Jump to content
ViSexual

How many wives are turned on by husband's bisexuality?

Recommended Posts

17 hours ago, couplers said:

It is not a stigma, but yes, if two men are sexually engaged with each other, it is gay, homosexual.  Just as I do not shy from saying that I engage in homosexual, Lesbian acts - it is not my "bi" side, it is my Lesbian side.

 

Is strict male homosexuality less frequent than strict female homosexuality?  I don't know, from my personal experience it is probably more frequent.

 

Bisexuality in men vs. women?  I don't know the answer to that one either, but I suspect there are more bisexual women than bisexual men.

 

Why is all of this?  Someone needs to explain it to me.

Survey research suggests you are correct in believing that women are more likely to identify as bisexual than men. I conclude that based on two recent reputable surveys. (See links below.) 

 

In one survey about 6% of American women identify as members of the LGBTQ community while about 5% on American men do. (Other surveys, including one cited here, suggest the overall frequency is lower.)  The second survey found that among members of the LBBTQ community more women identify as bisexual than lesbian, while more men identify as gay than bisexual. That leads me to conclude that there are more bisexual women than men. A couple of caveats. First, the percentages are not robustly different. I’m thinking in the American LGBTQ community there might be 10% to 15% more bi women than bi men. Second, the distribution of bisexuals and gay people within the swinging community is clearly different than in the LGBTQ community. There have been plenty of bi women and men present at the events I’ve attended over the years, and heard women say that evening they only wanted to play with other women. But I don’t recall meeting anyone who identified as strictly gay or lesbian. (I reckon those folks are going to be more interested in exclusively gay or lesbian events/venues.)

 

https://www.statista.com/topics/1249/homosexuality/#dossierSummary
 

https://williamsinstitute.law.ucla.edu/publications/how-many-people-lgbt/

 

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
11 hours ago, adamgunn said:

... the historic concept that men who have sex with other men are weak.

I really don't know, gay sex just strikes me as weird in a way that Lesbian sex does not.  Your explanation, if correct, bothers me as a feminist modern woman who has strived to be the equal of men, including sexually.

 

Heterosexual couples engage in the same acts as Lesbians and gays, so I don't want to think that having a penis in my mouth or in my bum makes me weak.  Is a guy licking a clit "weak?"  IDK.  It is also strange to me that I feel stronger and more in control when I'm on my back and a man is in me doing all the work, than I do when I'm riding cowgirl. 

 

Anyway, thanks for your thoughts.  Ultimately, none of this matters so long as everything is consensual and fun.

  • Like 3

Share this post


Link to post

My wife is, she awaits in bed whilst the man & I have some fun downstairs, I then take him up and we kiss & suck in front of her, guess what happens next?

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
On 5/23/2021 at 10:06 PM, couplers said:

I really don't know, gay sex just strikes me as weird in a way that Lesbian sex does not.  Your explanation, if correct, bothers me as a feminist modern woman who has strived to be the equal of men, including sexually.

 

Heterosexual couples engage in the same acts as Lesbians and gays, so I don't want to think that having a penis in my mouth or in my bum makes me weak.  Is a guy licking a clit "weak?"  IDK.  It is also strange to me that I feel stronger and more in control when I'm on my back and a man is in me doing all the work, than I do when I'm riding cowgirl. 

 

Anyway, thanks for your thoughts.  Ultimately, none of this matters so long as everything is consensual and fun.

A lot of homo/transphobia is actually rooted in misogyny.  When someone starts with the assumption that men are superior to women in our society it is acceptable for women to emulate men, but not for men to emulate women.  Whether that be by being the receptive partner in sex, cross dressing, displaying emotion, etc.  And that's a notion that dates back to Roman times where men who did the screwing of other men were perfectly acceptable, but the receptive partners were not.  It even presents in current gay culture particularly among the 'masc4masc' crowd.

