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Who does the work when it comes to swinging?

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sexycplseeks    65

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We discuss all things related to our LS forays and framework together...but the "nuts and bolts, day to day operation's manager" is mostly our "Mr." at work. He likes that part of keeping things perking along. Any connections and possibilities that make it onto the radar screen get both of our attention as a team.

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CaptainAndNurse    17

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I like the forums. She likes to check out others on SLS and respond to e-mails. When it comes time to vetting a new couple or single female we both work together. We also work together on figuring out the next adventure (meaning club or lifestyle event). ~Captain

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SwinginSA    15

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Is funny how they call the LS a "woman's game" and men are supposedly secondary to the LS. I have found it is men who initially contact, take the pics, make the profiles, pick out the majority of the clothes, dress their wives, decide who is worthy and who is not, yada yada yada...you can see it clear as day when you meet to see the wife uncomfortable in the 16" stiletto heels, quiet as all Hell as the husbands bogart the conversations, the wives look around as the hubby stares at my wife like some kind of serial rapist. Now granted, not all couples we have met are like this, a good amount are not...they are couples who do this TOGETHER with making profiles, deciding together what pics to post and you can see a woman's touch in her style of dress and comfort levels wearing what she wears...when I meet very quiet women that never give eye contact to my wife and I...yet are dressed to the hilt like a stripper or skank...it's usually a great sign of a control freak husband forcing his wife into something so he can get some ass...we stay clear of those...

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