Partybare 16 Posted March 6, 2012 I'm sure this has been asked a 100 or more times We are not a full swap couple. Softswing would be more like it. But a few years ago I asked my wife to give oral sex to my best friend. We have moved away, yet it still turns me on so much. I obsess about it all the time. Watching a lot of porn about what I discribed. Why do I feel that way? My wife thinks I am a sicko. Yet I read all over the place a lot of married men like. Concerned 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
doug39 80 Posted March 6, 2012 I am obsessed wIth the fantasy of my wife doing another guy and or several guys at the same time. I have fantasized about this on occasion over the years while masturbating; now it is the only fantasy that gets me off!! I try to think about other women while masturbating but my fantasy always shifts back to my wife with other men. I think I am obsessed by this because I know my wife wants to be with other men; either a full swap or a MFM with another guy and me. If we ever go through with any of this it might make our sex hotter it I liked it or turn me off if I hate it. Thoughts and reality are never the same. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
DigginIt 1,132 Posted March 6, 2012 In the swinger scene, I would say that what you feel is very common. I enjoy watching my wife with another man doing anything. Many women may not understand it but your're are far from being a 'sicko' (hopefully your wife was saying it playfully ) I would ask, why are you asking? Is something bothering you about it. Is it things your wife may be saying to you that makes you want to ask? Maybe her teasing you might be her way to solicit responses of your support so she feels better about doing it? Did that make sense? I was basically trying to say that she may be looking for emotional reinforcement because she enjoys it but just can't understand how you would enjoy it. For me personally, the gratification comes from having the level of trust and comfort that my wife can enjoy sex with another person without compromising the trust and respect we have for each other in our relationship. How does your wife feel about giving your friend a blowjob? Did she regret it, did she enjoy it, did she enjoy you being turned on by it? Those are what really matter and if you don't know then more communication needs to take place. Quote Share this post Link to post
Alura 2,774 Posted March 6, 2012 While I can't claim to be obsessed, I have fond memories of watching (and talking to) the late Mrs. Alura while she gave another man head. The times I was uninvolved with Mrs. Playmate (or if she was giving me head while I watched Laura and Mr. Playmate watched his wife) were special. "Do you find this sexy, Darling?" Laura once asked, her lips still kissing the head of the cock that had just been in her mouth. "Oh, yes I do, Sweetheart. Don't you?" She slid the cock out of her mouth and kissed down the side. "Indeed! It's very sexy with you watching. I'm performing for you." She swallowed the head until I was sure it was touching her tonsils, her eyes smiling at me. "Well, you're my favorite porn star, y'know?" "I know... Ummmm... I just tasted some pre-cum, Darling. Wanna watch me swallow Mr. Playmate's load?" She was running her tongue in circles around the tip of his penis. "I'm all eyes and ears, Sweetheart!" "Stay tuned!" she said, turning her gaze to Mr. Playmate. "Give me all you can, Stud," and took his length into her mouth again. Alura 1 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
CuriousNJCouple 38 Posted March 6, 2012 I like watching my wife doing anything. I'm more into MFM for her, than I am into FMF for me. We've done it with couples and MFM, and I love watching her having fun! Originally I wasn't sure how much I'd like it, or not like it, but it is a rush to watch. The joy on her face was priceless! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
eddiew 16 Posted May 25, 2013 While I can't claim to be obsessed, I have fond memories of watching (and talking to) the late Mrs. Alura while she gave another man head. The times I was uninvolved with Mrs. Playmate (or if she was giving me head while I watched Laura and Mr. Playmate watched his wife) were special. "Do you find this sexy, Darling?" Laura once asked, her lips still kissing the head of the cock that had just been in her mouth. "Oh, yes I do, Sweetheart. Don't you?" She slid the cock out of her mouth and kissed down the side. "Indeed! It's very sexy with you watching. I'm performing for you." She swallowed the head until I was sure it was touching her tonsils, her eyes smiling at me. "Well, you're my favorite porn star, y'know?" "I know... Ummmm... I just tasted some pre-cum, Darling. Wanna watch me swallow Mr. Playmate's load?" She was running her tongue in circles around the tip of his penis. "I'm all eyes and ears, Sweetheart!" "Stay tuned!" she said, turning her gaze to Mr. Playmate. "Give me all you can, Stud," and took his length into her mouth again. Alura Wow Mr. Alura, that's a hot story! 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
M1F2KTJ 473 Posted June 2, 2013 Put me in the "I like it" column. Did your wife ever give oral sex to your friend. Your post was kind of ambiguous on that part. I love watching my wife sucking on another man's cock. He'll look over at me with the most "goddamn that feels good" look on his face maybe not believing I'm letting my wife do that. At first she was shy about it but the more we did it the more she sucked cock as if she was on a mission to make the guy cum. I was loving her enthusiasm. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Guest thewriter Posted June 8, 2013 I think there are many men in the lifestyle and not that want to watch his wife given another man oral sex I know it is big on my list of sexual experics to watch. Quote Share this post Link to post
