Insecure about breasts - will swinger males be still be attracted to me?

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Okay, I've noticed tons of profiles where they feature the size (very ample size) of the female's bust. I know, I know...everyone is different and all are accepted. But I am getting more and more self-conscious about my small, deflated breasts because of all these large chested women! Are there any men out there that will actually be attracted to my size? Or is it true, that the majority of men prefer big breasts?

[shrevecouple 252]

I can promise you there will be men who like yours but be prepared Augmented Breasts are very very common with swingers. I think alot of women get worried about their breasts including me. I have DD but they aren't as perky as I'd like. I have been contemplating implants to fill them out! LOL

[AZCouple 99]

It isn't the size or shape of the breasts that make a woman sexy. Sexiness comes in all shapes and sizes. If a woman is confident in her body, then it will show through no matter what she is or isn't wearing. It's no different than the men comparing their "size". It just boils down to the old saying. "It not what you got, it's how you use it" !

[ALilOEverything 901]

I'm a mom who breastfed four children and and I have small deflated breasts (36B). Never had a complaint. I probably was with guys who, if given a choice, would have picked larger breasts but they certainly weren't complaining.

 

Always remember, you're a total package deal, inside and out. You're more than just a pair of breasts so don't get hung up on it. Show you're confidence and they will enjoy you.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Thanks, guys! I admit, I have been thinking about getting implants but not soon since I still have to research it and I don't have the money for it. One of the big things that bother me about the implants is how once you get them, sometime in the future you'll need more surgeries in the future to maintain them. Yuck!

 

Also, how do you "use" them? To me, they just kind of sit there...not like that appendage that men have.

 

ALilOEverything, I've also breastfed our three children, 1 year for each. I've also lost a significant amount of weight which adds to the problem of deflated boobs. Why does losing weight have to effect the one place I don't want it to?? lol

[TheRedHalf 81]

As a man I like all sizes. I've dated women ranging from 34b's to my wife's 36DD/38D (depending on the bra) and loved them all. As long as you come with a smile you'll be fine.

 

Disclaimer - I'm an ass man

[exploringRM 305]

I agree with others, all sizes are nice

[junkyard38 21]

It isn't the size or shape of the breasts that make a woman sexy. Sexiness comes in all shapes and sizes. If a woman is confident in her body, then it will show through no matter what she is or isn't wearing. It's no different than the men comparing their "size". It just boils down to the old saying. "It not what you got, it's how you use it" !

 

 

I believe you are putting to much emphasis on your breasts. I am in total agreement with AZ Couple, it is not the size, but the total package. Any woman who only puts emphasis on her breasts, in my book is just a shallow person. I admire a woman who is willing to take the time, and inconvenience of breast feeding for the child's benefit.

[JoeB 17]

My late wife was a 34A and Cat is 42DD. Sex with both was great. Size is just part of sex play.

[AZCouple 99]

How do you use them? Let me count the ways...... Sorry, couldn't pass that one up. There are several ways to use them.

 

Go Topless!

 

Play hide and seek with them. Wear something semi sheer or loose with a deep plunging neckline, or just leave some buttons undone. That way they can only be seen if you move just right.

 

Accent them. Wear a long necklace that dangles down between them.

 

Decorate them. Use non piercing nipple jewelry or chains, temporary tattoos, or use some body sparkles.

 

These are just a few ideas I had. They all will garner attention from the men. Anyone else that has some ideas, please add to the list!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

I'll admit it. If a woman's front precedes her as she walks into a room, it is more likely to catch my eye. But this does not mean that I am not able to sincerely pay tribute to a perky size.

[oc1234 435]

And there are men like me who are really turned on by small breasts. And I am not alone. My best male friend, whom my wife and I play with, also prefers small breasts.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Okay...I know it's probably a hang up of mine and if I didn't have a problem with my breasts I'd probably find a different body image problem to focus on but...what about small breasts that aren't perky? Like flat and deflated? I get this feeling that men are turned on to small breasts because they are still perky.

[Palladin 36]

My sweetie has very, very small boobies. I love them. Over-size ones do nothing for me.

 

Plastic ones are simply hilarious. I live in Vegas and there are thousand of women of all ages who have made themselves look ridiculous with their retail boobs.

 

You are fine. There are millions of men who love you just the way you are.

[ViSexual 1,008]

I'm like OC1234! I prefer small breasts! My wife has large breasts and I've enjoyed them for years and now, if I'm going to be with someone else, I'll always choose a lady with small breasts. There are lots of men who feel the same!

