Fishbowl and keys - classic 1970s swinging. Does totally random sex still exist?
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By Mr. Truelove
Two questions mostly directed to the male half of the swinging couples. Women, feel free to respond, your input is always valued.
How important is it that you like the other guy that you plan to swing with in the heterosexual manner, either in a MFM or in a MFMF? Does he have to be respectable? Is it up to the woman? Do you have any standards whatsoever?
Also, to the more experienced folk, is it uncommon that the guys would get along really well?
Personally I found it very important that the guy my wife would have would be someone that I respected, or at least someone I thought was "good enough" for my wife. Perhaps it was my protective nature, or something. But I felt that it was important.
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By RobLuver
Hello everyone! I've been reading this board for the past couple of weeks and decided to post some questions to the community. Most of my questions have been answered by reading the posts. Maybe you can help me with a few others.
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Question 1:
From the subject line, you know that I love to smell women's butts. There is nothing that turns me on more than a woman with a dirty, sweaty butthole. Especially when a woman has a nice round butt. It is so animalistic and turns me in to a wild sex animal! No joke, I love to smell butts. I got hooked on it when I was around 14 or 15 and became sexually active. I'll always remember the butt smell that would rise when I took off a girls panties. It has become linked to sexual arousal to me, much like Pavlov's dogs. When I think of sexual activity I think of the scent of a woman's butt.
I don't like poop. But I love a woman with a dirty, sweaty ass.
I think there's probably other men out there with that fetish. Most of my former girlfriends have been disgusted when I told them that I like to smell their butts. They usually let me though. Sometimes I'll request that they not bathe for a day or two or longer so their butt is nice and stinky! Then I spread those ass cheeks wide and rub that anus all over my chest. One time a former girlfriend didn't bathe for almost a week--we 69'd for an hour. A few one night stands I've had I've told the women that I wanted to smell their butts. Just telling them that is a turn on in itself because I never know how they'll react, if they'll be cool with it or if they'll freak out (one former girlfriend got turned on by me smelling her asshole). Often, I don't tell them and just do it anyway. Usually if you meet a woman at a bar who is actively looking for sex she's going to be clean and there will be no scent.
Are there any women swingers out there that would accommodate a request from a swing partner to be dirty so he could smell her butt?
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Question 2:
From reading this board I've learned that there is little emotional attachment to the sex that occurs between swing partners. Most of the women are loyal to their men other than the fact they have sex with other men.
Do any swingers swap wives or girlfriends for an entire night or weekend?
I would love to borrow a man's wife for an entire weekend of nonstop sex.
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Questoin 3:
How do I suggest swinging to my girlfriend? I'd be interested in 2 girls, and swapping with another couple. But I am a firm believer in the 1-wiener rule. No other penises in the room but mine.
My girlfriend is great. We've been together for about 2 yeras. But there is no future. I am not going to marry her. I'm certainwe will be friends after we break up. So since I'm not going to marry her, I thought maybe she could be my passport to pussy.
Should I come straight out and ask her if she'd be interested in swinging? (She'll probably say no.) Should I joke about it and see how she responds to jokes? Should I show her this website and let her read it for a few weeks to desensitize her to the thought?
Odds are against her being for this. So I want to bring it up in a way that is the least likely to get a flat out "no". But regardless of what she says I'll respect her decision.
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Question 4:
My ultimate fantasy would be to go to a hotel party with 6 or more other couples and randomly draw names out of a hat to choose partners that we'll have sex with and then go back to our rooms and get it on.
Do these kinds of things happen? I heard that it used to be popular to randomly choose partners in the 1970s.
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Question 5:
Another fetish of mine is cumming on a woman's face.
Is cumming on a woman swinger's face acceptable? Does this happen? Do any women out there reading this let guys cum on their faces? What would happen if the woman said no and you did it anyway? Sometimes I get a thrill out of doing things that I'm not supposed to do!
Do women swingers swallow? That's a huge turn on too.
Do you women let guys do this when you swing or is it a "husbands" only thing?
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Question 6:
Spanking. Do any of you females out there like to be spanked? Does spanking occur? I know there are a few women out there who like to be spanked, because I've had them.
I'd love to be in a situation where I spank a man's wife and he spanks my girlfriend and we spank the hell out of them. I spank his wife. He then tries to one-up me by spanking my girl. Then I spank his wife harder. He spanks my girl harder. Oh yeah that would be fun!
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I'm sure I have other questions that I can't think of right now.
Thanks for your input, especially you females out there.
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By km34
This post in another thread got me thinking... In my mind "friends first" swinging and poly are two completely different things, but other people apparently think of them as one and the same. What does everyone else think?
To expand on my views (the rest of the post is purely my opinion ).. Everyone I have met who wants to be friends first is looking more for a sense of safety by knowing people a bit before having sex. Whether or not this is legit or not is another topic, but it's something that people believe. Also, friends first folks tend to want to be more open about swinging - having that couple or two or five that you swing with AND hang out with gives you the chance to talk about swinging, be yourselves, and generally not have to be in the closet about it. At least every once in a while. Having a friendship makes things a bit more comfortable for some.