Trophy1802 132 Posted June 9, 2013 I have to admit, and my wife knows it, that we learned early on in our LS experiences that I really like to watch my wife with another man. She realized this from the first time we tried the MMF with another male. At first, as she wanted to get comfortable and did not want to become overwhelmed with having sex with myself and another male at the same time. So, she preferred one male to watch while she played with the other (take turns with each of us). This soon evolved to full-on play with her playing with both of us at the same time. However, she knows how visually arousing it is for me when she is giving the other male oral sex and turns to me and asks me how much I like watching her suck on him while she is squeezing down on me inside of her. Gets me every time and I can't help but ejaculating deep within her as she moans while sucking on him. She really enjoys trying to make us both cum for her at the same time. 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
Sirramm 111 Posted August 29, 2013 I loved 'sharing' my ex-wife and now my current wife, who is just getting into the LS, with other men and for me watching her with another man is just plain out hot as all hell. Watching her suck another mans cock, which is probably more intimate to me than kissing, is very intense. Knowing she is manipulating the sensitive head with her tongue and turning him on and making him probably harder than he's been his entire life makes me proud, hot, horny, and very very turned on! 3 Quote Share this post Link to post
eldiablo311 201 Posted August 30, 2013 I loved 'sharing' my ex-wife and now my current wife, who is just getting into the LS, with other men and for me watching her with another man is just plain out hot as all hell. Watching her suck another mans cock, which is probably more intimate to me than kissing, is very intense. Knowing she is manipulating the sensitive head with her tongue and turning him on and making him probably harder than he's been his entire life makes me proud, hot, horny, and very very turned on! I love the thought of my wife doing that also. I think we are almost to the point of her trying it! It's exciting to think about! Quote Share this post Link to post
junglecouple 127 Posted August 30, 2013 When we have extra Male company, and my wife is in the middle of flirting, clothes are off.. she loves me to grab her head and guide her mouth onto our guests penis. She say's it's part of her Sex Slave fantasy that she loves. I found it daunting at first, but it's a regular part of play now. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Sirramm 111 Posted August 31, 2013 I love the thought of my wife doing that also. I think we are almost to the point of her trying it! It's exciting to think about! Hey if you are near Cambridge, Maryland...just tossin' it out there! The first time I watched one of my girlfriends give another guy a blowjob was in high school (MANY MANY years ago! LOL) while we were playing truth or dare at a graduation party. At first I was sick to my stomach watching her but after a few minutes he looked at me with a great big grin and said "DAMN! She's good at this!" and that was probably the true beginning of my deviant swinging life and I haven't regretted one minute of it! 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
eldiablo311 201 Posted September 2, 2013 Hey if you are near Cambridge, Maryland...just tossin' it out there! The first time I watched one of my girlfriends give another guy a blowjob was in high school (MANY MANY years ago! LOL) while we were playing truth or dare at a graduation party. At first I was sick to my stomach watching her but after a few minutes he looked at me with a great big grin and said "DAMN! She's good at this!" and that was probably the true beginning of my deviant swinging life and I haven't regretted one minute of it! Lol! We will see! That is a sexy story! I really think doing this stuff is a balance between the emotions of jealousy and excitement. I think, at least in my opinion, the key to be able to do this stuff successfully as a couple is learning how to react/handle your jealous feelings when you see your s/o with another person. I think if handled right, like in your story, the negative feelings can consciously be turned into positive, exciting, erotic feelings! Quote Share this post Link to post
junglecouple 127 Posted September 2, 2013 We're meeting a new M playmate tonight, and her performing oral is a given.. she likes it, I like to watch her enjoy, and who, in their right mind, would turn it down? Quote Share this post Link to post
Haveher 3 Posted February 3, 2021 I believe that a woman and man should always be in agreement also not the jealous type, an a understanding if he gets a blowjob from another women or your wife sucking another mans cock! I personally think it would be hot to watch my wife suck another guys cock and I have asked, but she’s scared an it’s really depressing to me that she doesn’t do it for me and doesn’t want get into swinging. she really puts a damper on our sex life and always makes excuses! I envy couples that can have fun this way! Quote Share this post Link to post