 

Consider this..., you are now in a unique category that a lot of men crave. If you get implants, you'll simply be another, of very many, women with implanted breasts.

[Sgts19 17]

Over the years I’ve been with women with all sized breasts. I guess it’s like men who worry about their cock size, everyone likes something different. I just happen to be one of those men who absolutely love a small breasted women!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Consider this..., you are now in a unique category that a lot of men crave. If you get implants, you'll simply be another, of very many, women with implanted breasts.

 

I love what you said here. I hadn't thought of it that way. Thank you so much for that.

[liesto 17]

Plz dont change anything a womans body is beautiful no matter if she is small or large with a few extra curves or skinney its what is in the heart

[sunbuckus 3,569]

ViSexual, I just wanted to thank you again for what you said. When we went to the meet and greet, I felt more confident that I would be considered unique (in a good way) among the sea of big breasted women.

[wifes_toy 53]

I am a breast man. I love boobies, all sizes. I have to say tho that personality DOES trump body. The fun of swinging for me is I get to play with different sizes. I have played with women who barely have nipples let alone cleavage (fun to lick and nibble on) to about as big as you can get with out "help" Fun for a titty fuck. Then there are the woman with long flat ones (lots of skin, no bulk.) Those are a great hand full when she is on all fours (above me or in front of me!) and feel great when she drags them over my cock.

 

So, it's not the size, its the personality and play that count.

[Just Passing By 140]

Some like big , some like small, for a lot it doesn't make a big difference one way or the other. As mentioned many men ( women too ) prefer a natural boob to a fake of any size.

 

And even if my default visual preference is for (xyz) the occasional friendly encounter with the oposite is an exotic experience.

[Just Passing By 140]

Good one ! I was using (xyz) as generic standin for any physical charistic or combination thereof.

 

The underlieing concept is the stereotypical male brain function ( yes, it is a continuim over all people, etc) is for having an initial visual reaction and attraction to. Particular body type , or look. If you ask someone , they will typically have a type they default prefer. Could be hieght , wt , boob size , legs, butt , hair color & style , ethnic background, etc. If you were to see two or more (persons of gender to which attracted ) walk down the street, with no other input, you usually could have certain ones catch your eye.

 

But once you become exposed to them more , intelligence , wit , conversational compatability , sexual preferences and habits , etc become far more important for anything other than a pure "zipless fuck" . (Dating myself w/ literary refrence)

 

Even if my usual preference is for ( 7 ft tall women w/ green hair & blue skin ) , a ( 2 ft tall woman with pink hair and purple skin ) would be an interesting exotic treat. I'm being nonsensical to not let my point get tied up in my actual preferences.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

My husband likes small breasts best. But he generally can't even tell fake breasts from real. It's really a choice of what makes you feel best. I can tell a difference, but it really doesn't matter to me at all. Everyone is sexy in their own way.

[Randies' 16]

It is just like for guys. Size doesn't matter as long as he knows what to do with it.....

[Playful1 434]

im a B cup, on the small side of B. guys seem to love my boobs.

 

i dont think it's a size thing so much (though yes, i do know guys who like smaller better than bigger and bigger better than smaller. hell my main partner loves small perky boobs) as a "oh yay! i get to touch them!" thing

[Supernova1963 15]

We think that it is the society and the commercials which try to tell us, that you are not attractive with natural boobs. If you watch a commercial for a new mini van, you see only super stylish parents and wonderful, clean kids who behave very well. No one would ever consider to show a commercial with a woman, fresh out of bed, in a jumper with protesting kids driving on a shitty day to school. But we all know, that this is the real life and that buying this car, will not change our personality, our kids personality and their behavior, or the weather.

 

Or, take us men and have a look on all the “Size “ posts. Is it true that ….? Do you think I can with only ? What if the other guy ….?

 

Ok, two differences – in a regular trouser it is not that obvious what size we carry. But on the other hand, we are not able to pump some silicone into.

 

Last but not least, every guy or girl has a different preference. Some like it large, some like legs, some like butts, and and and. But for us, it is the personality of person who let it click or not.

Well if just go to an orgy where you strip and jump into the crowed, than personality does not play the key. But as most of the couples we met, prefer to have a dinner first and check the chemistry, I assume that facts like humor, the ability to talk, the mind set and overall picture is more important than the boob or penis side.

