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Ok just answered a reply to an ad on sls. The lady asked if we full swap. I said we are into soft swap at the moment. She went on this diatribe on if we are into swinging we will have to do full swap sometime or the other. Well needless to say I told her good bye.

 

Is this true? We have done full swap before but we rather do soft swap and playful things.

 

We just like the soft stuff! Are we going to find others like us?

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Don't listen to her...LOL ...

 

You don't have to do anything you don't want to....good job in telling her good-bye.

 

Swinging means anything from just watching, to slight touching to full orgy. Her definition of swinging was actually only a narrow slice of what it really is.... so yes, you guys are swingers :)

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I'm glad you told her goodbye. She is the one that is wrong. If you dont want to do a full swap right now then dont. You do what you feel and don't let anybody tell you that you have to do something. Good luck and I know you will find others that are not like her.

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Wow, she could really ruin it for those of us out there trying this on slowly... I plan on eventually doing full swap, but we have to meet the right couple first!

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You are right on bama. At least y'all got the facts out in front, even if the other was a bit rude about it. Imagine finding out her perspective after you met !!! We refer to what it is that we do as 'sharing pleasures', which means everyone has to be comfortable with the activities. Anyone who can't go along with that can just 'git along' as the Texans say.

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She went on this diatribe on if we are into swinging we will have to do full swap sometime or the other.

Did she think that she could intimidate you into it or something...!?

Some people...

Good choice telling her goodbye

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While we are a full swap and orgy type couple there is no reason to denigrate anyone for their personal choices. Some people just have no class whatsoever. Choices encompasses all of swinging, wait till you find what you want. It is out there.

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After being on the boards for a while I have learned a lot about what other swingers in the lifestyle thought. I was a little appalled by what this couple had to say. I can’t remember one regular on this board who ever said you either full swap or leave. I did think she was being pushy, and that’s pretty sad to do when you have not even met someone. As if I was going to give up my beliefs for her. Oh well thanks guys for all the advice.

 

Ps. When I told Mrs. Bama. She said I did the right thing by telling her good bye.

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Do what you feel comfortable with. I know a lot of couples that DO fullswap but only when they are ready... until then they do softswing and enjoy it just as much.

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While we would probably pass on a soft swap couple there is no excuse for being rude and crude. Stick to what feels good for you.

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While we would probably pass on a soft swap couple there is no excuse for being rude and crude. Stick to what feels good for you.

 

True, that's how I feel. I know not everyone is going to be attracted to us, but a soft swap is our thing. Sure it can get intense at times and maybe one day go to a full swap but if you ever get to read our ad on sls you will see we do not make us out to be anything more than that! By the way, we are alabamafuntonight on SLS so take a look and tell me what you think!

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As for full swap versus soft swap...who's to say once you go full you can't go back???

 

There are times I feel like soft for one reason or another.

 

I certainly hope that couples in this lifestyle understand that variety is the spice of life and sometimes I just want to enjoy the gorgeous man I brought with me...but you can watch...( wicked wink)

 

As for the couple insisting you change what you want to do to suit them...you definitely did the right thing. Move at your own pace and enjoy!

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Rude ain't for this dude.

 

If anyone wacks out on ya like that again, just gimme a call.

 

I'll wack 'em with my walker!

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We've always been amused by the implication that some people make about not being 'proper' swingers if you don't go in for full swaps.

 

We say: Keep your labels. We'll do what we enjoy doing, no more or less. We try to keep an open mind about what feels good, but we have our limits. At the same time, we'll always respect the right of other couples to pass on us because we don't go as far as they do.

 

At the end of the day, there seem to be enough people in both camps for us all to have plenty of opportunities if we want them.

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