Haveher 3 Posted February 3, 2021 (edited) My wife never sucked cock she was afraid too, I told her that once she tries it and do it and repeat it over and over she will like it. Now she’s likes sucking my cock and swallows! Now if I can only convince her, that she will enjoy and have pleasure sucking other men as I watch! Edited February 3, 2021 by Haveher Typo 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Anon321 522 Posted February 3, 2021 I love watching my GF suck guys cocks. And if she did it once and then stopped I would probably think or obsess about it. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,634 Posted February 3, 2021 A woman's frustration - I like watching my guys lick Clair or Lora's pussy, but the female anatomy doesn't make cunnilingus a good spectator sport. It does enter my mind when I go down on the girls, I spend time admiring their part before I start and imagine a guy doing the licking as I please her. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Haveher 3 Posted February 3, 2021 I want to watch my wife suck other men’s cock that would be awesome!! 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Deadeye 24 Posted February 3, 2021 I loved watching her suck cock then French kiss me. She loves me because am not the jealous type. 4 Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted February 3, 2021 3 hours ago, Anon321 said: I love watching my GF suck guys cocks. And if she did it once and then stopped I would probably think or obsess about it. One of the first conversations we ever had about this, Mrs. E voiced one of her concerns, that if she did it once, she was afraid we'd keep doing it. "...I mean, if it's fun for both of us, why wouldn't we, right?" "Oh." I think getting past that initial hurdle of "let's try this fun wrong thing once as a fantasy" over to "this isn't wrong at all" can be a process, especially if sex being kind of taboo is part of your background. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Deadeye 24 Posted February 3, 2021 On 3/6/2012 at 2:46 PM, DigginIt said: In the swinger scene, I would say that what you feel is very common. I enjoy watching my wife with another man doing anything. Many women may not understand it but your're are far from being a 'sicko' (hopefully your wife was saying it playfully ) I would ask, why are you asking? Is something bothering you about it. Is it things your wife may be saying to you that makes you want to ask? Maybe her teasing you might be her way to solicit responses of your support so she feels better about doing it? Did that make sense? I was basically trying to say that she may be looking for emotional reinforcement because she enjoys it but just can't understand how you would enjoy it. For me personally, the gratification comes from having the level of trust and comfort that my wife can enjoy sex with another person without compromising the trust and respect we have for each other in our relationship. How does your wife feel about giving your friend a blowjob? Did she regret it, did she enjoy it, did she enjoy you being turned on by it? Those are what really matter and if you don't know then more communication needs to take place. My wife I shared before we married . So we both loved sex with others. She wanted me to fuck her girlfriends and she fuck there husbands. Strangers. She sucked and fucked . She bring a women home for me say I will be back in the morning. Climb in bed with us. She was cool . Our marriage lasted for 30 years . we still talk. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Deadeye 24 Posted February 3, 2021 On 3/6/2012 at 3:59 PM, CuriousNJCouple said: I like watching my wife doing anything. I'm more into MFM for her, than I am into FMF for me. We've done it with couples and MFM, and I love watching her having fun! Originally I wasn't sure how much I'd like it, or not like it, but it is a rush to watch. The joy on her face was priceless! She enjoys it be supportive . Say I love watching you enjoy being so sexy for another man . Your so beautiful sucking and getting fucked. Makes me want to love your sexy cum filled body . We mush do it again . 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Idahocouple6969 294 Posted February 3, 2021 After we started swinging my wife realized what I had been saying for years she is really good at it. And as an added bonus she really likes an audience. 1 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,634 Posted February 3, 2021 1 hour ago, Deadeye said: She bring a women home for me say I will be back in the morning. Climb in bed with us. I did the same for hubby. Loved it both ways but really loved to climb in bed with them. It was her choice. Quote Share this post Link to post
Haveher 3 Posted February 4, 2021 6 hours ago, Deadeye said: I loved watching her suck cock then French kiss me. She loves me because am not the jealous type. I’m thinking of playing the blind folded game Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,634 Posted February 4, 2021 6 hours ago, Deadeye said: I loved watching her suck cock then French kiss me. Did you guys snowball? The guys don't like it, but we women do, passing either what is ejaculated into her mouth or what we sucked out of her pussy. 6 hours ago, Deadeye said: She loves me because am not the jealous type. I fell in love with the man who became my husband, but when said he didn't mind if I kept my relationship with my ex-fiancé with no expectation of reciprocity, I loved him all the more. What woman wouldn't? I was, and still am, the jealous type but I've tamed that beast and am literally addicted to getting jealous over my husband being intimate with Lora and Clair. Such a sweet agony and tremendous release getting them back. Quote Share this post Link to post
