in years:( mid fifties said they were 42.

[DigginIt 1,132]

There are two house parties in our home town and we don't go to them because while I hate to sound shallow, there just isn't anyone attractive in either group.

 

One seems to cater to a crowd that is older and on the fluffy side (no offense intended but they are all big people).

 

The second has a lot of single guys that go. I'd say 50/50 single guys to couples. The couple that sponsors it is always having meet and greets at one of the local strip clubs so our assumption is that most of the single guys are guys from the strip club that knows the host couple and come to get laid. Totally a turn off for us.

 

We only go to a house party if we are going to meet a couple or with a couple we already know. At least we know there is potential interest at that point.

 

As far as hot single guys...my wife hates single guys that are arrogant. Won't have anything to do with them. Be sincere because letting someone play with your love is a privilege and the roll of a single guy is to please the woman, not himself. If she wanted to fuck an arrogant prick, she could pick up 10 at the club down the street.

[twistedpretzels 100]

We hooked up with a group of folks who ended up being younger than us and only one person was interested in my man when she got off work at 1 am. I was told her hubby was interested in me but that was a falsehood. lol. Even though we are 10 yrs older or more than the regulars of this group I didnt really think it was an issue until after I wrote saying it was nice to meet you etc etc and I didnt get any replies. I am prettier than a number of the women there but def not younger. I guess it is just what the group wants or is interested in. No biggie. Just find the right group for you. Perhaps write to the manager of the group and get an idea of the age ranges. On sls you can view who signed up for a M&G and see what the ages are of the folks if it is age specifics that you are looking for.

Keep us posted.