Guys: Do you stay hard after you cum?

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

We've noticed in recent months that Pet has a new super power. He no longer goes limp right after he comes, instead he comes and we keep going and he stays hard as long as I want him to. He's managed to pull off a few multiple orgasms, but once he gets that initial one he's not overly concerned with a second (much to my pleasure).

 

I'm wondering how common this actually is. I know I posted in another thread that it was my experience that most guys are 1 and done (and a few disagreed that they had not had the same experience - lucky them). I'm also wondering since this is a recently acquired super power for Pet, if it's related to him having had a vascectomy in the last year.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

Happens with me about 25 percent of occasions. Getting lots of sleep the night before and it's being early in the evening make the odds better. I congratulate Pet on his new superpower (when's he coming to our place)?

[junkyard38 21]

Please have PET share his new found secret. I myself would like to enjoy this special power, to satisfy my partners.for my

[angelkin 1,326]

Hubby can usually stay hard for another session most of the time. Call me selfish, but I love that about him:)

[Alura 2,773]

Sigh... How fondly I remember those days!

[slevin 1,374]

Nope, I don't stay hard. Usually it's one orgasm and that is it. Sometimes if I wait 15-30 minutes I am good to go again, but not always.

[occ 148]

one and done usually. with Viagra I can usually get hard again and go a second round in about 30 minutes or so. But uunfortunatley once I cum, I soften up. Lucky PET. Lucky you!

[SW_PA_Couple 4,023]

. . . I'm also wondering since this is a recently acquired super power for Pet, if it's related to him having had a vascectomy in the last year.

I'm no physician but I had a vasectomy and it made me no longer-lasting, no briefer-lasting, no more resiliant, no less resiliant, no longer, no shorter, no smarter and no dumber. I was a little poorer financially but, hey.

[mrnmrsdiscrete 15]

I've only been able to go for an immediate second round twice or maybe three times. Each time it happened it amazed me. My wife also enjoyed it.

Mostly, unless we're at a club or a party, I am done after one orgasm.

[D&D 362]

Usually I don't stay hard after having an orgasm. It can depend on the sex position though. Certain positions tend to keep me hard for a while after I have an orgasm. For instance if she is laying on face down with me entering from behind. The particular way that position puts pressure on me can keep me hard after i orgasm. If we continue in that position I've been lucky, twice, to have a second orgasm. For the most part though I am good for one orgasm. Sometimes thats just it, Im done for the evening and other times good break of 30 min or so and I can get hard but I usually can't have another orgasm.

[km34 672]

Hubby can if he is very, very stimulated. It happens a lot in swinging situations or if it's been more than a few days since we've had sex (I guess getting used to it every day has it's advantages when we longer without ). Even if he can't stay hard, he can usually get it back up within 10-15 minutes, but another orgasm usually won't happen for at least an hour after the first.

[ricksara 15]

Rick uses Levitra and he stays hard for me to cum, many times. With out it he can't do that. Yea modern medicine.

 

Sara

[IEcouple 222]

I almost always have two orgasms per erection during sex, sometimes three. During masturbation I rarely do more than one, but that's because the second one takes so long to achieve.

 

The only catch is that I need almost constant stimulation after cumming to keep it going, so condoms can complicate things.

[latin2012 22]

Yes I do and I am not going to lie to you. I use the little blue pill, but at 50 I think I need to use it for play (again before I get jumped on, I said "I" need to use it, not all 50 year olds..lol). I really don't use that much (I use 25mg, dose can go all the way to 100mg) and only when we go to play. If wife and I play by ourselves at home then I don't use it. I guess you can say its all ego, I don't want to not be able to perform in a situation like playing with others. Now when using it and I cum i can usually stay hard after, if still being stimulated, but if not and woody goes down... it does not take much to get it back up fast.

[tribbles 490]

My husband is like that. Less so now over 50 but some days are still really good

[JASON44 16]

We've noticed in recent months that Pet has a new super power. He no longer goes limp right after he comes, instead he comes and we keep going and he stays hard as long as I want him to. He's managed to pull off a few multiple orgasms, but once he gets that initial one he's not overly concerned with a second (much to my pleasure).

