How old was the oldest woman you have been with and how old would you go?

[jobillie44 21]

As a couple who just turned sixty the question for us is how young have the we gone. We actually enjoyed a couple in their late thirties. We met them at a house party and they actually contacted us after the fact. We were both new to swinging so we had the usual awkwardness. My wife loved her younger partner. It was a real turn on for me also. For reasons I can't quite explain, many of our hook ups have been with couples younger than us. I think we are fairly nice and conservative people who provide a certain level of comfort to them......though we certainly have found our wild side. Love every moment of it.

[NealnAnji 30]

As a couple who just turned sixty the question for us is how young have the we gone. We actually enjoyed a couple in their late thirties. We met them at a house party and they actually contacted us after the fact. We were both new to swinging so we had the usual awkwardness. My wife loved her younger partner. It was a real turn on for me also. For reasons I can't quite explain, many of our hook ups have been with couples younger than us. I think we are fairly nice and conservative people who provide a certain level of comfort to them......though we certainly have found our wild side. Love every moment of it.

 

That is our experience too. It seems couples are swinging at a much earlier age than before. The age gap does not seem to matter. Recently we got an email from the wife of a couple (24/25) asking us if we would meet them at a restaurant to talk about swinging. She was responding to a blog from hubby and said she wanted to have their first experience with a "mature" couple. She wanted to experience nothing less than a full swing that of course includes all play upto, and, includes intercourse. The interesting thing about this is that it is the female that wants to experience sex with a variety of partners and it is the hubby that complies to her wishes. We have come across several couples in their 30s, married 2 to 5 years that are actively seeking swing partners and seem to be more comfortable with older couples for what ever reason. So we say go with the flow. Also, we have noticed several young couples, some of them our nephews/nieces on FB, we know seeking swing partners without concern for age.

 

Is there a recent survey of ages of swingers that would be very instructive in this regard?

[Tagurrit 18]

I see we've diverged into the greatest age difference now instead of just the oldest, so OK here we go... When I was 50 I had sex with an 18 year old so younger is 32 years and as I've already stated in an earlier post I'm sleeping with an 86 year old now occasionally and that's 20 years older. BUT she isn't the greatest age difference older either. After I started with Gail when I was 15 and she was 35 I also had a relationship with her friend who was 44 at the time so that's 29 years older. I also had a relationship with a woman who was 86 when I was 56 so that's 29 too (because of the relative birthdays). So 29 older and 32 younger so far, LOL. I'm getting old enough so that it'll NEVER be more than 29 older (66 plus 29= 95!). My present girlfriend is 47 so 19 years younger. Age doesn't mean a THING! It's about how we see the world and what's in it. Some people are old at 25 while others never age. I've had such age difference because I don't see "age" I see people. And that works both ways. Some peoples bodies work well right up to the end while others are ill for years. I don't look for older women or younger women I look for people I'm attracted to. I don't understand the fetish people have for absolute perfection these days. For me it's ALWAYS been about how the other person is as a person not how big their titties are or whether their faces have lines on them. And so far I've not had sex with someone just to have sex or because I can have sex with them (as a relationship taking away swinging). I LOVE older women. I LOVE younger women. I LOVE women my own age. I can satisfy an older woman because I still get hard at the drop of ...well a pair of panties will do it! I can teach younger woman about patience and grateful loving. And I can relate to women my own age because we're the same age. I'm open to everyone and from my point of view they are open to me. Sure sometimes I get the "but you're an old man" but then everyone gets put down for something sometimes.

[guest_xx1 15]

I believe I've recently topped my previous age by about +5 years.

[Tagurrit 18]

Well read all the posts for the answer to that question!

[rsdenn69 15]

I guess she was in her late 60's or early 70's. I always enjoyed older women and she wanted me to deep stroke her while her elderly husband watched. There is not really limit to how old I would go cause I am attracted to many ladies well into their 70's and 80's. I saw a picture of Georgina Spelvin, Devil in Miss Jones star and she still got me horny for her still very sexy body.