 

Therefore, if you feel insecure, and you think that it is important for you life, do it. But in general, I would say, that erotic and passion should not be influenced by body or body parts measurements.

 

And personally, I like them smaller and “naturel”. There is nothing more sexy than a mature breast, warm and cosy ….. mmmmm !

[lovefest04 701]

sunbuckus,

 

I was upset at your last comment. Don't ever underestimate or play down the hard nipples. We all love the nipples.

 

Seriously, I find the personality and the energy a person brings so much more erotic than the package. Sure, we all would love to have a perfect package, but really, how many do.

 

The female form is a sight to behold but your sexy energy is truly an aphrodisiac; and you can do something about your energy. Focus on that which you can have control and forget the rest.

 

Oh and if you really want a boobie rating feel free to send along a picture. Then be prepared for an honest answer.....10...

 

Up anyone who sends me a picture gets a 10 because you must have a hot sexy naughty streak simmering inside, and that's just plain sexy.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

sunbuckus,

 

I was upset at your last comment. Don't ever underestimate or play down the hard nipples. We all love the nipples.

 

Seriously, I find the personality and the energy a person brings so much more erotic than the package. Sure, we all would love to have a perfect package, but really, how many do.

 

The female form is a sight to behold but your sexy energy is truly an aphrodisiac; and you can do something about your energy. Focus on that which you can have control and forget the rest.

 

Oh and if you really want a boobie rating feel free to send along a picture. Then be prepared for an honest answer.....10...

 

Up anyone who sends me a picture gets a 10 because you must have a hot sexy naughty streak simmering inside, and that's just plain sexy.

 

lovefest04,

 

I guess for the last 5-6 years, I've taken for granted that my nipples are usually hard from all the breastfeeding. I dimly remember how my nipples weren't that way.

 

As for the boobie picture, I'd much rather send booty type pictures.

[bob35 187]

Another thing that I have not seen posted about "enhanced" breasts - They seem to me to be rather hard. Not soft and pliable. They almost poke you.

 

MUCH nicer when they mold to you while snuggling and hugging.

 

Fake boobs make me realize what it feels like for a woman when giving a hug and they get the butt of my pistol (when in shoulder holster) in their boob or side.

 

BTW: the molding applies to all sizes even smallish A cups.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Another thing that I have not seen posted about "enhanced" breasts - They seem to me to be rather hard. Not soft and pliable. They almost poke you.

 

MUCH nicer when they mold to you while snuggling and hugging.

 

Fake boobs make me realize what it feels like for a woman when giving a hug and they get the butt of my pistol (when in shoulder holster) in their boob or side.

 

BTW: the molding applies to all sizes even smallish A cups.

 

bob35, I've heard that before actually. Some find them hard but I've also heard some say that they've experienced fake ones that did feel real. Perhaps it all depends on getting the correct size (instead of some outlandish size) and the specific type of fake breasts. I hear that silicone is better than saline.

[xxxfunseekers 19]

My wife has small breasts and I think that they are VERY sexy! We've played with girls that have big breasts and though they are nice, I prefer the small breasts. They look great - especially when she is naked!

[lovefest04 701]

"As for the boobie picture, I'd much rather send booty type pictures."

 

Schaawing. LOVE the booty.

 

Take care sexy lady.

[ldenn2 15]

What you can't get in your mouth is surplus any way. Of course leftovers are good too. Small ones are cute and my preferance. The besr I ever had was from one with an A cup.

[Sir 15]

New here, and no experience with swinging at all. But as far as breasts go, I can speak for myself that I like them all, small, big, tiny, bigger (than big), deflated, saggy whatever. As long as they are real I love all breasts

 

In fact, my wife is very well endowed but lately I have grown a fetish for tiny breasts, so has she

[Cajun2Step 65]

We love all breast. Never have we seen an ugly breast. Store bought boobies are things of beauty, but, from huge to small, however, we prefer them small.

The most important thing to us is that they are real when it comes to playing.

 

As others have said personality of the bearer is more important than bare boobies.

[Lascivious L&L 866]

There is something profound for me in real. Fake breasts are fake. Many are obviously fake. Even when not obvious, it is usually evident at least at the point of touch that they are not real. The enhanced label seems only to reflect on size. They are not enhanced to the touch, they are not enhanced as to realistic movement. They are not enhanced in any breast function, such as breast feeding or nipple erections.