 

I'm wondering how common this actually is. I know I posted in another thread that it was my experience that most guys are 1 and done (and a few disagreed that they had not had the same experience - lucky them). I'm also wondering since this is a recently acquired super power for Pet, if it's related to him having had a vascectomy in the last year.

 

Answer : I don't think it's vasectomy related. I'm also able to hold a hardon after a cum. I've had a vasectomy but this ability has been with me from the beginning and the v. didn't affect it. I think it's an individual issue. I also tend to have multiple ejaculations from one orgasm, sometimes up to a dozen in succession. Of course, the volume of semen from each pump has been dropping as I age, but the pleasure of the orgasm is repeated with each pump impulse. I also had this ability from the earliest years. When I started masturbating, I didn't have anyone to compare with so thought that all boys my age kept on ejaculating many times per orgasm, but later found out it was rare. I don't know if there is any linkage, though. Jason

[Cherienickole 15]

My husband never stays hard after he orgasms, even when I try to keep him stimulated. :thumbdown:

 

He takes a few hours minimum before he can go again and in ten years of marriage we have only had multiple sessions in the same day a few times. He is healthy...but I think his problem is he puts too much pressure on himself and it effects him mentally. I would love for him to be able to come multiple times.

[Fours Company 169]

You all are gonna make me (and the wife) jealous . I kind of doubt it has anything to do with a vasectomy as I unfortunately lost this "superpower" after my early 20's long before I was fixed and noticed no other differences good or bad as a result of that procedure. Not only does the resolution stage quickly follow orgasm, but Mr. Happy becomes just too sensitive afterward that it would be uncomfortable to continue even if I could as well as the feeling of being mentally spent as well as physically. Unfortunately, just good old fashioned aging became my Kyptonite.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I can stay hard after I cum. I can't cum again after that first time but I can stay hard after I cum. The best position for me to stay hard after I cum is her on top. My playmates and I have fucked for hours in different positions to the point that we were both sore from the friction for days. It is a very pleasant soreness:)

[risky123 15]

I have this particular problem I don't know why but its there after Cumming in my wife, once I stay hard when she doesn't want to do do it again,but if she want me do her again or when she is in mood I don't go erect instantly as when she is not in mood I don't know why it happens but it happens.

[IEcouple 222]

Answer : I don't think it's vasectomy related. I'm also able to hold a hardon after a cum. I've had a vasectomy but this ability has been with me from the beginning and the v. didn't affect it. I think it's an individual issue. I also tend to have multiple ejaculations from one orgasm, sometimes up to a dozen in succession. Of course, the volume of semen from each pump has been dropping as I age, but the pleasure of the orgasm is repeated with each pump impulse. I also had this ability from the earliest years. When I started masturbating, I didn't have anyone to compare with so thought that all boys my age kept on ejaculating many times per orgasm, but later found out it was rare. I don't know if there is any linkage, though. Jason

 

Ditto. I've been able to both before and after having a vasectomy. No effect there whatsoever.

[wwjdcb 25]

I would estimate that from 17-32, i stayed hard at least 95% of the time and i had 2 orgasms per session. I'm almost 40 and i find i only stay hard about 75-80% of the time now, but still have 2 orgasms most of those times. On a good night, i'll stay hard the entire time having 3 orgasms over the course of 1.5-2 hrs. Not too often though, the wife is usually done after an hour or so.

[JandKinBoise 856]

I read thru all these replies and haven't seen my issue. After I come, I stay hard as a rock for about 10 minutes. The problem is, ANY stimulation causes intense.....pain? I don't know how to describe it but it isn't pleasant. Any touch to my dick causes me to wince and recoil. I look like I'm ready for round 2 but anything but. So I guess I'm like Aquaman, useless superpowers.

[DnM69 70]

I sometimes stay hard after cumming, maybe once a week. But other than a few rare exceptions my wife is always well finished before me and is waiting for me to finish so there is very rarely a 2nd round for me. The few times I have tried to cum again it just aint gunna happen so we stop before I break my wife. Now the exception to that rule occurred the morning after our first swinging experience, we both came twice then we repeated it later that afternoon and again the following day. So after 13 years of once and done a night at a swingers club got me to achieve 3 doubles, I cant remember the last time I wanted my wife so badly. If only we had a club closer to us.

