How long do you expect sex to last when swinging?
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By SimpIySexual
Okay so I feel like this is probably pretty common amongst new swingers but I need to discuss it with someone cause I feel kinda bad.
So me and my wife started swinging and have only had 2 experiences so far, both at the swing club near us. Both times me and my wife went she (a social butterfly) found someone within a couple hours and completed one of her fantasies both times.
The first time I wasn't present with her I was just outside the room in the main play room. I did this to let her try it without any pressure or influence from me.
The second time we dvp/dped her and had a lot of fun. Like 30 people stood around watching her wanting to get involved
So my problem starts a few days ago when we got into a mild argument and she said "well it's kinda fucked. You have got to see me fuck another man. I've done it twice, but you have yet to do anything with another woman."
So personally I'm an extremely shy and introverted person. She always thought I was the catch cause when we met in highschool all the girls were falling over me and I only had eyes for her. Well she walks into the club and literally everyone is looking at her. I don't have "game" shit Idk how to even flirt.
It's not because I feel bad or like I'm cheating, I could honestly give a fuck less about that sorta stuff. I just don't have the confidence to go to a woman I find attractive and shoot my shot. I grew up extremely abused and so rejection to me is something that crushes me. When you learn to never ask for anything being denied when you finally do just ends your confidence.
So really my question, is this normal for one partner to be the clear catch and able to go find partners where the other partner can't find anyone due to confidence? I dont want to make her mad because I don't ever do it but I also don't want to force myself to go fuck someone I don't even find attractive or something just to make her happy.
I am totally content in our swinging choice and everything else. This is really just one of those things I hadn't anticipated. I hate it cause I know I'm attractive. I just have 0 confidence to test it out.
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By cplndixie
It has been quite sometime since we were single & we haven't been swinging full swap very long. The thing I worry about is not lasting as long as I used to. I am 50 now & I worry about satisfying my swing female partner. I guess I do ok for a middle-aged man but I still worry if I am performing time wise as expected.
Ladies, what do you find a normal time frame is for "intercourse" from your male swing partner? Especially those middle-aged partners... 50ish. With or without Viagra, Cialis, etc. Sometimes I use it sometimes I don't. Just intercourse... not foreplay, oral etc.
5 minutes
10 minutes
20 minutes
or longer... how long?
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By rachan
We've been in the lifestyle for quite a few years and I see a lot of e-mails and posts from men who claim that they can go for hours on end before they cum. I've had a lot of sex partners and I think the longest term of continuous thrusting may have been 30 minutes. My best partner usually cums in less time than that but it's enough to give me a great orgasm. Actually my favorite thing is foreplay, kissing, oral and fucking and changing positions. But I usually don't watch the clock. I just try to enjoy the experience.
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By couplers
On the Board here, people discuss their more elaborate sexual practices and memorable experiences. But earlier today because of the press of other weekend responsibilities, Red and I had a quick one. Afterward in the car feeling somewhat satisfied and somewhat unsatisfied, it got me to thinking: I wonder how the other Swing Boarders feel about the subject. Please vote and comment.
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By TymKeepr
I'm finally getting my nerve up to ask. Are all women expected to be bi-sexual when it comes to swinging? I consider myself to be female friendly, I don't have a problem helping strip, kiss or caress another woman, which I've done before, but I have NO desire to perform oral sex on one.
I notice all these clubs talking about admitting single women but not much for single men, and have read on here about, what appears to me to be, desperate single men (not you regular posters, but you know the type I mean!) becoming pests. So, are women just automatically assumed to be bi?
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