 

The focus on a size increase has never made sense to me. Why is a size increase the way to go? What happens to the "enhancement" as you reach an elderly age? Do you have it removed?

 

As humans we have a habit of not accepting aging. I don't like getting old either, but not accepting the aging process simply doesn't work, it works against you, against enjoying what advantages age offers. I wouldn't want to be inexperienced again, to lose all that wisdom that cost pain, mistakes, and heartbreak to accumulate. I'd never give up the wisdom I earned the hard way. And that's the only way to earn it, the hard way.

[sunbuckus 3,569]

You guys are so awesome. I'm still struggling with accepting my breasts and their shape. Sometimes when I'm certain that I need/want implants, I get a notification that someone has replied to this thread and it makes me feel better about my smaller size. So, thanks guys!

[tallicafan 41]

There is something profound for me in real. Fake breasts are fake. Many are obviously fake. Even when not obvious, it is usually evident at least at the point of touch that they are not real. The enhanced label seems only to reflect on size. They are not enhanced to the touch, they are not enhanced as to realistic movement. They are not enhanced in any breast function, such as breast feeding or nipple erections.

 

The focus on a size increase has never made sense to me. Why is a size increase the way to go? What happens to the "enhancement" as you reach an elderly age? Do you have it removed?

 

As humans we have a habit of not accepting aging. I don't like getting old either, but not accepting the aging process simply doesn't work, it works against you, against enjoying what advantages age offers. I wouldn't want to be inexperienced again, to lose all that wisdom that cost pain, mistakes, and heartbreak to accumulate. I'd never give up the wisdom I earned the hard way. And that's the only way to earn it, the hard way.

 

Amen!! Agreed 100%

I jokingly tell people that breasts are like cookies. The best and my favorite are the ones i'm currently holding or nibbling on!

[CuriousNJCouple 38]

I didn't read through all of the posts here. I read the first post and knew I had to post right away! If I were somewhere where you are, you would have my attention immediately!! I prefer smaller breasts over larger breasts and I also love the natural, "un-enhanced" look, of real breasts! Don't be insecure about being real. Know that there are guys like me who value the many shapes of nature. You have every reason to be proud of your real and beautiful breasts!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I didn't read through all of the posts here. I read the first post and knew I had to post right away! If I were somewhere where you are, you would have my attention immediately!! I prefer smaller breasts over larger breasts and I also love the natural, "un-enhanced" look, of real breasts! Don't be insecure about being real. Know that there are guys like me who value the many shapes of nature. You have every reason to be proud of your real and beautiful breasts!

 

Thank you, CuriousNJCouple. I'm so glad to know that there are men like you out there.

[D&D 362]

I love small breasts (and large ones too!) but I prefer smaller rather than larger. I cant get enough of mrs D&D's b cups. Can you say "perky" and "nippley"? If you feel the need to get "augmentation" please don't do so on account of me!

[LexxxiR 15]

You are not alone!! I could have easily written your original post. While I have always been insure about my size, after 2 kiddos, the second one born to a 39 year old body...my breasts are unbelievably smaller than before - I am SO insecure about them. My youngest is just 1 & 1/2 years old, and DH is itching for me to get back into swinging and such and I am so insecure for many body reasons - but bust size is a huge (or tiny!) reason why I'm dragging my feet. I even think if they were more normal in size it would make the rest of my body look better by way of proportion, you know?

 

I don't believe in surgery for the sake of vanity...and don't want to set that type of example for my daughter..but man I wish there was a natural way to achieve a normal size - not big, just average would make me happy!

 

It's too the point where I actually cringe and really have to control myself to not pull away when DH touches them...ugh!

 

Thanks for posting...I really get where you are coming from. If you find a way to feel good about it...do let me know!!!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

You are not alone!! I could have easily written your original post. While I have always been insure about my size, after 2 kiddos, the second one born to a 39 year old body...my breasts are unbelievably smaller than before - I am SO insecure about them. My youngest is just 1 & 1/2 years old, and DH is itching for me to get back into swinging and such and I am so insecure for many body reasons - but bust size is a huge (or tiny!) reason why I'm dragging my feet. I even think if they were more normal in size it would make the rest of my body look better by way of proportion, you know?

 

I don't believe in surgery for the sake of vanity...and don't want to set that type of example for my daughter..but man I wish there was a natural way to achieve a normal size - not big, just average would make me happy!