[Cancuple-he 37]

I can... (maintain an erection), but only in very stimulated circumstances. The bigger issue for me is that I am usually very tired afterwards! LoL In fact, men are physically programed this way!

 

Sorry darling, I just can't help it: How scientists have found out the real reason why many men fall asleep after sex | Mail Online

 

That said, if the conditions are right and the correct stimulus is present and applied, multiple "shots on goal" are not only possible, but encouraged.

[Mo-TownTN 20]

Hubby here...NO I cannot stay hard after cumming. My refractory period is longer than it was just 10 years ago. A blessing of growing older. When we have had threesomes, I usually remove myself from the bed and sit in a chair. This allows my wife some play time without my presence. Once things are coming up, I move back into the action.

[81lizard69 470]

The longer and better the foreplay the better I can stay hard for the the second or third round. I can do my tantric exersizes and stay hard for hours. But that takes allot of work and energy .. If I am with a tantric woman and we are on the same page I can last a long time.. But some times.. I just lose it early and It takes twenty or thirty minutes to get it back.. I think the older I get the more control I have over my penis.. That can mean conscious or sub consciously. If I am not into the situation but try to force it I may not have the staying power I think I have..

 

Is that a ambiguous answer..?

 

Hows this.. It depends on the woman keeping my Pns interested.

[bonemeal 34]

I read thru all these replies and haven't seen my issue. After I come, I stay hard as a rock for about 10 minutes. The problem is, ANY stimulation causes intense.....pain? I don't know how to describe it but it isn't pleasant. Any touch to my dick causes me to wince and recoil. I look like I'm ready for round 2 but anything but. So I guess I'm like Aquaman, useless superpowers.

 

WOW, I'm sitting here "wincing" just reading this!! I'm no expert on the functions of human anatomy but it sounds like you need some Anti-Viagra. I can remember a time or two when my hard-on hurt that much but I had taken 100mg Viagra and 2.5 mg yohimbine. That stretched the skin pretty thin. Luckily it didn't last for 4 hours.

[sweetsnspeed 52]

LoL Cancuple, The article states that the "thinking part" of the brain shuts off after an orgasm. We thought that happened well before then with some guys, like the moment they see a beautiful woman.

[kikonkrome 843]

This has been pretty interesting thread. I can pretty much always go twice with a rather short refractory period. I can pretty much stay hard and go again after a few minutes. No big deal. I always thought all guys could do that!! I guess I am in a minority?? I have even had 'back to back' orgasms with the same women, which I will admit is pretty rare but has definitely happened.

[sweetsnspeed 52]

This has been pretty interesting thread. I can pretty much always go twice with a rather short refractory period. I can pretty much stay hard and go again after a few minutes. No big deal. I always thought all guys could do that!! I guess I am in a minority?? I have even had 'back to back' orgasms with the same women, which I will admit is pretty rare but has definitely happened.

 

Show Off! LOL

[GuyInMD79 1,500]

I can think of exactly one time when I stayed hard after cumming, and was able to continue fucking after catching my breath for a few seconds, right into a second orgasm. I felt like such a stud! But again, one time.

[EastInWest 1,524]

I can think of exactly one time when I stayed hard after cumming, and was able to continue fucking after catching my breath for a few seconds, right into a second orgasm. I felt like such a stud! But again, one time.

 

Yup. I know exactly what you're describing, and it's been way too rare to find a pattern. I know what's going on as soon as I cum, because there's no sense of "being done", so maybe it's a flukey body chemistry thing. (Best guess: people involved in the chemical side of bodybuilding use cabergoline to suppress prolactin, which spikes post-orgasm. Some of them report that they no longer have a refractory period while using it.)

 

UNLESS I have taken Viagra. This is actually the defining characteristic of it, for me: I don't lose the erection after I finish. I found it awkward and unnatural because women who are used to a man finishing and deflating invariably notice and comment. This is different because I do feel like I'm done, and have less desire to continue, but I can.

