Threesome with a co-worker?

[bimarriedguy82 17]

So my wife and I have really gotten into swinging. We started with people we knew including friends and my brother. WE have branched out and joined swinglifestlye to meet new guys and also have placed ads on craigslist.

 

We recently posted an ad on craigslist and got a response from my co-worker. When i opened the email and saw his picture I was shocked that not only was he into joining couples, but he was also bi.

 

When my wife and I got into having guys join us for threesomes, I always thought he would be a perfect third. Not only is he very attractive, but in talking to him about his sexual encounters with woman, he sounds very experienced and confident in his abilities. This was always more of a fantasy that i thought wouldnt happen, but now i know that he shares our interest in MMF.

 

Not only would I love to see my wife with him, but being that he is bi I have thought about doing things with him myself several times.

 

Has anyone played with a co-worker before or have any thoughts? While I am sure we would have a GREAT time with him, I am just worried about working with him on a daily basis after the fact.

 

Any comments are appreciated

[Hallofrumors 44]

Well, it sounds like a perfect opportunity to share your thoughts with your co-worker. I think the question you have to ask yourself is if you go through this, will it effect your future relationship with him. It is a possibility that it could go either way. Does he know it was you that posted in Craigslist?

[bimarriedguy82 17]

He doesn't know it was me. I posted a few pics of my wife without her face and then send him some more nudes and some of my nude pics when he said he was bi.

 

I know the threesome would go great and we would probably want to do it again with him. Im just nervous about the work relationship.

 

My wife wants me to tell him

[StewartP 171]

I have had a relationship with a co-worker. I told her from the start my wife and I were swingers. Had many 1 on 1 meetings with her, my wife knew, turns out her husband didn't.

We had a 4-some, didn't go well, then did numerous 3-somes, her, me and her husband, they did go well.

But long story short, relationships with coworkers are messy and complicated and it gets in the way of everyday life at the office.

 

Don't do it.

[ALilOEverything 901]

A lot of things can go wrong when playing with co-workers and it's a matter or not you can accept it if things do.

 

We played with my husband's coworker a couple times over a year ago (no bi play though). It went well and they still work together without issue. Many years ago I played with a female coworker of mine a few times and we've had no issues and we still work together.

 

A year ago I was approached by another coworker about how to find a club (I had been outed several years back, not sure how). She worked in a different department and I used to work with her husband. I attempted to guide them in the lifestyle but it ended up being a volatile situation which caused me much stress and anxiety.

[km34 672]

I think it really depends on the people involved. Since you have experience playing with people that you see in vanilla situations regularly (your friends), I doubt YOU would have a problem compartmentalizing work vs. play. However, does HE have these experiences? Is he going to be able to come to work the next day and work with you without picturing you or your wife naked every time you two have to speak? Apparently he has done threesomes before, so that is a good sign, but it really is a personality/attachment thing. If it is going to make it at all awkward between you guys at work, don't do it. If for some reason the threesome doesn't go well, are you going to be able to ignore that and go on as normal? Some people can, some can't.

 

I personally have played with coworkers in the past. Granted, it was a part-time job so I wasn't necessarily worried about long term side effects. It went really well, however. It actually developed into a somewhat-relationship with one woman (she couldn't admit that she was bi even though our fmf threesomes always seemed to be ffm AND my husband tells me it was very obvious her feelings for me vs. her attention to him). But anyway, you just have to measure the pros and cons and decide what works best for your situation.

 

Good luck!

[Just Passing By 140]

The default answer is to avoid coworkers.

 

If it is a multi thousand employee situation where many of them never come into job task or locational proxmimity , and you meet thru usual contacting channels, then it could be a "maybe" .

[ViSexual 1,008]

We partied with two different couples where the husbands were coworkers of mine. It was never an issue at work.

 

Now if the guy is single it could be different though. Single guys love to brag at work. But, his being bi might be the saving grace there. He might want the secret kept as much as you do.

 

And just how cool to find out someone you've fantasized about is a player? I can think of several vanilla friends that I'd love that to happen with!

[bimarriedguy82 17]

He has said he has done many threesomes in the email he sent but I'm not sure if he has played with people he knows. That is a good thing to think about though, thanks! I will try to find out more from him

[bimarriedguy82 17]

He is single and he has talked to me many time about girls he has been with and things they have done. I would be worried about him bragging to other co-workers that he banged my wife, but no one knows he is bi and everyone would be shocked, I know I was. So I think me knowing he sucks dick might keep him from bragging my girl has sucked him lol.