[Chris&Suzanne 204]

The oldest was 38 when I was 28, not a huge difference, but she was a nurse and from Canada (what is it with Canadian women, they are great) I learned a lot from her, and when her sister came to visit, I leaned from her too. Great memories.

 

When I was 40 I had sex with a 21 year old. Thought it would be awesome (she was beautiful) but I found that was too young for me.

[gsu22 187]

I'm 32. Oldest was 51 when I was 30. I usually stay within no more than 10 years either way. Love MILF's but love early 20's too.

[Guest BigBenC1987]

I'm 27 right now, when I was 25 I slept with a few women who were 33-36, as long as I find a women sexually attractive I don't really consider age as a barrier.

[PeterJ 940]

I played once at a party with a couple who were in their mid-80s - 20 years older than I. They wore the physical aspects of their years honestly, but I'd like to still be giving and receiving sexual pleasure. A mutual acquaintance later told me the couple had been swingers before the term existed; they had a honeymoon orgy the evening following their wedding in 1946 or thereabouts. I kind of see them as heroic figures and think of them with fondness.

 

(I'm encouraged that my mom was still having intercourse in her mid-80s, but it was her one-departed boyfriend who left the makes in my extended family awestruck - he was 92 when my unsuspecting brother-in-law walked in on them to "wake them from their afternoon siesta and found them having missionary-position intercourse.)

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

I played once at a party with a couple who were in their mid-80s - 20 years older than I. . . .

 

Lovin' it.

[FunOzCouple 40]

Speaking from a female perspective I'm 47 and my younger swing partner was a strikingly handsome 22yo. That only happened earlier this year so I can definitely say young men have no issues with women twice their age :-)

[sohorny 21]

40 years ago I met my wife, 12 years older than me. Still together, so I will say 12 years older, she is now 72......

[Exhibitionist 38]

When I was 22 I was in a threesome with a 40 year old guy and a 42 year old girl. It was awesome and I still jerk off thinking about it. I'm 40 now and I would fuck anyone from age 18 to 65. Quite an age range.

[Cheetah 84]

I ate and fucked a woman in her 70's once but she was looking good. It was at an adult theater and her husband could not get hard so he wanted the wife to get a good fucking. I went first and ate her and ate her. She could not stop Cumming. Then finally, I plunged into her wet shaved pussy. She about erupted. OMG she came and came! I guess she had not had a good fucking in a while

[adventure37421 16]

In my early to mid 20's I was with a woman in her late 50's. In my late 20's/early 30's, I was with a woman in her early 60's. As long as she's up for and able to do it, I don't have an upper limit.

[EastInWest 1,524]

Mrs. EastInWest is approximately 15 years older. She looks markedly younger, I apparently carry myself like someone older. Neither of us knew what we'd gotten ourselves into until we were already screwing each other senseless and finally thought to ask.

 

Before that, when I was about 21, I did have an encounter with a woman I met in a hotel bar in Manhattan. We just chatted over drinks wasting time, she was 60+ and in good shape, well dressed, but not someone I would have singled out on the street to chat up. However, she was entertaining to talk to. When she was ready to call it a night she asked me if I'd come up with her to keep talking for a while. There was no talking. She gave very good head, I took her from behind, then we went our separate ways.

[Tagurrit 18]

Ok that was then, this is now. The oldest is still 88 (the original thread is older) but now the greatest age difference is 38 years younger. She's 32 and I'm 70 now. In fact she's lying in bed with me now.,life is good.!!

[kikonkrome 844]

I wouldn't know how to ask a lover? Although I definitely have an interest in certain older women. I am guessing 60's.

