Allowing your woman to receive oral cumshot?

[themidan 15]

For a long time, both of us decided it might have been a bit too much when we first started. But lately I have been fantasizing about watching her take a load, swallowing most of it, but leaving something to play with. Would you, or does anyone already do it??

[Galanga 249]

The cumshot is the best part. Why would a woman want to deprive herself of that? And actually let me correct myself - the cumshot is the second best part. The few seconds just before the cumshot is really the best part, especially if the guy fights to hold back. There's an eerie premonition of excitement in those few seconds. You can feel the shaft harden, the head bloat, and if your mouth is low enough on the shaft, you can feel the vas deference starting to pulsate in preparation for the inevitable cumshot. It's a feeling like cresting that first hill of a rollercoaster. You know the big thrill is just a few seconds away, and you wait for it with anticipation. The cumshot just puts the icing on the cake (didn't mean to get too graphic there).

 

Make sure your wife understands that a man starts ejaculating BEFORE his orgasm reaches maximum intensity. His pleasure peaks right at about the second or third cum squirt. So for his sake, once you sense he's about to cum, slide your head all the way down, hold it perfectly still (guys really don't like the head pumping thing, but that's a topic of another post), press your tongue firmly against the shaft, and with your head motionless, slide your tongue up and down the shaft and frenulum waiting for the cumshot ... and keep doing that until all the cum is done. Another note - stop as soon as he's done (you can tell by the shaft beginning to soften in your mouth). Guys really don't like having direct stimulation to the penis during the refractory period.

 

One final note, with all due respect, I take exception with your title. It's really not up to you to "allow" her (or forbid her) to do anything. You and she should (and I assume you do) have mutual respect for one another's desires, rendering words like "allow" unnecessary.

[Alura 2,773]

I agree with Galanga. I never "allowed" Mrs. Alura to do anything. She made decisions for herself. I'd not have wanted it any other way. We had that in common.

 

Alura

[slevin 1,374]

Definitely agree with Galanga and Alura, but I am amused that it was the word "allow" that triggered response and not "your woman". I have less concern about the word allow than the possessive "your woman"

[Cajun2Step 65]

We also would like to add our comment about the choice of "allow" in the topic of your thread.

 

I would not have chosen to use that terminology as we are equal partners in our marriage. It is not 50-50 but 100-100% and has always worked for us with that arrangement.

 

In your defense, the terminology used in different parts of the US and Canada do not mean the same everywhere. In Louisiana the word Coon-ass is loved by some and hated by others.

 

So frum dis ole Cajun, Coon-ass, ore whut evar yu choose to calz me, mais -la donut got ur panties in dat twist ovar sum comentories.

 

Lache-pa-patate!

 

Drank sum beers, eat sum tail, and suck some head.....dat iz crawfish head mi fran. Mais dat almos maik me gave up sex.....butz no tonite.

[themidan 15]

LOL! I understand what yall are saying, bad choice of words, thank for checking me! My wife and we are free to play anyway we want.

[shrevecouple 252]

I am going to politely disagree with your opposition to the choice of words. I didn't take as much offense as some of you have. To me it just implies that you do have somewhat of a say so. There is nothing wrong with folks who don't just go free willy as if their actions have not affect on thier husband/wife.

 

I think sometimes too much emphasis is put on the technicalities in a post rather than the real question that is being asked.

[slevin 1,374]

There is nothing wrong with folks who don't just go free willy as if their actions have not affect on thier husband/wife.

 

I think the point is that the phase "allow your woman" brings to mind a situation of control and ownership. Even in a situation where my wife is free to do what she wants, we still respect each other enough to involve each other in decisions. Just like how I don't just go buy a new car without her input (even though I'd be "allowed" to do it), I wouldn't go forward on something in swinging without her input, even if I was allowed.

 

Those of us who didn't like the statement were focused more on the underlying connotation than whether she was or wasn't free to do something without discussing it with her husband, or evaluating it's impact on their relationship.

 

Sometimes we do get hung up on small things like that in posts. Sometimes it's more important than the actual question Maybe this wasn't one of those times...

[Alura 2,773]

To answer the question:

 

Mrs. Alura once said, "When I give head, Darling, I fully expect to swallow the guy's load, should he choose to give it to me. If I didn't want to do that, his penis would not be in my mouth."

 

The husband of one of our long-term playcouples had a bit of a premature ejaculation problem when we first met them. Mrs. Alura quickly learned that he could keep it up a long time during the second round.

 

The first time it happened, after making out a bit, she looked him in the eyes and said, "I'm going to suck your cock until you to come in my mouth. I think you'll be able to last a lot longer when we get down to fucking. Relax and enjoy!"

 

After that, it became a regular thing for some time. He eventually got his orgasms more under control but it was pretty special to watch her "take the edge off" with a "no responsibility blowjob."

 

Alura

[rebbegone 1]

Wow...everyone go so hung up on the wording they completely ignored the point

[Galanga 249]

I actually feel guilty for starting the whole thing about wording. The comment about disagreeing with implications of female possession was just a quick aside at the end of two large paragraphs addressing the original point. It seems to have redirected the entire conversation.

[Alura 2,773]

I had a part in that. I apologize. It's a great thread!

 

Should the title be changed? Perhaps, "Watching your wife receive an oral cumshot?"

 

Any suggestions? themidan?

 

Alura

[MrsHidalgo 25]

To answer the question:

 

Mrs. Alura once said, "When I give head, Darling, I fully expect to swallow the guy's load, should he choose to give it to me. If I didn't want to do that, his penis would not be in my mouth."