  • Like 1

Share this post


Link to post
On 10/20/2021 at 2:15 PM, NerdsAreFun said:

it is acceptable for women to emulate men, but not for men to emulate women. 

Whether I'm playing straight or Lesbian, I never feel like I or my partner is emulating a different sex, just a different natural role.

 

And being the receptive partner has never made me feel diminished, actually the opposite.  When I'm fucking a guy, I'm taking something from him.  When a woman has her fingers in me, likewise, she is working to please me.

Share this post


Link to post
On 10/20/2021 at 4:15 PM, NerdsAreFun said:

it is acceptable for women to emulate men, but not for men to emulate women. 

For me it is a simple matter of, I am not whatsoever, in any form or fashion into effeminate men. 

  • Like 2

Share this post


Link to post

Me!  I'm super into watching guys suck dick, especially if one of the guys is my husband.  

  • Like 1
  • Hot! 2

Share this post


Link to post

My husband only goes as far as oral and it is a huge turn in. 

Edited by Funmom

Share this post


Link to post

I have several pms about my above comment, to clarify, yes I love bi men sex. It drives me wild. I love sucking cock with my husband, sharing cum with him, I love helping him get his ass fucked and cummed in. I love being a part of it but no I do not get turned on or am I into guys who are effeminate. My husband only did all these things with me, because of me, then over time he opened up more and more to it. He is in no way effeminate, ever. We have had a few couples interested in joining us where the husband was effeminate and I let them know, it was not something I find appealing. I have gay friends and none of them are effeminate, you'd never know they are gay unless they told you or you saw them in a private setting. I am the same with women, I am not into butch women - not at all. 

 

Back to the topic posted - I am Very Turned on by my Husband's Bisexuality.  

Edited by herpob

Share this post


Link to post

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.


  • Similar Content

    • By KatrinaandDriverX
      For me, it's not about having sex or sex acts or multiple partners. It is about 'feeding' different aspects of my personality, occasionally, in diverse ways with sex. It transcends role playing, it's a sexual moment as I'm giving, yielding, engaging and driving my partner(s) into an exquisite moment. To build them up, for the men to enter me in a pure moment that thrills or kissing a woman with tongues plunging deeply. I love it when someone I may have just met can surrender to me and I to them. Then, once we're done that it's perfectly alright to go to the next partner and, who knows, have that same person again later that night (or not). Or, if it's simply to play with another couple, have the sex with the husband be so great that the wife thanks me. Then, of course, there's the knowledge of my husband having another girl, whether it be a wife  or innocent bystander, knowing she just might be asking herself if watching me fuck means my husband must be amazing (he is). 
    • By Billygoat
      From a open discussion with LS friends on Friday night.  Everyone at the table have been in the LS for eight or more years and have been quite active and have explored and experienced various activities and fantasies that interested them.  The common thread was the women present ( several wives, girlfriends and three single ladies) had all experienced and enjoyed having at the least two men (MFM) to several at a time (or throughout the evening at a party).  It didn’t take long into this conversation for it to turn into a ladies only animated conversation of their experiences and accomplishments with only their husbands/boyfriends asked to chime in verification/confirmation of the event, act or result of the experience.  Hands down all of us males had enjoyed whatever happened in the shared stories.  
       
      It was awesome to sit and listen to these women sharing their adventures, thoughts and results of their experiences and there was quite a bit of excited chatter and teasing…..lots of loud shouts and laughter.  I was glad due to our number and time of the evening we were seated at the back corner of the dining area well away from the few dinners still present.  I am sure there were a few servers who got an ear full.
       
      One noticeable revelation from observing all this was the common result of these experiences for the women.  All revealed in one way or another the personality…..confidence…..level of comfort the all experienced as a result of their sexual sharing and experiences in the LS.  Echoed by their spouses (those present).
       