The other side of us 23 Posted December 17, 2021 This is my biggest play fantasy and my wife has a similar one. Both of these are what have us talking more about going to a club. Firstly my wife gives incredible head mainly because she loves it. I think my fantasy started because I felt bad that I was the only one experiencing it, for the last 30 years anyway. My fantasy is we are at a club and we have met a guy we like, he's BBC. We chat for a while and I go for drinks. When I get back she is on his lap playing with his cock while he fingers her and sucks her tits. When she sees I'm back she kneels between his legs and sucks his cock, I get behind her and finger her pussy while he plays with her tits. After a while she moves to the bed and lies on her back I start to fuck her and her puts his cock back in her mouth, I'm watching a mix of face fucking and her sucking. Finally we all cum together, her on my balls, me on ther belly and him on her tits. Her fantasy while she masterbates is sucking a line of cocks. She's never mentioned if she is working along the line or the line is working its way through her. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
hotwife70 593 Posted October 11, 2022 I definitely prefer my wife performs her oral's skill on other guy's cocks for sure as long as she enjoyed it. Luckily,She has no objection to that saying since it's already there why not enjoy it beside she loves sucking cock.It's a routine to suck my cock to start then the fucking came along. 3 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
PJ&Lin 188 Posted October 16, 2022 This was the first act I watched when Linda sucked another man. The first time she did it she stopped and had sex with him then the next time she kept up until he came in her mouth. It got hotter when she had one man in her and one in her mouth but the hottest was a woman licking her as she had the husband in her mouth. 2 5 Quote Share this post Link to post
enhancer 1,585 Posted October 31, 2022 I have seen her give oral sex to more women then men, because that is what she chases the most in the lifestyle! I do however love watching her suck another man’s cock and the look on their face while she is doing it. Like everything she does it is with loads of passion. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
findinganswers 369 Posted November 1, 2022 It has become natural for me to watch her now and natural for me to give and get oral sex, not so much the first time. Our friends were swingers before we took our first play with them. My wife and her friend planned to get me to agree to swinging a thing I was sure was wrong. My wife was very eager and looking back I wondered if she and our friends had already done something without me, they all deny deny deny. My wife never seemed bothered or afraid to go between his legs and take him in her mouth, it went too easy no stopping. I watched her enjoying as I got to enjoy her friend who steered me to my own first time. I now enjoy watching her enjoy whatever she does and I enjoy most of our play. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
couplers 4,634 Posted November 1, 2022 I have come to believe that nonmonogamy is natural. Despite the lifestyle still being considered unusual, most people have multiple partners before marriage, and many don't marry, they just "partner." And most are not for a lifetime. 2 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,412 Posted November 12, 2022 On 3/6/2012 at 11:51 AM, Partybare said: I asked my wife to give oral sex to my best friend. We have moved away, yet it still turns me on so much. Did she do it? Did he cum? Where? On 3/6/2012 at 11:51 AM, Partybare said: it still turns me on so much. .. I read all over the place a lot of married men like. It turns me on because of what is going to be happening next. On 3/6/2012 at 11:51 AM, Partybare said: Why do I feel that way? You tell us... Quote Share this post Link to post
EastInWest 1,524 Posted November 13, 2022 On 2/3/2021 at 2:35 PM, Idahocouple6969 said: After we started swinging my wife realized what I had been saying for years she is really good at it. And as an added bonus she really likes an audience. I think this is surprisingly common. I used to tell Mrs. E she gives amazing head and she'd dismiss it, on the theory that men enjoy getting head from anyone and nobody would ever say it was bad. She was actually pretty shy about it, and also considered it very intimate. She knew I liked watching her, but it took quite a bit for it to really click that she's skilled and looks good doing it, and that it's something she can do confidently as a way to perform, both for me and for play partners. Once she got into it she had a little game going for a while, which she'd jokingly call "eye doctor", comparing different licks and strokes and asking which one felt and looked better from my perspective. That realization that it's not just a sex act that happens to use her mouth, but a way for her to express something fun and playful and enjoy very positive, joyful attention. 1 1 Quote Share this post Link to post
Numex 2,412 Posted November 13, 2022 On 10/31/2022 at 3:12 PM, enhancer said: I have seen her give oral sex to more women then men, because that is what she chases the most in the lifestyle! My wife likes sex with women as much as men, so she goes down on pussy regularly. Difference is that Daniela and other women going down on each other takes them to orgasm, while taking a dick in her mouth is most usually foreplay and he cums in her cunt. On 10/16/2022 at 5:07 PM, PJ&Lin said: the hottest was a woman licking her as she had the husband in her mouth. FFM is Daniela's preferred play, but with his dick in a pussy and the girl getting fucked eating the other pussy. Switch. Repeat. 1 Quote Share this post Link to post