Swinging - How Often is Too Much?

[sunbuckus 3,567]

This isn't like my other question from a couple of weeks ago...I was wondering how often you all play? Once a month? Every other week? Once a week? Twice a week? Etc. Is there ever a point where you feel like you're playing too much? Or do you all think there isn't such a thing?

[rainbowskye 102]

When I was not out of commission I really just played as I felt like it. It was usually twice a month ir once a month.

 

It varies by couple on what they consider too much for them.

 

If it becomes overwhelming or is taking over then in my opinion it's too much. You still need your time spent together to maintain balance.

[Time2play4U2 15]

We are so new to this but I will say that we know what to much is. The first couple of months we seemed to be going constantly and there can be to much of a good thing. For us having kids at home still we've learned if we can get 2 dates in a month we're good. We would absolutely love to play more but we just don't have the time and family comes first. Fortunatly we have met a really great group of people that understand our play time is limited and being that we have the youngest kids they can usually work around us. In fact Friday night is our next night out and we're going on a date with a couple that we've met once before in a group setting, can't wait to see how it turns out

[exploringRM 305]

Our playtime seems to come in feast or famine due to a variety of reasons (work schedule, opportunity, medical issues). It can be 4 times a month (with some at a house party with multiple encounters) to none a month.

[tallicafan 41]

We get out and play once or twice a month. Summer seems to be a little busier. We once met 4 different couples in one week when we were newbies. Probably wouldn't do that again, but that's how we learn. :rolls eye: The most important thing is that we connect as a couple and are comfortable..

[occ 148]

About every other week for us. We don`t have kids at home so we are pretty flexible.I would do it more but MrOCC travels a lot so his work schedule makes it difficult to do it more often.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Sounds like twice a month is the average! I wish I could have made this into a poll thingy...or maybe someone can start one!

[lovinher 505]

If either one of you think it's too much then it is. If not, enjoy it. It really doesn't matter how often others are doing it. Once the initial excitement wanes (if it does at all) you may find that you slow down a bit.

[lovefest04 700]

You know it's too much when your partner says, "Honey, I'm all worked up, let's have sex tonight" and your first response is; "With who?":lol:

[ALilOEverything 901]

Once or twice a month is the pattern we've fallen into and that seems to work well for us. I think it will be less in the future with so many family commitments.

[angelkin 1,326]

Our playtime seems to come in feast or famine due to a variety of reasons (work schedule, opportunity, medical issues). It can be 4 times a month (with some at a house party with multiple encounters) to none a month.

 

OMG, this is our life! Sometimes we go out with the intentions of playing, but don't find suitable "friends". This could be every weekend and then when things get busy, we find ourselves too tired, too overworked, or over-traveled to go out. Feast or famine, perfect description.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

Our playtime seems to come in feast or famine due to a variety of reasons (work schedule, opportunity, medical issues). It can be 4 times a month (with some at a house party with multiple encounters) to none a month.

 

OMG, this is our life! Sometimes we go out with the intentions of playing, but don't find suitable "friends". This could be every weekend and then when things get busy, we find ourselves too tired, too overworked, or over-traveled to go out. Feast or famine, perfect description.

 

Yep. There really is no consistency in how often we play. Too damn many variables for us!

[DigginIt 1,132]

When it starts to interfere with anything important.

[twistedpretzels 100]

Every few months at this point

[Dont.Stop 339]

We're feasting now, playing nearly every week. Weekends are normally tough for us, but our new friends seem to have no problems with Thursday nights.

 

Once or twice a month is average for us. Though we'd play more if schedules allow.

[LFM2 1,482]

Our playtime seems to come in feast or famine due to a variety of reasons (work schedule, opportunity, medical issues). It can be 4 times a month (with some at a house party with multiple encounters) to none a month.

 

This is us as well... Just too many variables to mention.

[MN Tom 251]

Too much is all in the eye of the beholder. But I would say that if it starts to interfere with the rest of your life, it's too much.

 

We have stopped all playing now (and probably indefinitely), but over the last 2 years we played on the average of every week. Probably a bit more than that actually, maybe 1.5x/wk even.

 

We were a bit odd though, we played almost entirely separate (1v1 mostly), so scheduling was much easier to handle.

 

Some weeks we played a lot, 3+ times, and there were a few weeks we didn't play at all (on vacation, too many kid activities, people are sick, time of month..).

 

Looking back, it seems kind of crazy actually. And at times, it was.

 

Personally I hit the "too much" limit when I was trying to juggle time between 5 or so gals, some who wanted weekly play, some bi weekly play. That was cool for a few weeks, but it was too much beyond that.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Too much is all in the eye of the beholder. But I would say that if it starts to interfere with the rest of your life, it's too much.

 

We have stopped all playing now (and probably indefinitely), but over the last 2 years we played on the average of every week. Probably a bit more than that actually, maybe 1.5x/wk even.

 

We were a bit odd though, we played almost entirely separate (1v1 mostly), so scheduling was much easier to handle.

 

Some weeks we played a lot, 3+ times, and there were a few weeks we didn't play at all (on vacation, too many kid activities, people are sick, time of month..).

 

Looking back, it seems kind of crazy actually. And at times, it was.

 

Personally I hit the "too much" limit when I was trying to juggle time between 5 or so gals, some who wanted weekly play, some bi weekly play. That was cool for a few weeks, but it was too much beyond that.

 

We've been going about the same pace for the last month and I'm going to take some time off from it all for the next month until the next scheduled party that we're all set to go to. Mr. Sunbuckus gave me a hall pass which I've used about 4 times. It's exciting but I'm ready for Mr. Sunbuckus to have his turn to have fun. Unfortunately, it's much harder going the other way.

[knb2004 364]

Since we moved to Florida, it's practically every weekend. It's sometimes exhausting lol...

[Swinging Oz 15]

Go on vacation to a resort for 7 days and you may have had enough to last you a while! We almost had enough by day 4 of our 7 day holiday with many couples asking us to hook up. There was no time to fit everyone in! Each night was fun with someone new but then it almost got too much. Maybe it was the Australian accent that made people want to play with us! But vacations aside we play every 1-2 months as we are very busy people, but we also still have sensational sex with each other. Our next trip to Desire is in June for a week. Will we be over it after day 4 again with people queueing up? We will let you know!

[ALilOEverything 901]

There was no time to fit everyone in!

 

This is when you tell everyone "Orgy in my room". Sometimes a night that is more like a sampler platter and less like a main course is a great way to mix it up

[CollegeCouple24 232]

Once a month for us But it's almost always dictated by how busy we are with work. For us, finding new couples each time online takes a lot of time. Then verification, then finding a good time to meet, etc. If you have a steady couple or frequent the clubs, it seems like it would be easier to find time more often for it.