Guys, can you orgasm without ejaculating?

[km34 672]

Ms. Julie's thread about being able to stay hard after cumming made me think about the few times Keith has managed to orgasm without actually ejaculating which leads to him having multiple orgasms in one session, with no break at all needed in between.

 

I was wondering if any other men have been able to do this. I know I've read about techniques where men can learn to isolate the muscles but it is supposed to be a rather tedious process. The times it has happened to us have been purely accidental.

 

If you have been able to do this, what do you think causes it? Did you learn to do it or is it a specific activity or situation that allows it?

 

I think if more men were able to do this the whole "sex is over when the man cums" idea could be overturned sooooo much easier!

[DigginIt 1,132]

I wish -

 

Of course, sex is never over when I cum unless I'm the only one who hasn't yet

[twistedpretzels 100]

Pete does this all of the time. I believe it is tantric in nature, which can be easily googled. Pete likes NOT coming so that is a difference. He feels 'spent' after an orgasm whereas controlling it he is in for the long haul. He has more vigor than men half his age. It's an incredible thing. But then.... he's incredible...

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

The opera's not over 'till the fat lady ejaculates.

 

Am I mixing my metaphors?

[tribbles 490]

Hubby does it

[km34 672]

I don't think anyone on this site (and I would hope swingers in general) is guilty of believing the idea that sex is over when the man's done, but a lot of other people do.

 

The practice of it probably is common in Tantra. We have a a book about Tantric Sex SOMEWHERE... Maybe I should find it...

 

It happened most recently to Keith when he couldn't hold back the orgasm (which I yell at him about anyway) but didn't want to actually cum/ejaculate. His power of will was apparently enough to tap into the ability without really having thought about it.

[tribbles 490]

For some males the change in hormones after they cum means for them it IS over. They have no interest and nothing can change it for them. It's a body thing.

[wineguy1994 15]

I read an article some years ago and learned to do this by doing Kegel exercises. Then after some period of time? I found that I could actually feel like I had an orgasm without ejaculating and soon I could go again. Great feeling!

[Palladin 36]

Tantric sex represses the ejaculation which is NOT the male orgasm! After awhile, the repressed orgasms are more pleasurable than the ejaculated variety and allow a man to continue and continue and continue until the final, inevitabe ejaculation which is exponentially more intense than the ordinary, one-shot variety. Spice it up with some artful oral and some Cialis (my choice) or Viagra and your ladies will be very, very grateful and walking funny the next day with a big, big smile on their face.

[km34 672]

We've never really done anything other than some light reading about Tantric sex (never tried any of the actual practices), so it was a pleasant surprise! I'm also pleasantly surprised at how many of the guys around here do it.

 

@Palladin - I don't believe in using chemical enhancements unless absolutely necessary, so I would be PISSED if my husband or any other guy I was with did it unless it was physically necessary. Just letting you know. I don't believe we should put anything into our bodies drug-wise unless it is needed. I've read that using the drugs when they aren't needed can actually cause a dependency upon them. Not commonly, but it does happen (arguably it is psychological). So, while I support your choice to do that, I wouldn't want anyone I was with to do it.

 

@Tribbles - The whole "it's over when the man cums" concept places more importance on the man's enjoyment than the woman's. That is the only reason I disapprove. If the man makes sure the woman is satisfied before cumming and losing all interest, that's fine and dandy. If he expects to get his gratification and leaves her unsatisfied, not cool. For the men who loose all interest after an orgasm, they need to make sure their partner is satisfied BEFORE that happens unless they are willing to use mouths and fingers to finish the job even without any physical gratification from it. Selfishness is all well and good now and then but making it a normal practice is a surefire way to end up with sexually frustrated, pissed off partners! lol

[Palladin 36]

@km34 - Some of us need a little help from our friends! Cialis is my BEST friend other than the lady I am with! It is all for HER!

[km34 672]

That's fine since you need it. I'm talking about doing it just because. I don't have a problem with guys who need to use it for whatever reason, but to just use it to "spice it up"? I'll pass.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

If the man makes sure the woman is satisfied before cumming and losing all interest, that's fine and dandy. If he expects to get his gratification and leaves her unsatisfied, not cool. For the men who loose all interest after an orgasm, they need to make sure their partner is satisfied BEFORE that happens unless they are willing to use mouths and fingers to finish the job even without any physical gratification from it. Selfishness is all well and good now and then but making it a normal practice is a surefire way to end up with sexually frustrated, pissed off partners! lol

 

How do you really feel?

 

My partner generally orgasms multiple times without ejaculation. For him it's a combination of will and muscle control, brought on by not wanting to be one and done. It's a good thing, since I've been known to slap if I'm not quuuiiiiite done.