 

Much more common for me is to cum, be finished, and be hard all over again 30 minutes later. Mrs. E has gotten used to dealing with those sessions that end in "...get back here." "ALREADY?"

 

Again, though, it's not frequent enough for me to figure out a pattern, except that it mostly happens in the morning.

[Exhibitionist 38]

Sometimes I stay hard and sometimes it goes soft and I play with myself to get hard again. I was so horny the other day that my erection stayed even after cumming three times but went down on the fourth time. I have a low refractory period when I cum.

[RnD 15]

I go limp immediately after cumming. Been that way since day one. I've tried all kinds of things but nothing but 5-6hrs of rest will work

[wyndriver 15]

I have always had the ability to stay hard indefinitely. I didn't realize how rare it was until I was more experienced. I have found that women either love it or hate it. It is pure fire with a lover who just can't get enough.

[SA_NewtoLS 163]

It really varies for me quite a bit. Usually, with just my wife, before we started swinging, it's one and kinda done. Right after I cum I get super super sensitive. It doesn't hurt like the other guy said, but it's not really pleasant either. It almost tickles, but that's not really it either, more uncomfortable than that, but not pain. Sometimes it stays hard during this, sometimes it doesn't. However, if I wait for that sensitivity to go away, usually 2-4 minutes or so, if it is still hard or can be re-stimulated, I can go again, at least once. This is where it varies all the time. Sometimes I can't go again at all, sometimes I can go for up to 3-4 more times. There is no rhyme or reason to it that I have been able to determine.

 

We've only had 3 swinging encounters before, and that was totally different for me. I came, did not get the super-sensitivity, stayed hard and was able to keep going almost immediately, 4 times our first encounter. Second time, we went to the club and was just in a room with my wife, came twice for her, though did need about a minute between, then another couple joined us and I came twice for her, then once more for my wife once we got home. Third encounter at the club was different as well. I just could not cum, so just stayed hard and kept going for over an hour. After going home I came for my wife though and that was it, was done.

[Exhibitionist 38]

I have always had the ability to stay hard indefinitely. I didn't realize how rare it was until I was more experienced. I have found that women either love it or hate it. It is pure fire with a lover who just can't get enough.

 

Yes! I've driven girls into orgasms where they can't even walk cause I stay so hard, but I've also had girls say they couldn't possibly fuck any longer and that their pussies can't stay wet that long. I've been told about guys pulling out and going soft as soon as they cum. I've been known to cum and put it right back in. I get horny over and over thinking about the sex we just had and sometimes go home and masturbate over it until it goes down.

[Sextoys-Ireland 15]

Staying hard after I cum is hard until I experience and discover some preparations, I mean changing to a healthy lifestyle has a good impact on my sex life. Also, did you guys tried cock rings? The trick there it the firm material helps retain blood flow, for stronger, longer lasting erections.

[1XcellentXtra4U 29]

Sometimes yes, sometimes no...

[rdy2go 23]

I have never been able to ejaculate twice. Definitely wish I were able too. I have been able to screw longer after I ejaculate if I have taken a”pill”, just can’t unload a second time. Jealous of those that can.

[ToeDippers 83]

I have been able to stay semi erect after cumming if the wife is on top. If I slow her up to a rocking motion I can stay in and cum a second time. I am pretty sure that the second load is not as big. It helps if she can have another orgasm or two too.

 

A secret she has learned is to reach behind her and massage my balls.

[agreatguy 269]

If it's routine sex at home I'm definitely one and done and go limp almost immediately. Usually need a nap. LOL

 

Swinger sex is different. There's more stimulation of all of the senses when we go to a club. If we swap then the memory of that is still keeping the juices flowing too. I can usually get hard again after about 30 minutes but if I get right back to it I most likely won't orgasm. I need a little more time, at least an hour, to be back at full strength and able to nut again. The second time has always been with my wife and part of reconnecting. Parallel play keeps it stimulating so we may invite another couple to just join us on the bed. It's kind of sexy to have another couple having reconnecting sex right next to you. There is a lot of passion involved.

 

If we MFM then I will get mine right as a part of that after she is finished with him. It's part of the reclaiming of what is mine. We'll both be done after that and may hang out a while and visit but haven't played a second time even just between the two of us.

