How long do you expect sex to last when swinging?

[WeWatchUF 15]

We have no experience with this at all, so I have a question.

 

Let's say that you and your partner are going to meet up with another couple and have sex. How long would you expect to actually have sex? How many times would you expect the guys to cum? Is this something that would be typically discussed with the other couple beforehand?

 

Thanks

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

My wife and I have never discussed how long or how many times ahead of a meeting. We make, in fact, no presumption of sex before any first-time meeting. If it seems appropriate, the invitation is typically spoken during a meeting. That leaves us and the other couple a door though which to an exit if we realize that the other couple are not actually turning us on; same goes for them in case they begin to think we are not their cup of tea.

 

Hoping this helps.

[cplnuswing 4,712]

We try not to have any expectations at all and just let things develop as they will. It really kind of depends on the environment too - at a club, things are going to be quicker, while if we are at someone's house or a hotel in a more relaxed environment, then it will probably last longer. The Mrs isn't one who likes to go on and on, and in fact guys who brag about how they will demonstrate their two hour stamina for her are actually a turnoff. With me, the desire to make sure I don't finish too quick plus the loss of sensitivity from the condoms often makes it harder to come. We just kind of look at it like when everyone is hot, tired, and happy, then you are done. Like a lot of things, the ending point just seems to kind of develop on its own if you don't overthink it.

 

We don't bring it up with the other couple to that level of detail, and I can't recall that someone has ever brought it up with us. I think a few times the Mrs has given some gentle hints in response to the stamina comments just to let them know that won't be necessary so they won't be trying to meet some goal they think is in her mind, but that is about the extent of it.

[DigginIt 1,132]

When we first started out it was kind of funny. Encounters usually went, lots of kissing, undressing, more kissing, the guys going down on the girls, the girls going down on the guys followed by sex. It was almost routine sometimes. Now we prefer more interaction between everyone so it's not so much being paired off and separate.

 

The entire encounter will usually last 60-90 minutes depending if we sit around naked talking. Full out intercourse 20-30 minutes usually (more than 30 minutes, mrs diggs is ready to push you off her). Rarely do we ever finish at the same time and the time can span 10 - 15 minutes. Don't get too wrapped up in how long it has to go but pay your attention to ensuring your partner is having a good time and the partner you are with is having a good time.

 

Oh yea, if your like me, usually the last one finishing...get used to an audience because that's what the other two will be doing, watching you, lol.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Oh, and your second question. Rarely do we go a second round with new couples. Second rounds are fairly common with couples we know pretty well and sometimes the second round is with our own partners, not always though.

[WeWatchUF 15]

Thanks for the info. Anyone else, please feel free to contribute.

[cupl4fun 361]

For us it all depends. I wouldn't even care to hazard a guess honestly. We have had experiences with a couple that lasted and hour or so. We have had other times where it lasted 3 or 4 hours, and if there is more than one couple involved we have gone all night (with breaks). We have learned to go into each experience not expecting anything and just trying to enjoy ourselves. If you over think it and try to figure out exactly what it will be like and how long it will last you will definitely be disappointed. Just enjoy the ride. I don't think we have had a single swing experience that I would say was like I would have expected it to be. Some of our play times have been amazing, some have been just okay, and some have been just plain bad. To sort of quote Forrest Gump, swinging (at least for us) "is like a box of chocolates. You never know what you are going to get."

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

No expectations. It is what it is and will be what it is.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

more than a minute less than a day!

 

As with anything else in swinging, we don't go in with expectations. I've encountered very few guys in swinging (or out of swinging) that could come more than once. I know some couples prefer to end the sex together, and for that reason he will keep from coming with someone else so that he can still enjoy his wife at the end of the night.

 

The best thing is to just not have expectations and just go and enjoy.

[CollegeCouple24 232]

I've encountered very few guys in swinging (or out of swinging) that could come more than once.

 

This was a bit surprising to me. A majority of our experiences have been in the other direction with my b/f and the other man cumming two to three times. It varies depending on how fast it is though. If he cums quickly from the start, I sort of expect to be giving it another go in about 10-15 minutes...after 20 minutes, I'm joining in with my b/f and whoever he's with; but that tends to be rare. Beyond three times is asking a bit much though.

 

It's not uncommon, in our experience, for the other man to have a pump too. My b/f bought one after our third or fourth swap because the other male usually had one. If you take this route, you better plan ahead and bring larger condoms. The "it doesn't fit" excuse, to me, is the same as "oops, I forgot condoms" and doesn't go over very well.

 

From the start of play, we prefer ours to last between an hour and a half to three hours at the most and with a quite a few breaks. We're not in the lifestyle scene and it takes a considerable amount of time and energy invested on our part to set anything up. We don't feel its unfair to ask that we make the most of it...is that greedy?

[Baconheads 428]

more than a minute less than a day!

 

As with anything else in swinging, we don't go in with expectations. I've encountered very few guys in swinging (or out of swinging) that could come more than once. I know some couples prefer to end the sex together, and for that reason he will keep from coming with someone else so that he can still enjoy his wife at the end of the night.

 

The best thing is to just not have expectations and just go and enjoy.