[Palladin 36]

@km34 My weiner and the rest of the superfluous body it is attached to, NEEDS some artificial intervention! LOL! P.S. (Cialis makes my weiner very,very HAPPY!) And if it makes my little wagging weiner very happy, it makes the lady I am with very, very happy! A win, win situation!

[km34 672]

How do you really feel?

 

My partner generally orgasms multiple times without ejaculation. For him it's a combination of will and muscle control, brought on by not wanting to be one and done. It's a good thing, since I've been known to slap if I'm not quuuiiiiite done.

 

A slap? lol Harsh! I usually just growl and stomp off.

 

@km34 My weiner and the rest of the superfluous body it is attached to, NEEDS some artificial intervention! LOL! P.S. (Cialis makes my weiner very,very HAPPY!) And if it makes my little wagging weiner very happy, it makes the lady I am with very, very happy! A win, win situation!

 

Like I said, no issue with it if it's necessary.

[bogeyman 31]

Only when I jack it off myself. I love getting myself just to the edge then backing off for 15-20 seconds or so. After that 3 or 4 quick little pumps and I can have little orgasms without shooting. I've carried this on for as much as a half hour or so before. Finally when you let it go the orgasm seems to be a lot more intense and I shoot a lot more cum, at least before the vasectomy.

[sparkstar 128]

Well, that happens a lot but i wouldnt class it as an orgasm. Getting to the point where you feel you would love to be able to cum but instead you stop and wait a short while then continue fucking and the pre-cum helps keep her nice and wet during sex. The more often i do that, and the longest ive managed to hold onto not cumming was about 8 hours (seriously), it involved a lot of slow to average paced sex like you do during love making. When i did cum/orgasm it felt so amazing. I left quite a large deposit inside her, as soon as i pulled out it kept leaking out of her she found it amusing she had never seen that much before.

 

So yeah, if you havnt had sex or masturbated for a while, and then have sex for say just no more than a few minutes, there is only the white sticky stuff. The longer you have sex for without ejaculating, your semen looks mostly clear/runny in texture and thats when it doesnt taste so bad for women after a blowjob.

[HanAndLeia 67]

I can.

 

When masturbating I have small little orgasms and I have to stop stroking. It's like a mini orgasm but nothing comes out.

 

I think I developed this issue from years of masturbating without having anywhere to cum. So I had to hold it in, or masturbate just to the point of ejaculation but not farther.

 

Years of doing that, and now I have orgasms when I stroke it, but no cum comes out. They actually feel really good. My heart flutters a bit harder and my muscles tense and then relax and I feel "finished". But I relax a second or two and then can keep going. Eventually I will ejaculate, but it's taking longer and longer these days.

 

Some nights, when masturbating, I fall asleep after the first mini-orgasm, and then never remember to actually ejaculate. And then I wake up at like 3:00 AM and think, "oh yeah I was masturbating, I should finish", and then I stroke it a bit then to ejaculate.

[Golden_men 15]

I talked with my friends about.

Two of them can orgasm without ejaculating.

 

One from prostate massage.

Another likes strapon, didlo or cock (because pleasure from seminal vesicle) and blow job or vaginal sex in the same time.

 

They can experience full body orgasm without ejaculating.

[sweetgirlknows 121]

My husband is the same. We practice Tantra for the bonding experience, not ejaculation control. Sex is as mental for men as it is for women. If men open up to the aesthetic nature of sex and let the woman's true beauty permeate him that is the secret to male multiple orgasm. Society is very cruel to men regarding sex and it is not mens fault. Often times guys are looked at as "dirty" or sub-human deviants obsessed with only 1 thing. I think this frustrates men (it did my husband) because they do feel a powerful appreciation for a woman but society says "no you just want sex." Degrading anyone? When my husband opened up about this we felt so connected and it changed our love life for the better. He knows exactly when I want gentle caressing and when I need a strong hand to work me out. He says the more he empathizes and gives his pure undivided attention to me he feels calm but still extremely turned on. It is in this state that he has experienced the MMO. He described it as an internal heat that shoots up his spine from the prostate. My husbands favorite motto is "sex is a lot like Christmas.....better to give than to receive." I really want to share this with another woman to inspire her to look deeper into her man and undo the damage our society imparted onto him so he can enjoy sex as much as she does.

 

An addition: My husband also comments that a man should view his penis as for the womans pleasure. When a man accepts this he said it decreases his own focus on that area as he allows for more focus on the overall experience. Again, very mental. People often say the only real sex organ is the brain.

[km34 672]

sweetgirl - what does MMO stand for?

 

It's often used in the gaming world (massively multiplayer online game), but in this context I'm guessing "multiple male orgasms?"

[Hippiegirlie 276]

Some nights, when masturbating, I fall asleep after the first mini-orgasm, and then never remember to actually ejaculate. And then I wake up at like 3:00 AM and think, "oh yeah I was masturbating, I should finish", and then I stroke it a bit then to ejaculate.

