Need advice on having a swinger party at home

[troynapril 16]

My husband and I are interested in having a couples party, what I would like to know is does anyone have advice on how to get these started. Any input on this would be a great help.

[exploringRM 305]

A number of things you need to decide:

 

- Invite only people you know?

- Invite people you know, but perhaps allow them to invite another couple?

- How many couples do you want to invite?

- Invite people you don't know?

- Do you have areas in the house appropriate for play? Do you need to purchase blow up mattresses, sheets, etc.?

- Are there areas in your house you don't want people in (typically closed doors take care of that)?

- Are you going to ask guests to bring a snack to share? Are you serving food?

- Do you have accommodations (bed/air mattress/sheets/pillow) for some people to stay over if needed?

 

Parties we host as well as attend are typically bring your own booze and condoms. We'll supply soft drinks, water, and usually a few bottles of wine.

 

Window coverings...you don't want neighbors and passers-by looking in.

 

Noise...keep windows closed.

 

So of course first you need to invite people, not much of a party without that The invite list is hard to put together as 1) There will be a number of people that decline right away, or accept and don't wind up attending for some reason and 2) If you account for no shows and create a larger invite list, you may find that EVERYONE shows up so you need to make sure you have room.

 

Here's how we prepare, your mileage may vary:

 

- Clean clean clean.

- Prep food, soft drinks, get ice, etc.

- In each bathroom have mouthwash and disposable cups.

- In each bathroom have a bundle of clean washcloths, and a bucket/basket to put the dirty cloths into. You can get washcloths pretty cheap a Wal-Mart, Target, etc.

- In our upstairs bathroom have towels available in case anyone wants a shower.

- Clear our areas where we as going to put blow up mattresses. For us that means moving a few coffee tables.

- Put sheets or comforters on any beds that are used for play.

- Have towels available in the play areas for covering the bed...for the wet spots!

- We have a hot tub and ask people to bring towels, but will put out extras in case people forget.

- Though people usually bring their own condoms we will put a few out here and there.

 

After all of the guests have arrived, and people have been talking a bit, but before play, we go over any "rules", bathroom locations, play area locations, etc. The only "rules" we go over is no means no (especially if your spouse says it! lol) and areas of the house not to go in. A closed door on the bedroom means do not disturb. Since we may be outside in the hot tub, remind people that the neighbors are not that far away so avoid any sex sounds!

[Dont.Stop 339]

Not having ever thrown a party but hearing from others--

 

Set a "must arrive by" time. You don't want people knocking on the door at 12 if the party starts at 9. Hosts are allowed to play too, but it's awful hard to do that if you have to keep answering the door.

[troynapril 16]

Thank you so much for the advice it is a HUGE relief! I will keep everyone updated

[junglecouple 127]

Not only a start/arrival time. but also A BE HERE NO LATER THAN time. At The Jungle, we told people to arrive NO EARLIER than 9:00 and NO LATER than 10:00. It sucks to have a party in full flow, and have some newb arrive at 11:00 - 12:00 expecting to be let in. So during what should be the beginning of "fun time", someone would have to acquaint the new arrivals with the premises, rules, bar, introductions, etc etc... We have a fairly large place, so we have plenty of room for overnighters (up to 20) but told them to be gone by 9:00 am.

[angelkin 1,326]

We recently went to a party where the group play area was "towels or less after 10 pm". That really got the party started We may implement something similar for our next party...perhaps ladies should change into lingerie by xx time.

[MN Tom 251]

Another thing to pay attention to is be very prepared (especially if you invite people you don't know all that well) to have some things in your house get dirty, be broken, etc.

 

Most everyone I know that has hosted a party of 10+ people (not counting long term friends) has found something wrong the next day. Usually a used condom not in the garbage, spilled drinks on the floor, extra clothing forgotten behind, and so on.

 

Expect it to happen. And be ready, so you can find and clean it up before kids or whatever return and find it for you.

[funlovincpl80 15]

We have hosted several successful house parties. We agree with all of the previous posters. Here are some of our preparation and planning tools.

 

• Clean, clean, clean - we make our house spotless. If the environment is clean I think that people are extra cautious to keep it that way.
  
• We stock each 'play station' with a mattress or air mattress made up with clean sheets and pillows. We supply a basket of absorbent towels and a laundry basket, muted lighting, a box of tissues, condoms, lube and a waste basket lined with plastic bag.
  
• Each bathroom/powder room has a stack of washclothes and a basket to put the soiled ones in. We also stock each bathroom with disposable wipes.
  
• We decorate the house in theme. Usually play some ice breaker games - 1 - 2 depending on the group.
  
• Our parties are BYOB and a food item. We have hosted potluck dinners and parties that are munchies only.
  
• We invite people we know but those couples can suggest someone they know to be invited.
  
• We put a ceiling on the number of invites and stick to it.
  
• We do not have a problem with 'no shows'. Every party we have hosted the folks that have said they are coming show up.
  
• It is a lot of work but we always have such a wonderful time.
  
• I keep notes from one party to the next to make sure that they just keep getting better and better - we've been told by our guests that it is working!!!
  

[Tina and Bob 236]

All the advice is excellent. I also keep a sign-in and sign-out book, first names only or even anonymous nicknames, but I also ask for comments about the experience and suggestions for improvement.

[liesto 17]

There is a small group starting in Vegas called L V Swing might check it out the owners and admin are Bob and Sue

[candc4play 15]

Hi,

 

What is the typical policy regarding photos/video? We really like to capture the moments...

[angelkin 1,326]

Hi,

 

What is the typical policy regarding photos/video? We really like to capture the moments...

 

That's generally a "no" at the parties we attend. That's not to say it doesn't happen, we just prefer to be the keepers of our own naughty photos