Droopy boobs and stretch marks

[BMagic 15]

Hey all,

 

I am the female of the pair, in my early 40's and over the last 3 years have lost a lot of weight. Due to the weightloss, my natural 36DD boobs have lost their perky fullness and now have the saggy National Geographic tribal native look, and I have a little bit of loose skin on my upper arms, tummy, and inner thigh area. I gave birth to one child 17 years ago, so have stretchmarks on my tummy from that as well. I have a nice, slim, hourglass figure, everything's in proportion, & I try to cover up the loose skin/stretchmark flaws by wearing bodystockings &/or thigh highs and very sexy, flattering outfits to clubs/parties, but I can't really do much about the way my boobs look (have even invested in some special lotions for it, but they don't help all that much). I love the liberating atmosphere of the clubs/parties and enjoy having my boobs out as much as I can in those settings because it just feels so good, but sometimes get self conscious about their droopiness eventhough I see many women there who are just as or even more physically flawed than me letting it all hang out. Despite that, I still can't get over this feeling of inadequacy, but would not opt for a boob job due to allergies...I know my body would react badly to implants.

 

I just wanted to know from the guys, how much of a turnoff is my list of physical flaws to you? Should I just let go, continue to project confidence, & enjoy myself despite these flaws, or am I just kidding myself here? I know this seems a silly question from someone who doesn't even engage in play with others, but being an exhibitionist, I want to turn others on when playing with my man & worry I might be doing the opposite, eventhough he assures me I'm still smoking hot. I figure he's biased since he loves me! Haha

 

And ladies with similar flaws, any recommendations of creams/lotions or non-surgical procedures that actually work to minimize these flaws would be greatly appreciated!

 

Thanks!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

 

I just wanted to know from the guys, how much of a turnoff is my list of physical flaws to You?

Dave Barry, the newspaper feature columnist and author, has warned my gender to never answer a question of this character.

 

It's a lucky thing, I suppose, that mirrors had not yet been invented or Hellen of Troy would have looked into one and seen flaws. All I can say is that my wife, who has lost a significant number of pounds within the last four months, turns me on more than ever AND is catching the eyes of many more men at lifestyle gatherings. When you look into a mirror, try to not see flaws. And let the men in your life act as your mirrors on your world.

[Lionheart72 2,191]

I just wanted to know from the guys, how much of a turnoff is my list of physical flaws to you?

 

I fail to see any such list in your post. I read only the description of an attractive woman.

[gr8tungbiggush 17]

Never cover up who you are, most people who are decent would not pay attention to the faults. And if they do, then move on to someone better. There is nobody in this world that is perfect.

 

The woman my wife and I get together with has most of the same faults you listed, and neither of us care. Keep the confidence up and stick with those who like you for you.

[DFW2ForFun 65]

Honey, I'm in my early 30's. I had an emergency surgery when I was 20, died on the OR table, etc.... I am left with scars on my abdomen, and stretch marks with no children to show for it. I was/am not real confident when it comes to swinging.

I had to finally decide that real friends will like me for ME, not what I look like under my clothes. Anyone who has a problem with how I look cab go F themselves.

Trust me, I know this is easier said than done. You can find me on Twitter or the Y! Under the same screen name if you need someone to talk to.

 

Big hugs sent your way. XOXO

[angelkin 1,326]

I am a woman - I have similar flaws. I try not to let the flaws bother me and if someone is superficial enough to let it bother them, well, I probably don't want to play with them anyway. I know, it doesn't make it any easier to hear someone else say it, but you gotta be comfortable in your own skin. I just said to hubby, I wish they could relocate my chubby belly fat and move it into my boobs to fill them back up.

 

Feeling sexy and exuding confidence produces real sex appeal and others will see it too.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

I have this dream where I get a few hundred naked women together and do a variety of ice breakers, like writing love notes to the bodies of twenty other women, or quickly grouping themelves by size and then looking at the beauty surrounding them. Because women's bodies are beautiful, in all shapes and sizes, with or without droopy breasts or flabby backs or whatever. Then maybe they'd all go out knowing how wonderful they were and would stop wasting energy on things that don't serve them.

 

Confidence is a lovely thing and far more useful than any cream. The flabbiness will tighten up in some degree, mostly related to age and hormonal balance, but it takes time. Also, if you're into that kind of stuff, decline chest presses are the bomb for a breast lift on the level of musculature. Also, there are creams with things like caffeine that do offer some tightening. I'm sure you could find at least a few at Target. I bet they taste bad, though.