 

LOL, I thought I was the only one who fell asleep while masturbating... good to know guys do it too Han!

[sweetgirlknows 121]

MMO = Male Multiple Orgasm

[femininetouch 15]

I, the male, could when I first hit puberty, or if we have had sex multiple, and I mean multiple times in a day. Even then there is residue.

[Guy1964 177]

I have always been one of those guys who crashed after I reached orgasm, so I always try to make sure the woman reaches orgasm first. Do you think the ability to maintain an erection after orgasm is something any man can learn to do?

[eurotrash 15]

When I try to stop my ejaculation, it goes into my bladder. I'm sure I'm doing something wrong, but how to correct this?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

This really does sound like a good topic for the Doctor Oz TV program.

[IEcouple 222]

When I try to stop my ejaculation, it goes into my bladder. I'm sure I'm doing something wrong, but how to correct this?

 

That's exactly how an orgasm without ejaculation works. Sounds weird, but you're doing it right.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

OK, now let's see somebody ejaculate without having an orgasm.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

OK, now let's see somebody ejaculate without having an orgasm.

 

Actually that can happen with prostate stimulation.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

Actually that can happen with prostate stimulation.

 

I shudda known.

[sunbuckus 3,567]

Recently, Mr. Sun said that he might have orgasmed without ejaculating. I asked him how he felt about it and he said that it sort of hurt.

[M1F2KTJ 473]

I've been able to stay hard after cumming(ejaculating). After a break for drinks or whatever if the mood is right we'll go again and I can have another orgasm but there is barely any ejaculate. (its science)

[NYFlirts 158]

I've had this kinda happen accidentally, but it's definitely not something I can control and it's very rare.

 

One guy in his late 40's that we played with could pound my wife forever! He would brag and brag and brag that he could orgasm without ejaculating, that he had studied the art of tantric sex, bla bla bla. His good friend ended up telling us his secret... turns out he was just popping viagra and never really cumming at all.

[JandKinBoise 858]

Sorry to be spamming the board today but I'm trying to pass the time until J gets home.

 

We screwed a guy several months ago and when he came, he just gripped his dick really hard and nothing came out. Seemed dangerous to me.

 

I am currently practicing ejaculating without the orgasm. The timing is tough and it seems to work best with prostate massage or at least anal stimulation. Why?? Well, we love the snowball, but once I "cum" I pretty much see sperm as radioactive nerve gas.

[angelkin 1,326]

We've been in a hot session where hubby had already cum a couple of times and did cum again without the ejaculate...guess I drained him:)

[81lizard69 470]

My husband and I practice tantra and I would say yes.. He does.. However I know he says he does, but I can never really be sure. I would like to hook him up to a machine that could tell if he really did. Hope he does not read this.

[Lascivious L&L 866]

I notice a theme here about the longer a man can go the better for the woman. As if fucking is the way to a woman's orgasm. It is not in many and perhaps the majority of cases. My wife gets quite frustrated with men who want to prove their manhood by how long they can fuck without cumming.

 

We celebrate orgasms. My wife may start to think you're not aroused by her if your fuck for a long period without orgasm. Our problem with men hasn't been cumming too quickly. Rather the opposite, taking too long to cum. She likes a man to cum, she likes me to cum, she likes to cum. Once in a while she will cum during fucking. But it's not during long spells of fucking. It happens during intense eroticism, from the spirit of sex, not the mechanics of sex. Most often it's during very loving intercourse.

 

Sure a man's body relaxes and crashes somewhat after ejaculation. But it is not absolute. By practicing you can go from ejaculation immediately to going down on her. She is hot, ready, and will quickly cum with such loving attention. Oh no, going down on someone you've filled with your cum??? Oh my god! It's actually quite erotic, if you allow your mind to overcome the programming that says oh my god. If you'd like to take your lover into orgasmic bliss, making love to her with your lips and tongue after making love to her with your cock is amazing. And quite intimate.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

I learned to do this many years ago. Had changed my sex life that reduced drastically the number & frequency of partners. Previously a JO was a fast relief thing of a few minutes. At this point, around 1983 mastrubation had become a alternative for sexual decompression & relief. Since the opportunities were limited I started making the most of them & taught myself to edge. Later when opportunities for partners increased I continued exploring on my own & eventually reached the ability to have mini orgasms wi/o ejaculation. Part of this was the ability to accommodate women who preferred a man who could last, or swiftly recuperate.

 

Eventualy a relationship with a woman who preferred very intense but short sex caused me to cease the practice. & some fifteen years ago the ability faded away. Have started dabbling in it again, but the complications of new stress factors, age, sex with new partners, limited time have slowed down the 'rediscovery'.