[ViSexual 1,008]

I have an interesting answer to this one. The oldest women I've had intercourse with is 59. There are two and both were 59. Now, and I know this isn't going to set well with some of you, my first wife and I were married for almost three years but I was in the military and gone most of the time. We divorced amicably. When I was 55 or so, she contacted me through classmates. We caught up with each other and that was about all. We kept in touch and, somewhere along the way, we found out we didn't live that far apart. When I approached my 60th birthday, she suggested I visit and that she had a birthday gift for me. I wasn't in her house more than a half hour until we were in her bed. It was a one-time thing and we remained email friends until her death a couple of years ago. We never saw each other in person again. Anyway, she was 59 on my 60th birthday.

 

The other woman that was 59 is my wife of 45 years. It was on our 40th anniversary and that was the last time she and I had intercourse due to health issues she has. And, yes, it's been five years since I've had intercourse too.

 

So, that's my two oldest.

[let's do it again 414]

When I got divorced at 57, my older sister used to pimp me out to her friends. The oldest was 66 and she was hot in her 30's and is still hot. She never had kids and was wild. I would fuck her today!  I have known several women in their 70' s that turn me on, and I wouldn't hesitate having sex with them. Older men get and can still get it up, become more valuable as they get older. My sister told me if the woman goes on the date, then you will get some, and I think that is true..

[PeterJ 940]

I’ve mentioned in comments on other threads about playing at a party about eight or ten years ago with a couple in their mid-80s. They were pretty old and were swingers before that was a name. They had an orgy on their wedding night in the late 1940s. By the time I met and played with them they were quite old. But they both still appeared to fully enjoy sex.

[njbm 2,868]

We were on our first swingers’ cruise. It was about ten years ago, so we were 55. 
We played in a trivia contest. We met a couple there and they asked us to coffee. We had a nice chat. I would say they were late 60s or early 70s. Clearly a lot older than us. 
 

They asked us if we wanted to meet them in their room to play that evening. We figured if they have the guts to ask, let’s give them a chance. We met. The guy used some kind of electric glove which he used on my wife which she found enjoyable. The wife gave me some kind of tantric hand job.  Very nice. 
 

In our swinging career, we often had a good time when we gave unlikely match ups a chance, such as different ages, races, nationalities, etc. Give people a chance, be open minded. 

Edited April 8, 2023 by njbm

[Bluecollarbull 0]

I have been with a lady 68 who was a sexy and fun friend to have me to come over as she wanted. I would love a lady who is excited and happy up to 74 

[Tomy Nikki 62]

As far as i know Tomy had played with a women who was in her 54. She was well build and had a huge sex drive.

 

[Billygoat 443]

I have written a few stories/articles concerning older playmates in the LS.  We both have had much older playmates.  Due to age related issues I have had more experiences with senior women than the Queen has had with senior men.  I have also been a long term surrogate for older couples when the husband had limitations age related.

 

It started for me after we had been regulars at two different swinger groups (house parties) and had started hosting our own gatherings.  Our first was meeting and joining an older couple we met at a house party.  Age never came up. The third time we met at this party (the first two times we chatted and shared, mostly on their part, experiences) the wife asked if we would join them in a room.  We accepted.  They were the first couple we fully engaged with sans condoms.  It was a night full of firsts for the Queen and I.  The Queen had a long first round with the husband alternating between penetrative and oral sex with him finishing inside her.  Queenie then went back down on him sucking and licking him clean but he couldn’t recover but still watched and played with her.  His wife sucked and licked me til I came in her mouth, she swallow as I was cumming.  I was used to up to that night being the finish of the event.  But she kept on me eventually in a 69 and got me hard again ( something I could still do in my early forties) rode me for her second orgasm, rolled over and had me take her holding me inside her when I came again.  While we relaxed on the bed her husband suggested that his wife and mine share me so I was treated to my first real two mouth blow job and after some time and effort I alternated between her and my wife while he watched and told me to cum in his wife again which I did while my wife was wildly kissing me.  Totally awesome.  They asked that we leave them to wind down and cuddle.  We became regular anything goes playmates after that night and they joined our smaller private group.  We learned a few things later. One, she actually turned 68 the week we first got together and had asked her husband to get together with us as a birthday gift, we didn’t know.  He was 74 and not always able to get erect but always played.  This made it more difficult to connect with other couples.  But again we’re regulars.  We also learned that he enjoyed taking cum from his wife via kissing after she had a mouthful or sucking her pussy clean after a guy finished inside her.  Something that wasn’t always accepted.  I became a regular for them that went on even after he passed for the next eight years until she moved west to live with her daughter.   About a 24 year age difference but you would have never guessed it watching or playing with her.  She had me set up several multiple male (gangbang) no condoms that would have rivaled most porn stars for her and her husbands benefit.  She was more active then many women/couples we met in the lifestyle.