 

It's too the point where I actually cringe and really have to control myself to not pull away when DH touches them...ugh!

 

Thanks for posting...I really get where you are coming from. If you find a way to feel good about it...do let me know!!!

 

Your response matches what I would say! Great minds think alike. I also cringe whenever someone touches my breasts because I am so ashamed of them. They are flat on top with no volume at all. I believe some people call it the sliding egg look? And when I bend over, ugh!

 

The only thing that has made me feel better about them was something ViSexual said:

 

"Consider this..., you are now in a unique category that a lot of men crave. If you get implants, you'll simply be another, of very many, women with implanted breasts. "

 

Perhaps that will made you feel better, too!

[LexxxiR 15]

I'll try to make myself believe that quote! I'm not perky...and you must have more than me - b/c nothing happens (at all!) when I bend over!!

[sunbuckus 3,569]

I'll try to make myself believe that quote! I'm not perky...and you must have more than me - b/c nothing happens (at all!) when I bend over!!

 

I have enough for the bra cups to feel empty. lol Trust me, it's not a pretty sight when I bend over. They're thin and flat and kind of gross even me out!

[Zest 15]

 

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I don't believe in surgery for the sake of vanity...and don't want to set that type of example for my daughter..but man I wish there was a natural way to achieve a normal size - not big, just average would make me happy!

 

It's too the point where I actually cringe and really have to control myself to not pull away when DH touches them...ugh!

 

...

 

 

I don't think it is the least bit vain. If enhancing your breasts will make you happier, then you should do it.

 

And the example that you are setting for your daughter is that the opportunity for women to feel good about themselves has never been better, and mommy seized that opportunity because life is too short not to be happy.

 

Good luck to you.

[D&D 362]

I think Zest has a good point. Doing something for oneself is very different than doing it for someone else. If it really would make you feel better about yourself I think it is appropriate. But please don't take that to mean that others would not be thrilled with what you have. I can't help but think of that song, "don't go changing just to please me I love you just the way you are". Sometimes though we have to do things for ourselves and not for others.

[LexxxiR 15]

Well, interesting thread! Thanks for starting it, sun! Lots of interesting comments.

 

Zest, I agree, in theory, but can't help wonder if it would *really* be for me...it would make me feel better b/c I would be less insecure about showing this part of my body to other people - but ultimately it's still the other people I am trying to please, right??

 

Obviously,I've struggled with this too...oh, well...at this point nothing is changing!

L

[DigginIt 1,132]

Reading through the post you can see there are varying opinions.

 

Mrs. Diggs had breast augmentation. It was never about vanity necessarily, depends on how you look at it, it was about things she wouldn't wear because she didn't feel comfortable in them. Halter tops or dresses that had an elastic halter top style.

 

People have said here and across other threads that they don't care for enhanced breasts, that they love them, they like them either way but at the end of the day, it's not about them, it's about you.

 

You will find people in the lifestyle in all shapes and sizes. What is the most important is how comfortable you feel about yourself because confidence is sexy. My wife is much more confident now after the surgery than she ever was before. If it makes you happy, then do it but make sure it's for you and not for anyone else or what anyone else thinks.

 

After all, you are the one that have to live with them, well you and your hubby

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Lex and Diggin,

 

I think ultimately, it really is a combination of both...getting augmentation for you and others. It just depends on the ratio. For me, and perhaps Lex, I think the surgery would be ultimately be for us. We aren't comfortable with the size we have. Personally, I don't like to look at mine because of how they look. I do find some shamefulness when others see me topless. And when male partners touch and squeeze them, I worry about how they appear because they do wrinkle up.

 

And, yes, I would also be getting the surgery for others, as well. I want to be able to aesthetically be beautiful to them, allow my breasts to give them pleasure in ways that small breasts cannot. If I'm bending over, taking it doggy style, I don't have to worry about how they look like flat pancakes.

 

With all of that being said, I would love to be able to love my body the way that it is. Aside from the fact that it would be soooo much more cheaper (lol) but it's better overall to accept and love the body that you have. However, if I did that 4 years ago, I wouldn't have lost 70+ pounds from my heaviest and gotten into a healthier lifestyle of exercising and watching what I eat. So, what's right and what's wrong? I know that having bigger, perkier breasts would increase my confidence level by tenfold. But I also know that I would still not be happy with my body because I still have saggy tummy skin, stretch marks and thick thighs. Where and when does (should?) the self-loathing end and self-acceptance begin?