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When searching for partners as a single girl I know that one needs to be careful about safety. Very rarely do I ever meet anyone from the Internet as I almost always have the instant bad vibe feeling. I have been emailing/texting a couple for about a week that found me on Pof... Thing is, no bad vibe gut reaction.... She is a funeral director of all things... But he says that he is a cop. That is what almost instantly put me at ease while talking to this couple. Am I being stupid or unsafe by feeling safer because the male claims to be a cop? I say claim because I have not met them yet but they sound very legit, lots of pics etc..

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Yes, it's a bit naive. People can say they are anything. Even then, I've known plenty of very sketchy cops. Just by being a cop wouldn't make me feel any better about someone. I think the only way to really tell is to meet in person and trust your gut on how you feel about them. People can be very different in person.

 

In terms of safety, to put your mind at ease I would recommend:

 

- Meet somewhere public with plenty of people around, outside of your neighborhood.

- Don't tell them where you live

- Tell someone where you are going and who you're going to meet

- Make arrangements to call them when you arrive and call again when you get home

- Never play on the first date; when you do play don't make it either their house or yours. Make it a club, party or hotel room

- Again, make sure someone knows where you're going and who you're meeting

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Am I being stupid or unsafe by feeling safer because the male claims to be a cop?

 

Not stupid, but maybe naive.

Cops can be dicks too.

 

(Not a cop bashing post)

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I work in Law Enforcement and yes we recruit from the same human gene pool as every other profession. We are held to a higher standard, but we are still human. Yes, some of us are total dicks...Use some judgement and heed some of the tips that others have suggested. Be safe!!

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Not stupid, but maybe naive.

Cops can be dicks too.

 

(Not a cop bashing post)

I can see it is not a bash. But maybe an unintentional pun?

 

cop = dick

 

For those of you who are not old enough to remember or have never seen a 1930s movie, I will supply a hint. My grandfather was referred to by certain elements of society a "railroad dick"; to much the same crowd a "bull".

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Our first experience with a "third" in our relationship was in law enforcement. It added a level of safety and comfort on a lot of levels.

 

And it was GREAT.

 

helped that he was telling the truth. Lol

 

:)

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As a side note, we have noticed a rather LARGE amount of civil servants in the lifestyle. Lots of cops, nurses, teachers, military, emergency etc. My theory has been that for the most part, these are professions of "for the community!" In other words, people who are very into sharing. :-D

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:btdedhrs:

 

Professions do not relate necessarily to trustworthiness.

 

People are people and we all have our hang-ups and issues, who doesn't. What is important is how they treat you and that is something you won't know until you get to know them better. Emails/text's can only tell you so much.

 

Good luck!

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Is it naive to believe that just because someone is a cop they are honest? Yeah, it is.

 

That said, I've been in your shoes and I always felt the same way about meeting people online (couples or guys), so I feel ya. I also know that there's not a whole lot of other ways to meet people these days that are any safer.

 

If the only reason your gut is saying "go ahead" is because he's a cop then I'd take a step back and think about it more. If however your gut was not sending off bat signals before you even found out their profs, I"d go ahead and meet them for coffee or drinks in a neutral and safe environment. For the record, anytime you meet someone online you should always meet in a safe neutral environment.

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There is that obvious benefit that he has handcuffs?:kissface:

 

The only cop I've been with had a dominant streak...Just treat them like any other couple you'd meet, and always be careful.

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its naive.

 

no one job makes someone safer or better. i've known assholes from all walks of life, and great people from all walks.

 

I've also learned...nothing beats meeting someone in person, then judging. That's not to say I'm not guilty of judging online, hell, I do it all the time. I have certain things that are red flags for me. but, I try not to get in my own way.

 

Don't assume too much based on jobs.

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I remember a study when I was in college, about a century ago, in which law enforcement officials' upbringing and backgrounds were compared to those of convicted felons. The two groups had more in common with each other than any other group.

 

Alura

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I remember high school bullies. Sure nuff', a few years later, many of them were wearing badges and carrying guns. That's about the time I lost respect for the local Law Enforcement.. May not be true everywhere, but it sure was true here.

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