[BMagic 15]

Thanks so much for the positive feedback everyone! I recently started doing yoga to tone up and my new motto is "fake it til you make it" - I'm gonna continue to project alluring confidence until I eventually own it! The liberating feeling of the club is so uniquely wonderful that I'm not going to let my physical insecurities inhibit my new experiences.

 

Happy Memorial Day!

[LiveLoveHaveFun 114]

I say just be yourself and be confident; don't give it another thought and have fun.

[DigginIt 1,132]

Hey, we are always most critical of ourselves. With the exception of a few, we ALL have our battle wounds and scars that are trophies of our lives. In swinging, you are offering to share yourself with another and what you will find is that (as a guy) we appreciate all that you have to offer and the imperfections are vastly outweighed by personality and sexiness.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

. . . The liberating feeling of the club is so uniquely wonderful that I'm not going to let my physical insecurities inhibit my new experiences.

Excellent.

[Chicup 42]

First, congratulations about the weight loss, its a great feeling when you lose it, I know. Unfortunately the extra skin your body produced to hold the fat in not going away is a common side effect.

 

Allergies to breast implants would be extremely rare. While its best to be comfortable in your own skin, unless you have been tested, and competently tested, for allergies to the materials in implants, I wouldn't just assume.

 

I couldn't tell you how many "allergies" I run across in my work which turn out to be not really allergies.

 

I know this doesn't fit the feel good about yourself vibe of the thread, but thats my personality. I accept the unchangeable aspects about me, but do not accept the ones I can change if they really bother me.

 

I view the sagging skin/breasts after weight loss as simply being part of the recovery from being overweight not something you have to accept. Think of it this way, if you were in a car accident and had cosmetic surgery to help with a scar on your face, no one would think negatively for you doing it. That extra skin is very much like a scar from losing the weight. There are risks involved in removing it, and you might lose the skin but gain a scar which you find worse, but options are there (cremes won't do anything but make creme makers rich).

 

The point is to find where YOU are comfortable with it.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I often feel that my boobs are droopy and I have no kids or major weight loss to show for it. I've seen breasts of all shapes and sizes at the clubs and sometimes I think "put those away" but at the same time I'm thinking "YOU GO GIRL!"

 

A lack of self confidence in yourself is going to be a bigger turn-off any day of the week than what you actually look like. You can be the ugliest person in the room but if you are confident in yourself you will have people finding you attractive and happy to see you enjoying yourself. Without the self confidence you will just have people pitying you and wondering why you are there at all.

[JandT_Elkhart 76]

I have come to believe that one is a lot more judgmental on themselves than others are of them. Here's the bottom line... if someone is "interested" in you, then by definition they have either ignored or accepted your "flaws". So, enjoy yourself and forget about what others think!

[Ed & Bunny 160]

 

A lack of self confidence in yourself is going to be a bigger turn-off any day of the week than what you actually look like. You can be the ugliest person in the room but if you are confident in yourself you will have people finding you attractive and happy to see you enjoying yourself. Without the self confidence you will just have people pitying you and wondering why you are there at all.

 

This statement mirrors my feeling exactly. One gal who I was very interested in playing with was probably the least physically attractive of all the women I have met in the lifestyle. It was her confidence and personality that made her desirable.

[DynamitePair 67]

As the male half to this pair, I wanted to reply becuase this question burns in many women. Although my reply repeats many of the great points previously made, I have to say, not just to you but to all women who may read this.......it doesn't matter what shape you are, what size boobs, what shape boobs, bottoms, arms, leg lengths you have. As a man, I am going to admire for no other reason than you are a woman. In this life we have all chosen to live, body images constantly come up becuase we often step outside of a comfort zone or safe zone of that significant other who has already bought into you. The same questions exist for men also. My wife still laughs at me becuase the first time I noticed a few hairs growing up around the shoulder area, I completely lost my mind. (personal feeling about hair in certain places on me) LOL. Oh and this was after a night of naked frollicking at a club. Turns out, I was the only one that noticed or cared. So with all the text above, the answer to your question is simple....it is not a turn off. I hope you use the confidence you alluded to earlier and only get better with age. Besides, behind every woman in this lifestyle and in the vanilla world is a line a men that would love to show you just how sexy you are. LOL