[jonsbttm4all 42]

I haven't had any success having a real orgasm without ejaculating. I've even used that Aneros thing which is supposed to help it happen but all I really end up doing is edging. The Aneros feels good though. My girlfriend doesn't enjoy oral at all so I do wait for her to finish before I do. In the past, if I did finish first, then I would give my partner oral until she finished. And really after about 10-15 minutes of that I sometimes would recover enough to go for a second round, not until I finished but until she had another orgasm

[love2dp 52]

No I can't.

[Psyrex 56]

I've never had an orgasm without ejaculation

but one time my wife called me and I didn't come.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . one time my wife called me and I didn't come.

I know somebody was going to say that.

[Psyrex 56]

Don't forget to tip your waiter, ladies and gentlemen.

[kikonkrome 844]

I know have spent time 'edging' bringing myself close to orgasm but not going over the edge. That has brought a back to back double orgasm a few times. So obviously I did not ejaculate.

 

I would also say that I have had a few quick recovery orgasms where I did not ejaculate, or if I did it was less fluid than I could readily determine.

 

So yes I think it is possible.

[EastInWest 1,524]

I've only had an orgasm without ejaculating when Mrs. EastInWest ran me dry. I think it took about six orgasms in a day and a half, then... there it was.

 

I have ejaculated without an orgasm, or at least a noticeable one. This will happen if I attempt to "edge" and get too close, it slips out anyway. I am still "finished", so it's disappointing.

 

I don't think staying hard or getting hard quickly again is related to that, really. I do find that prolactin suppression helps, I get harder faster if I take B6 and Vitamin E. It doesn't make a whole lot of difference, though: Mrs. EastInWest is always ready to keep going, but tends to realize she's satisfied once I take a break. (Just one more reason I'm interested to see how she handles more than one hard cock in a row.)

 

One guy in his late 40's that we played with could pound my wife forever! He would brag and brag and brag that he could orgasm without ejaculating, that he had studied the art of tantric sex, bla bla bla. His good friend ended up telling us his secret... turns out he was just popping viagra and never really cumming at all.

 

When I was about 20, I tried this with a girl I had an on-again/off-again casual thing with. She went down on me, I got hard again quickly, then she was on top. After a while, she was so frustrated trying to get me off again she started crying. She was still climaxing, though, so no complaints from either of us. Long, hot, sunny sweaty Sunday afternoon in a dorm.

[GMOFLEISURE 221]

Been five months since my last post on the subject. Made some progress with edging, both mastrubating & with partners. Still a long way from the Tantric techniques was dabbling with many years ago. It has helped a bit with age related erection issues. Some of the techniques both stimulate to a better erection and delay orgasm.

[let's do it again 414]

Sure, by the third fuck I am usually spent and nothing comes out, I blow smoke. I am 62 and when a woman that get that 3rd fuck out of me I am usually dry. I tell the gals that they can suck me off the 3rd time and not get a drop of semen.

[NC_Seniors 518]

I orgasm without ejaculating all the time. However, that’s due to a med I’m on called Silodosin. It’s for BPH and one of the side effects (in SOME men) is what’s called retrograde ejaculation … the semen just runs back into the bladder as another poster mentioned earlier. Unlike the posters who have said they’d like to be able to reach orgasm without “shooting”, I’m just the opposite. I’d *love* to be able to shoot again … but I can’t, at least not more than a dribble. 😞 On the other hand, I’m a real find for a woman who doesn’t really enjoy the taste or feel of cum in her mouth but still enjoys pleasing a man by finishing him with a blowjob! 😉

[older couple 132]

My wife was fucking a friend of mine 30 years ago, after his third orgasm, he went limp.   She wanted more.   She stuck her finger up his ass and messaged his prostrate until he was hard again.   He mounted her and a long time later he finally came with a huge painful orgasm and when he withdrew, he was still hard.   It didn't seem he had ejaculated.   My wife got up and did oral on him.   Somewhere about ten to twenty minutes later, he had a fourth very hard painful orgasm, and he was dry.  No semen.   My wife was amazed when she saw his flat scrotum with no balls.   The orgasm was so intense he had actually drawn up balls into his stomach. She went to feeling around down there and pushed on his lower stomach and out popped his balls.  His penis was semihard.   She went sucking on it again, but it was too tender.   She rubbed his prostrate outside between his legs.  She asked him if it hurt or sore.  He said no.   She poked her finger up his ass again and massaged his prostrate for a lengthy amount of time until a bubble of semen formed on his pee hole.  She sucked on him until he came a fifth time.   I swear he squealed like a girl and fell to his knees and exclaimed that it felt so fucking amazing, good.   My wife opened her mouth and there was a small amount of semen on her tongue.   She told me that when she was a nurse, she had seen doctors massage prostrates like that to get semen samples, also how to practice safe tantric sex to their patients.   Learned a lot that night.  It was the first time I ever heard of tantric sex.