Couples, what are you looking for in a single male?

[Mr TybeeSwing 201]

Today's Single Guy View

 

The One We Are Looking For!

 

Alright then here is today's question from The Single Guy. It is a two part question, one for the ladies and one for the men.

 

Ladies - When you are in the mood to add some extra testosterone to your night's adventure what do you look for? In your own words, is it the young, hot eye candy or is it the charming, mature guy?

 

Gents - When your lady has that lusty look in her eyes, who is the single that just sets your teeth on edge? Is it the cocky, boy toy type with the washboard abs, or is it smooth talking older guy? Remember in your own words.

 

Now this is not a poll, tell us what you like (ladies) and guys tell us the ones that just ain't happening.

[Alura 2,774]

In our case, singles (men and women) weren't happening. (Okay, there were rare exceptions, but I'll not go into details.) Single again, I find no enthusiasm for swinging. Without the thrill of sharing it with my wife, swinging holds little interest to me. I'm still here only to share experiences which might help others.

 

Alura

[Mr TybeeSwing 201]

In our case, singles (men and women) weren't happening. (Okay, there were rare exceptions, but I'll not go into details.) Single again, I find no enthusiasm for swinging. Without the thrill of sharing it with my wife, swinging holds little interest to me. I'm still here only to share experiences which might help others.

 

I am sorry for you lose and I wish you the best. Thank you for your contribution.

[sweet_tna 680]

Across the board, I'd go for charming and mature over the eye candy any day of the week.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

This may not hit your parameters, but...

 

People aren't items on a dinner menu. That means I wouldn't think of pre-ordering by type. Instead, just like with couples or single women, we follow where attraction leads and attraction is a funny sort of thing, not really easy to break down and say, "yeah, that's it!" However, I do know that I want a certain amount of charm and intelligence in a package that is clean and kinda shiny. It's certainly not about age, since more than 40 years separates my youngest and oldest male partners.

[LFM2 1,482]

Today's Single Guy View

 

The One We Are Looking For!

 

Alright then here is today's question from The Single Guy. It is a two part question, one for the ladies and one for the men.

 

Ladies - When you are in the mood to add some extra testosterone to your night's adventure what do you look for? In your own words, is it the young, hot eye candy or is it the charming, mature guy?

 

I will always pick out the guy who smiles, makes me laugh. That is what is attractive to me. The charming mature guy will win 99.999% of the time.

 

Gents - When your lady has that lusty look in her eyes, who is the single that just sets your teeth on edge? Is it the cocky, boy toy type with the washboard abs, or is it smooth talking older guy? Remember in your own words.

 

Now this is not a poll, tell us what you like (ladies) and guys tell us the ones that just ain't happening.

 

Since I post the most and Dave isn't here, I think I can safely answer for him. He isn't going to care. He feels it's my choice. We both like a guy who can talk to BOTH of us. Not just me. The one that comes up to me when Dave's ducked off to the bathroom won't be treated the same as the guy that walks up to both of us and starts a conversation. Unless I start a conversation with him first. I hope that made sense and I really hope that didn't come off bitchy. I don't want it to, however, sometimes, bitchy is what I am.

[angelkin 1,326]

I am with the majority here...

 

Those pretty boys are nice to look at but too cocky and self-absorbed for my taste. I want a mature man who knows how to treat a lady both in and out of the bedroom. I want a man that respects my husband and includes him in the communication - whether in person or online. I like a man who is intelligent, witty, confident (not cocky) and most of all a gentleman. Of course there has to be physical attraction; but for me, looks are only part of the equation.

 

My husband doesn't post here. I can tell you if the guy doesn't give him the "creepy vibe", has been respectful in his communications, and I like him- then it's on.

[Mr TybeeSwing 201]

I will always pick out the guy who smiles, makes me laugh. That is what is attractive to me. The charming mature guy will win 99.999% of the time.

 

Those pretty boys are nice to look at but too cocky and self-absorbed for my taste. I want a mature man who knows how to treat a lady both in and out of the bedroom. I want a man that respects my husband and includes him in the communication - whether in person or online. I like a man who is intelligent, witty, confident (not cocky) and most of all a gentleman. Of course there has to be physical attraction; but for me, looks are only part of the equation.

 

Thank you for the comments ladies, there is hope for us seasoned guys after all.

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

First of all, single, not married cheating.