 

from that first time and on through the next twenty plus years I regularly enjoyed older women as an active third in an MFM our group play.  And older single/solo women we would meet.  Most were 6 to 15 years older.   I also enjoyed being the older experienced safe guy for younger couple/solo/single women to play with.  So I have been blessed in my lifestyle experiences.   
 

 

 

[AdamGunn2 393]

I don't think I've ever had a woman in her eighties . . . yet . . .

[ConfusedHubby 118]

Nothing too crazy here...  At 41 I have a 53 year old play partner who became my favorite in the LS...  In the other direction at 40 I was with a 24 year old. 

 

Age is hardly everything, but apart from a few outliers, I'm personally not as attracted to women beyond their mid 50s.  That said, in most cases a 55 year old LS female is far more attractive than a 45 year old vanilla friend as we (LSers) tend to take care of ourselves far better. 

 

It's terrifying to me how much our early 40s peers are letting themselves go...  bad diets, no exercise and poor priorities don't age us well.

[Baconheads 431]

It seems like I've told this story before, but apparently not on this thread, so here goes!

 

I got myself invited to a "bisexual " house party in Corona, CA in 2017 and while I didn't play with any men that night, I did indulge a wonderful 70 year old gal. I was 57.

 

She was built very well and was very passionate.  We went our separate ways at the party after we played in a group room, reconnected at the end of the night and had sex in the same group room as before, but this time it was deserted except for us.  Again, it was wonderful!  Don't sell the older gals short!

 

I still talk to her on SLS from time to time, but mostly we have drifted away, her being in Orange County, CA and me in the Colorado Rocky Mountains.

Edited June 10 by Baconheads
Additions to story

[Marie&Weldon 86]

On 1/22/2012 at 11:40 AM, rick181au said:

have just fucked a woman (my wife) on her 70’Th birthday, it was as good a fuck as when I first fucked her (and took her cherry) 51 years ago.

She has had lot’s of different cocks fuck her over the last 35 years while we have been swinging and having M F M threesomes and still loves sex.

She still gets plenty of offers when she goes on web cam.

Anyone here top that?

My wife and I are getting there (We are in our early sixties). When I was in my twenties I didn't think anyone over fifty even thought of sex. Boy, was I wrong. Sex is better now than ever although I'm not nearly as slim and trim as I once was. We are retired, kids gone, and no bills, wife just as horny as ever. I wished I could have retired forty years ago. I haven't seen your wife but she is probably hot at seventy. I think my wife is still hot at 63. I don't think age has  as much to do with it.as keeping in shape and staying healthy 

[J&Wu 408]

Little doll in her 80's at our club, planned to get with her next meeting, then COVID came. Never put off today....!

[NC_Seniors 518]

Male half here! So are we talking actual age or age difference? If it’s actual age, that would be my wife … whose age I’m too intelligent to divulge. 😉 If we’re talking age *difference*, it was 9 years but MUCH earlier in life.

 

PS — The biggest age difference with a younger woman is 23 years!

