Single lady...a funny conversation over the weekend

[angelkin 1,326]

So, we are at a party this weekend and as people do, we were talking about others we've met or would like to meet from the site we all belong to. We weren't talking about who we'd been with, just chatter about hot pics, folks in the chat room we'd like to meet, common friends, etc.

 

We mentioned a particular single lady - everyone knows the hunt for unicorns is never ending Our friends said "good luck meeting her, she's canceled on us at least a dozen times". In my mind I am thinking 'a dozen times, geez...shame on you for re-re-re-re-re scheduling, LOL. Indeed, she canceled on us once and didn't show for a party she signed up for that we were also attending.

 

It got me wondering if she just enjoyed the attention, but is fearful of the play? Is it possible that every time she schedules a meeting something really does come up?

 

Are there any single ladies here that can share some insight on this?

 

When I was single and playing around, I had no idea there was such a thing as swinging or that I might have been in demand (damnit!). Maybe she has so many offers, she accepts them all and only keeps the one that seems most appealing?

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

I'm not a single female, but I like to spout off my opinion!

 

Does she have any actual validations/certifications? If no, then I would say that she is either just fooling around to get attention or not really a single female.

 

We do have a girl we play with and she has cancelled on us a few times (over a year's time). They were all valid excuses (medical, injury issues) and she sincerely apologized. We have actually played with her and keep in contact with her. So maybe this girl you know of just has bad timing, bad luck, a bad back or whatever.

 

Usually we give someone new 2 chances and if they cancel we don't pursue it. If it's someone we do know though we're more lenient. Life does tend to get in the way of fun sometimes.

[angelkin 1,326]

Yeah, we've talked about cancelations before. I just scratched my head at this one:)

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

My first thought was also - not really a single female.

 

When I was a single female I didn't meet many people because I was a little freaked out at the idea of meeting people alone. That also applied to single guys I met on dating sites. The one or two couples I did meet and my experience as a single female at a club kinda just freaked me out all the more. But, I still wouldn't have set up meet after meet and not shown up.

[angelkin 1,326]

My first thought was also - not really a single female.

 

Funny, this never crossed our minds! I guess we've got blinders on

[EboniJewelz 15]

Speaking as a single female it sounds like something els is up with this chick. The fact that NO ONE has ever met her is what raises an eyebrow. But im on a particular site where for some reason i can never meet up with this group. Time & days that events are scheduled are a factor but the truth stands that i just cant seem to find the time to meet any of the members. So they may also be wondering if im "real."

 

Another possibility to consider could be what i call "singles swing-syndrome" (SSS)- its where single ppl get very paranoid of cpl's because of all the BS that cpl's hav put them thru so they ATTEMPT in their minds to meet up but then all the bad memories return the day before or the day of the meet & they just dont show up. These types should leave the swing world until they figure out what they want to do. I personally am suffering from SSS as we speak but i would never lead anybody on cuz im honest to a fault and i just tell cpl's to buzz off if i dont trust them or dont want to be bothered with them. Its easier to tell the truth & be called the "unicorn bitch" than to lie & be deceptive.

 

Another possibility is the one we see all the time in this lifestyle: she wants to play but doesnt hav the balls yet to do it for whatever reason. In any event we are not kids and swinging altho fun is not a game so if shes waisting everyones time no one should even giv her a second thought and dont allow her to continue to lie to ppl. Shes the lil boy who cried wolf...

[angelkin 1,326]

EboniJewelz, thanks for giving this situation some perspective:) I didn't really think of cold feet as a repeated reason to cancel.

[EboniJewelz 15]

ur welcome luv

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

EboniJewelz, thanks for giving this situation some perspective:) I didn't really think of cold feet as a repeated reason to cancel.

 

I think it's probably the most common reason for canceling, and even for couples.

[angelkin 1,326]

As a person who rarely, if ever, gets cold feet, it never occurred to me at all...I find my own thoughtlessness slightly amusing.

[EboniJewelz 15]

LOL, when it comes to someone i want to hav sex with or someone that i want to CONSIDER being with, my feet are never cold either (oh God, im such a freak!).

 

But isnt it amazing how when ur the poster child for "NO" everyone wants a piece of u - then when ur ready to say "YES" nobody wants any??? The thrill of "The Chase" is highly over rated cuz after a while it just becomes annoying as hell.