A Question For Everyone

[Mr_Qubic 15]

A friend of mine, who once was very active in the Sacramento, CA lifestyle, once pointed out that the West Coast swinging community was more clique-ish, more HWP-centric, and more snobby than the East Coast swingers. I've never fucked anyone on the East Coast myself, so my question is: Is she correct?

[tribbles 490]

I dunno...I'm more west coast and sure have not found what she said. I guess it depends what clubs you go to?

[angelkin 1,326]

I think it can be said about all people (not just swingers or East/West Coast) that HWP is preferred. You can't help what you're attracted to, right?

[Cajun2Step 65]

We have spent most of our time in the mid-west. Some of the nicest, friendliest, and sexy folks can be found there/here. Come on over for a good time.

[Alura 2,777]

You should see Oklahoma in the summertime. The mini-skirts and short-shorts will keep your head spinning. And, Oh My God! Those cowgirls are something else!

 

HWP? I see nothing wrong with that. I've always preferred slender ladies, but a sharp mind will trump a sharp body any time or place.

 

Alura

[Mr_Qubic 15]

A follow-up:

 

If it was "HWP or don't bother attending," then what? How do you define "HWP?"

[LFM2 1,483]

HWP is so subjective, isn't it? Ask 10 people and you will have 10 different definitions.

[TheRedHalf 81]

A follow-up:

 

If it was "HWP or don't bother attending," then what? How do you define "HWP?"

 

We live on the east coast and have seen a couple clubs that require HWP for attendance. This seems to be the exception though.

[dr_pepper 25]

You should see Oklahoma in the summertime. The mini-skirts and short-shorts will keep your head spinning. And, Oh My God! Those cowgirls are something else!

 

HWP? I see nothing wrong with that. I've always preferred slender ladies, but a sharp mind will trump a sharp body any time or place.

 

Alura

 

 

As usual, Alura has nailed it Having grown up in Oklahoma myself, he is so right. And, since the brain is the largest sex organ, I agree with the sharp mind too!!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,027]

A friend of mine, who once was very active in the Sacramento, CA lifestyle, once pointed out that the West Coast swinging community was more clique-ish, more HWP-centric, and more snobby than the East Coast swingers. I've never fucked anyone on the East Coast myself, so my question is: Is she correct?

 

Having seen a bit of the swing community east of the Mississippi and had a recent taste of the Sacramento scene, I'd say "not a dime's worth of difference".

[SmilingHusband 49]

what does HWP stand for?

[weloveeachother 29]

what does HWP stand for?

 

Height/Weight Proportionate

[celtic239 297]

Swingers are like most people, so some will have "cliqueish" attributes whether they are from San Diego or Staten Island

[Mr_Qubic 15]

It seems VERY prevalent in California. A non-judgmental swing group/club/venue appears to be the exception instead of the rule.My lady and I were bluntly (and rather coldly) turned away from three house-party groups on SLS on the basis of our size, and a club in San Francisco goes out of its way on its website to claim that their pre-screened invitees ensure partygoers that only "upscale, fit, and attractive" people need apply. Other groups and couples would meet us and you could see the disappointmenmt on their faces. Needless to say (but hell, I'll say it anyway), we won't be approaching those entities anytime in the future---but the sex-positive community needs to wake up and smell the fact that life is NOT a porn video, and most participants aren't model-perfect.

 

//end rant

[JustAskJulie 2,596]

I've seen that attitude everywhere to some degree. There area always groups that want to be "elite". We just had a new group pop up locally that is being very selective on who they allow to attend their parties - that said, their first party locally has a very attractive list on SLS, and includes people from all over the country (which makes me wonder how many of those people will actually be there). Most of the time I don't see groups like that being open about how selective they are (if they are even open about their existence) they just select those that fit.

 

This reminds me of a thread I've been meaning to start...

[SmilingHusband 49]

Height/Weight Proportionate

 

thanks for the answer!

[Mr_Qubic 15]

I'm willing to admit that (a) we quite likely just chose the wrong establishments w/o knowing the agenda, hidden or otherwise, and (b) I was probably unknowningly emitting some kind of vibe that repelled instead of attracted. I had serious body-image issues back then, and wasn't happy with the fact that my partner was having all the fun and the other participants treated me like shit, but that's a tale for another time and thread.

[good times 991]

I have been to a quite a few clubs in the west, where we live, and a few in the east, they all seem pretty much the same to me. I have seen some people that are what some folks would describe as cliquish or snobbish regarding the types of folks they were willing to interact with, but I don't personally look at it that way. The way I look at it, we go to the club hoping to meet folks we would be interested in playing with, so why would we hang with those we are not interested in. In the end we would either be wasting each others time, or giving someone the wrong impression that we are interested when we are not.

 

Regarding clubs that screen members, I don't have a problem with the few clubs I know of that screen members. The bottom line is, if I didn't measure up, I probably wouldn't have a good time there anyway. And to be totally honest, I have been to clubs on some nights where the clientele led me to have the thought that screening might not be such a bad idea after all. I have never attended a club that screens members, because the idea really doesn't appeal to me, But I have had the thought on occasion.