Accidental swinging

[oscar11 15]

I threw a party and my Wife and I ended up drinking of course. We wound up swapping partners once everyone left. I loved seeing another man inside of her even though she still denies he was. She must have drank more then I did because I watched the whole thing and he came inside of her. We know the couple so it was safe. I would love to do it again but can't get her to agree let alone acknowledge another Man was inside of her. What should I do? Give it up?

[two4youinswva 3,068]

oscar11, please limit your posts to one forum. The members will answer you, but it may take a little time.

 

As to your question: If she denies it, and the experience was alcohol induced, then I would not push the issue. Swinging and excessive consumption do not mix.

 

Bottom line: She is not currently interested. She may be in the future, but right now she isn't. Do not force discussion on future swinging. You can show her this board, so she can get an idea of what swinging really is about, but it will be her decision whether or not to check it out.

 

Good luck.

[doug39 80]

oscar11, please limit your posts to one forum. The members will answer you, but it may take a little time.

 

As to your question: If she denies it, and the experience was alcohol induced, then I would not push the issue. Swinging and excessive consumption do not mix.

 

Bottom line: She is not currently interested. She may be in the future, but right now she isn't. Do not force discussion on future swinging. You can show her this board, so she can get an idea of what swinging really is about, but it will be her decision whether or not to check it out.

 

Good luck.

 

 

It is really irritating the way you believe that you know everything.

How can you say what this woman wants? You never even hear her side of the story.

[km34 672]

I agree with two4youinswva that you really shouldn't swing when you're incredibly intoxicated. If your wife isn't acting interested right now, don't push her, but you can still try to bring it up in ways that show you think it would be hot to see her in a sexual situation with another man again.

 

If you don't mind sharing a bit more, is there a particular reason she doesn't seem okay with it now? Do you think she is really inherently opposed to swinging or just (all of partially) the shock of hearing she did something so out of the norm with no expectation of it or preparation for it?

[two4youinswva 3,068]

How can you say what this woman wants? You never even hear her side of the story.

You're right. We only get his side of the story. That's all we have to go on. Most of us understand that is a variable that you have to deal with in virtually every thread ever submitted on this board.

 

Let's see what he said:

 

I would love to do it again but can't get her to agree let alone acknowledge another Man was inside of her. What should I do? Give it up?

 

So, he says she will not agree to do it again, and will not even acknowledge that she had sex with another man.

I wonder how her side of the story would be different than what has been told to us?

[swing.kidz 367]

Haha, Doug! With that ideology, how can you expect us to not consider your story isn't just shit since we haven't heard your wife's side? Maybe you should criticize your own posts...sorry for the hijack..

[Alura 2,775]

Alright, Kids ... Let's be nice.

 

I used to drink while in the military. I thought everyone did. I got pretty blitzed but never to the point I couldn't remember. It sounds to me like your wife was flirting with alcohol poisoning. Or she's using "I don't remember" as an excuse for her mis(to her)behavior.

 

I'd concentrate on learning to communicate on other challenges in life. If y'all can ask each other any question without fearing reprisal, the two of you will be on your way... together.

 

Why not bring her here, show her this thread, and talk it over. Perhaps she'll even want to give her input...

 

Good luck!

Alura

[oscar11 15]

I discussed it again last night and she finally acknowledged that she had another man inside of her. She said she was embarrassed and thought I would think less of her if she let me know that she really enjoyed it and it felt amazing feeling him shoot his load in her. She said she would entertain the idea again with the same couple but less drinking next time. I can't wait. Maybe we can both cum in her this time.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

This does not sound right. If you have to coerce your wife into believing something that she does not want to believe, that's a bad start to any plan.

[Just Passing By 140]

What has been your discussion , if any, about swinging prior to this party ? Or was this all spontanious with no lead up ?

[PTTimeDC 120]

This has the smell of a bs thread all over it. Just my initial reaction.

 

IF it is legit:

1) that was a fast turn-around from denial === red flag

2) she did it extremely intoxicated === red flag

3) she was in denial until you approached her AGAIN about it in the same day === red flag

 

Verdict: you guys need to lay off the swinging until you do a LOT more talking.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I discussed it again last night and she finally acknowledged that she had another man inside of her. She said she was embarrassed and thought I would think less of her if she let me know that she really enjoyed it and it felt amazing feeling him shoot his load in her. She said she would entertain the idea again with the same couple but less drinking next time. I can't wait. Maybe we can both cum in her this time.

 

Glad to hear that you were able to discuss it more and she was able to open up a bit. Often when things like this happen spur of the moment there is this type of reaction where we don't know how our partners really feel about a situation. We worry that they may be mad at us for doing it or may be trying to "bait" us by saying that they were ok with it.

 

Communication is the most important start to this. Keep talking and let her know how you felt about the situation. Set some ground rules so that next time there's no question that everyone is ok with the situation. AND IF EVER YOUR WIFE IS THAT INTOXICATED AGAIN DO NOT ALLOW ANYTHING TO HAPPEN - THAT'S TANTAMOUNT TO RAPE. Sorry to yell that just really irks me.

[oscar11 15]

Had a completely sober date with the same couple last weekend. It was a little awkward at first but we all wound up having a great time.