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This is a carry-over from tonight's live chat.

 

What are the specific fantasies (if any) that you are atempting to fulfill by swinging?

 

And if you are into swinging to fulfill fantasies is that your main goal or do you just have fun and hope to fulfill those fantasies in the process?

 

When it comes to fulfiling fantasies, who's fantasies come first? Hers or His? Or do you try to make it equal?

 

Is one partners only fantasies to see the fantasies of the other partner fulfilled?

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her fantasies probably come first. without her he is left out in the cold.

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Originally posted by Bob123

her fantasies probably come first. without her he is left out in the cold.

 

Without her, he isn't swinging. -EBF (it's early, no coffee. did I miss the point?)

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From Bob123 in the "Who's In Control" thread:

 

"The woman is of course. without her the man couldn't swing"

 

So I guess his answer is the same as mine. - EBF

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Most fantasy’s we have we work on together. I think at first my fantasies were worked on .now we are more inline with each other so it’s more of a mutual thing.

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I missed another freakin chat. Oh well, till next time.

 

One fantasy we have come to share is having two cocks in her pussy. Damn that is a turn on for me. Since I was born with only one, I hope we will be able to find another couple to help us out in the future. :)

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My newest fantasy is for Bob123 to attract a great woman and find out what it is like being IN in the warmth.

 

Bob, don't make it a fairy tale.

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When we first started, we had no preconceived notion about what we were doing or what to expect. It was like a chemistry experiment that bubbled over.

 

We played with a couple that we knew for about a year. Afterwards, the experience was used for our own pleasure and excitement. Then, we played again. More hot talk.

 

Our fantasies evolved. Neither of us thought about one's being more important than the other. All that mattered was that it was for ourselves. Of course, it was nice to know that they liked us, too.

 

We approached the idea with the second couple that we played with. We already had an idea what their reaction would be before we talked to them about it. We were right!

 

That was all some time ago.

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Bob123, I'm going against my moms better judgement here, so help me out...ok.

 

M&B has this fantasy;

 

My newest fantasy is for Bob123 to attract a great woman and find out what it is like being IN in the warmth.

 

 

I'd like his fantasies to come to be realities, he is a nice guy, he should be happy.

 

Also, Bob, I'd like you to be happy.

 

 

:)

 

Sorry mom.

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(Cathy) I will admit that I am the one who is in control. I shared with Mike that I have fantasies of a 3some with him and another woman and would like to actually do that. We are actively seeking at this time to fulfill this fantasy of mine :)

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Our fantasy is to have alot of great sex with as many different people and as many positions as possible. Wooo Hooo!!

 

One of my fantasies was to have sex with a girl and getting a BJ at the same time from another girl. That one came true.

 

The wife's fantasy I believe is a good DP. We are still working on that.

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Originally posted by BiloxiCouple

Our fantasy is to have alot of great sex with as many different people and as many positions as possible. Wooo Hooo!!

 

One of my fantasies was to have sex with a girl and getting a BJ at the same time from another girl. That one came true.

 

The wife's fantasy I believe is a good DP. We are still working on that.

 

*note - just a tad toasty and being silly*

 

Just curious, what would you be doing with the first girl if the second was giving you a BJ?

 

As to your wife’s fantasy, if you ever come see the mouse... :D

 

(Mostly kidding or not :lol: )

 

Perseus

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Just curious, what would you be doing with the first girl if the second was giving you a BJ

 

Without too much graphic detail...... As I pulled out of the one girl the other would suck me, then I would put it back in and start the process over.

 

I think that clears things up.

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Originally posted by BiloxiCouple

Without too much graphic detail...... As I pulled out of the one girl the other would suck me, then I would put it back in and start the process over.

 

I think that clears things up.

 

 

Ohhhh... :) Good answer. :D

 

Perseus

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Fantasies are definitely better if they are mutual. and if they have some contributions from both...then :D

 

I think we started with his, early ones were simple, easy to fulfill ... then we did some of mine which were also his...

 

now we are working on :D some that have definite elements from both...

 

We build a fantasy, dirty talk during sex... both of us contributing to the verbal picture so it has become hard to tell who's creation it is.