[catmann1963 19]

I can but my situation is probably what is not normal. I had prostate cancer several years ago when I was in my early 40's and had it removed. Following this even though I no longer ejaculate, which is kind of a bummer, my orgasms became much more intense, and the sensations during sex became much higher.

 

For a short period of time I was taking the pills to help with erections due until things got back to it normal self after this type of treatment, and noticed it would stay hard for quite some time after. Was divorced shortly after and no sex I quit the pills, but as things got back to normal I noticed that after masturbating things would remain hard for a period of time.

 

After meeting a incredible women who is now my wife who has a very high sex drive, she picked up on this pretty quickly as well. She has learned all the right ways to keep this thing in action for round number 2, which results in even higher sensations, and a stronger second orgasms.

 

I have no idea why this is, but maybe it's just the brain thinking if we just keep that thing hard there will be more pleasure, and certain conditions such as overly tired or to much alcohol can ruin the effect, but the best part is no pills involved.

[Numex 2,379]

agreatguy said:

If it's routine sex at home I'm definitely one and done and go limp almost immediately. .

Same here, but fucking with my wife later in the day often happens.

 

agreatguy said:

Swinger sex is different. There's more stimulation of all of the senses ..

When we're with our special friends, I can go two, even three, rounds after a very brief rest and getting sucked. Much of it has to do with the stimulation of a new partner. My cum output is near zero the third time and my balls ache, but the orgasms are fantastic.

 

agreatguy said:

If we MFM then I will get mine right as a part of that after she is finished with him. It's part of the reclaiming of what is mine. We'll both be done after that..

When it's been me, another guy and just one of our wives, it seems like we always both go twice. Just sort of a fuck frenzy. Then she's had enough.

[NYirCPL 38]

One way I've managed to stay hard after ejaculating has been when I am not the one in control.  If I am the one thrusting and doing the work, the sensitivity after climax gets to me and I have to stop.  A few times I've had partners on top riding riding me who do not stop when I orgasm.  It is overwhelming for maybe a minute but the sensitivity eases up a bit and once I catch my bearings I'm able to keep going.

 

It usually takes me a bit to cum, but in those instances where I am close before I'm ready I've also deliberately ruined my own orgasms by getting to the point of orgasm but backing off.  It can get a little messy as I will ejaculate, but I generally stay about 3/4 hard which returns to full mast with additional stimulation.

 

 

[enhancer 1,582]

I stay extremely hard after I cum for a good while,  but we don’t keep going, because it takes me a long time to cum in the first place and by the time I have she is already more then satisfied. 

[Shore2Please 605]

For years my husband did stay hard or hard enough to not withdraw. 
My first swap lover stayed hard after a very long sensual first sex act. I have thought many times of that first time, my first time having sex with a new friend we met on a cruise, the first time having sex outside of marriage. I don’t refer to that first time as having sex, we made love. I gave my body to him and he was great. We did everything lovers would do. I was very receptive to enjoying and I was brought to heights many times before he ejaculated in me. I was about to roll over to catch my breath when he stopped me, still in me, holding me close and then slowly started again. I will never forget. 

[Numex 2,379]

8 hours ago, enhancer said:

I stay extremely hard after I cum for a good while,  but we don’t keep going, because it takes me a long time to cum in the first place and by the time I have she is already more then satisfied. 

I am a slow cummer too.  There have been times when one woman has had her orgasm(s) and is finished before I've cummed, but then I move on to another woman and finished in her pussy.  My wife likes a long fuck (or multiple men), so we are a good fit; she enjoys a long ride.

[Numex 2,379]

6 hours ago, Shore2Please said:

I don’t refer to that first time as having sex, we made love. I gave my body to him and he was great. We did everything lovers would do. I was very receptive to enjoying and I was brought to heights many times before he ejaculated in me. I was about to roll over to catch my breath when he stopped me, still in me, holding me close and then slowly started again. I will never forget. 

That is wonderful, as having multiple sex partners should be.  I am always hoping that my wife achieves this (her passionate kissing makes me believe she does), and am happy for her.

 

Among our group I have one special woman as well, and know what you mean.

Edited January 14, 2023 by Numex