      1. Ability now to discuss openly anything with their SO.
      2. Discuss, ask for what ever they had an interest in, desire, openly on any topic as well as sexually.
      3.  All openly discussed that sexually in their private lives prior to the lifestyle they rarely if ever initiated any activity with their SO only were reactive to initiation by their SO.  And NEVER asked for or discussed their personal desires, needs or fantasies.  (the single ladies present agreed they felt the same with any partner they might have.  Including the husbands and boyfriends of other women that they shared)
      4. Their personal sexual/sensual lives in their relationship have become broadened and deeper, a much closer intimacy (not just sexual) then before.  Far more satisfying.  

      It was not just a fun evening out together as a group (sex was not part of this evening at all, just social gathering) but so enlightening.  
       
      Sitting having coffee this morning it occurred to me that all this, generally, is probably true to some level to anyone who is involved at some level in the LS.  Dependent of course on what level or type of involvement in an alternative Lifestyle they are in.  I also thought that there are  common takeaways:
       
      1. Situational shyness, intimidation, lack of confidence, appearance concerns and feelings/concern of being judged negatively.
      2. That last part “feelings/concern of being judged negatively” is they largest shared issue that women have.  From the time they are self aware 6, 7, 8 years old and on…..they are told, threatened, educated  etc that their sex is private, not to be displayed shared discussed experienced and in many cases told any negative experiences are their fault….not being a good girl.
      3. The confidence, personal strength, emotional discovery over growth and feeling at peace with themselves.  Acceptance of who they are.
      4. Sexual preferences and desires.  Even with in their group a funny but eye opening discussion…and truth concerning size, preferred size and what/how it all relates.  It really isn’t what it seems.  LOL
       
      everyone grows in this lifestyle to their own comfort level.  But to watch these women and listen to them (including my Queen) was just hands down amazing.  This group of women discussing to only their experiences but some of their not yet experienced fantasies/desires.  Their emotions.  Support…..no negative judgements at all.  Even bragging rights and one up man ship between them.  A chance to get a peak into a part of the LS not often discussed……at-least with males present.
       
       
    • By TNNFORFUN
      Hello everybody.  Married MW couple for 18 years today.  We have been out of the LS for 5 years but prior to that we where in the life style for about 10 years and had a great time.  We are in our mid forties and going on the bliss cruise in November.  This will be our first swinger cruise. 
       
      The question is, How is mm bisexual play seen in the LS community on this Cruise? 
       
      In our past experience it was always accepted FF bi play but MM was pretty frowned upon.  My husband and I have had a couple MMF in the past and had a great time.  We are hopping to find that again.  There is something  that I just love watching him get it from another guy and sharing the other guy orally together.
       
      Any and all comments greatly appreciated and recommendations encouraged. 
       
       
    • By sunbuckus
      Awhile back, a thread made a comment about sex being different for women because we're accepting something to be inserted inside our bodies whereas men don't. I suppose it's like saying it's easier for everyone to want to explore something by poking our finger at something but we're much more sensitive about someone putting something into our ears.
       
      Do you think there's anything to this? Does a woman require a bit more trust in their sex partner than a man does because something will be going inside them instead of doing the insertion? Or could there be something else to it?
    • By craig1991
      I'm in a relationship with this chick and she likes anal and vaginal sex.
       
      I have been offering to have a mmf threesome but she continually declines saying that she couldn't get over the idea of having sex with someone other than me ... or something like that.
       
      So yesterday I ordered this custom-made type strap-on to dp her myself.
       
      So I was wondering for those of you who dp, is it the mental aspect that made it incredible for you (as in oh my gosh I have several men willing to serve me etc.) or can it still be as pleasurable with one guy that has a toy attached to him?
       
      I would like to know because I don't want to put in a bunch of time and effort for something that is only marginally worthwhile. Personally I know that caressing, sweet nothings, dirty talk, and things of that sort heighten the experience for the woman
      but I can't help but feel that since I was not born with two penises, I probably can't satisfy her the way I know I could.
       
      Thank you.
×
×
  • Create New...