[lov2party 20]

when I was in high school, I was so lucky to have sex with the neighbor, who was probably 20 years older than me. That turned me on to older women. They are just so desirable, fun, more daring, adventurous, and really know what they want. 

[couplers 4,614]

Lora in our poly family is, and every time that we go down on one another, continues to be the oldest woman I've had sex with.  She is eighteen months older than me. 

 

There was a woman around ten years ago, when I was in my early twenties and was first setting David up with female friends and acquaintances of mine, who was like thirty-seven.  She let me watch them have sex several times (it was a thrill for me) but she didn't have a Lesbian side, at least not for me, so she doesn't count.  But I would have liked to have licked my husband’s semen out of her.  I did, however, get to taste her on David’s dick after they finished. 

 

 

Edited June 16 by couplers

[Jersey Shore Couple 128]

My wife and I have lightly played with a couple where the wife was about to turn 60 and the husband was a little older than that.  We are in our mid forties.  They remain friends of ours and we wish we saw them more often. 

[hunterdonNJcpl 1,383]

We're in our 50s. We play mostly with a small set of couples in the 50-60s range, and sometimes a couple in their 70s joins - and the swinging is very hot!

 

It comes down to the person.  Some ppl lose their libido in their 40s. Others remain horny and active into their 80s.

 

We would much rather play with a horny 80 year old than an uninterested 40 year old any day.

[Skhan 56]

When I was 52, had sex with a 66 year old.  Surprisingly attractive for an older woman. 

And wow!  She could suck a golf ball through a garden hose, to borrow a movie quote.😁 Probably the best blow job that I ever had. 

Now that I think about it, not that many "great blow jobs" in my life that didn't need to be finished with a hand or a vagina.   Age and experience. 

It ain't the age, its the mileage.

[branden2388 24]

Early- to mid-60s for me. I'm 55 this year for comparison. For some strange reasons, I find it easier to attract women in their 60s. These are either widows or divorcees who still have strong sexual desires but are generally overlooked by men of all ages. I am open to accepting women up to their late 70s provided they are still in good body shape and have the stamina for sex. Over time, having sex with post-menopausal women is now something normal for me and rather pleasurable too. The fact that I can pump in load after load of my semen into them without fear of getting them pregnant completely eliminates any worry and stress on me. This could explain why I haven't encountered any erectile dysfunction problems so far when I am with these women.    

[PeterJ 940]

33 minutes ago, branden2388 said:

… I find it easier to attract women in their 60s. These are either widows or divorcees who still have strong sexual desires but are generally overlooked by men of all ages.

People at all ages (men as well as women) experience significantly diminished libido. And while some folks retire from the game of sex in later middle age there are plenty of post-menopausal women who maintain a keen interest in sex and who perform very well. For some women I think (and men like you) taking the possibility of pregnancy off the table is disinhibiting. 
 

(Pregnancy was not an issue for my wife, but the quality of her orgasms, which was good when she was quite young, got better and better through her late 60s. Now in her mid 70s, she reports that the quality of her orgasms remains high.)

[couplers 4,614]

On 8/6/2013 at 9:14 AM, LFM2 said:

hierarchy of needs, sex was on the same level as breathing, food, water, sleep and homeostasis.

When Sandra Day O'Connor retired from the Supreme Court, the primary reason was that her husband was suffering from mental decline and was in a care facility - where he had struck up a sexual relationship with another resident who was also suffering from senility, for lack of a better word. An article I read around that time, in Slate I believe, said that such a thing was not all that uncommon among institutionalized old people. The article went through all the moral, legal, and ethical issues of such people who do not recognize their decades-long spouses, but are having a torrid affair with new acquaintance. Some try to stop it, some say let them live their last years having this fun. Overall, though it was sad, it reinforced how strong our sexual needs are.  I commend Justice O'Connor for responding with love instead of anger or drama.

 

I don't look forward to getting old, but I do look forward to continuing to having sex, straight and Lesbian. 

 

 

Edited November 9 by couplers