A Period of "Honeymoon" for Swinging

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Another thread got me thinking...how many of the experienced swingers here have gone through the "honeymoon" period of swinging? Or is it still that way for couples? That period of time when you first start swinging and you're so excited about everything because it's all new and different. Do you find that the "magic" has worn off a bit and even though it's still fun, it's definitely not how it was when you first began? Or does this post not make any sense to you at all because it's still magical?

[angelkin 1,326]

Good question, Sun. For us, it is less exciting than in the beginning, but now it's exciting in a different way. It's less abut the sex - don't get me wrong, we love the sex - but now we get excited to see our friends and enjoy the company of like-minded people. At times, we are now more excited about a weekend home alone NOT swinging as we were about swinging when we first started. Funny how that happens...

[sunbuckus 3,569]

Oh good. I am wondering if I just got burned out faster, I am going through a phase or just being more picky but I find myself more interested in spending time with Mr. Sun alone lately. I am glad to hear that it is normal.

[SW_PA_Couple 4,026]

Was no honeymoon. The enjoyment has ramped from the beginning and continues. Another way of saying is that we're still on our swing honeymoon.

[km34 672]

We've definitely gone on cycles of excitement. We'll be really gungho (like our honeymoon period) then basically stop for a while, then get really excited again, over and over. On the bright side, I guess that means we get multiple honeymoons.

[junglecouple 128]

We met as swingers, and as a married couple are even more into it. It's much more fun when we hunt together.. LOL Ironically, now we tend to select singles, that way we can concentrate on each other with some "outside" help/interest/ideas. Sometimes, it's just the thrill of a hunt and we both enjoy. I think we are closer now than 5 years ago, 6 years ago and even last year..

[Hippiegirlie 276]

Even I, as a single, go through my phases of just not being in the mood with playing with multiple partners. I think it has to do with the level of work it entails. Let's face it, it takes more mental and physical energy to play with more than one person. I don't find it unusual that swinging waxes and wanes just like any other sexual activity does.

Sun, Angel... I want in on that pillow action though!

[Learning 160]

For us, there was this amazing time of nonstop fun. This happened for a good six months but things got complicated for us with some close friends who we adored but we didn't want to swing with. The way we were treated by them was probably the worst I have ever been treated ever. We allowed a situation that was messed up to spoil the fun for us. We began to second guess ourselves, then we were afraid to really engage again after that. We didn't leave swinging on a high note...which is said. In the future, I hope we can start on a high note and just have fun again.

[mauijanedoe 1,414]

I've been thinking about this for awhile (well, that and the body pillow action ), and I think we may be atypical in that we've never had a honeymoon period. I don't think I did either, when I was solo, or if I did I don't remember. Instead, it has all seemed pretty normal and not much of a stretch out of our comfort zone, at least in part because when we've decided we want to do a certain thing (threesome, swap), the exactly right partners have shown up pretty much immediately.

 

I suspect that the absence of the need to hunt for partners, combined with our combined history of sluttiness, just makes swinging feel normal and not really an occasion for excitement over that which accompanies hot sex with agreeable people. It may be that will also insulate us from the normal waxing and waning of interest, too, but we won't really know for a year or so.

[JustAskJulie 2,595]

Perhaps because we fall in and out of swinging often (it seems) for a variety of reasons, it seems like whenever we are active it's a bit of a honeymoon period. I do think there's a bit of "new toy" / honeymoon period for everyone with swinging. The longer you go at it the more the sparkle fades and it's not as shiny. I think at times like that it's time to regroup and refocus on your primary relationship. Spend some time just on each other and let any of the negatives of swinging fade away for a while.