 

I look for someone who is a nice guy. Polite, funny, easy-going. Physically, I like guys who are in good shape, but they don't have to be Mr. Universe. Washboard abs are intimidating to me honestly. I'm quite short, so short or tall is fine with me. Smiling and being able to converse is a turn-on. It's important he understands I'm not looking for sex because I'm dis-satisfied with my husband and that he's not just trying to get me alone.

 

I also really like guys who use re-usable bags at the grocery!

 

As for my husband, he just wants the guy to be respectful of me and our relationship. He's not comfortable with guys under about 27 years old, not sure why that is though? He lets me choose who we meet. I think it would be really hot if he chose someone and set up a meeting, but he's not interested in doing that.

[angelkin 1,326]

I also really like guys who use re-usable guys at the grocery!

 

Not to change the subject - and it's a great topic...but WHAT?!?

[funcoupledayton 2,708]

Not to change the subject - and it's a great topic...but WHAT?!?

 

LOL!! That should be bags, not guys! I am a recycle queen and always use canvas bags at the store. Whenever I see a cute guy using them it makes me so happy!

[2HotLovers 18]

Good to see the discussions you have started Mr TybeeSwing. It is unfortunate that single males often feel they are "dreaded", but we understand where that comes from - from both sides. Some bad actor single males ruin it for the good guys. Many, perhaps most, couples just aren't interested in that kind of play.

 

The bottom line is that each couple is different, so there is no simple answer. Some couples are into the cuckold thing, but others not. For us, we define our interest as a HotWife MFM experience. We explore this in much more detail on our blog, and would love to see what you think of what we have written there. It's hotwife4mfm on blogspot.

 

- 2HotLovers

[shrevecouple 252]

Once again swimming against the current. When it comes to extra, hot eye candy who is charming with a side of cocky is what got my motor running. Age is and was still a factor for me. Rare that I would want someone significantly older or younger (to me that's bout 15 years).

 

As far as what he wanted, all I can say is what he said to me. Average and clean. No need to be a 10 because he already had his 10.

[snyderleeann 25]

We are still in the hunt for our first, but it's no comparison. Mature and confident rather than buff and cocky.

[angelkin 1,326]

We are still in the hunt for our first, but it's no comparison. Mature and confident rather than buff and cocky.

 

I am always on the lookout for mature, confident, and buff:) Cocky can stay at home:)

[Wayne 15]

We have talked about this, there has to be a physical attraction, as well as the ability to have conversation with them for an hour without wanting to strangle them. Friends first, I think would be good.

[Guest]

Most of our MFM activity have been guys we meet at a bar somewhere, just on the fly. We are eating at the bar, he is drinking at the bar and we all strike up a conversation. So, being a good conversationalist is probably key. He was to be clean, neat, not necessarily in a suit but not too grubby in terms of dress. Beyond that, physical appearance and age don't really seem to matter. Age has varied, maybe 27 to mid-60s. Guys that have been really buff seemed to be too cocky and have fallen aside. Hubby has commented that he's amazed at how accepting I am of guys that are heavier or shorter, not what he expected in terms of physical stature so personality seems to trump physique. Marital status hasn't mattered; there has probably been more married guys than single.

 

Often, the conversation doesn't begin until one of us (hubby or I) goes to the can or steps away to take a phone call but probably most important is that the guy talks to both of us. As an example, one young man who quickly moved from conversation with the two of us to whispering to me over and over again, was then quickly rejected by hubby. Again, to get past hubby, they need to be more of a man's man than a woman's man. They have to be respectable. As the conversation progresses, sitting at the bar, you can discretely touch my thigh or put your hand on my ass but don't get too touchy-feely in public. We can flirt, share double entendres but start talking to me like you think I'm a whore, that will end it.

 

In one instance, we met the guy at a local dive bar, he was in town for a convention. He joined us and we went to a bar/dance place. Drank a lot, I was really too drunk to be playing. We got to the room, got naked, the guy was on top of me, pumping his dick down my throat in a 69 position but not doing anything in terms of stimulating me. Hubby said something about if you aren't going to do her, she probably won't do you. Still, he just kept pumping it down my throat. Hubby broke it up and we left. Later, I told him that I actually liked being pent down and forced to suck the guy's dick, it was a turn-on for me. For hubby, it was two-fold. The guys approach suggested that he wasn't going to share and that it was just going to be a wham-bam blow job. In other words, the guy was just there for his own climax, not there for a shared experience.