[Alura 2,775]

He is single and he has talked to me many time about girls he has been with and things they have done. I would be worried about him bragging to other co-workers that he banged my wife, but no one knows he is bi and everyone would be shocked, I know I was. So I think me knowing he sucks dick might keep him from bragging my girl has sucked him lol.

 

Absolutely! What's a little blackmail between friends?

 

Alura

[ViSexual 1,008]

You know what you might do is to get him to join you, alone, first. Get that mutual 'secrecy' bond before including your wife. If it turns out he's just one of those guys who'll say they're bi just to get some pussy then you'll find out.

 

And, honestly, getting to be comfortable with each other before adding your wife just might make it more enjoyable for all three of you when it's a threesome.

[willyoats 324]

Never invest more than you can afford to lose.

 

If this new relationship goes south, what is the effect at work? Could you get fired? etc.?

 

I always try to figure what the worst case might be and how likely that is to come about. Then you can make an informed decision about whether you want to proceed.

 

Personally, I would NEVER get involved with someone from the office. PERIOD. Too risky.

[bbarnsworth 2,653]

Why on Earth would you play with a coworker when so much can go so wrong in so many ways? There are a bazillion single guys in the lifestyle looking for couples to play with. No one in the lifestyle should ever be so desperate they have to play with a coworker.

 

Forget about it. Walk away from it. Just drop it, and don't even think about it.

[bimarriedguy82 17]

You know what you might do is to get him to join you, alone, first. Get that mutual 'secrecy' bond before including your wife. If it turns out he's just one of those guys who'll say they're bi just to get some pussy then you'll find out.

 

And, honestly, getting to be comfortable with each other before adding your wife just might make it more enjoyable for all three of you when it's a threesome.

 

Thats a pretty good idea. He said in the emails he got into bi stuff in 3somes but has done some one on one stuff with guys before. i would love getting with him alone, and my wife and i have a rule that if one of us plays with someone alone the other gets to also, so that might be more motivation for him lol.

[bimarriedguy82 17]

You know what you might do is to get him to join you, alone, first. Get that mutual 'secrecy' bond before including your wife. If it turns out he's just one of those guys who'll say they're bi just to get some pussy then you'll find out.

 

And, honestly, getting to be comfortable with each other before adding your wife just might make it more enjoyable for all three of you when it's a threesome.

 

So I took your advice. I talked to him in email about hooking up with me alone first, then doing a threesome with my wife and he said he is down. I talked to my wife about it, and she likes the idea of me hooking up first to find out if he really is bi, then moving on to the threesome and her playing alone with him.

 

I am meeting him tonight. He still doesnt know its me. I didnt want to tell him through email if he was just playing games. So he will be in for a surprise tonight lol

[JDApopka 54]

its been a few days any updates?

[Jake1178 19]

My wife's first partner durring our relationship was a co-worker and a friend of mine. She developed a crush on him while we were all hanging out. He always thought she was so hot. It can ease tensions big time when you already know that person, things go easier.

[bimarriedguy82 17]

its been a few days any updates?

 

Sorry I forgot to update the board.

 

So I met up with my coworker for one on one bi play. He was shocked that I was there and I was the person he had been emailing, but after talking a little we decided to try things and see how we felt.

 

Our one on one bi play was AMAZING!! it was definetely a fantasy come true for me.

 

We will be having a threesome with my wfie this weekeend, and if all goes well which im sure it will, he will be playing alone with my wife the next day, which my wife and i are very excited about.

 

I will keep you updated

[StewartP 171]

Looks like a good result!

[bimarriedguy82 17]

Sorry I havent updated the post sooner. My wife and I had our threesome with my coworker and I also let them play alone together. Since then we have hooked up a few more times, and every time has been great.

 

Working together has been great too. No issues, if anything we are better friends at work lol.

[Additude 457]

Sorry I havent updated the post sooner. My wife and I had our threesome with my coworker and I also let them play alone together. Since then we have hooked up a few more times, and every time has been great.

 

Working together has been great too. No issues, if anything we are better friends at work lol.

 

As it should be with a little foresight, forethought and planning.

 

Having a plan more than likely equals success. Not having a plan usually equals failure.

 

It's cool to hear things are working out for you all.

[JDApopka 54]

sounds like it turned out well good for you guys

[EroticImaginati 16]

The default answer is to avoid coworkers.

 

If it is a multi thousand employee situation where many of them never come into job task or locational proxmimity , and you meet thru usual contacting channels, then it could be a "maybe" .

 

Agree.