 

When I was frustrated with my marriage and seeking the *wrong* kind of professional help, two "shots on goal" on my part was the rule, not the exception. I think it was the excitement of the new relationship, albeit a business only relationship, was the allure. It's extremely for me to do two SOG's with my wife, even though we have overcome our frustrations with each other.

 

If I were to go twice with a hypothetical swing partner, I would likely be in deep doodoo.

[km34 672]

This was a bit surprising to me. A majority of our experiences have been in the other direction with my b/f and the other man cumming two to three times. It varies depending on how fast it is though. If he cums quickly from the start, I sort of expect to be giving it another go in about 10-15 minutes...after 20 minutes, I'm joining in with my b/f and whoever he's with; but that tends to be rare. Beyond three times is asking a bit much though.

 

This has been my experience(s), too. Generally our encounters have been rather prolonged - lasting at least an hour and a half to 2 hours, with about half or a bit less being actual intercourse and the rest being foreplay, short rests, etc.

 

It's not uncommon, in our experience, for the other man to have a pump too. My b/f bought one after our third or fourth swap because the other male usually had one. If you take this route, you better plan ahead and bring larger condoms. The "it doesn't fit" excuse, to me, is the same as "oops, I forgot condoms" and doesn't go over very well.

 

I have never come across a man having a pump. I found this interesting! lol

 

From the start of play, we prefer ours to last between an hour and a half to three hours at the most and with a quite a few breaks. We're not in the lifestyle scene and it takes a considerable amount of time and energy invested on our part to set anything up. We don't feel its unfair to ask that we make the most of it...is that greedy?

 

Nah. I enjoy the leisurely atmosphere of making everything last. We also tend to throw in changes to partners, going back to our original partners for a bit, etc to switch things up and make sure everyone is enjoying all the possibilities.

 

We have had a few "quicky" exchanges, especially at the club where we'll play with one couple (or one of us will play with one half of a couple) for 5-15 minutes or so and then move on, but when we meet two-on-two it usually lasts a while.

[two4youinswva 3,068]

more than a minute.....

 

Dammit.

[CollegeCouple24 232]

I have never come across a man having a pump. I found this interesting! lol

 

In my experience, there are two reasons for this. (1) Look how big I can make it and (2) help getting started for round two (3, or 4!). The latter is much, much preferable to the former I think! It's nice to see your response to WeWatchUF's question

[km34 672]

Oh, I forgot to respond to the last part of the OP! We usually don't talk about time much beforehand unless someone has something going on later (having to let the sitter go home, work the next day means everything has to be done by a certain time, etc). We just go with the flow and whatever happens happens.

[Chicup 41]

How long will sex last?

 

How hot is she? 1-10 (Ht) (reverse scale 1 = HOT 10 = NOT)

When is the last time I had sex? 1-3 hours ago = 3 3-6 = 2 12-24 = 1 24+=.5 (Oyea)

 

Duration: 3*(Ht*Oyea) minutes.

 

So an a unattractive woman (10) is my partner and I just had sex (3), I'm going to be there a while.

Oh and for the very attractive woman, I'm so sorry, this never happens usually

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I wouldn't put a time limit on it but I would reserve the afternoon/evening for it. It might last for an hour or into the next day depending on how much fun everybody is having. How many times the guy comes is a matter of science. You can expect a man to have the most cum(ejaculate) the first time. It will take some time, some men more, some men less, before a man will actually have another orgasm, but the amount of cum(ejaculate) will be less. I wouldn't expect a man to unload a full amount of his cum for at least 24 hours. I've been able to keep hard after I cum and have been able to satisfy my woman for as long as she wants me too. Nothing puts a smile on my face like having a sore cock the next day from a marathon fucking session. If you or the other couple haven't brought up some kind of schedule I wouldn't bring it up and would just let the experience flow for as long as everybody wants it to.

[DigginIt 1,132]

How long will sex last?

 

How hot is she? 1-10 (Ht) (reverse scale 1 = HOT 10 = NOT)

When is the last time I had sex? 1-3 hours ago = 3 3-6 = 2 12-24 = 1 24+=.5 (Oyea)

 

Duration: 3*(Ht*Oyea) minutes.

 

So an a unattractive woman (10) is my partner and I just had sex (3), I'm going to be there a while.

Oh and for the very attractive woman, I'm so sorry, this never happens usually

 

That's really funny!

[ricksara 15]

At least 70 years. No a joke, people. We never know. as we have the same group, with very few exceptions,It can be a one on one quickie. or it can go all weekend. Of course we do eat , sleep, shower, and such. but there are no rules about time. if you enjoy it you keep on doing it. no one uses a watch, we just enjoy each other. Sorry I could not be of more help.

 

Sara

[latin2012 22]

I would think this would be up to the individuals and how long the want to keep going and how long their partners want them to keep going. for instance the guy might cum that's it, its over. the girl might cum and she might or might not want him to keep going. or first couple finishes and second couple is still going hot and heavy, i would wait only so long then id say we gots to go (and no i don't mean wrap it up in 10 seconds cuz im done and want to leave), during our first 3 somes when i was finished but she still wanted some more, i would lay there watch them both play, even get up refresh my drink down stairs give them some privacy and re join them after a few minutes. In general like i mentioned it is up to people playing and how long they want to keep going.