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By The Fuse
This morning, someone started a thread poll entitled "Is your spouse the best lover ever?"
It made me think. Would I really want to ask Mr. Fuse that question? Of course there's only one right answer, but even the way that answer is given can be deadly. "Does he really mean it"? "That sounded defensive". "You're just being nice". "You have to say that; I'm your wife".
More generally, I think that question is a little like "Do these jeans make me look fat?", only more serious.
"Am I the best lover you've ever had"? has to be one of a definite set of dangerous questions in the swinging world. (It could be even worse if you ask "Is your playmate better than me"?) There are more things we all dread being asked. We know this class of questions by our reactions to them. Eyes get a little bit wide, sudden intake of breath, half a step backwards... adrenaline kicks in... we only think about survival.
It's like asking swingers "Do you really always use condoms"? or "Have you ever had an STD"?, or "Are we your favorite playmates"? or "Have you ever loved a playmate"? There are just some things it doesn't pay to ask.
Anyone have additions to this list, comments, or stories? I'm sure there are some doozies out there.
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By des1re06
So, a couple floored me and admitted they're positive for genital warts. My initial reaction was, "why the f*ck are you swinging!!?"
I, of course, started looking into what it means and how it's transmitted.
Genital warts are very contagious. You can get them during oral, vaginal, or anal sex with an infected partner. You can also get them by skin-to-skin contact during vaginal, anal, or (rarely) oral sex with someone who is infected. About two-thirds of people who have sexual contact with a partner with genital warts will develop warts, usually within 3 months of contact.
If you are infected but have no symptoms, you can still spread HPV to your sexual partner and/or develop complications from the virus.
So, would you advise your immediate play group to avoid them, since they're obviously not taking themselves out of the game? They're still having oral and kissing (I witnessed this), and who knows what else.
It's incredibly selfish of them to still be showing up at swing events, in my opinion.
What do we do?
Thanks,
Mrs. D
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By 50sLady
Everyone here does know that cold sores or fever blisters in the mouth area means you have herpes HSV1?
Do you disclose to all your potential partners that you have herpes before you kiss them or go down on them?
You could be shedding the virus even if you do not have a sore.
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By chicago_couple
Being paranoid, we've done some research into STDs and the chance of catching something during swinging. It seems that about 70% of people have oral Herpes Simplex Virus Type 1 (HSV-1). Oral HSV-1 can be passed to others as either oral or genital herpes. People are most contagious during a visible outbreak, but are also contagious at other times through asymptomatic viral shedding. Our questions are:
1) If you have oral herpes, do you tell your potential playmates?
2) If you tell people, is it just during an outbreak or all the time?
3) If you don't have herpes, what precautions do you take to prevent catching it orally or genitally?
4) Do you think people with oral herpes are obligated to tell potential playmates?
Even though 70% of people have oral HSV-1, we've never heard it mentioned at a swing club.
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