What do you say... after?

[Lionheart72 2,190]

Generally speaking the Mrs and I haven't hooked up with a lot of couples. We mostly get together with single guys or small groups. The few times we have gotten together with a couple at a club, I've noticed this ackward moment...

 

There we are. We just had exciting sex with another couple. Everyone's putting their clothes back on and getting ready to leave the room... What do you say at that moment?

 

Generally, I find myself wanting to say something polite... "that was fun" or "see you around" or something along those lines. But it always seems to fall a little flat. One couple we got together with acted like we had ceased to exist. Others have appeared to feel as ackward as we were.

 

Has anyone else noticed this? How do you deal with it?

[km34 672]

This seems to be what usually happens in these situations for us:

 

1. get dressed in silence (unless it's someone we know well in which case we generally have random chit chat or joking)

 

2. once everyone's fully clothed one of us will say something like, "well that was fun!"

 

3. awkward/nervous giggling by all

 

4. depending on the situation "we will definitely need to do this again," or "well, hopefully we will see you around!"

 

5. hug the other people - granted, I know some people don't do post-coital contact, but nobody has ever seemed uncomfortable with the hug, and I think it is an appropriate goodbye for a person/people you've just fucked. Sometimes there will be a quick peck depending on the people.

 

6. watch as they walk away or we start walking away

[Alura 2,774]

"Wow! That was fun! Let's do something similar sometime." (You can never do something again; once it's done, it's history.)

 

We tried to keep our interaction light and fun. Our play sessions seemed to end with laughing and joking as well as a few sincere compliments.

 

"You certainly know your way around a lady's pussy, Mr. Playmate!"

 

We were never reluctant to kiss our playmates "goodnight."

 

Alura

[lustylearning 705]

Smile, kiss, "It was a real pleasure meeting you!

[Dont.Stop 339]

Never had that awkward moment. We'll giggle about what we just did. I will usually tell the woman how great she was. If at a club we'll ask for their screen names so we can hook up again. Often the folks are from out of town so we'll talk about where they're from, why they're in town. If we're getting out the puppy pile we'll probably not talk as much... though usually we only get out of the pile because the club is closing.

 

A hug and kiss is not out of line in our books.

[angelkin 1,326]

Yep, a hug and a nice long kiss (sometimes)...chatter about here's a sock, a good giggle, and exchange screennames or numbers for another time. I've just never felt all that awkward about it

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

It was nice to meat you

[tallicafan 41]

Yep, a hug and a nice long kiss (sometimes)...chatter about here's a sock, a good giggle, and exchange screennames or numbers for another time. I've just never felt all that awkward about it

 

Exactly right. I couldn't find my drawers once and the other dude was trying to put them on for half a second. Never really been awkward as we usually have chatted quite a bit before we took our clothes off. We will often exchange numbers, grab another drink together....

[Valha 18]

The last time we played with a couple, we picked right up on the conversations we were having before it got all hot and heated. Then we talked for about 30 minutes afterwards and a few more hugs and kisses were stolen

Generally, if we don't feel that level of comfort with someone while meeting, we'd never even hit the playroom in the first place.

 

A rather unique situation happened one time when we noticed this couple as it was getting late while out at a club. We sort of followed them around (ok, we chased them down!) and sat next to them in an open play area. The couple was going at it so Mrs V and I started going at it. Next thing you know, we're all full swapping and what not. Afterwards, we alll asked, hey what are your names? It was very funny, but got even more funny when we all realized we had been chatting with each other weeks prior online and hadn't realized who each other were until after the orgasms!

[occ 148]

We generally give hugs and kisses. We figure if we have been fucking someone or sucking their cock or having my pussy eaten, then a kiss and a hug is well deserved and the only nice way to say goodbye. When I do a gang bang, then all the guys get some pretty passionate kisses goodbye.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Hmm, most of the couples we have been with lately have been repeat couples. I don't think we have been with a new couple in quite some time. We are generally the, hugs and kisses, 'wow, that was fun' type of couple and if we really liked them 'want to go grab some breakfast' type of couple.

 

I think there has been maybe once/twice that Mrs. Diggs and I were not entirely in sync with our experiences (one had more fun than the other) but generally, it has never affected our 'good byes' which are always pleasant.

 

I don't think we have had any really, really awkward good byes. We have had a few people delete their accounts the next day...we are assuming they had too much fun which is why you should be careful with new couples who are not 100% they are ready for the lifestyle but that is another topic in another post.

[HappyCpl 89]

Mrs. H here...

 

Every situation is different.

 

Some good...some great...some...well...ummm...

 

If it was good or great, we generally sit around for a minute or so after with our clothes off and bask. Then we give the appropriate (and always truthful) compliments as we are getting dressed.

 

Oh, and a 'thank you' can go a long way.

 

If it was...well...ummm...we usually get dressed quicker, smile and say thank you and go on with the evening.

 

The conversations I enjoy are the ones I have with Mr. H on the way home. Sometimes reliving a sexy night together can cause the sexy night to continue once we get back home. Oh...yeah...

[drinnt 201]

Hi Lionheart72,

 

Yes my wife and I have noticed this. We deal with it by laughing at ourselves and the sheer obsurdity of 2 adults wondering what to say to 2 other adults after consensual play. LOL Your uncomfortable feeling may be nothing more than a natural moment of vulnerability experienced after we let down our defenses and engage in sexual activity. I myself have said some incredibly silly and out of character things. One partner I had actually high-fives herself. It's cute!

 

In the end there is no wrong thing to say if it comes from a place of appreciation. If you do have something "bad" to say - as that happens some times - I suggest holding that one over until you have had time to talk with your partner and just put on polite "good night" face until you can get out of the situation.

 

Steve

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I find the moments after they sex are awkward in proportion to how bad the sex was. Bad sex = awkward. Good sex = Less awkward. If there's desire all around to make it happen again, it's a lot easier to find things to say.

 

Maybe that's not the case for everyone. But, if things got weird/ the sex was bad then we are more likely to avoid you later and act like you don't exist (ok, not completely - but we aren't going to go out of our way to be friendly either).

[JB 140]

Has anyone seen my sock?

[latin2012 22]

Just started and it was a soft swing, but I had had too much to drink (at a swing club) and was hugging on to the other couple telling them me and wife had had an awsume time..lol (they were from oot) and told them if they were ever back we'ed love to get together again. they probably thought I was crazy.

[latin2012 22]

That is too funny, because I also lost my socks

[latin2012 22]

OH I know what you should NEVER say..... That was rather nice.