Polyamory, on the other hand, is actually looking for romantic love. I love my friends, but that doesn't mean I'm in a poly relationship with all of them. On SLS, I mention that we are looking for friends, but we do not consider anyone we meet on SLS (or other swinging sites) as people with whom we could potentially have a real, whole, romantic relationship.
I guess my general question is - Is this a common thought in people's minds? When you see someone looking for "friends first" does your mind automatically go to poly/relationships/too invested?
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By leftcoastcouple
In responding today to a post today by bear_n_bunny regarding open marriages vs. swinging, I referred to a related topic that Mrs. LC and I have long wondered about--how most swingers feel about getting to know their playmates vs. just hooking up for sex.
Mrs. LC and I fall somewhere in the middle. We're generally turned off by the prospect of what Erica Jong would have called a "zipless fuck"--nameless, entirely impersonal, etc.--and we avoid situations in that direction. Yet, we have no desire to build a relationship beforehand, either. The prospect of "dating" before playing in hopes that everyone gels on a personal level is something we don't want to deal with. Nor do we particularly want to be friends afterwards. We prefer to keep friends and playmates separate.
For us, if we meet, have dinner and/or drinks, and find basic chemistry exists, then that's all we need--or want, really.
So, we're curious where everyone else stands. Is it necessary for you to be "friends" before you play? Are you on the other end of the spectrum, preferring to play and then say goodbye? Or are you somewhere in the middle? We've seen folks express opinions all over the spectrum, and we're curious about the norm.
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By latin2012
Ok this is just a general question, just wanting opinions. Wife and have been going to a swing club for about 2 years now, hooked up with a few cpls, not a lot 2-3, but had a lot of fun. Sometimes just me and her play while watching others too. I would like to think we both enjoyed it.
Prior to that we had done MFM with an ex BF of hers, she enjoyed it. I loved watching (and messing with her at same time) that was a long time ago when we were in our mid 30s. We just turned 50s. That MFM was short lived, about 2-3 week span with only about 3-4 meets. He was the one who moved on.
So since then, there was a long period of no play. But that's not the only thing that stopped us, we now had a family to deal with. Started up again since kids are now bigger and self sufficient. So that is our back ground.
Now for what's currently going on. We love to go to reg dive bars (as well as the swing club) lol, you know the kind where one knows your name lol. Well we have gotten to know a few people there at one of our favorite places and their drama (DAMN more drama than the swing club).
Well we really got to know this guy that frequents there a bit. He is a really nice guy, gets flirty with all the girls, loud when drunk. My wife enjoys his company, he is about our age if not a little older. He is a tall good looking black man (we are Hispanic). We've played pool, darts, gotten drunk together at the bar. Basically had a lot of bar fun that was it.
The second to the last time we saw him, in a drunken discussion we all agreed to meet at his apartment the next morning for steak BBQ (my wife even told him she'd bring the salad lol), just saying we were all wasted.
The next time we saw him he asked "what happened?" We told him the truth, we were all f'ed up, my wife didn't even remember the salad statement she made.
Well that night we closed the bar.... again. This time he asked us if we wanted to come over to his apartment, which we discovered is right across the street from the bar and that a lot of the people that we know and frequent the same bar also live at the complex.
We went with the intention of just seeing where it was just in case we ever decided to get together again we would know where it was, plus I was kind of curious as to see what his "pad" looked like. My wife looked at me and stated "you know he's probably gonna wanna fuck", I just blew her off. He was very flirty with her at the bar, making comments like "girl, if he wasn't here", and "man, you lucky dog I know your gonna hit that tonite". I was not insulted as I know that was a great ego boost for my wife .
He showed us around. It was a small place, but big enough for a single guy. We talked for a while. Then I had to go pee. After a little while, probably about 20-45 minutes, I felt we had stayed enough and said goodbye and left (we had closed the bar so it was way past 2 a.m.). Nothing eventful. So I thought.
The next day while wife and I went out, I started asking what she really thought of him. I found him very cocky, too loud when drunk, even probably better in bed just by his stature. On the plus side he was great to be around, life of the party, he enjoyed doing what we were doing.
I was surprised, she told me she liked him and found him fun to be with (no neg, not even the over flirty with the women in the bar). I asked her straight out would you fuck him? She stated yes (this does not bother me, we usually talk). I asked her would you have fucked him that night? She again stated yes but that I was the one who wanted to leave (again, I guess it was my misunderstanding, but I did not get a vibe that he wanted to do anything that night that he was just being cordial).
She then told me... oh yeah, he wanted to fuck. While I was in the bathroom and he was showing her some family pictures hanging on the wall, he grabbed her, pulled her close and kissed her with tongue and she kissed him back. He stated again to her that if I was not in the picture, he would be doing a lot of stuff to her right now.
I was not mad, I guess becauseof all his comments at the bar I figured he was hot for her, I just didn't think he wanted to do anything now.
What do you guys think? I have a lot of issues with him being loud. You know the code at the club, is way different, (we are there to play and so are you... so no tell). I like my privacy and don't want to be outed. The part of my wife wanting to fuck him really excites me, but I keep getting the thoughts, he wants her to "cheat on me" which is kinda of stupid because I would so let it happen as long as I was there too (we have never played apart and it's not gonna happen... plus she's always been greedy, the more dicks the better)
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