 

Although we do have some we have NO intention of fulfilling, ever.

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Our involvement with swinging started with her fantasy of a DP, but, while we have some intention of making that a reality someday, we're not making that our primary focus. We figure that the opportunity will come around as we meet and get to know other couples. There are many, many things we enjoy and just because someone isn't interested in our particular fantasies doesn't mean that we wouldn't play and have a good time anyway.

 

Other specifics (for her) are to be restrained and blindfolded with many sets of hands exploring her body, and perhaps a 'gangbang' (how I hate that word; it sounds so brutal.) For me? I'd love to find a woman who likes to swallow, but mostly my fantasies revolve around watching J get off.

 

-B

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HI !:fun: Rose here ! At 58 yrs of age there isn't too many fantisies I can still live out (bad back ect) but finding real open minded folks(ACTION NOT JUST TALK) is proveing allmost impossible !!! I'd love to have my hubby dressed FEM(head to toe)& watch a group of horney men rape him/her multiple times till he/she can please as well as any woman(he's liking the ideal to)!! I have many adds out there but no luck so far(any suggestions(or volitieers ??????

 

Rose of roseandy85@hotmail.com

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Originally posted by roseandy85

HI !:fun: Rose here ! At 58 yrs of age there isn't too many fantisies I can still live out (bad back ect) but finding real open minded folks(ACTION NOT JUST TALK) is proveing allmost impossible !!! I'd love to have my hubby dressed FEM(head to toe)& watch a group of horney men rape him/her multiple times till he/she can please as well as any woman(he's liking the ideal to)!! I have many adds out there but no luck so far(any suggestions(or volitieers ??????

 

 

I hope he's up to your fantasy!!! No volunteers here:eek:

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Originally posted by roseandy85

HI !:fun: Rose here ! At 58 yrs of age there isn't too many fantisies I can still live out (bad back ect) but finding real open minded folks(ACTION NOT JUST TALK) is proveing allmost impossible !!! I'd love to have my hubby dressed FEM(head to toe)& watch a group of horney men rape him/her multiple times till he/she can please as well as any woman(he's liking the ideal to)!! I have many adds out there but no luck so far(any suggestions(or volitieers ??????

I don't have any specific suggestions on how to improve your search to fulfill this fantasy, but based on my learned observations, a swingers site is not one of them. :eek:

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Fantasies for her :

- DP either "coochie" either anal+vaginal

- To be blindfolded with some light restraints and being done in the meanwhile by several young and well endoved guys.

 

Fantasies for him :

- two females to please me while I should be their sex toy

- interracial with Asian women and black women

- sex with a pregnant woman

- milk tasting from a breastfeeding Mom

- play with a "she-male"... but still not sure for this fantasy ?...

and may be some more that I prefer to keep as a fantasy for me.

 

JC (half of Uneed_Love2)

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For many years my fantasies have involved more than one partner. I think that one of the strong attractions that swinging has for me is the fact that it opens up opportunities to experience things that go beyond the scope of what 2 people can do together. You can watch your wife while having sex with her, but you get a completely different view when someone else is having sex with her. I also really enjoy the idea of 4 or 5 people getting naked and sharing pleasure with each other...it's the total scene rather than small details that really tend to get my motor running....something about the erotic situation of a group of people taking off their clothes and then just doing what feels good without jealousy and hangups. There is a freedom there that's hard to describe, but it is intoxicating. My wife, on the other hand, is more into fantasies of the romantic type, but she is aware of the things I fantasize about and if it's something that she's comfortable with, she will share it with me because she enjoys knowing how turned on I get in these type of situations. Yep, she's definately a keeper! Sportync:cool:

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Hey we thought we were alittle on the edge with our fantasies.........but maybe not,.........so here it goes.........she wants to have sex in a public men's restroom, preferably in a dance club (which is one of the reasons we are going to Cancun next month). Mine is just to have someone make a "classy "video tape of us all dressed up and having hot sex......I'm more into the erotic side........the first Andrew Blake video's would be what I would like to copy. Maybe we can do both in the mother land.

 

Marco

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