We only play in our own race....offensive?

[SW_PA_Couple 4,024]

. . . In high school I rarely dated but got hit on by many of the black guys in school...and then called a racist for not being interested.

Now that's what I'd call "Playing the Race Card."

[shrevecouple 252]

 

If I may be so forward Mrs. Shreve...I live in Ohio and wouldn't say the population or geographical diversity is the same. I think we have a similar body type and one that black men find appealing...it's the booty

 

Yes this is what I have decided as well! It's gotta be something right? LOL

[Alura 2,774]

Yes this is what I have decided as well! It's gotta be something right? LOL

 

Black guys aren't the only ones who might like that body!

 

Alura

[Dont.Stop 339]

Rule #1 is "No means no."

Corollary to Rule #1 is "Why is irrelevant."

 

Add to this Eleanor Roosevelt's famous quote (and one of my all-time favorites): "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent", and I think I'm done here.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

I have also probably been hit on more by men of color than not, then or at least 50/50 but I've never had a problem with it, but do I never really thought about it. I've asked a few what it was and have never really gotten an answer, for some it was the red hair, but that was a draw across the board. I've varied in size from 105 to 185 at 5'3". When I was on the heavy end and got hit on by a black guy, I asked him why it was that black guys were typically more open to heavy girls and his response was that "we aren't looking for now, but rather for the future. When you look at a skinny girl you know she's going to change and put on weight down the road.. When a girl already has some weight on her, you know what you're getting up front. "

[MrsPandMe 150]

...I asked him why it was that black guys were typically more open to heavy girls and his response was that "we aren't looking for now, but rather for the future. When you look at a skinny girl you know she's going to change and put on weight down the road.. When a girl already has some weight on her, you know what you're getting up front. "

 

I wonder if you've heard that from more than just one guy. An interesting take on it, none the less. As for me, I've always been attracted to bigger women, but I sometimes wonder if it's that I'm attracted to bigger girls because that is who I dated, or if it's that I dated bigger girls because I'm attracted to them. None the less, at this point I've had plenty of contact with both, and have generally found that, for whatever reason, bigger girls are more fun in bed. The psychology of this is an interesting study, but is outside the scope of this discussion.

 

As to the OP, "we only play in our race" is universally exclusionary. I'm assuming the OP is talking about a couple that is white, and by that statement that they would exclude all races other then white, to include blacks, hispanics, indians (American and Eastern), you name it. Talk about boring!

[Playful1 434]

I find it unnecessary. if that is how someone feels, they can simply turn down people they don't want to play with (without giving a reason).

 

I would not say i find it offensive, but it does tend to make me cock an eyebrow at the person/couple. We all have preferences, but, sometimes expressing them is unnecessary. To be honest, my experience has been that when someone posts that, they do not just have a simple 'eh, they dont do it for me' preference, but genuine racism going on, to at least some degree.