 

 

I feel the same way. If I feel good about giving a guy head, then I expect the REWARD of his cum in my mouth! It simply tells (or affirms!) that I just gave him a good blowjob. Some couples have different rules, and that's OK. But Mr. H knows that I love it, and he's fine with it. One of the men we regularly play with can't hold back more than a few minutes, and honestly I want more than that when I'm having sex. An initial oral orgasm lets him recover fairly quickly and then he's usually ready for a longer, more enduring romp.

[LiveLoveHaveFun 114]

The cumshot is the best part. Why would a woman want to deprive herself of that? And actually let me correct myself - the cumshot is the second best part. The few seconds just before the cumshot is really the best part, especially if the guy fights to hold back. There's an eerie premonition of excitement in those few seconds. You can feel the shaft harden, the head bloat, and if your mouth is low enough on the shaft, you can feel the vas deference starting to pulsate in preparation for the inevitable cumshot. It's a feeling like cresting that first hill of a rollercoaster. You know the big thrill is just a few seconds away, and you wait for it with anticipation. The cumshot just puts the icing on the cake (didn't mean to get too graphic there).

 

Make sure your wife understands that a man starts ejaculating BEFORE his orgasm reaches maximum intensity. His pleasure peaks right at about the second or third cum squirt. So for his sake, once you sense he's about to cum, slide your head all the way down, hold it perfectly still (guys really don't like the head pumping thing, but that's a topic of another post), press your tongue firmly against the shaft, and with your head motionless, slide your tongue up and down the shaft and frenulum waiting for the cumshot ... and keep doing that until all the cum is done. Another note - stop as soon as he's done (you can tell by the shaft beginning to soften in your mouth). Guys really don't like having direct stimulation to the penis during the refractory period.

 

One final note, with all due respect, I take exception with your title. It's really not up to you to "allow" her (or forbid her) to do anything. You and she should (and I assume you do) have mutual respect for one another's desires, rendering words like "allow" unnecessary.

 

Took the words right out of my mouth!

 

Alicia

[LFM2 1,482]

To answer the question:

 

Mrs. Alura once said, "When I give head, Darling, I fully expect to swallow the guy's load, should he choose to give it to me. If I didn't want to do that, his penis would not be in my mouth."

 

Alura

 

This is perfect. I wish we had a :LOVE: button!!

 

I have to admit that I love to suck on a nice healthy cock, and swallowing has never been a problem, but I've never just swallowed some of it and played with the other. Could be interesting though.

[cupl4fun 361]

Definitely agree with Galanga and Alura, but I am amused that it was the word "allow" that triggered response and not "your woman". I have less concern about the word allow than the possessive "your woman"

 

Yeah. We are not really fond of the wording here either. Having said that, Mrs. cupl loves swallowing. Never watched her play with it though. I guess I have been too busy playing as well . She actually is not a big fan of the flavor but the excitement and power of feeling a man cum in her mouth is a huge rush for her. As for me, if it gets her hot and bothered I am gonna enjoy it as well

[ricksara 15]

After many years of swinging with our own group it was, and is anything goes. As long as all doing it agree. We never even thought about not doing anything. It might be because we have been with the same people for so long. I have a real fondness for cum, but for me, it's the old saying. " in me , not on me." I don't get bent out of shape over a little spillage:)though.

Sara

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

This is perfect. I wish we had a :LOVE: button!!

 

I have to admit that I love to suck on a nice healthy cock, and swallowing has never been a problem, but I've never just swallowed some of it and played with the other. Could be interesting though.

 

Ditto. I can't even imagine not swallowing.. Iguess there's been a few times that I've pulled a guy out of my mouth to finish him, but I don't remember them.

[Sophy 568]

We both agree to enjoy the lifestyle, we do not "allow things each other",

To answer your question if I take cum of play partner on my mouth:

I love perform oral sex to my play partners, sometimes I do swallow others I do rub it on my chest.

[Guest]

First of all, the real focus of the original questions, taking a cum shot and possibly exchanging it with hubby. Normally, you're sucking a guy to turn him on and to turn yourself on. My tendency is if he doesn't pull it out when he cums, I suck it until its clean and dry. Some guys seem to sensitive for that. In terms of exchanging it, no, hubby pretty much stays away from kissing me for the next several minutes after I swallow. We met a couple that we thought wanted to swing with us but finally we figured out that the guy was into watching his wife fuck and then sucking the cum out of her vagina.

 

Now about the use of "allowing". I think it is an appropriate term or can be in this type of forum. I mean, when we go to a couples club or otherwise are swapping with another could, yea, what I do with the other guy is pretty much up to me. Same thing, if we're in a bar and I just start flirting with the guy next to us and it ends up with an MFM, I'm kind of "in-charge" of how it goes, what I do, etc. But, there are times when hubby gets into my submissive kink. He may take me to the edge of orgasm, I get bound and spanked and told what I have to do or can't do that night. Maybe we are on vacation and have been to the same bar a few times and Bill has been flirting with me or I with he. So my instructions for the night might be that I can't say no to any of Bill's advances. Or, if we have sex with him, I can fuck him but not suck him or vice versa. So, "allow" can be an appropriate term given the subject matter.

[Alura 2,773]

Definitely agree with Galanga and Alura, but I am amused that it was the word "allow" that triggered response and not "your woman". I have less concern about the word allow than the possessive "your woman"

 

Mrs. Alura never let me forget that she was, indeed, "my woman."

[shy_couple 458]

I agree with Galanga. I never "allowed" Mrs. Alura to do anything. She made decisions for herself. I'd not have wanted it any other way. We had that in common.

 

Alura

Ditto

[couplers 4,568]

Although each of us three girls in our poly group like to suck our guys, we (and they) prefer cumming in our vaginas. That is the absolute best feel. But when one of our guys does cum in our mouth, we almost always swallow it all, although every so often one of us (girl or guy) will "snowball," as I understand oral cum sharing is called. Nothing is held back in our little poly circle.